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ok my parents are way too over protective!!
but anyway, they put parental controls on the tv and blocked MTV and VH1, even though im going in to highschool now!!
is this unreasonable? and does anyone else's parents do this??
i really wanna know so i can stop being so mad about it and stop feeling so annoyed about my parents cause its really getting on my last nerve lol.
thanks!!
yep! my parents were exactly the same way. and i was pretty certain that i was the only person in the universe who hadn't seen certain shows and movies. and it made me feel like a complete idiot when everyone was talking about stuff and i had no idea what they were talking about. but somehow i survived. and once i was old enough to do what i wanted, i made up for lost time and watched all the things i was forbidden to watch when i was younger. and with a lot of those things, i realized that i really hadn't missed much! haha! but yeah, it was pretty annoying at the time. but don't worry... you're definitely not the only one.
One of my friends if having a birthday party and she said that it was going to be a horror movie marathon type of party since its suppose to rain that day(we were planning on going swimming).
Well the thing is.. i hate scary movies. i get scared easily :[ i really want to go, but im afraid that i wont have any fun.
(also, in dont know a lot of her friends since we go to different schools)
what do i do?
Well, if you really want to go, go ahead. And when you're watching the movies, just keep telling yourself, "It's just a movie!". Because after all, it IS just a movie. It's all fake, and when you think about it that way, it's actually kinda funny! Imagine how goofy the actors feel, screaming their heads off at something that isn't even there! Or running in terror from the evil serial killer, who they'll be having a cup of coffee with when the scene is over. If there's a lot of blood and guts in the movie, ask yourself, "hmmm, I wonder what they used for the blood?". Try to find things in the movie that look fake or stupid, that you can laugh about. (Don't laugh out loud and ruin the movie for everyone, just laugh inside - haha). If you can, find out what movies they'll be watching, and read the reviews about them ahead of time, so you'll be prepared for whatever!
next year all my freinds are going to do sports and I'm not. My best freind said it was going to be hard to keep our friendship going since I wasnt on a sports team. She also said i should meet new freinds ,but i dont want knew freinds I want my old ones.
The same thing happened to me. My best friend and I used to do everything together; but now we've gotten involved in different activities, and so we don't get to see each other as often. Not only because our schedules are different, but also because we've each made new friends who we like to spend time with. But we still love to get together whenever we can, and we always have a great time when we do!
Sooooo... just because you and your friend are taking different paths, doesn't mean the friendship has to end altogether. However, since you won't be spending as much time together, it's probably a good idea to branch out yourself and make some new friends, so you won't be sitting around by yourself during the times your friend is busy with her sports.
So, there's this guy. Let's call him Bob. Well, Bob and I are really close friends and we've been through a lot. Well, he has a gf, let's call her Bobalina. Well, he's been with her for over a year now and I'm not jealous or envious. I just wish well for both of them
Well, the problem is, Bob likes me and I like him but there's a really good reason as to why we can't get together. So don't ask or question...which is the same thing, but anyways. And he really is head over heels for me right now and I feel really, extermely guilty about that because I feel like I'm leading him on while he has a girlfriend...aka feel like the third party unwanted by Bobalina. Well, I swear. I just talk to him as usual and I don't lead him on, or at least form my point of view I don't.
and he's recently admitted that while he was making out with Bobalina, he was thinking of me =/ Ahh! bad ,bad, bad, bad!
What should I do about this and how can I correct it so that i'm not longer the "unintentional third party"?
Well, even though you and Bob are really close friends, you may want to put a little distance between you for a while. Don't call him, and don't always be available when he calls you. Try to avoid spending a lot of time with him or giving him a lot of attention. You don't have to make it obvious that you're avoiding him... just make yourself busy. But if there's no way to do that without it looking obvious, then let him know. Tell him, "We both know we can't be together, and I think that when we spend a lot of time together it makes things difficult. So maybe we should spend some time apart for a while."
im looking for my aunt who is a nun in mexico i dont know in what convient she is in but i do know one that she has been in. is there a website i can go to help me get in tuch with her or a number i can call to see if i can give me the number of the convient she was in or anything. please that would help ALOT.
Well, since you know the name of the convent she was in before, that's a good place to start. They probably have a record of where she went after she left there. So your first step is to find the phone number of that convent. Go to Google and enter the convent name, and the name of the town it's in, if you know it. Hopefully that will give you a website with some contact info. If you need help, message me and I'll be glad to help you.
how do you feel about going on a double date w/ someone you just met.but that double date is w/ you and your best friend and her boyfriend
It sounds like a great idea! Double dates can be a lot of fun... especially when it's with a guy you've just met, because then you don't have to worry about the awkward silences that can sometimes happen when you're alone with someone you don't know that well.
One thing, though; if your best friend and her boyfriend are the type that are all over each other on dates, you might want to ask her to hold back a bit on this date, because that could make it kind of awkward for you and the other guy. But otherwise, it sounds like a good time. Have fun!
My boyfriend's dad has a business, his dad got very sick and now my boyfriend is working every single day, helping his family. I see him once every 1-2 weeks. I miss him and I know working this much isn't healthy but he tells me constantly he "has no choice". He's very family oriented so I wouldn't make him choose. It's just I would like to see him more, and besides it'll get his mind off work. What am I supposed to do? Wait it out and do/say nothing?
Yes, if you really like this guy, wait it out and just be there for him. He's obviously going through a tough time with his dad being sick, and having to work so much. Maybe you can stop by his work and bring him lunch sometimes, or make dinner for him a couple times a week, or even ask if there's anything you can do to help out at his work. Let him know that you miss him, but don't make him feel guilty.
I was in gymnastics from the time I was five to fouteen, it was my whole world. I pretty much lived and breathed gymnastics. A couple years ago my parents made me quit because of my health/grades (I had thyroid desiese) and now it's too late to go back.
When I quit I gained about twenty-five - pounds really fast and now I have strech marks. Anyway, I miss it so much! I'm doing cheerleading now, but it doesnm't even compare. I was in level 8. I was already doing olympic training and sometimes I just feel like killing myself, I miss the gym so bad.
I get jealous of anyone who's in gymnastics and I wish I could go back, but I know I can't. How do I get over it, and move on? I get so depressed sometimes and I don't want to. Besides, I knew I was unhappy in gymnastics. Even though I loved it to death, I missed so many great opportunities and I should be focusing on school.
I'll be graduating in three years and I want to go to Yale, so I wouldn't of been able to continue gymnastics anyway. I just want to know how to stop missing it so much. I regret letting my parents take me out, because I keep wondering 'what if?' What if I had stayed? Would I have had a chance in the olympics? What if I had gotten better grades.
I know every gymnast has to quit sometime, because evntually you get to old and your chance is up, but how do they deal with there whole life just being taken away from them. My gym was like my second home. I was there five hours a day, and I just miss everything about it...I don't know how to deal anymore.
Does anybody have any stories like mine, having to quit something you loved more than anything in the world? It hasn't even gotten easier after two years.
I just really need to know how to deal, I really need advice, as you can tell.
Thanks to anyone who answers.
Wow, I know EXACTLY how you feel! I had to quit gymnastics after repeated injuries... and even though I had sort of wanted to quit (for the same reasons you said), actually quitting was such a huge shock. Gymnastics is so different from any other sport because it's like your whole life and you put so much into it! It's a major part of your identity. And it just never gets out of your system!
But actually... even though you aren't DOING gymnastics anymore, you can still be involved in it. You could coach! Coaching is awesome because it keeps you in the sport and you're making money at the same time (probably more than you'd make at most other typical high school jobs). It's a perfect job to have in high school and college, because the schedule fits perfectly. If you love it, you can make a career of it. But even if you have another career in mind, you can still coach evening classes/workouts after work, to supplement your income or just stay involved in the sport. And it's something you can always fall back on. You can find a job coaching any time, any where... gyms are ALWAYS looking for coaches!
That's exactly what I did. After I quit gymnastics (at age 16) I started coaching at a YMCA. Then at a club. Then I started judging (another great way to stay in the sport and make money!). I coached & judged full time until I got married and had kids. And as soon as my daughter could walk, bam! I put her in classes!
And guess what? Now she's a level 8 and she's thinking about quitting to do cheerleading, and we're both having a tough time with the decision! Haha! So it's come full circle.
Good luck!
okay so. I'm a girl and I have a guy friend. and everytime we talk on msn, he starts off the conversation with "whats up" and I say "nothing" and then the conversation ends there. when he asks whats up...what is he waiting for me to answer him with?! lollll
Well, when you answer with "nothing", it might sound like you don't really want to talk to him. He's probably hoping you'll say something that he can comment back about and get a conversation going. If you want to talk to him, give him something to respond to! For instance:
Him: whats up?
You: not much... i just got back from the mall.
[then he can ask you what you were shopping for, and you can tell him, and blah blah blah]
or...
Him: whats up?
You: nothing, just talking to ppl on msn. what have you been up to?
[then he can tell you whats he's been doing, and you can comment on it]
or...
Him: whats up?
You: nothing really, just about to have dinner. we're having pizza! yum!
[then he can say something about pizza, or what he had for dinner, or whatever]
Keep the conversation going by asking him questions that he can respond to, like what he did today, what classes he's taking, how he likes his teachers, what he's doing this weekend, etc.
i've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year, i want to buy a gift for him, just because i love him. im not sure what i'd like to buy him though, nothing like extremley expensive or something out of a 25 cent machine. something under 30 dollars. or even something i could make under 30 dollars. all comments && ideas are appreciated =]
I made my boyfriend a fleece blanket with his favorite sports team on it. its really easy and you don't have to sew it... you just tie it. you can get the material at any fabric store and it only costs about $25. my bf really liked it! here's a website with instructions. it's sooooo easy... only takes like 45 minutes to make.
http://collectibles.about.com/library/articles/blfleecepattern.htm
im just curious how long should you wait before you get married. For some reason ive been thinking aout marriage alot lately with my boyfriend weve been going out for about six months and i already know hes the one. I cant explain it i guess you just know
20 f
Well, my great aunt got married at 18, after knowing her boyfriend for only 2 months. They were married for 57 years! Of course, it all depends on the couple though.
Here's what my dad told me: Imagine a couple as two columns standing side by side. If the columns are strong and can stand on their own, they'll be able to support whatever you place on top of them. But if one column is leaning against the other, or if they're both leaning on each other, they won't be very sturdy; if you put something on top of them, they may collapse.
So yeah... if you and your boyfriend are both at a point where you can stand on your own, and you decide to be together because you WANT to, and not because you NEED to... then your marriage will have a better chance of surviving whatever comes along!
Good luck!
1. If a customer orders, but then demands a refund while the food is almost finished cooking, because they thought it was too expensive, is the money returned?
2. If a customer eats the food they ordered, then say they did not like it, is the money returned?
Thanks. My parents have a restaurant, so I was curious.
Well, every restaurant is different; it's up to the owner to decide how these situations should be handled.
My own opinion:
Obviously, the people you described above are idiots. But they're also customers with money to spend. If you refuse to refund their money, they'll be mad and probably not return, and possibly badmouth your restaurant to their friends. But if you refund their money, even for a stupid reason, they'll be happy and have a good opinion of your restaurant. They'll likely return, and next time you'll get to keep their money.
Soooo... even though you're losing a small amount of money by giving them a refund, you'll probably gain more in the long run by making your customers happy... even the stupid ones!
helllooo advicenatorss [=
im just wondering if anyone has
anyclue when someone is completely
over their ex. like, signs or
feelings. sorry this question is
not detailed but i dont want to go
through the whole story. thanks [=
by the way, ima female, 15.
Hmmm... that's really hard to tell! But from my own experience: when I look back at some of my exes, I actually do have some feelings for them. The things I liked about them when we were together, I still like. And I treasure the memories of the good times we had together. But I also know that I have no desire to be in a relationship with them again, because I learned that we just couldn't work together. Soooo... it's possible to still have feelings for an ex, but at the same time be "over" them. I guess if you still find yourself wishing you were together, or thinking that it's still possible that you could have a good relationship, then you might not be over him. But don't confuse having some positive feelings about the guy with not being over him.
Hope that helped some! =]
My boyfriend (who i loovee :D) his friend always gives me evils everytime he sees me and i dont know what his problem is with me i talked to my bf about and he said "Its ok ignore him" and smiled at me and i smiled back cuz i know he gives the right advice whenever i need it and i know that hes right but his friends been bugging me for ages and im not like a really nasty person when we get along were really good friends but when hes in a mood i feel like ive done something wrong...Anyway should i ignore it or get on with my life and take my bfs advice!
Confused_Friend_Situations xox
Hmmm... it could be that your boyfriend's friend is a little jealous of you. Maybe he resents you for taking your boyfriend's attention away from him. Or, maybe he has a little crush on you and is jealous of the attention you give your boyfriend! Whatever the reason, I think your boyfriend's advice is good... try to ignore it and don't let it bother you.
hi i dont get the difference between guys being either cute, hot, sexy, or handsome (aer there more?)? is hot and sexy the same thing?
Well, all those words can be used to describe a good-looking guy, but I think everyone has their own idea of what each word means to them.
To me, a "cute" guy has more of boyish look; maybe sort of a baby face, or a really cute smile, or a fun, care-free look about them.
I think of "handsome" guys as having an older, more mature look, maybe a little rugged and tough looking. Like an abercrombie model or prince charming (haha).
And in my book, "hot" and "sexy" mean the same thing... someone who turns you on. He could be cute OR handsome... or neither! A guy doesn't necessarily have to be really good looking to be sexy. Some guys just have an undefinable quality that makes them attractive but has nothing to do with looks.
Hope that helps some! =]
why do people get haircuts after a breakup?
Haha... I've never heard that before! But I guess it would be a way of putting the past behind them and starting fresh. Another reason could be that they had kept their old hairstyle for a long time because their bf or gf liked it that way, so now they're free to change it.
how come when something is so funny i just cant laugh?
I'm the same way. I'll be laughing on the inside, but only smiling a little on the outside. I'm like that at sporting events, too... everyone around me is screaming their heads off and they ask me, "aren't you into the game?". Well, yeah I am, and I really am screaming inside my head, but I just don't show it. I think it's just how some people are. Just like some people will laugh hysterically at any little thing. Some people just show their emotions as easily.
Okay, I thought it was just a phase she was going through, but my best friend copies everything I do and SENIORS IN HIGHSCHOOL! It's ridiculous. A little about both of us- My style is more along the lines of a mix of "boho" "indie" and "scene-ish" hers was along the lines of "nerdy" and "scene/kid-ish" up until sophmore year. I've always dressed like that and then when her and I started hanging out a lot more she began to dress like me and talk like me. At frist I thought it was just because we were hanging out too much, then she started getting creepy. She cut her hair like mine, dyed it the EXACT same way (blonde under my bangs and a stripe-yes I had my "scene hair" stage and thank God it's over). Then she started to buy the same exact clothes as me and called to make sure we were going to wear the same thing on the same day- to school. She has done too many things like that to list here.
We don't hang out as much as we used to, so the other day we were going shopping and I went to pick her up and to my surprise her hair was my color...again. I asked her about it and she said that since I had such pretty hair then she dyed it to match.
I looked at her myspace the other day and she had mine and my boyfriends song as hers! She knows it's our song, so I asked her about it and she said it's her's and her new boyfriends song. I think this has gone too far.
How do I handle this without hurting her feelings?
Well, obviously your friend doesn't have a very high self-esteem or a strong sense of her own identity. So she's trying to model herself after someone she admires... which just happens to be you! In some ways, you can be flattered by this; obvioulsy, she really looks up to you and your unique style. But yes, it can certainly be annoying to be copied! Especially for someone who takes pride in being a unique individual, which it sounds like you are.
One reason that it bothers you might be that you worry (perhaps subconciously) that she is taking away some of your uniqueness. You choose a certain hairstyle because it says something about you... it's "you". But when she shows up with the same one, suddenly it's not special or different anymore; it's not "yours."
But no matter how hard she tries to be like you, she will never BE you. There's a lot more to you than just your hair and clothes and mannerisms. It's all the things on the inside that make you who you are... and those are the things she probably admires most about you, but can never replicate.
Trust me, everyone can tell that you are the leader here and she is the follower. They recognize that you have your own style and that it's her who's trying to copy you, and not vice versa. So even though it's really annoying, try not to let it bother you too much. Just keep being who you are and people will respect and admire you for that, regardless of what your friend does.
everytime i get my period, it's a week or two late. then one time i went on vacation and it was two weeks early. now im going on vacation again and its a week early!!!!!!!!!!! WHY?!!?!
Well, there's a special organ in our bodies that can detect when we're about to go on vacation (or to a pool party, gymnastics meet or dance competition), and it triggers your period to start at the exact same time. Ha ha... NOT REALLY! But it sure seems that way sometimes! Periods have a way of showing up at the worst possible times. But seriously, don't worry about it. A lot of people don't have perfectly regular periods, so I'm sure there's nothing wrong. Just a little bad luck. =]
So, yesterday i dropped my camera on the floo(yes i know, dumb move) and anyway its stuck in the open position and whenever i press the power button it just makes a clicking sound..does anyoneknow a way i can fix this or do i have to send it back to the company where i purchased it from?
I've dropped and broken about a million cameras. haha, well I guess only about 3 or 4! but yeah. I'm sorry to tell you... there's probably no way to fix it yourself. You can try sending it back to the company, but every time I've done that, it's taken several months to get back, and it cost almost as much as buying a new camera. Maybe you'll have better luck -- I hope so! -- but I'm just letting you know my experience so you can be prepared for the worst.