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I'm in my late 20's, and my parents are now recently separated and in the process of going through with a divorce. My mom has no boundaries with regard to keeping me out of the mess. She calls me and keeps trying to convince me to tell my dad to move back. I know very well that there's no way he will. I tell her that she cannot drag me into their mess, as it is between them two. She just calls and calls, telling me it's not right, that I need to talk to him, it'll affect her and our future, etc. I told her to respect my boundaries, but it seems to go through one ear and out the other. What can I do to make it clear to her that I want ZERO to do with their issues, and stop her from trying to drag me into it? What can I do to make sure that she will actually respect my boundaries?
Unfortunately you have about as much chance of your mother respecting your boundaries as an ice cube does in a warm place. What you can do is one of the following.
If you have caller ID on your phone and voice mail or an answering machine. When your mother calls, let her calls go to voice mail or the answering machine or monitor the answering machine to make sure she is not in need of you for an illness or is hurt. Then decide if you When to call her back.
When you do speak to her if her call is anothe of those to pull you into taking her side or convincing your father to do what she wants. Say to her "mom I love you both but I will not be dragged into the middle of this." "I have other things to do right now so if there is nothing else I will have to call you back." Then disconnect from the call as fast as you can. You may have to do this a number of times before she gets the message that you are not going to listen to her.
If you mom has a sister or brother you can appeal to whoever you feel can best reason with her or if her parents are still living then you can also ask for their help. I would suggest asking your grandparents first if you can as no matter how old we get we still tend to listen to the advise we get from our parents.
I hope my advice helps for it is an unfortunate part of a divorce that the children do get drawn in. Fortunately you are older and mature enough to understand this is not your fight or any of your fault. That this is between your parents and you love them both regardless and want to be left out of it. Actually you should or could tell your mother just that if you have not already done so. Send it to her in an email as well so she sees it for hearing it may as you say go in one ear and out the other.
Is it legal 4 a 13 yr old in england 2 send a 14 yr old boy dirty pics ? jw worried for a friend
I'm going to agree with Zane. While I am not familiar with the laws in England the world wide crackdown on child pornography has led to a synergy of laws towards it.
These laws include charging the sender, regardless of age, with distribution of child pornography even if it is their own picture. The receiver of the picture can be charged with receiving and possession of child pornography.
That is the legal ramifications. Lets talk about the reality of the situation. Your 13 he's 14. He is not going to be your one and only boyfriend. You will have several more before you marry. Are you sure he will never show or share your picture with anyone else. That he will never post it to a social media page.
Given the technology of today once you send a picture to someone it is totally out of your control. At anytime in a matter of minutes every boy in school can view this picture. It won't take much longer for a picture to go viral across the Internet. Don't say it won't happen; it has and will continue to happen as long as young ladies like you continue to send their young boyfriends dirty pictures.
Save taking these types of pictures for when your married. If your husband travels for work then you can send them to him to tease and remind him what is waiting for him at home. For now keep you clothes on and send only fully clothed pictures to boyfriends.
I think my parents are slightly if not extremely controlling. I'm not going to brag, but I would say in all, I am a good kid. For reference, I'm 19 turning 20 in a month. My ethnic background is South Asian, and religious background of Islam/Muslim. I'm female.
I've never drunk, done drugs, smoked, had a bad group of friends, partied, broken the law or anything like that, or much less even dated. Personally for me, those things go against my core values, beliefs and they're not my cup of tea of "fun".
But regardless of that, my parents still restrict me in so many ways. My father gets suspicious if I say I want to go to the library to do my homework (I'm homeschooled) because I can't concentrate at home, and my dad tends to give off this negative vibe all the time. He never has anything positive or good to say about anything. I prefer to be in a positive and comforting environment.
And then he's even mentioned that if he wants, he can come follow me to the library to see what I'm really doing. He's mentioned that plenty of times whenever I've said that I want to go to the gym or anything like that. I don't think he actually has, but I wouldn't know.
Personally, I find that extremely offensive, degrading in a way, and disrespectful. He's basically implying that I'm frolicking about doing God-knows-what with Who-knows-who.
I hate having to lie to parents but I feel like I'm going to start to have to now to actually be able to do the things I enjoy doing in life, and start having a social life.
I told my parents I wanted to do the Spartan Race, which by the way is the most amazing obstacle course/fitness challenge. They said I couldn't, and they even yelled at me. Because "this isn't for girls" and that there are "boys there."
So I basically registered and am going to have to come up with a lie (that I'm still thinking of) so I can go to the race this summer.
Next week, I'm planning on going to another military training course called the "O course" as practice for the actual race, and of course, my parents will NOT let me go ever. I'm going to have to lie to them again. Which makes me feel guilty, sad, and goes against my beliefs because I'm a believer in honesty!!
Yet when I mention it to my Dad, and tell him that I am an adult and that I can do whatever I want (NOT that I'm even doing anything wrong to begin with) he starts going crazy and yells at me. And tells me to get out of his, and go live with my Mom.
Now, if I'm at my Mom's and try to explain to her the same thing, she'll go a little crazy maybe call me a bitch, and then give me the could shoulder.
Honestly, what do I do? I want to be respectful of my parents but still be able to live my OWN life.
I'm not able to move out yet, because I'm not financially able to support myself though I am thinking about it for the future. It's just.. I've wasted so much of my life.. doing NOTHING. Putting a leash on my passions, and what the things I love to do.
Your heritage has you trapped between between a rock and a hard place, especially if you live in the USA. You say your 19 turning 20, your registration to this site shows you to be 13 which is confusing to those of us who can see this information. You may want to update this information.
In any case being 19 almost twenty if living in the USA you have certain rights for which your parents cannot infringe on. Your father cannot for instance follow you any place this is considered stalking. He can however ask you to leave his home for legally as an adult his responsibility to you as a parent is over. The rock and hard place example.
I do agree with you that lying to your parents is wrong. When you lie you actually have to write these lies down so you can remember them later if asked about them. The truth is always easier to remember.
As the previous writer has pointed out there are many places you can turn to for help. What I suggest is that you do so if you feel you need to. What I would like you to try before turning to these people and places for help is this.
Parents like yours have a hard time understanding they are not living in the old country. That some of their religious and beliefs, while of good moral value, run contrary to how society works here and in some cases can cause them to be charged with violations of the law.
As an adult you have a right to experience everything this country has to offer. He has raised you with a great set of values that will serve you well. You need to experience life as it is here. For here is where you are going to live, work and marry. Here is where you must exist and do so within the confines of our culture and your morales. You need to experience life as it is with him being there to support you not hinder you.
He may not like some of what this country allows though he has found away to exist within it and make a life for himself. He needs to allow you to do the same while he is here to help you and catch you if you fall. It will be much easier for you to do so in this manner with him here to help. If something where to happen to him tomorrow you would flounder trying to make your way in this world. As a parent it is his responsibility to help you adapt and make your way in the world.
You need to explain what I have just written in your own words. Words hopefully he will accept and understand. For it is a parent's responsibility to teach their children to make their way in this world as responsible adults.
By the way: Your father cannot force you into an arranged marriage in this country, it is illegal. Just for your information.
I have sex a day before my period and i only have my period for one day can i be pregnant
The odds are in your favor that yo are not pregnant. Getting and taking a home pregnancy test will confirm whether or not you are pregnant.
Only about 20% of women are fertile during any point in their cycle, including during their period. The remaining 80% are generally found to be fertile during the middle 14 days of their cycle.
Being fertile is when you ovulate and your ovary ejects an egg. There is a very small window of time when this egg can be fertilized by a sperm. Since sperm lives for 3 days if you have had sex within 3 days of this window it is possible that you can get pregnant if you have not used some form of birth control.
Just FYI: The pull out method of birth control has the biggest failure rate as the male emits a small amount of fluid during intercourse which contains semen. The male is unaware of when this fluid is emitted as it is not ejaculated it just flows out as a lubricant. Most call this pre-cum. This fluid has enough semen in it to make a fertile women pregnant which is why the pull out method has a high failure rate as a form of birth control.
A condom is 85 % effective when worn correctly and is effective in protecting against the transmission of many STDS. The birth control pill is considered 99% effective and when used with a condom is as close to 100% effective in preventing pregnancy as you can get. Until you are in a long term, monogamous relationship for which you have both been tested for STDS and AIDS you should always make your partner use a condom.
If you are over 14 a Federal Law called HIPPA allows for you to ask your doctor for birth control medication with or without parental permission. You also do not need parental permission to see a doctor for anything related to your reproductive system. These visits, treatment and any questions you may have for the doctor are totally confidential. Your parents cannot be told without your written permission under penalty of a 5 year jail term for the doctor or anyone in their employ who violates this confidence.
"hello doctor. my periods started on 1st march to 4th march and i had sex on 8th than after it i had bleeding on 15th march and now its 20th april and without periods is there any chance of pregnancy please help me on this
venesaw10 is correct. The only way to tell for certain is to take a home pregnancy test. There are a number of reasons you can miss your period other than pregnancy. One is stress, the others would include being ill during your cycle that could throw you off cycle. Certain medications including prescriptions and over the counter medications can throw you off your cycle as well as illegal drug use. Excessive exercise is another reason to miss your period.
In general most women are most fertile during the middle 14 days of their cycle. This would be true for about 80% of women. The remaining 20% are found to be fertile at any point in their cycle including during their period.
Being fertile is when you ovulate and your ovary ejects an egg. There is a very small window of time when this egg can be fertilized by a sperm. Since sperm lives for 3 days if you have had sex within 3 days of this window it is possible that you can get pregnant if you have not used some form of birth control.
Just FYI: The pull out method of birth control has the biggest failure rate as the male emits a small amount of fluid during intercourse which contains semen. The male is unaware of when this fluid is emitted as it is not ejaculated it just flows out as a lubricant. Most call this pre-cum. This fluid has enough semen in it to make a fertile women pregnant which is why the pull out method has a high failure rate as a form of birth control.
A condom is 85 % effective when worn correctly and is effective in protecting against the transmission of many STDS. The birth control pill is considered 99% effective and when used with a condom is as close to 100% effective in preventing pregnancy as you can get. Until you are in a long term, monogamous relationship for which you have both been tested for STDS and AIDS you should always make your partner use a condom.
If you are over 14 a Federal Law called HIPPA allows for you to ask your doctor for birth control medication with or without parental permission. You also do not need parental permission to see a doctor for anything related to your reproductive system. These visits, treatment and any questions you may have for the doctor are totally confidential. Your parents cannot be told without your written permission under penalty of a 5 year jail term for the doctor or anyone in their employ who violates this confidence.
Is it possible for me to lose about 10kgs of extra chubbiness by eating healthy, no fast food or sugary drinks, going jogging and doing Wii Fit exercises?
I can't afford a gym membership until August or so but I want to get back into shape so this is my best shot.
Will it work? Any tips? :)
Eating properly is always a good idea and does lead to wait loss if you do not over eat. Exercise in conjunction with eating properly should help you lose the weight you want and tone up those areas you wish to.
I know eating properly helps in losing weight as I have lost over 8 kgs doing so. I am disabled and exercise, including long walks is something I have not been able to do. I stopped eating junk food. Stopped eating meals after 7pm, switched from drinking soda multiple times a day and drink water almost exclusively except with my evening meal.
My snacks are of a healthy variety of which I generally have two a day along with 3 balanced meals. Two reason for the snacks are; one: I read that a balanced diet requires two snacks. One of which is between lunch and dinner the other after dinner. The second is to buffer medications I need to take.
Once you lose the weight you want to lose and go on a maintenance program you should allow yourself one day a week or month, you know yourself better than anyone so you chose what is right for you, to sort of pig out. On this day you allow yourself a fast food lunch or some other food or snack you have cut out as a reward for sticking to your diet.
Doing so won't harm your diet and you can adjust for the fast food intake or junk food over the next several days. When we deprive ourselves of things we crave we want them all the more. If you use them as a reward for yourself you are not truly depriving yourself so the craving is not there as much. You will also find after a while that you don't miss this stuff as much.
Whenever I want to cry му eyes go red(before I cry) how can I make it not do that?
Unfortunately this is something you have no control over. Your eyes turning red is a bodily reaction to both your emotions to wanting to cry and the tears building up in your tear ducts.
While you may be able to control your outward appearances you may not be able to control your inner feelings and this is what is causing your tears to build. At some point I would guess your tears do start to fall and when they stop the redness in your eyes clear.
In short this is an emotional response. Controlling ones emotions, especially at your age is something very hard to do. Should you find yourself crying for no apparent reason do not be overly concerned as this is a natural reaction to puberty for some girls. I would suggest talking to your mother about this and consider seeing your doctor or your pediatrician as there is some medications that can help you deal better with the effects of puberty.
I just entered a loving relationship and was wondering what can i do to my lover sexually while i have my period. We both are adults and was taught that having sex while menstrauting is gross and harmful. We know now its not but want to try different things. Can we do anal sex? Thanks
There's no reason why you can't have sexual love you. It's really your Comfort that matters. If you do have sexual your avenue. I do suggest to use a couple of towels so that you do not stay the bed line or the bed as blood is hard to get out of the mattress. Anal sex is definitely an option to make sure he wears a condom and make sure that you are comfortable as it can be painful for you. Giving him oral sex is another option as are hand jobs and some other ways that you might find to give him pleasure.
but to answer your question is possible to have sex while you are here.
I have relatively few possesions; but relative to whom? The Nazi's where responsible to less deaths than the Russians during world war II does that make the Nazi's okay? I don't think so. I may be able to pack everything I own into a small car but really for me that is way too much stuff. I suppose it's not the stuff that bothers me it's the percieved "need". I can't bring myself to throw away things like my certificates of achievement (certificates from college stating I completed some course or another). What do they matter? They won't keep me warm at night, they wont feed me, I can't use them to defend my life from the savages of the world. Do I really need to feed myself? What is the point of protecting myself? How can I find enlightenment when I am looking for it externally? Where is my inner piece?
I'll take a different direction then Rainhouse68 did.
Do possession bring inner piece? To me that is both a yes and no answer. The certificates of accomplishments can lead to inner piece as they are a reminder of what you have accomplished. They also have some meaning in the today's world to future employers as they are a way for them to judge you.
Do things bring inner piece, do they feed you? Again the answer is both yes and no. They can if you have them and use them as support for what you purport you are.
I'm not the philosopher or the quoter of philosophy that others may be. Life is what you make of it. Material possession are a reminder of what we have accomplished in life. What we accomplish in life can lead to inner peace if we accomplish in life the goals we have set for ourselves.
Do we need possessions to have inner peace; no. Though we are judged by other by what we possess. If inner peace is gotten by how we are judged by others then possessions are a requirement. Inner peace then can be looked at as a circular problem of achievement depending on how we wish to attain it and how we wish to be looked upon and judged by others.
I'm not sure this is the answer you are looking for. Though I hope I have helped you.
I've been friends with these two girls for as long as I can remember, but in the past two years, we've drifted apart. We've all changed. All they seem to care about now is conforming. I'm a non-conformist and "proud nerd". In addition, I'm very analytical and philosophical; I don't accept values and morals before questioning them. My friends will accept any values thrown at them that seem "cool". This is what I believe is the cause of our separation; I could be wrong.
Anyway, they've become friends with my 11-year-old sister (henceforth referred to as R), and they're really bad influences on her. Since R has been friends with them, she's started failing all her classes, eating only candy, swearing, and acting really rude, hostile, and arrogant, especially towards my parents and I. (They do all of the aforementioned things. A lot.) My parents are concerned about R. Whenever I'm with the three of them, they either ignore everything I say (even if I try to have a conversation they're interested in) or dismiss my opinions and thoughts as stupid and dorky. They're really, really rude and obnoxious; they're so loud sometimes I feel like my hearing might be getting damaged. Whenever I tell R how I feel, they ask me why they should care about me. When I'm alone with the other girls (I'm going to call them K and A), they're not as rude to me as they are with R, but they're still kind of haughty. I'm tired of them acting like I don't matter.
There's this one guy at school who all the girls crush on. (Isn't there one at every school?) They talk about him 24/7. K practically stalks him. I feel bad for him, but don't know what to do. I feel like I can't tell them what I think.
My friends are still kind of fun sometimes. A few months ago, we went shopping together and had a pretty good time. (I don't hang out with them; I'm a pre-professional violist and practice several hours every day instead.) I have some online friends who I'm really close to and a large number of acquaintances whom I don't know well but like. I kind of still want to be friends with them. What should I do?
As I assume you are the older sister I understand you want to protect your sister and help her where you can. The problems you related about her are really your parents to monitor and correct, not yours. You can help them by giving them your opinion of the girls that are being a bad influence on her. Then if your parents wish they can take the appropriate corrective action.
Part of the problem is, I believe hormonal. Your sister is in away rebelling against the onset of puberty. This too would be somewhat normal for her or any prepubescent child. Also something your parents maybe aware of and are monitoring.
As for what you have related about yourself and the changes you see between yourself and your friends. This too is normal. You are maturing at a faster rate then your friends.
You call yourself a "proud nerd." There is nothing wrong with paying attention to your studies and getting good grades. This tells me you are well grounded and you have at the very least a rudimentary life plan and goals to achieve that plan. This is good. Most likely this is grounded in your studies as a "pre-professional violist." Again nothing wrong here. You must enjoy playing the Violin. If you practice hard enough there is no reason you cannot achieve your goals. You just have to stay focused and get in to the right school of music. This requires good grades in all subjects.
The difference between you and your friend is not that you or they are abnormal; it is they have not found a reason to mature to the point you have. This is very normal. Life may have to smack them in the face before they realize what they have wasted or are washing; while you are making your way towards a rewarding career.
My advice is for you to continue to be you. Let them continue to be themselves. When your with them enjoy who they are and if you can try to be at there level while your with them. Most importantly though is not to give up on your goals.
We r moving to a new house but I dont want to go to a different school. My parents act like the don't care and they said if I want to stay at the school I go to now I have to stay with my aunt or my grandma Monday through Friday. And the two other schools I can choose from 1.) is too ghetto for me 2.) has to much drama/ they don't let me talk to my friend that goes there/ their bratty. I really don't want to leave my friends either they all really need me right now and one is becoming a little suicidal. I really need help.
Changing schools is always hard. It is even harder to do in the middle of a school year as each school, even though the curriculums may be the same, the teaching methods and the pace they teach at differ. You could find yourself behind or ahead of the new school in the same year of education.
Since I feel it important that you complete the school year at the school you are presently in and the option is available to do so. I am going to suggest you spend the remainder of this year with either you grandmother or aunt. This will allow you to stay in your school for this year and give you a chance to see if this is something you wish to do until you graduate. Sort of a trial run since there is just over two months left to the year.
If this arrangement is not to your liking then you can visit the other two schools over the summer. You can talk to the principals and find out more about the schools then what you may have heard about them. You just may have the wrong impression of one or both of the schools.
In either case my suggestion allows you to stay in your present school with your friends and to watch over your one friend. I will suggest in the case of your one friend who you feel is becoming suicidal. If you feel this way you need to tell a teacher, principal or her/his parents about what you suspect or may have been told.
I know you feel that telling someone how you feel or what this friend may have told you will ruin a friendship. Ask yourself this question. Would you rather lose a friend or attend their funeral? For these are the realistic options of trying to take the middle road on something like this.
As a young person yourself there is very little you can do or say that may cause a determined person not to commit suicide. It takes doctors and trained medical professionals to help heal whatever is hurting your friend to cause him or her to want to take such drastic action.
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family stressing me bout grades and i try to make them proud but they never are. friends pressure me to party hard. typical shit. but now i feel like there is no way to get out of all this pressure ..so ive started to do drugs. help my i feel theres no other way to feel happy i just need some advice
I can tell you drugs are not the answer. They will just lead you down a road for which there is nothing but misery and more pain then you can ever imagine.
You are doing the right thing by asking for help but you need to ask the right people for the right help. You don't say how long you have been doing drugs or what drugs you are doing. Certain drugs like rock cocaine are very addictive and you will need help to stop. Smoking weed is easier to give up.
Normally I would say you should talk to your parents. I have a feeling you would tell me this is not possible as you could not take their rejection. This is wrong on their part. As a parent I understand their desire to see you succeed but to put you under so much pressure that you turn to drugs is totally wrong. You can always find new friends so peer pressure can be avoided but you only get one set of parents.
You need help, more help then I can give you in a few lines on this site. I would suggest you seek the help of you schools guidance counsellor or principal. Just make sure you don't have any drugs on you ate school. These people are not there just to help you academically. They can help with problems such as you have written about.
You can also pick up any phone and dial 911 for help. This is what 911 is there for. Tell them what you have told us and help will be sent to you.
15/f im going to the OBGYN becasue i think i hvae a problem with my vagina like a yeast infection or something. but i also want to ask the doctor about birth control and when i can get on it. i told my mom that if i dont want her in the room shes gonna have to leave, and shes like no you cant im staying and then she said i have no rights like she has to stay so like wtf...is the doctor gonna ask me if i want her there or not? or am i gonna have to be like can you get out? im not sexually active but i still want it to be safe but i also have cramps. so should i say i need the pill for cramps or becasue im sexually active? also how am i supposed to pick it up so my mom doesnt know about it or let alone pay for it like this makes no fucking sense and i hvae no money so i guess they would put it under planned parenthood.
Zane is almost correct. The law is called HIPPA and is a Federal Law. The name stands for Health Information Personal Privacy Act. You can type HIPPA into a search Engine if you like.
Under this law there is a clause covering young people 14 years of age and older when it comes to their reproductive system. A visit to an OBGYN would be covered by this law.
Since you are 15 you have total confidentiality when visiting this doctor or any doctor for something related to your reproductive health. Your parents or anyone else cannot know what the doctor is treating you for or examining you for. Your records are confidential and only you can release information and it must be in writing to the doctor. You even have to give the doctor permission to bill the insurance company as the codes used are confidential.
You can make your own appointments with or without parental permission to see a doctor. If mom is with you she may not be in the exam room with you. All you need to say to the doctor, nurse or receptionist is I WISH TO ENVOKE MY RIGHTS UNDER HIPPA. The reason for this law is so young people will vist a doctor when they have a reproductive issue or problem.
Under this law you may ask for birth control with or without parental permission. Your doctor must prescribe for you unless there is a medical reason not too. You pharmacy must also fill the prescription under this law as well with the same confidentiality.
I hope I have clarified and answered your question for you.
Im a 13 year old girl is it legal for me to give a 14 yeal old a bj at 13?
The age of consent law in many if not all states has been raised to 18 thanks to the no child left behind laws. By raising the age of consent to 18 this prevents any child from dropping out of school until they are 18. It also means that no child or teenager can legally engage in consensual sex before they are 18 either.
A BJ falls under the sodomy laws as it is considered an unnatural act. Many states have laws against these acts as well. Will you be arrested and prosecuted for giving someone a BJ? Not likely. These charges are usually brought when some one is charged with rape or other sexual crimes since most of when old enough do engage in oral sex even though it is or considered to be sodomy.
For now my advice is that both you and he keep your clothes on and not engage in any sexual activity that has either of you touching each others sexual organs. You two are much to young to be exploring this type of sexual contact. Stick to hugging and kissing and have him if you want to let him keep his hands on top of your clothes.
Once you let a boy put his hands under your clothes it is hard to put the brakes on. This is how girls your age end up pregnant. Your clothing is your safety net. Keep them on and in their proper place.
If someone had intercorse for the 1st time and didnt use any protection is their a posibility that they could become pregna nt? Im just curious. im 13
Short answer is yes.
Anytime you have unprotected sex, including the first time, even if the boy pulls out before ejaculating, there is every possibility you can get pregnant. How do you get pregnant if the boy does not ejaculate? Simple during sexual intercourse the boy emits some fluid as a lubricant. Within this fluid is enough semen to make a girl pregnant. Since this fluid is emitted and not ejaculated the male does not sense the emission so he does not know when it happens.
Now just having sex does not mean a female will get pregnant. Other factors have to happen as well. Most importantly she has to be ovulating and having sex during the period of time that she is ovulating and most fertile. This is a small window of time. For most women it is during the middle 14 days of their cycle. I say most women as this is true for about 80% of women. The other 20% of women can ovulate at any time even during their period.
It is important not to have sex without using a condom and you should also be on birth control. You should be old enough and mature enough to understand all the consequences of sex. Which at your current age you truly are not.
You have a life time to enjoy a sex life. Don't throw away a woman's most precious gift on a teenage male who lusts for you and mixes up lust for love. A boy who it is 95% certain you will never see again, at least as a boyfriend, after you leave for college and probably within weeks of having sex with him as he will move on to another girl.
Save your virginity for someone who truly loves you for who you are and respects you for the women you are. Boys at this age have no idea of what I have just said. I know this for I was once I teenage male. If you don't believe what you father has told you about the teenage male hopefully you believe a stranger who has nothing to gain or loose by telling you this.
Ever since my boyfriend started working nights we barely spend time together and when we do we just have sex then he falls asleep we never talk he doesn't even cuddle with me sometimes even though he's with me I still feel alone i dont know what to do every time I try to tell him how I feel he tells me to shh or he just ignores me I love him I want to be with him I just wish he would treat me the way he use to any advice?
You may find this hard to believe but this is not something that is wrong with your boyfriend or you. It is his job or more specifically his work hours. Our bodies are at their best if we are in a routine they are geared to which is controlled by the moon. We are supposed to sleep when it is dark and work and play when it is light.
In other words working nights upsets the rhythm we have set for ourselves since the day we were born. We adjust but we truly do not be come accustomed to working opposite what is the norm. We are not use to coming home and eating a breakfast and then going to sleep and waking up to having dinner. Then spending a few hours with you or family and going of to work.
When I worked nights I stopped coming home and having breakfast with my family, instead I stopped and had dinner. Then I did what most people do after work and then went home and went to sleep. When I got up I ate a breakfast even if the family was having dinner. This helped some but not fully.
If your boyfriend finds himself in the cycle I was in he may want to try adjusting his meals to fit his work cycle as well as his sleep cycle.
I wear yoga pants and leggings alot for their comfort.and i have nice legs and butt. Although i.realized that my crotch is shaped funny. Like i think someone called it a camel toe before? how can i get rid ofit?
russianspy1234 is somewhat correct in his or her answer/ There are ways you can hide your vagina shape from showing. There is nothing you can do to change it. What you are born with is what you have.
As someone much, much older than you I can tell you that what you have is a very unique shape that when the time is right, hopefully many years down the road, you will give and receive great pleasure when having sex.
You have nothing to embarrassed or intimidated about. If anything other girls when they learn more about female anatomy will actually envy what you have.
I know right now it is a source of embarrassment to have your crotch showing through your pants or leggings. The best way to mask this is to wear a lite days pad to give you a uniform smooth look in that area.
Is it bad that I masturbate using one of my mom's vibrators ? P.s. I'm f/13 .
Masturbation is a healthy way for anyone boy, girl, man or women to relieve sexual tension without having to worry about getting pregnant or an STD. For someone your age being in the throws of puberty masturbation is the preferred method for you to relieve you sexual tension and it also allows you to explore your sexuality.
Where you are going wrong is using your mothers toys. This is not good as it is not good hygiene to use someone else's vibrator. You do not know how mom uses it. Does she use it strictly for vaginal stimulation or does mom also like Anal stimulation.
You of course do not know this so by your use of her vibrator, even though you may clean it afterwards as I'm sure she does. There are still some microscopic germs that remain. These germs when transferred between you can be the source of an infection to either one of you. Certain types of infections of the vaginal or anal area can be considered STDS and can be very embarrassing as STDS are investigated by the Health Department to try and find the source.
Example of what happens. Moms infection materializes first. The doctor diagnoses this as an STD. The health department is notified. Mom does not know you are using her vibrator. Now any man or your dad she has had sex with is suspect and visited by the health department to see if he is infected or a carrier for this particular STD.
You really need to buy your own vibrator or talk to mom and see if she will buy one for you. You should tell mom you have been using hers so she can buy a new one and maybe she will consider buying you one as well.
is it okay for an almost 18 year old girl to date a 24 year old guy who has 3 year old twins?
The three before me seem to be of one mind on this. It is not illegal but it is also not something they would do or they would advise. I have to go along with what they have written.
Besides the six year age difference he is in a different place and maturity level then you are. He was 21 when he started his family. Was it something he planned or did his ex and he start a family and then have to get married. Where is the mom and how is she going to interact with you, her kids and him?
His children are always going to come before you, they have too. If your relationship is going to flourish into marriage it will only do so based on how his children take to you and how you handle his children as a parent. You will always be the step-mom and you can expect the mom to always remind you of this fact even if he has custodial custody of the children.
We cannot tell you what is right or what is wrong in this relationship for you. Only you can do that. What we can do is try to point out the pitfalls of this type of relationship which there are many. You have to decide if you can accept them and if you have the maturity to accept them and deal with the problems that these pitfalls will bring to this relationship.
The pitfalls are there that's a fact. How they will come to pass is an unknown but they will at some time come to pass. You need to be prepared and have your eyes wide open if you want to proceed with this relationship.
I am 16 and my boobs have been hurting alot lately i am not sexually active but I do masturbate. Would masturbation have anything to do with my boobs hurting. I also think its Because of my period, but my period isn't support to come until two more weeks. Should I be worried or does this just mean my boobs are growing.?
Even though you are 16 you are still going through puberty and could continue to feel the effects of puberty in to your early twenties. As you continue through puberty your hormone levels will fluctuate and new hormones are released. While you are still going through puberty, the advanced ages, is when the more subtle changes in your body shape and form takes place. For lack of another term you can if you want call what you are experiencing growing pains.