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is it legal for me to give a 14 yeal old a bj
Im a 13 year old girl is it legal for me to give a 14 yeal old a bj at 13?
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I can't say about legality of it. But whether something is legal or not hasn't stopped anyone before, has it? The people who don't rush into anything but give thought to possible repercussions from any of their actions are the ones who are likely to have less regrets later in life looking back. You are taking a good step in deciding to ask for advice. I am taking a rough guess here, but since you asked before rushing ahead to give a bj, there wasn't a burning desire in you to do so or you would have. There's a good chance it wasn't your idea either.
To be real frank with you, if ALL you did was a bj, please know that people can get some STD's from just that like oral herpes. Or the guy will not stop at that for long and pressure you for more.
Ok, lets jump ahead to thinking that through. He's pressured you to have full sex. How will you feel? Used? Happy? Feel grown up? Dirty?
Is there a hundred percent chance that he was prepared with a condom? NO. If he did have one, was it very old? Sometimes at that age it is embarrassing to purchase them and swiping one from somebodys bedroom doesnt guarantee how old it is. The latex/rubber can break. If he did use one, did it slip off inside you after he ejaculated because he shrunk quickly enough that it stayed in as he pulled out and now semen is easily spilling all over inside you. There's a chance of getting an STD or getting pregnant. If that happened, then you have the anxious wait to see if your next period comes, you can't sleep, eat or concentrate on school because of your worries, and grades drop. Even if it doesn't happen the first time, if you have repeat sex the odds grow that you will become pregnant at some point even using condoms. There are grown up married women who become pregnant while using condoms or a diaphragm.
Lets imagine, what if you were pregnant at 13? The younger you are the bigger chance it affects your health, toxicity problems, not fully developed enough to safely deliver a baby.
Can you tell your parents, can you imagine their reaction. You're still their child, a woman in the making but not a full grown woman yet. Abortion? Adoption? Ridicule at school? Attending a school for pregnant teens?
It is way safer to wait until you graduate from high school before entering any sexual relationship. I told my 3 daughters to closely watch the girlfriends that were dating, how long did it last, the get together, breaking up on rapid repeat...and watch to see what it did to the grades of those girls. They reported back that the girls who dated around alot went from good grades to start with to plummeting til they were near failing. They realized I was right to say, wait until you finish high school before attempting serious dating.That doesn't mean you cant have a friends that are boys. Just hold off on the romantic stuff and the sex til later.
Perhaps this isn't what you wanted to hear. Or you say, hey but what do I do about my raging hormones right now? Well, find some open minded female adult you feel comfortable confiding in, and have her take you to buy your first vibrator toy..but stay away from the boy.
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It depends where you live.
Honestly, it's best for you to wait to do this kind of stuff since you are so young. Once you start doing these sexual acts, the boys don't want to stop and they will end up asking and begging for more. That is why a lot of girls end up pregnant because they don't know how to say no or the boy just goes too far.
Wait until you are older, then you won't have regrets.
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The age of consent law in many if not all states has been raised to 18 thanks to the no child left behind laws. By raising the age of consent to 18 this prevents any child from dropping out of school until they are 18. It also means that no child or teenager can legally engage in consensual sex before they are 18 either.
A BJ falls under the sodomy laws as it is considered an unnatural act. Many states have laws against these acts as well. Will you be arrested and prosecuted for giving someone a BJ? Not likely. These charges are usually brought when some one is charged with rape or other sexual crimes since most of when old enough do engage in oral sex even though it is or considered to be sodomy.
For now my advice is that both you and he keep your clothes on and not engage in any sexual activity that has either of you touching each others sexual organs. You two are much to young to be exploring this type of sexual contact. Stick to hugging and kissing and have him if you want to let him keep his hands on top of your clothes.
Once you let a boy put his hands under your clothes it is hard to put the brakes on. This is how girls your age end up pregnant. Your clothing is your safety net. Keep them on and in their proper place.
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Most Age of Consent laws in most places make the age where you are legally able to consent to sex 16.
However, many place also have Close in Age exceptions, which say that people who are younger than 16 (or, whatever the age of consent is) are able to have sex with people who are only 1 or 2 years older than them.
So, no one can really answer your question until they know where you live, and what the laws are in your area.
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No, its not even legal to have sex until you're 16.
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