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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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hey, how do you make a picture that fits on your column? anything will help =D thanks in advance.
x0 katieandalyssa ♥

Go into Paint. Click open. Get your picture that you want to resize. Then click on Image. Go down to Stretch & Skew. In the Horizontal & Vertical Boxes with % after it, change the 100's to 25's. Then click OK. Then X out of paint, but make sure you save the changes. Then go into Photobucket, upload it there, and then get the IMG code. Erase the [IMG][/IMG] off the ends, and then go into Profile Settings on here, and go down to "URL Pic Of You" and put the thing in there. Then click Save. =)

What is heathier for you to eat-
A food with more sugar or a food with more salt?

Neither. Sugar makes you gain weight, and salt makes your blood pressure go way up. Eat foods with lots of sugar/salt sparingly.

i really want a belly button piercing, but my mom would never in a million years let me get one...so i'm letting my friend do it. she's done it before, she's using all the proper tools, sterilizing everything, and she knows what she's doing. so is that safe? and if i get it done, can i use the same cleaning product for whne you first get your ears pierced for your belly button? & if my belly button gets infected, will i ever have to go to the doctor and have my parents find out? and in general, i know it sounds like a stupid idea but it's not soooo bad i guess..i mean teenagers pierce their own body parts all the time sometimes. thank for reading this, bye!

I wouldn't advise it. Since summer is coming up, it's gonna get hot out & what is your mom gonna say when she sees you've got it done? She's probably gonna be like "wtf." So I advise you not to get it done.

But if you're witty & can think of something to say to her when she's flipping out, then yeah, you can use the same cleaner. Also, if it does get infected, you'll either have to take the piercing out, or go to the doctor.

I love these songs:

sick or sane-senses fail
act appalled-circa survive
control freak-copeland
what i've done-linkin park

so can someone name more good punk,rock,emo,screamo bands like this that arent like, common?
thanks.

I'm giving you the names of the bands because the songs I like might not interest you.

The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Cute Is What We Aim For.
The Higher.
The Almost.
Underoath.
Taking Back Sunday.
Paramore.
The Sounds.
My Chemical Romance.
The Used.
The Hush Sound.
Hawthorne Heights.
Hollywood Undead.
Plain White T's.
Panic! At The Disco.
Sum 41.
Plus 44.
30 Seconds To Mars.
Aiden.
Armor For Sleep.
Atreyu.
Anti-Flag.
A Heartwell Ending.
Escape The Fate.
Evanescence.
Boys Like Girls.
Brand New.
Breaking Benjamin.
Cartel.
Chiodos.
Crossfade.
Chevelle.
Coheed & Cambria.
Four Letter Lie.
From First To Last.
From Autumn To Ashes.
Funeral For A Friend.
Greeley Estates.
Heavy Heavy Low Low.
Hella Hella Lame Lame.
Men Women & Children.
Rise Against.
Saosin.
The Matches.
The Fratellis.
The Killers.
Three Days Grace.
Self Against City.
The Number Twelve Looks Like You.
The Fall Of Troy.
Job For A Cowboy.
The Academy Is...
Tool.
Primus.
Thursday.
Slipknot.
Smile Empty Soul.

Hi i was wondering,for 14 year olds...what would be better?..oral sex or regular sex?...also for oral would it be better for the girl to do the guy first or the guy to do the girl first..or would it be better for both to do it at the sametime because i know that someone might not feel like doing something after orgasming..also is it better for a guy to wear a condom for oral or not?

thanks =)

14 is a little young to be doing either sweetheart. Wait a few more years before you go off doing that type of stuff. You're 14. You've got better things to do with your time.

okay... so i've had some pretty bad things happen to my family that i really strongly belive are my fault... because of that i hide my emotions and don't ever cry infront of people. so i'm friends with a bunch of people and about half of them are girls... well sometimes they get emotional for (what i think) no good reson... like they're grounded, they're big brother's moving out of the house (not even out of the city), they just had "a bad night" and now they're thinking or talking about cutting. well, from reading this you might be able to guess that i just can't simpathize with them or feel sorry for them, and i get down right pissed when they talk about cutting like it's a braging right or something (i used to cut). so my question is do i really have the right to tell them that they're crying over nothing? am i over reacting? what can i do to not get so pissed off?

I understand where you're coming from completely. I've done a lot of things in my life & when someone talks about it or throws it around like it's nothing, it gets me pissed & I definitely always let them know. I let everyone know exactly what's on my mind. Good or not, they're gonna know.

If you think your friends are crying over nothing, tell them worse things can happen & to suck it up. It's not the end of the world, & they're not gonna die from it. It's just life. You can either roll with it & accept it, or you can be an ass & cry about it. Their choice.

Nothing wrong with being honest.

when you saying, "when the going gets tough, the tough get going" does that mean, when you stand up for yourself, the tough people back down or something? if so, if i were to say "when the going gets tough, the tough get rough" what would that mean? thanks a lot, my brains been killing me about this.

It means that when something gets hard, instead of giving up & walking away from it, you toughen up & get the job done. =)

okay, there's this guy i like in school, but i don't know what to do. I catch him looking my way a lot, but that's about it. He's friends with everygirls in my class, except four girls, including me. I don't know what to do. I really like him, and we kinda hit it off last year. But thenn we had summer vacay, and we didn't really talk.actually, there was no talking at all. now everythings weird, and we never talk. even when we were the only ones in a group together for an hour a whole week, or a group of three with the new kid, who dosen't speak english very well, we neer spoke. Help me, pleeeeeeeeeease! how can i start a conversation with this guy? help! guys, i would really like your help on who to go about this! thx, kitzy.

Just say hi to him. It's not hard. It's not like if you say hi he's gonna be like "Wtf bitch." & completely ignore you. Get to talking & try talking online. Good luck.

i was just wondering..which year of highschool was the hardest for you? like in working AND in relationships with everyone and everything. im going to be a sophomore next year and i wanted to take some extra courses but im not sure. thankss.

Experiences in high school are different for everyone.

I personally don't like school so much, but I guess it's okay. Nothing has been hard for me since I put my mind to it. Personally, I think that senior year would be the hardest. Lots of kids get happy that they're a senior & stop coming to class. They come whenever they want, & leave whenever they want & end up losing credit for classes they need to graduate.

This may be long, so bare with me.

Okay. So it's my senior year and I have very acute chronic migraines. I go to a neurologist every 2 weeks to try to control my migraines with medication and I've been doing so since I was 14.(I'm 18 now.) Nothing has helped. My migraines are a hindrance to being able to live a normal life. There are many days when it's so bad that I can't even get out of bed.

So my main problem was the fact that I got really sick and apparently missed too many days to graduate this year. I've never thought I'd have this problem because I have almost a 4.0 gpa. Well now I'm doing an independent study course for the 1 class that I needed to graduate. My main concern is for after I finish my English IV course and I get my diploma.

I don't know if I should try to attend a university or if I should take online courses. I found a university that offers online courses so I can get my associate's degree.

My question is whether doing my college classes online will be better or worse for someone in my situation? If I went to a university, I'd have to worry about when I could see my neurologist because he isn't open past 1 PM and he is the best neuro in my area. Then I'd take the risk of getting really sick again and missing a lot of days. Or I can try online courses and I can do my work when I am able. I'm worried about what my future worry about when I could go to the doctor because employers will think of getting an associate's degree online.

Since you have this problem with migraines, I think that online courses would be good. In college, they don't really care if you miss days since it's your own fault, but still, you shouldn't miss school. With online classes, you'll be able to do everything from home. Not only would it be easier, but better to.

16/f so i have a really really slutty reputation at my highschool... i don't know why... the worst thing i've done with anyone at school was make-out and dry hump (but he had a girlfriend... which i didn't know about at the time) but then another thing is that a couple times i've come back to school from a weekend or something and i have hickies and stuff... but i don't think anyone notices. so... a bunch of guys think i'm a total slut... and i was wondering if there's anything i can do to show them that i'm not...

You get a reputation from the things that you do. In your case, hooking up every weekend. People can obviously see those hickies you're getting & they turn to think the worst. You can't erase your rep, or start over because first impressions are everything. Just keep being you. Besides, once you graduate & get out into the real world, the clothes you wore, the friends & cliques you had, & your rep won't matter.

ahh! so i have this big problem =(
i get reallly shy around this guy i like.
and its getting worst every day!
ahh. in the beginning it wasnt that bad but now its getting worst and worst. ahh and i hate it. i mean i try to pull myslef together and get a grip and face him but im just too scared to!! why do you think that is?
also i want to be around him but once im there i pretend i dont know him and he wont talk to me either, hes the same as me.
but its weird becasue we used to talk in school a lot and we talk online almost everyday for atleast an hour!
this like almost never happens to me.
well it does everytime its a guy i like before im freinds with him =(( help me to get myself to RELAX and talk to him already!

It's only getting worse & worse because you're letting it. By not saying anything to him, you're just allowing the situation to deepen. Try saying hi to him in school & then talk more in school like you used to. He might like you too, so he's just as shy but if you break the ice & talk to him more & ask to hang out, things will get better.

heyyy, well, i need a just a plain white hoodie, but i have no idea where to find one! i've looked at pacsun,ae,hot topic, delias, almost everywhere! does anyone know where they are? =[. also , a plain black hoodie? thanks people :D

Try DEB, Rave, or Rainbow. At places like PacSun & Zumies, they're gonna have a design almost everytime.

[i'm a 15/f.] me and my ex were hanging out yesterday night and we were flirting and stuff. [nothing graphic::my mom and sister were in the room] but later when he was texting me, he told me he still kind of liked me. but i don't know what to do about him. he said that nothing was going to change between us but i don't know. please help me.

If you don't like him anymore, then tell him that. Tell him you don't feel the same way anymore, and you don't wanna be bothered with it. If you do like him, then try going out again.

So I came into the library one night which i had just left and returned and some people who were my friends were sitting there and some people who werent were there all gathered around so since they were already engaged in a conversation ijust walked in back to where i had been to begin with and one of my friends said hello jessica and it was ina condescending way which is somewhat a part of her personality should i have snapped back at her or should i not pay that any mind.

Don't pay it any mind.

I was just wondering if anyone could tell me if when you get your beyy button pierced if you took a ring or bought one there? And how long did you leave yours in? Thanks!

You can do both. If you want them to use a ring you bought, then they can do that but you would need to notify them of that ahead of time, and it might actually decrease the price of the piercing. If you don't wanna do that, then you can buy one there if you like what they have there.

Be sure to go somewhere clean. If the needles are already laid out or they don't take them out of the packages in front of you, then leave. Chances are you'll get an infection because they've probably used that needle on someone else. Scary thought, but some places actually do it. If they explain everything to you such as what they're gonna do, what they're gonna use, how they're doing it, and how to take care of it then you're set. And make sure they open everything in front of you.

It's best you think of something else when getting a piercing if you're the type that can't handle pain. Pain is different for everyone. What might hurt for someone else could tickle to you & vice versa. They tell how you long to leave your ring in for, so if you have any questions make sure you ask them. =) Good luck.

i met this guy a while back and we kinda fell for eachother. well, recently, he was calling me like crazy and leaving me sweet voice mail messages and texting me during class. he would come see me between classes and such. however, a couple of days ago, he asked me if i really liked him. and i said "of course i do. i woulndnt have been jacking up my cell bill if i didnt." and i told him that i loved him and he said "i love you too". yesterday, he told me that he doesnt think a relationship is a good idea right now with his grades and such. he hasnt called me since. hes been avoiding me at school (which has been easy for him seeing as i dont go out of my way to see him, he always went out of his way to see me.) and today is my sweet 16 and he knew about it. i got my braces off yesterday and when i got to school this morning, me and my best friend were walking towards him and he turned around and walked the other way. what do i do? hes been avoiding me lately and it kills me. i really like him, but if i have to, ill let him go. why is he doing this? what do i say or do?

sorry its so long. that wasnt my intent.

He might think you're mad at him because he doesn't wanna be in a relationship. You could always talk to him about. Ask him why he's avoiding you & what's going on. Or maybe ask his friends?

Okay so theres ths guy that i really like: (im gunna put it in like..bullets so its easier to read):
-and it all started last month around the beginning of March.
-and we've met before but never really talked much because we dont go to the same school but he lives in the same town as me.
-we work at the same place, and thats basically how we started talking.
-so over the weeks in March, we started to text all the time everyday; from the time we'd wake up to the time we'd go to sleep.
- everything was going good and i got the chance to get to know him a bit more and he seemed like a really sweet guy. just had bad luck with past relationships because of the way he was treated.
- only problem: we never got the chance to hang out because i had drivers ed 3 times a week, basketball 2 times a week and work on the weekends.
-->this was a problem because he was always bugging me about hanging out but i nevr had the time to.
So everything was going pretty good.
APRIL:
-So he then invites me like..last minute to some semiformal thing on a tuesday and the semi is on that saturday.
--im not able to go because my parents dont know him and i wasnt getting great grades at the time.
--> so saturday comes and hes like..really reallyyy sad i cant go.
--> a couple weeks go by, and everythings still going good.
--> then all of a sudden one day, he just starts acting wierd. and this carries on for 3 days.
- so i had to work one of the days and he was like "oh maybe ill stop by"
--> so he stops by and we didnt talk but just smiled at each other. he stayed for maybe an hour.
- so after work, i check my messages and there are three from him explaining how he was sorry he acted the way he did.
--> so days go by and then its vacation.
since i go to a catholic school in a different state but i live in the same state as him and he goes to public school in the state we both live in, our vacation is different.
- i ended up giong to florida for vacation for a week.
we texted the whole time i was down there and things seemed to be fine.
-until the last 2 days i was down there, he didnt respond to my txt messages.
so i was worried something was wrong.
-i get back from vacation, all happy to be home (sadly haha) and then i just look on his myspace, since i dont have one (not allowed) and it says "in a relationship"
--> so im like...ohh great what the hell happened now? then he signs on that night and tells me that his phone has been dead and it wont hold the charge.
so i asked him why it said "in a relationship" on his myspace and hes all like "What? i thought u werent allowed on myspace? i thought it was blocked? and im like...noo....its not blocked. i jsut cant have a myspace"
so then hes like...about that...i thought u were jsut leading me on the whole time and we havent even hung out yet so i was getting tired of it.
so iim like...okay, i told you before vacation that after i got back, we could hang out because drivers ed would be done with. and hes like..well i dont remmeber that and you didnt seem like you were interested in me that much because you never made plans to hang out.
--> i definetly remember making plans to TRY to hang out but they didnt work because of drivers ed.
and now he just wont talk to me or anything, and i dont know what to do.
what would you do if you were me?
Thanks,
steph

I don't think you did anything wrong, but he did, in a way. If he really liked you, he would've waited. Just IM him one of these days & tell him how you feel about him, and talk things out with him.

okay well this is the 7th time me and my boyfriend have gone out over a period of about two years now.the last time i broke up with him because he never talked to me. we're in the same school but hes a year older than me but our grades share everything. i saw him everyday but he never talked to me so i dumped him and went out with this other kid like 3 days later and we dated for like 5 months.and i broke up with him to date my ex. anyways. i feel like we're back at stage one. but worse. he not only ignores me at school, but online, never answers my texts, and whenever i ask him to hang out he either says ok he'll ask and then never does, pretends to forget and hangs out with other girls and stuff. and it really pisses me off but i try not to show it and when i DO talk to him, i can't help but be a bitch because he pisses me off. i really like him alot, he's my everything. by the way, i'm in 7th grade and hes in 8th. what should i do? i dont want to break up with him as like a wake up call because that wont do any good, i know for sure. any other ideas? sorry this is so long.

Either he's really shy, or he's just an ass. Break up with him. Chances are he doesn't like you.

my friend is a maniac and likes to inflict pain. he has tried to commit suicide multiplye times. i want to get him help, who should i report him too. he needs serious mental health and he is a serious danger to himself and others around him

You need to tell his parents. Or tell a counselor. They can get him help immeadiately. If you don't tell anyone, who knows what will happen. Get your friend help ASAP.

If he doesn't wanna talk to a counselor, then take him against his will. He'll hate you, but he'll thank you in the end. You'll be saving his life.

If you or him want more help, feel free to IM or email me. All of my information is on my column. Good luck.

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