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is it just me, or is he an asshole?
Okay so theres ths guy that i really like: (im gunna put it in like..bullets so its easier to read):
-and it all started last month around the beginning of March.
-and we've met before but never really talked much because we dont go to the same school but he lives in the same town as me.
-we work at the same place, and thats basically how we started talking.
-so over the weeks in March, we started to text all the time everyday; from the time we'd wake up to the time we'd go to sleep.
- everything was going good and i got the chance to get to know him a bit more and he seemed like a really sweet guy. just had bad luck with past relationships because of the way he was treated.
- only problem: we never got the chance to hang out because i had drivers ed 3 times a week, basketball 2 times a week and work on the weekends.
-->this was a problem because he was always bugging me about hanging out but i nevr had the time to.
So everything was going pretty good.
APRIL:
-So he then invites me like..last minute to some semiformal thing on a tuesday and the semi is on that saturday.
--im not able to go because my parents dont know him and i wasnt getting great grades at the time.
--> so saturday comes and hes like..really reallyyy sad i cant go.
--> a couple weeks go by, and everythings still going good.
--> then all of a sudden one day, he just starts acting wierd. and this carries on for 3 days.
- so i had to work one of the days and he was like "oh maybe ill stop by"
--> so he stops by and we didnt talk but just smiled at each other. he stayed for maybe an hour.
- so after work, i check my messages and there are three from him explaining how he was sorry he acted the way he did.
--> so days go by and then its vacation.
since i go to a catholic school in a different state but i live in the same state as him and he goes to public school in the state we both live in, our vacation is different.
- i ended up giong to florida for vacation for a week.
we texted the whole time i was down there and things seemed to be fine.
-until the last 2 days i was down there, he didnt respond to my txt messages.
so i was worried something was wrong.
-i get back from vacation, all happy to be home (sadly haha) and then i just look on his myspace, since i dont have one (not allowed) and it says "in a relationship"
--> so im like...ohh great what the hell happened now? then he signs on that night and tells me that his phone has been dead and it wont hold the charge.
so i asked him why it said "in a relationship" on his myspace and hes all like "What? i thought u werent allowed on myspace? i thought it was blocked? and im like...noo....its not blocked. i jsut cant have a myspace"
so then hes like...about that...i thought u were jsut leading me on the whole time and we havent even hung out yet so i was getting tired of it.
so iim like...okay, i told you before vacation that after i got back, we could hang out because drivers ed would be done with. and hes like..well i dont remmeber that and you didnt seem like you were interested in me that much because you never made plans to hang out.
--> i definetly remember making plans to TRY to hang out but they didnt work because of drivers ed.
and now he just wont talk to me or anything, and i dont know what to do.
what would you do if you were me?
Thanks,
steph
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i can see both sides.
but no i don't think he's a total asshole.
He'll most likely realize whats going on.
I'd suggest to try to keep talking to him.
One of these days he'll answer.
Apologize about not hanging out and set him straight on how you feel.
See what happens then.
And if you need anything else feel free to message.
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i can see your side... but i have to say that i feel kinda sorry for him... because i really liked this guy for a long time, he was really into me, i was really into him.... but it seemed like he never made time for me... or even tried to (that's probably how this guy felt) so which felt like no encouragment from your side left him feeling unwanted, so he went somewhere else to get attention aka. his new girlfriend.
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I don't think you did anything wrong, but he did, in a way. If he really liked you, he would've waited. Just IM him one of these days & tell him how you feel about him, and talk things out with him.
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If i was you i'll realize this guy is not into me. i mean if he really likes you he'll wait for you when ever you got the time. dont waest your time on this guy, cause he seem like he is asshole. I'm sorry that you have to go thourght that. you need someone that wont care how busy you are and will have to wait no matter what.you did try to make time but you got important things to do and he should've respect that. so i would forget about him and move on. and if he realize how dum he was then he might crawl back to you. but still try not to trust every thing he says or do cause i was played before and it hurts. hope that helps.
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Guys are impatient beings. He obviously didn't think you were worth the trouble, so he moved on. Most guys can't handle a girl with responsibilities. That's not your fault, it's his.
If you want to get to know this guy, STOP TEXTING! Talk to him IN PERSON. It's a wonderful thing. There's this thing called body language, and it can help you get to know a person WAY better than a text message.
Try confronting him in person. Talk to him about the whole thing. Say, "I'm sorry we haven't hung out, I've just been really busy. You really need to grow up."
Don't waste your time on this guy. Impatience is a nasty habit. So is ignorance, which he seems to have plenty of.
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