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i just get so pissed
okay... so i've had some pretty bad things happen to my family that i really strongly belive are my fault... because of that i hide my emotions and don't ever cry infront of people. so i'm friends with a bunch of people and about half of them are girls... well sometimes they get emotional for (what i think) no good reson... like they're grounded, they're big brother's moving out of the house (not even out of the city), they just had "a bad night" and now they're thinking or talking about cutting. well, from reading this you might be able to guess that i just can't simpathize with them or feel sorry for them, and i get down right pissed when they talk about cutting like it's a braging right or something (i used to cut). so my question is do i really have the right to tell them that they're crying over nothing? am i over reacting? what can i do to not get so pissed off?
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I understand where you're coming from completely. I've done a lot of things in my life & when someone talks about it or throws it around like it's nothing, it gets me pissed & I definitely always let them know. I let everyone know exactly what's on my mind. Good or not, they're gonna know.
If you think your friends are crying over nothing, tell them worse things can happen & to suck it up. It's not the end of the world, & they're not gonna die from it. It's just life. You can either roll with it & accept it, or you can be an ass & cry about it. Their choice.
Nothing wrong with being honest.
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Hey,
Okay, so I totally understand where you're coming from; how you feel like you SHOULD be sympathetic, but how there's definitely a reason you shouldn't be.
Just think about it this way, everyone handles things in their own way. However small a problem, it's probably still a problem in their opinion.
There's also the aspect that cutting is turning into a thing where people want attention.
Try to talk to your friends, and tell them that it's really not a good idea to do that to themselves over these problems, and if they'd looko at their issues from another perspective, they wouldn't seem so bad.
If you talk everything over at once, you and your friend will be able to get over everything. (Thier problems, and themselves). Make sure you get all of the issues out of the way, though. There's no use going through a big confrontation, and leaving things unsaid.
Hope this helps at all.
XOXO
Kat
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