I love making up my own songs and singing them..the problem is, when i write them down, they look so retarded and then I forget the tune and everything screws up..my question is, how do you write lyrics that match with the tunes? I would love to be a singer one day but that won't happen because I'm asian, but whatever..um what are some tips for writing song lyrics and thinking of tunes? Thanks..I rate
I sing a lot - and play piano, and have similar problems. I think the best solution is to try and get yourself a tape recorder (one that you just sing/talk out loud and it picks up and records the information). When it hits you, just get a blank casette and start recording your ideas. This works welll to save ideas, work on them, and make them better.
Asian people can be singers, too!
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I had to do a couple of art sheets to pass art and they have to be in tomorrow.
Obviously me being me, I left it till the last minute but there's this one I can't do for the life of me.
I went down to school and I tryed to explain to the teacher that I couldn't to see if she could give me a different one and she said ''you do what you're given'' which is pretty fair but I've done this drawing about 3 times and I've ruined the sheet from doing it and erasing it and now I can't get it right!!
She's SO bitchy and she'll give it me back and make me fix it so I won't pass but I can't fix it, I've tryed! Even my mom tryed for me.
She won't understand, belive me, it's happend to someone else before and she just failed them.
Help!? What should I do. It's really important I don't fail art (long story)
Sorry to say, but if your teacher is that harsh on grading then you may very well be doomed. Just try to get as much of it done as you can. I sometimes to my best work under pressure, so maybe that'll work for you. Art is somehting based on interest. If you don't have the drive to do it, then you probably aren't going to come up with the best work. Or maybe you DO love art, and you just aren't being allowed to do your own thing. You might fail, but at least try to pass it in/be creative. Make it your own, however rushed it is.
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15/F
Okay, I have a problem.
I have a dance performance on the 17 and 18 of June, I normally get my period on the 15th. I have researched tampons and the pros and cons but the problem is they(tampax.com) say that when you start to wear tampons you should just wear the ones for lighter days. That sucks because my period is normally really heavy and the preformance is from 5:30 to about 12:00 both nights. There is only one bathroom and its normally filled during recital nights. I have my dressing room with about 60 other girls and there is no possible way I could wear pads with my costumes, one I have too many white outfits and two I move around too much on stage. I can't have the pad go flinging out. That would be disgusting.
So the question is, is it okay to try wearing tampons for heavier flo on my first time?
Yes, I have tried tampons before and it always feels uncomfortable because i'm not use to having string stick out of my vagina but I would go with the discomfort for my dance.
Well, about tampons being uncomfortable:
Are you sure you're putting it in as far as you go when you do use them? Tampons can be kind of hard to get used to at first, but once you've gotten used to the initial wierdness, they're really handy.
There's no reason only to use the tampons for lighter days if your period is normally very heavy. If relaxed enough, and with a couple of tries (if that) - you'll be fine. I believe it's mor of a reccomendation to suggest a smaller size first, which you can try to get the hang of it with.
5:30- 12:00 is about six hours, which is the maximum most say one should wear a tampon. It's unlikely, but possible that you may get TSS if it is in longer than that by too much, but I'd say that it isn't as much of a risk or problem unless it exceeds that by more than a few hours, although by then you probably need to change it anyway.
Now, is there a way that you can wear an extra pair of underwear(so it doesn't fly out of your costume as you said a pad might) with a pad? Even if you wear a tampon, an extra pair of underwear, a pantyliner or a pad would be helpful if your period is so heavy that it leaks through the tampon (and with a white costume, that could be disasterous).
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Ok,theres this group i want to be in,there cool,they're like --i love you hun!! and there really random like they will go --i want to bang alex! jokeingly though! or this girl would go "i love you *hug* to the other girl,but of course there just friends.there awesome..and im almost in that group but im not the favorite that people pay attension to. My question is how to i start conversations and become more outgoing,and more the person they pay attension to instead of the boring one in an awesome group like this!!?!
The truth is, you can't make a certain group of people like you more. I know where you're coming from - I was in this same situation a while ago. They may seem like this great tight group that you want to feel like you're just as much part of it as everyone else, right? And I'm guessing here - but have these gir;s been friends together in a group for a LONG time, but you just started hanging out with them kind of recently?
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be friends with these people, I'm sure. The problem with wanting to be these girls friends VERY badly is that they will see you as needy, and you will start to depend on how they act toward you to make you feel good about yourself.
My advice is to try and not want to be friends with these girls so much. I mean, hang out with them, have a good time - but if they don't treat you like you've been friends with them for forever, don't feel bad about it. Just keep being yourself, and please, PLEASE (because I speak from experience here) _don't_ ever let them make you change who you are, or make you feel like you should act a certain way if you don't want to.
I'm taking the time to say all of this because it seems you care a little too much about their acceptance. It's OK to care a little, but if you aren't talking to these girls and joking with them because you want to (but more because you want them to like you) then you'll never be close to them, and you might be missing out on being friends with people who are more your 'type' of people.
It happened to me - I was so concerned with being in a certain group of friends that I wasn't always acting myself, and I just ended up feeling bad when they didn't like me as much as I wanted them to. After I started being myself more, and started to make new friends (not even a group, but I just started meeting people because their personality was close to mine), then I started understanding what real friendship is.
Don't worry about people paying attention to you. If you know who you are, (or start learning about yourself, what you really like and care about) - and you be yourself, you will definitely find people who are as like-minded as you and you WILL feel better about being in groups, and you'll start talking to people more.
(P.S. - there's nothing wrong with not being outgoing. Actually, some people find less outgoing people more interesting, and the louder people as obnoxious and annoying. I'm not saying you're friends are like that, but if it's just not your nature to be outgoing, don't force yourself to be. It'll only feel uncomfortable. You'll probably get more outgoing as you get older anyway.)
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can some ppl tell me ghetto words or phrases plz?
i'll rate to 5 ~
My guess is that if you're asking for "ghetto" words and phrases, you're not from the ghetto. Please, then, don't use them. It never does well to just search for random slang phrases and insert them into your daily conversation unless that's really how you talk.
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Ok my face looks like a friggin pizza with extra pepperoni on it now..ugh gross..but yeah I never break out..it's just that right now, I'm going through alottaa stress..so does anyone have any home remedies to get rid of these little suckers..(toothpaste, hot water, umm idk..)just anything you would find in your home..I need to get rid of them by tomorrow (if possible!) they're humongo..ahh i will rate you a 5..like bam! -thankssss
To answer the additional question: tea-tree oil is an oil that originates in Australia. It's a completely natural product and can be used for many things, one of them is skin care. It helps disinfect areas of skin and dry out areas (but isn't usually as harsh as somehting like clearasol, which can dry out your skin and make the acne even worse).
Tea Ttree oil works for some people, not for others. It's worth a shot - but it's important to also get a good, non-oil based moisterizer. It's important to keep your skin clean and wash it, but over-drying your skin will make more pimples.
Drinking plenty of water and eating right (less oily foods, more veggies and such) is what really helps your skin.
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Dear All,
I Hope you can offer some advice here. This is an extremely disturbing story.
Recently my Friend Angela started displaying some weird behaviour. First of all she accused my boyfriend of having sex with my best friend. I did not believe her as i totally trust my man. Anyway- we were not talking to her because of this and other malicious accusations towards my Boyfriend, and general nasty things about me.
So then its my friends wedding reception. Angela turns up dressed like the bride of Dracula and proceeds to walk around the reception telling people to watch out for my Boyfriend etc.
Then she text my Boyfriend (David) and asked him to come over to the house at 5.30 in the morning- which he did as he was worried. She apologised to him and said the real reason she had invited him round was because she needed his help on a mission, and there was a glitch in the Matrix!
I went round to her house later in the morning and she just went mad- saying that her boyfriend who she had recently dumped was a peodiphile but she had to go out with him so that she could prove he was and get him arrested. The reason for this was that she was a "Cleaner" and sent by God to get rid of all the "Black Cherries" in the village. She also said (and this is the disturbing part) that she had to examine a little girl and do Reikki on her because of what had happened to her. And that there was a cult in the village but she had nailed the leader due to the secret work she had been undertaking for the headquarters in Bedford.
Anyway- as you can imagine all this was very disturbing for me and David. She also said that she had been sleeping with David and me(!) behind everyones back which is totally ridiculous as i am straight, but she really believed it to be true.
She also thinks her name is TRINITY and the end of time is coming soon so thats why God has sent her on a mission to sniff out all the bad cherries and get revenge on them.And that i work for the devil etc etc etc
I could go on and on but i wont as you can see this is not normal behaviour!
What should i do- im disturbed about the peadophile thing and she also has 3 children - she sent me a text message saying "Hello Charlotte (the little girl) Sugar Princess- Ive got your Dummer" This is really scaring me and i dont know what to do- please help! I need some sound advice! She is Crazy and im worried what she will do or say next.
Thanks
Katy
Unfortunatley, I'd say it's definite that your friend has Schitzofrenia. This disease usually hits people in their late teens or early twenties, but can surface at almost any time. It's very tragic because a schitzofrenic will almost never believe that they have an illness. It's categorized by dillusions (believing things that couldn't possibly be true), audio and visual hallucinations, and other forms of insanity. My father has schitzofrenia, but the diesase can be treated with a combination of meds and mental therapy. If she isn't harming anyone, in my opinion an schitzofrenic needn't be delt with, but as her actions are affecting those around her, it'd probably be best to see if she can be checked into a good mental hospital (one that doesn't preform shock therapy and that will allow her or her family to sign her out as they wish).
Good luck with her.
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Does anybody speak albainian as a first or second language? Is it a hard language to learn?
If not wat about Latin or French? I already no spanish and i want to get into a thrid languege.
While I don't know Albanian, I do know that French would be the easiest to learn after already knowing Spanish. Spanish, French, Italian and Portuguese are all called the "Romance Languages" and are derived from Latin. (Though, they are much easier and more practical to learn than Latin, which isn't spoken anywhere at all in normal conversation unless you live in The Vatican). I'd suggest learning some of the languages listed above.
Of course, if you can find a place to learn Albanian, though, that'd be really cool. I've also always wanted to learn a bunch of languages, including Russian. If you decide to learn portuguese, drop me an Email. I'm learning it, too - and it's easier to learn if you have someone to practice with :)
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okay. so i dated this girl for a while. and we seemed to have a really good connection with each other. we were into the same things, we were both sarcastic smartasses, and we both liked doing the same kinda stuff. and well when i met her she was in the process of breaking up with her boyfriend. and so i was more of the friend to turn to than anything else. then slowly we started to date like after they broke up. and for about a weekend we were very into each other, and things seemed to be wonderful. then as the weekend ended she said she didn't feel the same way about me as i did about her. and so i decided to sit back and wait until she was really ready for a relationship because after some talking we kinda realized she needed some time to get back into the swing of things. and it was during this time that she began to change. she became mean, she began just totally ignoring me for days on end. the phone calls ceased. there would be whole days when i'd hear nothing from her. then i'd talk to her a bit and that was it. and now finally i come home to find out she spent the last couple days drinking, partying, and hanging out with sleazy guys. and i instantly became very mad and jealous. and i just wanna know. is it wrong for me to be mad? for me to not want her around? for me to tell her she's changed and become someone i don't know anymore? i told her not to contact me any longer, and that she had become someone else, someone i didn't know or love. and now in hindsight i kinda wanna know: was it wrong?
You aren't wrong for being angry - she obviously didn't think of your feelings when she decided to go out drinking with sleazy men. You have every right to be mad, and if you don't want her in your life anymore, then you have every right to tell her not to contact you any more.
Just keep in mind, she must be more unstable than you'd realized after the breakup. She found herself leaning on you for support and moving into another possible relationship too fast. I can picture this making her feel really insecure and making up for it by making things even worse for herself.
If it seems like she's calming down, and you felt up for it, (or if she initiates it) it wouldn't hurt to talk to her. This all depends on how deeply you feel for her. Is there a chance she might let go of this new crappy personality if given the chance? Give it time, but if you still feel you want to sever all ties with her, stick with it. Being friends with her after this would be uncomfortable at best.
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is there anything wrong with a bi racial realationship
Of course there's nothing wrong with it.
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What is the best way to disinfect cutting boards and sponges?
Although bleach is the best thing to disinfect most anything, cutting boards are usuallly touching directly the food you are about to eat. Instead of bleach, I'd use vinegar.
from: http://www.selfhealingexpressions.com/vinegar_cleaning_products.shtml
"Disinfect with Vinegar.
The disinfectant properties of vinegar have been verified by numerous studies including those conducted by the Good Housekeeping Institute, as reported on 48 hours (on CBS) in 2000. A straight 5% solution of vinegar kills 99 percent of bacteria, 82 percent of mold, and 80 percent of viruses, however in the USA, it cannot be declare a disinfectant without registering it as a pesticide with the EPA. Having said that, mix distilled white vinegar (found in any supermarket) with water and keep spray bottles of this non-toxic disinfectant in your bathrooms and kitchen - to disinfect and clean. "
Baking soda also cleans well, and using lemon juice on the surface after cleaning a cutting board with vinegar will absorb any food odors that are left over.
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my mom passed away one year ago. my dad has since then remarried. it's really hard on me. how should i show this woman i'm ok with it?
It seems you're willing to give this woman a chance - so do that. If you feel comfortable, try to get to know her. Hopefully she's a good person and will try to get to know you. You trying to get to know her will show her that you care, and that even though it's hard, you're accepting her as a person to talk to.
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My name is Kayla and I live in Houston, Texas. O.K, I have known this guy for about three years. He is a total gentleman. By the way, I'm 13 and so is he. We were born on the same day. He has some sort of autism that causes him to act younger. People at school don't respect him. He has crushed on me ever since fifth grade and now, we're in seventh and he still has this crush. He has asked me out several times and I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO NOT HURT HIS FEELINGS. He likes that "Pokemon" show on WB kids and he's obsessed with "Yugi-oh" and he's just... weird. He's really sweet though. His mom just passed away on Friday the thirteenth and he's really depressed. I called his mom Aunt Paula and he called my mom Aunt Leanne. I love him and all... but not the way he loves me. He's more like... my cousin/brother. Not a boyfriend. I told him I would LOVE to be his friend but I'm not ready for this kind of relationship. A long time ago, he told me he had a dream about me. I asked him what it was about. He got all shy and red in the face and he smiled, showing his braces. Then, I said "O.K, you tell my sister and my sister will tell me." my sister was only 9 at the time. He whispered it in her ear and ran away. My sister Brittany told me and he said his dream about me... naked... making out with him. So, I stopped talking to him for a while because he said he would make a move on me. I was really scared to be alone with him. A few months later, he told me he stopped having those dreams and he was sorry that it scared me so I forgave him and we were friends again. He asked me out again and I told him "No. I only like you as a friend." and he started CRYING!!! He's like a cousin to me but not like that. I really don't know what to say. I rate good answers and will email anybody who wants me to. Please help me!
~~~Luv, Kayla
It's nice of you to take his feelings into consideration, especially when you know he has a disability that affects how he interacts with people.
Besides making it clear that you do NOT want to get romantically close to this boy, which I'm sure you're trying hard to do, I'd tell you to try to not let his crying or bad feelings about this affect you so much. He'll have to learn to deal with that you don't want to be with him. Don't try to be close to him or help him with that right now, it'll just makeit seem that you might like him.
Also, I would not be alone with him at this time, as you said it makes you uncomfortable. Listen to that. If he continues to persue you, and make you feel uncomfortable, perhaps you should tell your mother or a trusted adult. You wouldn't need to give her details about exactly how he was making you uncomfortable, but she may be able to help you better avoid him, or help you if he starts to get more out of control with how he acts around you.
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I am a 14 year old american Lolita-chan (Look here to see what lolita-chan is http://www.blue-period.fsnet.co.uk/graphics/glbible5/033.jpg ...) My skin is paper white and I go by Japanese ettiquette. I wear SPF 50 sunscreen and I'm really fit. but I don't feel like I am right. I feel beautiful being a Lolita-chan. But it's a Japanese style and I have 0 Japanese in me... Is it still right for me to use that style? Or am I just not right. Basically I look like the girls in that picture
You can dress and act however you feel comfortable - I don't see why you can't dress in a way that interests you, no matter what culture it started in. Hopefully, no one is making you feel bad for dressing how you want to. - If anyone is, just tell them to fuck off and ignore their stupidity.
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Me and my boyfriend kissed for the first time a while back, and now he keeps wanting to do it every day. I'm afraid if we keep kissing every day, we'll soon grow bored of it and move of to sex. I don't want to take things too fast. So what should I do?
One of the most important things to remember when you're in any relationship is that you should be comfortable with that relationship. This means you should be comfortable with the physical part of you being with your boyfriend, along with the emotional. If you don't want to keep kissing him, you really don't have to - and never feel like you have to continue to kiss him just because he's your boyfriend.
Having said all of that, if you do in fact want to continue to kiss him but don't want it to lead to sex, that's a boundary that can be set. If he respects you at all, he'll respect your decision not to have sex and making out won't be a huge issue.
Noe, if he doesn't really respect you, and ever forces you to do anything you don't want to do, tell someone right away - and get the hell out of the relationship. You should never feel pressured to become more physically involved than you want to, stay true to yourself about that.
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I'm involoved with a married man and have been for two years now. We started out as just friends and the relatonship evolved.He's scared to leave his wife because they share two children together. I'm very much in love with him and want to be with him. Lately I've been feeling he's been wasting my time because he hasn't left her yet and I feel he never will. When I ask when will he leave or make a decision on leaving, he tells me he cant leave his kids with her and wants to know he could get full custody before he leaves. What should I do in this situatuion? HEEEELLLLLPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!
I don't mean to offend. I'm sure that when you began to get romantically involved with this man, you didn't intend for things to remain complicated. However. If he hasn't left his wife yet, it doesn't seem that he ever will. You might want to start asking yourself some questions about this man's character. Why was he willing to continue cheating on his wife? Would he cheat on you, too? Why is he so afraid to leave a woman he must not really love?
You have to think about yourself right now. Be honest. Is this really good for you, to become increasingly loyal to a man who doesn't even seem to be loyal to his wife, (or, if he indeed loves you) himself?
The fact that this man has children definately further complicates things, but shouldn't necessarily affect his decision about leaving his current wife. My suggestion is, if you really feel it is worth fighting, to tell him that you can't wait forever - he has to choose you, or his wife.
If he does end up staying with his wife, don't take it as an insult on your own character - take it as an opportunity to get out of a messy situation that was most likely going nowhere.
I hope things do work out.
-ronlina
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13/f I've been playing th epiano for 4 years, i have to admit, I'm gettin pretty good at it, but I HATE IT!!!!!!! I've hated it since maybe 2 years ago, but my parents always say: "oh, your getting better" or "the piano teacher will be so upset if you quit". But now, I've just about had it, and my parents are like; give it a chance, one more lesson, but when they do that they'll tell the teacher i wanna quit, and he gets all nice and easy....ugh I HATE IT.
I've always been interested in the drums or guitar....something not very easy, but new to learn. If I do quit though, this'll be a load to drop on my parents [they're the sort of classical, act professional, ivy-league-for-you parents, plus I'd have to get the instruments somewhere!!!!
I just asked my parents a minute ago to quit, and they got all "stop being a teenager....ugh" and "one more lesson" how can I FIRMLY tell them I want to quit, without all this other crap coming up? And how hard is it to play the drums? either question, I'LL LOVE YOU IF YOU ANSWER IT!!
Hey, if you really hate playing piano with a teacher, then definately quit. I've been playing piano for a while now, but I KNOW that if I had to sit through unwanted lessons with a teacher, there's no way I'd still be playing.
Drums and guitar are different than piano, but if you have an interest in playing it, then it won't necessarily be harder. Is there a music place near you where you can sit down and try out different instraments to see how it feels? That'll also help you out between thinking about what you'd like to try out next.
Your parents obviously aren't listening to you, and seem to think you don't know what you want. A good way to convince them would be to tell them (in a calm voice), that the lessons aren't interesting you as much anymore and that you'd like to try out another instrament. Learning more than one instrament would even help you with your piano playing, and really if you ever want to keep playing piano, there's no reason why you have to have lessons to do it. If your parents still don't listen to you, talk to your piano teacher about it. Maybe, if he/she isn't money-hungry, they'll pass on the word to your parents. (If this doesn't work, then maybe your piano teacher knows another instrament as well, or you could compromise with your parents and ask for a guitar or drum set to start learning on).
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i shave my vagina almost every other day..i was wondering if its bad for me to shave so often.. but i like to be completely clean..ppl say that i shouldnt ( im 22yrs old ) shave there so often but i dont mind if alot of hair grows back coz life is short and i dont want my bf seeing me hairy there. please help..
Everyone has their own, well, preference to how they want to take care of themselves. There's nothing wrong with shaving, as long as it's what YOU want, and you're not just doing it for the sake of your boyfriend. (Meaning, if you ever feel like letting yourself 'grow out', well, go ahead and do it).
Waxing would be easier if you cut most of the hair off, first. Personally, shaving isn't really worth it, there's too much of an upkeep and there are problemos when it comes to irritation if you don't do it right. But hey, whatever you like. It's really none of anyone else's business, if you ask me.
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In the aftermath of the tsunami, the eternal theological question is again posed: what sort of God permits the slaughter of blameless humanity on such a scale?
On the abundant available evidence does it not seem that, if there is or was a God, it is now malevolent, mad or dead?
No, religious nutters please - this is a serious question I'm posing.
Dr Kesha
You're asking to have 'no religious nutters' answer a question that is generally going to attract people who believe in a god of some kind.
No one can really answer this question. It's a matter of belief. There is no 'abundant available evidence' saying "ooh! There's a god!" or not. Even what people see as evidence depends on the person looking at it. Not to mention, some people even believe there is more than one god, or that their 'god' is not an actual being.
If there is a god, I have a lurky feeling that he/she's just a really spoiled child, playing with his toys.
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I really need some advice about me and my ex-girlfriend. i don't know what to do. i miss her, or at least i think i do. i don't know if i miss HER or just miss someone to be with. my friends seem to think it's the latter, but i don't think it is. is my brain broke??? is it normal to be so confused?? i just don't know. should i talk to her and tell her what i'm feeling, or should i just move on?
I guess the best thing to think about is, why did you break up with her in the first place? How did you feel about her while you were with her? There must have been some kind of reason why you two broke up. If you don't think about this, then if you DO get back together, there's a massive chance that it could fall apart again. Things have to be all or nothing,(you can't half-ass a relationship or not both be on the same page) and it wouldn't be fair to either of you to get back into a relationship if it was based on just missing having someone to be with. If you're going to be with this person, it has to be because you really feel that strongly about her, and not just because you need her around to make you feel better about yourself.
You can take what your friends say as something to think about, but it really depends on what you (and her) think. You might just really need to be apart for a while to get a good look at everything. In fact, you might need time apart to get a good look at yourself without her. She might need the same thing, time to be on her own without you.
I bet if you talked to her, she'd listen.
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