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is it wrong?
okay. so i dated this girl for a while. and we seemed to have a really good connection with each other. we were into the same things, we were both sarcastic smartasses, and we both liked doing the same kinda stuff. and well when i met her she was in the process of breaking up with her boyfriend. and so i was more of the friend to turn to than anything else. then slowly we started to date like after they broke up. and for about a weekend we were very into each other, and things seemed to be wonderful. then as the weekend ended she said she didn't feel the same way about me as i did about her. and so i decided to sit back and wait until she was really ready for a relationship because after some talking we kinda realized she needed some time to get back into the swing of things. and it was during this time that she began to change. she became mean, she began just totally ignoring me for days on end. the phone calls ceased. there would be whole days when i'd hear nothing from her. then i'd talk to her a bit and that was it. and now finally i come home to find out she spent the last couple days drinking, partying, and hanging out with sleazy guys. and i instantly became very mad and jealous. and i just wanna know. is it wrong for me to be mad? for me to not want her around? for me to tell her she's changed and become someone i don't know anymore? i told her not to contact me any longer, and that she had become someone else, someone i didn't know or love. and now in hindsight i kinda wanna know: was it wrong?
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You aren't wrong for being angry - she obviously didn't think of your feelings when she decided to go out drinking with sleazy men. You have every right to be mad, and if you don't want her in your life anymore, then you have every right to tell her not to contact you any more.
Just keep in mind, she must be more unstable than you'd realized after the breakup. She found herself leaning on you for support and moving into another possible relationship too fast. I can picture this making her feel really insecure and making up for it by making things even worse for herself.
If it seems like she's calming down, and you felt up for it, (or if she initiates it) it wouldn't hurt to talk to her. This all depends on how deeply you feel for her. Is there a chance she might let go of this new crappy personality if given the chance? Give it time, but if you still feel you want to sever all ties with her, stick with it. Being friends with her after this would be uncomfortable at best.
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you have every right to be mad.. because if she is hanging out with other guys and you asked first that is totally unacceptable.. but if say.. you aren't her type then you have no reason to be madd... sorry if i didn't helpp to much .. **nikki**
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No. I think you did the right thing. If you can't trust someone then you don't want them around. If you have to wonder what they are truly feeling they aren't worth the trouble. You deserve better than that. I think you did the best thing. :)
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No you wasnt wrong she used you hoss.You were totally right doin what you did if she really cares she'll wake up and realize she hurt you and she'll turn back to the person you know!!Good luck bud hope i helped ya!!
steven
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i have no clue!!
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It's okay to be angry. Your feelings are never wrong, you just need to choose the best way to deal with them. She is obviously going through a tough time, and if she wouldn't let you help her, I think letting her go was a good decision.
And not to be picky but next time please capitalize all words at the beginning of the sentence as well as the word "I". It makes it less painful to read.
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I dont think you were wrong. You have to draw the line somewhere to stop yourself from being really hurt.
Initially she said she didnt feel the same way about you, so it is unreasonable for you to wait around and let her hurt your feelings 'just in case'. It sounds like she has some things she needs to sort out on her own, maybe after she does that she will appreciate you more, but if she doesnt, at least you are free to find someone who does.
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i dont think what u said so wrong, at least you didnt go to her level and change everything you were too, i think you really care for her and tht the only reason u reacted like that was because you were in shock the girl you liked/loved changed infront of you, what you did wasnt wrong, but i think you should give it time to settle and if YOU think it was wrong, which i think you do because your regreting it now, maybe you should txt her or something say something sweet like as long as shes happy your happy and u'll always be there as a friend if he needs help she can go to you just so she dont shes just lost a close friend..
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In my personal opinion it isn't wrong for you to be mad at her and don't want her around since she didn't do what you thought she'll do. Instead of using the time you gave her to think things over, she use it in drinking and partying with other guys. You're right when you said for her to not contact you unless ofcourse she have changed. She must have had a really big problem to be drinking like that. Does she still have feelings for her ex-bf or what? She was the one who cut all the ties with you. What with not contacting you and changing her attitude. I think it's just fair for you to go on with your life and find someone better than her.
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