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Ok,theres this group i want to be in,there cool,they're like --i love you hun!! and there really random like they will go --i want to bang alex! jokeingly though! or this girl would go "i love you *hug* to the other girl,but of course there just friends.there awesome..and im almost in that group but im not the favorite that people pay attension to. My question is how to i start conversations and become more outgoing,and more the person they pay attension to instead of the boring one in an awesome group like this!!?!
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The truth is, you can't make a certain group of people like you more. I know where you're coming from - I was in this same situation a while ago. They may seem like this great tight group that you want to feel like you're just as much part of it as everyone else, right? And I'm guessing here - but have these gir;s been friends together in a group for a LONG time, but you just started hanging out with them kind of recently?
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be friends with these people, I'm sure. The problem with wanting to be these girls friends VERY badly is that they will see you as needy, and you will start to depend on how they act toward you to make you feel good about yourself.
My advice is to try and not want to be friends with these girls so much. I mean, hang out with them, have a good time - but if they don't treat you like you've been friends with them for forever, don't feel bad about it. Just keep being yourself, and please, PLEASE (because I speak from experience here) _don't_ ever let them make you change who you are, or make you feel like you should act a certain way if you don't want to.
I'm taking the time to say all of this because it seems you care a little too much about their acceptance. It's OK to care a little, but if you aren't talking to these girls and joking with them because you want to (but more because you want them to like you) then you'll never be close to them, and you might be missing out on being friends with people who are more your 'type' of people.
It happened to me - I was so concerned with being in a certain group of friends that I wasn't always acting myself, and I just ended up feeling bad when they didn't like me as much as I wanted them to. After I started being myself more, and started to make new friends (not even a group, but I just started meeting people because their personality was close to mine), then I started understanding what real friendship is.
Don't worry about people paying attention to you. If you know who you are, (or start learning about yourself, what you really like and care about) - and you be yourself, you will definitely find people who are as like-minded as you and you WILL feel better about being in groups, and you'll start talking to people more.
(P.S. - there's nothing wrong with not being outgoing. Actually, some people find less outgoing people more interesting, and the louder people as obnoxious and annoying. I'm not saying you're friends are like that, but if it's just not your nature to be outgoing, don't force yourself to be. It'll only feel uncomfortable. You'll probably get more outgoing as you get older anyway.)
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Just eat a bowl of sugar for breakfast every morning ...
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ok im not gonna be all "oh haha yeah ur so deperate..blahblahblah" because everyone knows that pretty much everyone tries to fit in like this and its wicked typical. sooo just to start a conversation..probably not in the greatest way is GOSSIP..talk about someone or something that you found out interesting..just make sure its not really bad like "OMG DID YOU HEAR THAT SO-AND-SO GOT PREGNANT?!" no just say some not-as-bad things..that should work somewhat
*hope this helps!*
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why are you so desperate to be in a group like this? well i dont know, just say the same things that they say. and if you want to be hyper so bad then get some caffeine in your system, i dont know. this seems weird..
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What da freak. What is dis some lezbo group or something. Well anyway just start bringing up things like latest fashions or music. Like have u seen dat video. You know. Just start conversations. It comes naturally. You dont need help. If you want to be liked you have to dress really nice and be outgoing and it should come naturally or you should just make it happen if you want it to .
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Why are you trying to be in that group soo bad? You sound a little desprate. Thats exaclty how me and my friends are but you cant just be like that with someone that you arnt really close friends because its just weird. If you start talking,acting like them and everything then you are a poser and you are being something that you arent. We cant tell you how to be more outgoing. Its just who you are. Just talk to them. Who cares. Your conversations dont have to be always perfect. Talk to them about whatever and just joke around. BE YOURSELF! Not like that. I hate when people are like that. Well good luck. ♥
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You should probably just superglue yourself to the cieling. You'll def be the person of attention then.
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