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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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well my wisdom teeth are coming out this friday and im soo scared...im only 14 years old....is there anything i should be prepared for? any food advice?? thanks. (link)

They will probably put you to sleep when they take them out. No problem with that!

I know when I had mine out they throbbed a little
but didn't hurt anywhere near as bad as the toothaches I had before getting them removed. They will also probably give you a prescription for the pain anyway.

You won't want to eat pizza or anything for a couple of days but you will do fine. You will feel so much better when they are gone. :)


hi ,
it is my girlfreinds birthday on sunday which is 5 days away and i want to get her sumthing really special but not too meaningful and she has been having a hard time lately and i just want her to be happy but im not sure what to get her and idea's..?sumthing that will say i love you and neevr want to let you go but then somthing tht is funni and that she will cherish..and really like would be greatfully appreciated
thankyou..tyron..:) (link)

I wish you had told us her age!
Girls of all ages like those really soft stuffed
animals. Get a real funny card and a nice stuffed animal she can snuggle with at night and think of you!


I guess I'll start with some background information first. I'm 21, married, have two kids, working two jobs, and in college full time. I've been away from home and on my own for two years. My sister (I'll call Ann) is 25. She still lives with my parents. She doesn't go to college, and pays no bills.

So, why does my mom now so blatantly prefer Ann over me? I can have plans with my mom for weeks, but if Ann decideds wants mom for something, my plans will be canceled...even if I've put money into tickets or reservations.

I ignored it til today. I really need a new pair of shoes. The ones I'm wearing now are held together with tape, and my feet show through. I've been looking for new shoes for days, but I have funy-shaped feet and I can't find any. My mom promised me (now that I finally have extra money) that she would help me find shoes today. But, oops!, Ann wants ANOTHER purse and NEEDS my mom's opinion. I won't have time off again to find shoes until two weeks from now. Ann is free every morning (and knows I'm not).

Why does my mom always choose her over me? (link)

You should definitely ask your mom why she does that
and tell her how it makes you feel. It would be nice if you could make her understand that you'd like some alone time with her.

If all else fails maybe you could all do things together. You could go to a mall or shopping center that has both purses and shoes. :)


This isn't exactly a "help me" kind of question, but, it is a valed question. I was just wondering, if anyone decides to answer me..."What is happening here?" I have been going through the questions and I am lucky if I see every 4th question have one answer! It used to be every question had at least 5 or 6 answers. Anything happening I should know about? Isn't anyone here anymore? Well, thank you for those of you who do answer. (link)

Its slowed down a little now that school has started up. As soon as the new wears off the school year things will pick back up again. A LOT of our users are in school.

Another thing is the same old questions. And like someone said people may be getting smart and answering only those questions they have good knowledge of.

With more questions per page it does make it easier to notice that some questions aren't getting a lot of answers. I don't know that less are being answered...its just more noticeable. :)


Does any one know where I can go to see if my weight is average. Like on the computer? (link)
Here is a height weight chart that should help you.

http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/met.htm


hi i was wondering umm how do you french kiss? (link)

Here is a site for you! http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm


This girl repeadatly approaches me at lunch and constantly creates conversations. I like her, we have talked quite a bit. She went out of her way to pick me up for a party, where some guy was pissed at me cause she wouldnt let him kiss her. This weekend she invited me to go with her down to a family gathering on the coast and go jet skiing for the day, then we went to a hotel party. She seems to have intrests in other guys though which she talks about in front of me.. for instance on the phone she was talking to her bestfriend and asked... does he think im cute? and waighting in line a bunch of guys past us and she noted "those guys where rilly cute" and while leaving the party tipsy me in the passanger seat, she stoped the car in the middle of the street to get out and give this guy a hug who was running towards the car, who she proclaimed to be the love of her life... She seems intrested in me but isnt physically flirtatious. Where should i go with this. (link)

That is a little strange. You may just have to up and ask her where it is you fit in.

She either likes you as a very good friend, or she may be putting on a big act in an effort to see how you react. I would just ask her if she is interested
or not. :)


I work out a lot, so much that I skip my periods a lot. I've been looking up some info on it, and I've heard that it can lead to osteoporosis earlier in life. I get enough calcium, I take a supplement and consciously eat plenty of dairy products. Should I back off the exercise so that my periods come back? I've never broken a bone in my body, so I don't think I'm losing bone, but I just don't know. (link)

I don't think I'd change my routine any. It sounds like you are taking care of yourself all the way around.

Next time you visit a doctor you might ask him/her if there is anything else you can do...or even how true it is. I always heard exercise was good for your bones.

If he doesn't come across your question you might ask MikeCFT. As a fitness trainer he may be the best
one here to ask. :)


i have dish network for tv and i was wondering, does it show up on the bill what channels you access? (mainly im wondering about sex channels) (link)

Yes it shows up on the bill. ANY movie or event you watch that is pay per view will show up on your bill.


I got a bloody nose last night... it lasted for about 20 minutes... so I need to know how to make it stop fast. (link)

Here are some remedies for nose bleeds. :)

http://www.ehow.com/how_117067_treat-bleeding-nose.html


well, a couple nights ago i was at my best friends house, and her brother was there and we both really like eachother! well when my friend fell asleep so he came into his sisters room where i was and he started making out with me. So we were just making out for a while and then he fingered me and i gave him a hand job! well then he had to go cause his mom didnt know that we were making out and everything so he left and then on monday he had a g/f. so i do not know what to do cause i really love him and i thought he loved me to! so do i talk to him about it or do i just let it go??? please help! (link)

First thing you should learn...wish you had known this before, teen boys have one track minds. Most of them anyway. That track is sex. A lot of them don't care who or what just as long as they get it. They do not associate it with love, that's a girl thing.

He may have said he loved you. If he did he said it to get his way. You can talk to him if you'd like, be prepared for him to act as if you should have known it meant nothing. If you can let it go I think I would just try to do that.

Its always a good idea to date a guy for awhile before you let things go to far. Then you know for sure its more than sex he wants.

So sorry this happened to you. Some guys are real
a**holes. :)


13/f
ok well my parents must still think that i am 5 or something b/c they never let me do anything by myself or with friends (in other words, without them around). like go to the mall or movies. how can i get them to let me do things on my own. i am not lying about things to them. when i say i want to go to the mall i am telling the truth. anyways, thanks in advance! (link)

Believe it or not, teenagers are much scarier to raise than 5 year olds!

I know you probably wouldn't get into trouble. Your parents probably know it too. They hope so anyway.

It is oh so easy to be influenced by friends and other teens to do things you know aren't right. No one wants to be left out and no one wants to look
like a wimp. You are a little young to face those challenges alone at 13. I know you probably won't agree with that but time to turn you loose on your own will come soon enough.

Don't be real mad at them. They love you very much and don't want you to tackle that kind of peer pressure yet.


Get ready for a series of related questions.How
are dreadlocks done? Why is it that if you keep them in too long it messes up your hair and you can't get them out? How do you loosen dreadlocks, and what kind of hair can you do dreadlocks on? (link)

I found a site that will answer most of your questions. It is really pretty interesting.
They explain better than I so here you go.
oh, and it sounds like if you don't want them in for years..better not do it. :)

http://www.dreadlocks.com/


Stupid question, but...I'm 14, and my bf is 18. I was wondering if he could get in trouble for the age difference or anything. If so, what would happen? Do you think we should stay together? (link)
Here is a chart that tells the age of consent in all the states.

If you are just dating and not having sex you are probably fine if your parents don't mind.

If you do have sex at some point before you reach...16 in most states, he can be arrested and jailed for statutory rape. Which is basically having sex with a minor, or underage person.

If he cares enough about you to wait until you are "legal" then he is probably a good guy and worth keeping. It is something you need to have a serious discussion with him about. :)

EDIT*** Forgot your link!! Sorry. Gettin' old. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm


Sometimes I get really sweaty. Not in the armpits, or B.O. but when I get good exercise, I tend to get very sweaty on my back, and neck. Is there anything I can do to help stay dry? (link)

Powder will work as was said before me.

You are supposed to sweat a lot when your exercise
though. You aren't alone in that. Just exercise and hop into the shower when you're finished.

For just everyday sweating though, powder should do the trick. :)


Hiii. :)
My friend Kristen, she's a hostess at a Mexican restaurant called Mario's. She asked me if I wanted to apply there, because the managers wanted to have two hostesses. & I of course said yes. I only work Fridays & Saturdays, and obviously Kristen would be my trainer.
She's a really good friend of mine & I thought taking this job would be AWESOME, because we don't really have to work that much, but we'll get money for it, and it seemed EASY.
Yesterday was my second day, and the entire time she was bitching and complaining about how bad I was at hostessing, and how I should quit. She kept telling our manager that she had told me a dozen times of how to do something, whenever she hadn't even told me once.
She kept saying she was kidding, but the entire time it ruined like my self esteem and I felt like crap because she would yell at me and ignore me when I had a question. I kept telling her to stop being mean because I wasn't doing anything wrong, but she just continued doing it.
Now, I'm completely confused on where to go from there, what should I do? I want to quit, every inch of me is telling me to do it, but I can't get a job anywhere else.
Please help! (:
(link)

She may be a friend but sounds to me as if she doesn't want you looking better than her at the job.
Someone above her may have said how good you were looking doing the job or something.

Go to your manager. Explain that since you and Kristen are friends you don't feel she is the one to train you. If he wants to know why explain it to him. If at all possible, don't work the same hours as she does. Friends aren't always good to work with.


My girlfriend is slowlly stoping care of herself, and sometimes smells really bad, what can i do about it? how do i tell her that it pisses me of? i love her. (link)

You may just have to say something to her.

First find out what is wrong. Has something happened that is causing her to be depressed? Sometimes if people are depressed they don't take care of themselves like they should. She may not even realize it.

If you love her you just have to say something before others notice. Don't tell her it pisses you off. Tell her you are worried and concerned about her. That will sound a lot better. :)


K.. i am 14/f and i always ahve like white suff coming out of me.. and its not clumppy or anyhting, its like liquidy... and i havent been sexualy active besides kissing.... what could it be from and what could it be? and how do i was ride of it?? please help. it really sux (link)

It is called discharge and it is normal. Here is a website to read. It tells you all about it. It also
tells you what changes in the discharge means.

http://familydoctor.org/194.xml


hi im 17 years old, and this morning i woke up and pretty much all of my joints ache, hurt and are stiff..what does this mean? I don't think i slept in a funny poisiton last night though..what could be the cause of this (link)

Have you done anything in the past couple of days that was more of a workout than you're used to?

Lifted weights, start an exercise program or even just worked around the yard? Had a minor auto accident?

The flu can also cause aching joints.

If it continues or if you have had pain for several hours now, it may not be a bad idea to have a doctor
look at you to be on the safe side. :)


hi im a 15 year old guy and i like this frosh girl..im a sophmore...i told her the other day how i feel but theres 1 problem she has a boyfriend...i told her and she said she really cared for her boyfriend and that since we just met this year and we dont really know each other that well she never really thought about it and just sees us as friends...this was wednesday night..we havent talked at all in geometry ebcause i thought itd be best to let her come to me not about the situation just to talk in general...so my question is should i talk to her on monday in school or this weekend online if i intiate the conversation or let her initiate the conversation when shes ready? thanks so much in advance (link)

I think you should lay low until she doesn't have a boyfriend in the picture. She likes the guy she is with at the moment. If you bother her right now she
will probably think you're annoying. Wait until she is free. :)




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