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Question Posted Sunday September 24 2006, 2:36 pm

Stupid question, but...I'm 14, and my bf is 18. I was wondering if he could get in trouble for the age difference or anything. If so, what would happen? Do you think we should stay together?

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Unknown_User answered Monday September 25 2006, 11:35 pm:
This is what I say people who are between these ages should date only.9-12,13-17,18-21,21-35,36-45.Part of me says hes to old for you and part says that if you guys really love eachther stay together.

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younglovex answered Monday September 25 2006, 5:49 pm:
It really depends on the state you live in. Im from new hampshire and i know that if the girl was 15 and the boy was 17 or vice versa you would need parential consent to go out. You need to be atleast 16 to date someone older than 16- if that makes sense. Im n ot sure how bad the consiquences could be.. it would probably just result in your parents being really pissed.. at worst a restraining order.


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xXxpinky615xXx answered Sunday September 24 2006, 11:08 pm:
Age has never been an issue in dating in my opinion. Unless of course he is over 7 years older than you. My ex boyfriend is 22 and I'm 17. So that's 5 years.

If you two are sexually active, it most definately can be a problem. He is a legal adult and you are a minor still. In the majority of states you need to be 16 for the age of concent (age where you can legally "decide" if you want to have sex). Any time under the age of 16 they say that you are too young to decide if you wanted to have sex or not. If you two are having sex, he could be arrested for endangering the welfare of a minor and for statutory rape.

I just advise you to be careful in what you do, anything that goes on between you two try to keep it between just you two because he can get in alot of trouble.

If you really like him and he really likes you and he's not in it just for sex or anything, then stay with him. I don't have a problem with it. Age aint nothin but a number. So long as you're happy that's all that truely matters.

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karenR answered Sunday September 24 2006, 7:46 pm:
Here is a chart that tells the age of consent in all the states.

If you are just dating and not having sex you are probably fine if your parents don't mind.

If you do have sex at some point before you reach...16 in most states, he can be arrested and jailed for statutory rape. Which is basically having sex with a minor, or underage person.

If he cares enough about you to wait until you are "legal" then he is probably a good guy and worth keeping. It is something you need to have a serious discussion with him about. :)

EDIT*** Forgot your link!! Sorry. Gettin' old. :)

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MelLeDisko answered Sunday September 24 2006, 7:22 pm:
If you're just dating him, then no, he shouldn't get into trouble at all. But if you two are going further in your relationship like having sex, then yes, it's illegal and he can get into trouble. Maybe even arrested. If you two ARE having sex, go to Google and type in your state and the age of consent and find out. Most states have it either 16 or 18. But if you are just worried about your parents finding out or some other adult and getting upset, then that's up to your parents ; I don't know them. You'd have to check with them and talk to them about it and see if they like him, possibly have them meet him. And as for staying together, if you like him and want to be with him, then stay together. I can't tell you to break up with him or not, that's your choice. I hope I helped. :)

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HELP4YOU answered Sunday September 24 2006, 7:15 pm:

My friend was in that problem last year. She was a freshman and he was a senior. At first, people seemed to think of the age difference as pretty big, but after a while, people got used to it. He shouldn't get into trouble if his/your parents don't mind it and if you both aren't doing anything illegal. As long as both your parents are okay, I think there is no reason you shouldn't stay together.

Hope I was helpful,

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ADViCELOLA answered Sunday September 24 2006, 7:10 pm:
It really depends. Are you guys doing anything that you think you shouldn`t be doing? If so there is possibility that he can get in trouble.

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