I'M SO SORRY BUT I'M GOING TO STOP FOR A WHILE. IT'S TOO MUCH FOR ME KEEPING UP WITH IT. :( GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING. THANKS FOR THE POSTS.
APOLOGIES AGAIN,
HELP4YOU. :)
Gender: Female
Age: 15
Member Since: September 24, 2006
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Last Update: December 3, 2006
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there is this kid i really like but he is going out with one of my friends and she new i like him and i dont really think she likes him. i think she is only going out with him to make me mad. but, i dont want to tell him cuz he seems to really like her and he is really happy. wat should i do??
-confused- (link)
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-Confused,
I would confront the girl. There's not much you can do if she doesn't like him. But you can ask her why she is trying to make you mad if she really doesn't like him.
-HELP4YOU.
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what do u do when u cant get over the certain boy you love alot? (link)
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-Hey,
Well, if you want to get involved, become friends with him so he knows more about you so its easier to become something more. If you are trying to just get over him, focus your mind on other things like sports, school, friends, and family. Over time, the feelings with fade, you just can't always wonder where he is, what hes doing, and what hes thinking.
-HELP4YOU.
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Hello,
i am an average, typical,plain old cheerio in the box teenager, BUT my friends think i have a few ODD qualities that i find quite normal.
1. I am in LOVE with star trek, i am part of the Spock fan club (t-shirt and all) and i have every season,video, DVD's (with 120 min. of deleted scenes and bonus features and commentaries)
2. My favorite singer is Clay Aiken. i am in the fan club as well and i have 2 shirts tahts say i am a Clay Mate and i am currently going to the concert on December 16th with my mom. and i just say hat Kelly ripa has NO right whats so ever to sue clay, i mean he was just voicing his opinion. He was a GUEST so HE was aloud to SPEAK. I MEAN COME ON! He is soo cute ow could you sue that beautiful face!
(my friends always make fun of me for that) + my ring tone i clay Aiken and my phone went off in class and everyone made fun of me. i mean he is an excellent singer and i think everyone should love clay.
3.i am absolutely in love with Chinese Anime. They have such creativity and i love to duplicate the drawings. don't understand why everyone thinks thats weird. i mean sponge bob is the weirdest thing i have EVER seen. Its a fricken talking sponge and his stupid friend who is a star fish! WHO THE HELL LIVES IN A PINEAPPLE UNDER THE SEA!!!!!!!! whatever the are missing out on excellent cartoonist at their bes abilities.
4. People at lunch don't exactly find my food appetizing. I start off by removing my retainer and washing it out with my moist wash cloth, then i eat cabbage and broccoli stew which has a GREAT taste (gotta try it) then i have pb&j with choco choco milk!! so good. Then for dessert i have cherry apple pie.
I hope you can help me by giving me advice on why this is weird and how i can break the addiction!!
signed-
Uniquely Normal. (link)
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Uniquely Normal,
Just so you know, everyone has there own "odd" qualities, that's what makes everyone an individual. People who say you're strange are being hypocrites because chances are, they're covering up for something. Anyway:
1) I don't know Star Trek, but I have the same thing with the show Friends. I have all the games and the dvds and I watch at least 6 episodes every weekday and probably more on weekends since I have more time. That doesn't mean you're weird if you have a strong passion for something, so don't listen. If it makes you feel very uncomfortable, then make it a private and personal hobby you have and keep it to yourself.
2) I love Clay Aiken as well (by the way, I'm jealous you're going to the concert, because I can't!). Don't worry about people making fun of you. It's probably only because it's the whole possibility of him being gay that's making it awkward but once it blows over, it'll be better. But you know, you should just ignore people. Next time they laugh at your ringtone, just laugh it off and say "Yeah well I really don't care." and leave it at that.
3) I personally like Spongebob, and I don't care that you don't, don't worry I'm not offended, but I don't really know much about Chinese Anime either. But again, you can keep it private and personal if you want to.
4) I always have pb&j with chocolate milk, so that isn't weird. Cherry Apple Pie is pretty normal too. I never heard of the stew, but hey, it's a free country and you should be able to eat whatever you want.
Let your friends know that they're supposed to be your friends and be supportive of you because if they make fun of you, then maybe they aren't true. But otherwise, you're not weird, you just have different interests than others.
-HELP4YOU.
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ok so i kinda like this boy but i dont really no its pointless ive never been in a serious relationship EVER and no one knows i liek this kid becuase then everyone will find out so i sjut dont tell anyone. i would never say anythign to him about it becuase im scared of rejection.. and the thing is one of my good friedns tlaks to him evrynight one the phone she says she doesnt liek him hes jsut her best friend and when ever he wants to ahng out wiht her she says no.. but its not like he clals her she clals him to.. they went to semi last year but she didnt dance with him once so i know she doesnt liek him liek that but its kidna obvious he likes her like that.. but hes in two of my classes and we kinda flirt leik that.. but i think hes jsut that kind of person should i sjut forget baout it while i dont liek him alot or should i wait and see if he makes a move (link)
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-Hey,
I would say talk to him more and become closer with him. Call him up and hang out. If you're looking for something serious, you're gonna need to build a foundation to get it started. Ask your friends to maybe like help you out into getting him to like you. But I would say the best thing is to get closer.
-HELP4YOU.
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okayy so I've likre this kid for a while and last year we were best firneds and this year were friends but not as close. But anyway he likes me and I like him and we both no that we like eachother but nothing has happened so I don't no wut to do please help me!
-confused (link)
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-Confused,
I would say to make a move. Suggest to him what it would be like if you guys dated, act like it's a funny thing that you were thinking about. Or talk to him more and become closer. He might think that it's a good idea. You're already kind of together with him; you guys just need a noodge to get to the next level.
-HELP4YOU.
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ok theres this boy i like and i talk to him in school but not alot cuz im like really quite and i dont think he likes me because he went out with this other girl for like a long time and shes really popular also i really want a boyfriend i had one before but my sister liked him and made me feel guilty about dateing him so i broke up with him and now i like 3 guys!! please help me!! im a girl 6th grade (link)
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-Hey,
Well, for one thing, you shouldn't have to worry about boys so much at your age. It's natural to want one because so many people are dating, but honestly, people are only going out for the sake of having a boyfriend. Real relationships don't happen until high school...maybe a little before then. Trust me, I went through the same thing. You have better things to look forward to: a new school, new friends, sports, and other kid stuff. Enjoy being a kid while you can. And besides, you shouldn't like 3 boys...find one you have the most in common with and the one your closest with. But remember, boys are immature at this age, wait a few years and they'll get better.
-HELP4YOU.
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see there is this boy. and i talked to him for a while. and liek he tells me how beautiful i am and his away messages say thinking about you (link)
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-Hey,
I think you should maybe talk to him more. You can make the initiative to make the plans to hang out with him from now on so he doesn't leave you hanging. Don't be very clingy though, give him some space and act like you are just friends. If you feel something, you guys are probably getting closer.
-HELP4YOU.
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My friend just told me two of my guys friends do pot. I am very concerned for them,especially because my best friend is dating one of them. My friend made me promise not to tell anyone about it but i really dont know what to do.
I am really afraid my best friends boyfriend is going to offer her pot and she will accept it.
What do i do to help my best friend and these boys who do drugs??
-Concerned in ghettobrook (link)
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-Concerned in Ghettobrook,
Well doing drugs is not something to fool around with. I know you promised to keep a secret, but it needs to be discussed. Talk to your guy friends and see what's going on. And let your best friend know because she has the right to and maybe she can talk to her boyfriend.
-HELP4YOU.
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okay me and my boyfriend just broke up and i really dont know what to do. i need advice because i am in love with him and i cant let go. last night on the phone he told me that he loved me and that he never wanted to talk to me and it hurt because im in love with him and he hurt me. i dont know what i should do i dont know if i should move on or if i should wait. so can you please help me.
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Hey,
Well it's strange that he loves you and doesn't want to talk to you. But if he does love you, over time, he will eventually need to talk to you. I would say to leave him a couple of messages saying how you feel to let him know you feel the same way.
-HELP4YOU.
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hi. i am 13 years old. and so is my boyfriend. we just recently started dating. and we love eachother soo much. but... my friends always get in the way. they say he does drugs. and i derserve better. i talked to him a few nights ago. he said he did do drugs. he said he quit pot. he said he does ciggerates now. how ever you spell it... but i told him to quit. all his friends said he did quit. cause i asked him to. but all my friends are being really gay about it. and im NOT breaking up with him. what do i do otherwise? (link)
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-Hey,
Well I'm not exactly sure what you're asking of me to give you advice on. I would just confront him and ask him if he really did stop smoking. Let him know what he is risking of his health by doing it and that he is only 13! I know new relationships are fun and everything but just be careful. You don't know much about him (unless of course you guys were friends first for a while then you should obviously know a lot about him). But he is very young to be involved in this stuff so just let him know how you feel and tell him you really don't want him to do it anymore. If he loves you, he'll choose you over a cigarette.
-HELP4YOU.
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im am goin to be 15 in december 2 weeks b4 christmas and i need a really good idear 4 my part!!! (link)
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-Hey,
Well what I did is went out to eat with my friends. You could also go to the movies, sleepover, mall, NYC (or the city where you live near), or just have a bunch of people over your house. Have good music, good food, and just enjoy yourself. :)
-HELP4YOU.
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Hey so you see i have a problem with my friends. Well it started out with one of my friends who was flirtin w/ other guys as she was goin out with a different one then she got mad at me and my other friend for tellin her to stop. So next everyone goes to a party and didn't invite me then these 2 girls become friends again now a different girl (lisa) she i.m's me nd tells me that i';m fakin havin knee problems(now my other fried anna is mad casue she believes that) and stuff then lisa starts leavin me a really long comments on myspace about how everyone hates me and all these nasty picture comments. So I comment her bck nd show that it doens't bother me so now lisa post a bulletion on myspace sayin that i cut and other stuff but it's all lies so i posted another bulletion sayin iht lies buht showin her that idc. But the girl that was flirtin w/ the guys got lisa to say all this and she's tryin to get people to take her side. Now i only have 1 true friend oout of them all (Hannah) and I feel misserable that everyone hates me for things i didn't do and believe lisa that i did. please help.. Thanks (link)
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-Hey,
First you have to not care what other people say because then you won't get hurt. Only you know what is true and what is false and if you know what you did/didn't do then that is the only opinion needed. I would just tell her to stop and if she doesn't, don't let her know that it's bothering you because that just means she's getting her job done. Ignore it and just laugh it off how ridiculous she's being. Anyone who comes up to you, let them know the truth and just laugh and say "yeah, she really believes that's true. it's pretty funny actually". This way people will start thinking the same things you are. Just stay with Hannah until it all blows over. Delete her comments on myspace and just ignore her.
-HELP4YOU.
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me and my boyfriend have been together a year the 15th of this month and i have no idea what to get him. i wanna get him something cute or do something cute for him without spending over $100. do you have any cute ideas for me? itd be greatly appreciated. (link)
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-Hey,
I think maybe a nice shirt or something would be nice. But if I were you, instead of getting him just a gift, I would plan like a whole day to spend together. I don't know if you were planning on doing that but like have lunch, go to the movies, go bowling or something, haha. But I don't really know what to tell you because I personally have never been in this situation but I know my friends just spend days together or like get a really nice clothing piece. I'm sorry I wasn't more helpful.
-HELP4YOU.
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Okay so I'm going out with this guys and we were friends before we started going out and it's a confusing but i like him. but iht feels a little off. The only problem is i like this other guy to and he use to like me and i'm not sure if he still does. Buts hes had a girlfriend the whole time. so idn if i should break up with that guy in hopes to go out with the other or just break up with him cause were better as friends or to stay with him. But the thing is with the other guy i can't help it cause when we were younger we went out and broke up because of a stupid thing and now we like eachother and then don't =/ but i don;t wanna roon any of the friendships. (sorry this is really long!) but please help me!! (link)
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Hi,
If you really don't have feelings for your boyfriend then break it off. It's not fair to you and him. It'll be pretty bad if you break up with your boyfriend and start things right away with another guy, especially if you guys are always on rocks. Be single for a while, enjoy it. Then if you feel anything more serious for anyone let me know. Answer back with any questions - I'll be glad to help.
-HELP4YOU :)
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Heyy,
I'm a female freshman in high school and I am 14 years old. I have liked this one boy since 7th grade. He liked me in 7th and 8th grade, but now that we are in high school we doesn't like me anymore. Even though he doesn't seem interested in me anymore I still like him a lot! I want him to notice me and like me again but I don't know how to do that. I am hoping you can help me get his attention like I used to.
Thanks,
Lost Love
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Lost Love,
Start talking to him again. Get a friendship started up and hang out with him more. Hopefully, it can lead to some feelings but don't put your hopes up too high. Boys are immature as freshmen so just be careful with what you do/say to him.
-HELP4YOU :)
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okayy.well..me and this kid named "fred" always flirt like crazzzyyy! (in band. hahahaha. iknow..lame..but thats the only class we have together) and latley..we've been pretty tight. we used to know eachother and stuff..but not really were friends that much. but since we sit next to eachother..ITS GREAT! and also, lately ive been kinda having "feelings for him" i guess.you know..when you get that tingling in your stomach?! well thats it. =] but when we see eachother in the hall..i always say.. "heyy!" but he gives me a funny look. im kinda confused. im not sure if he likes me..but i talked to one of my best friends...and she said that he always flirts.. should i just have a crush on him,get over it, make a move[ask him out]..or what??!! thanks so much. its okay if your not sure but thanks anyways..
singed,
confuseeddd. (link)
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Confused,
It's rough when you start out having feelings for someone because you can never tell if they're true. I would try saying hi to him in the hall and if he ignores you again than confront him and kid like being "Oh, so I guess you don't want to say Hi to me anymore". and then explain to him how you feel. His answer will let you know if he's sincerely sorry or if he'll continue. Don't do anything yet, hang out with him more and see how things go and if you get more than just a "tingling feeling" in your stomach. One of those "can't live without you" feelings.
-HELP4YOU :)
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Hi.I'm Tess, a 10th grader at Phillips Academy. I've had a crush since last year for this guy, but i never paid much attention to it; he was dating one of my dorm-mates and i was in a relationship too(these have both ended). butthree or four weeks ago, we hung out over a long weekend and the connection was really strong. we've been talking a lot since then, flirting and texting in classes. but neither of us are really the type to start something real or be the first to risk it. i dont even know if he's the type to ask someone out at all. i really like this guy, but im getting frustrated and i don't know if i'm pushing it with him. since he's a day student and i board i can't really make an effort to see him without making it *really* obvious that i've gone out of my way. over the past three days he's stopped taking the same effort to go out and engage in conversations with me than he used to. should i just accept the fact that i'll always have a thing for him and then leave it at that? i don't usually chase after guys at all, but i really like him and i'm torn. Sorry for the long question. =/. (link)
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-Hey,
It's alright, I get a lot of long ones. I would say get to know him better and see if you can actually hang out more often because if you ever become something, you're going to want to see each other and if that's impossible then it might be a difficult relationship. I think maybe you should make a subtle first move. Just see if he's interested, if not, then just drop it for a while and continue with your friendship you have. Good luck!
-HELP4YOU.
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i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year but im starting to have major feelings for an ex boyfriend. i know its very bad of me but my boyfriend now just isnt making me happy anymore and i dont know what to do. my boyfriend lies to me about everything so im to the point i dont know whats real and whats a lie. hes lied about smoking (twice), going to a party, going to school, and to as stupid as how much he spends on something. i just dont understand. he tells me hell change but hes said that since day one and it continues. also on two occasions he didnt go to school once i found an earring and the other time i found an ankle bracelet. i asked whose it was and he told me he didnt know. i told him i thought he was cheating on me and he got all mad and said he wasnt. im just not happy anymore. i love him to death though. but my ex boyfriend and me have been talking the past 3 days and im not sure whats gonna happen but hes making me so happy. ive been smiling nonstop and hes making me feel whole i talked to him yesterday from 1:30 pm all the way til 5 am nonstop. on the internet and phone. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend but in the same sense im not happy. but i dont wanna rush it with my ex boyfriend either. please help me (link)
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-Hey,
This is a very tough situation and I'm sorry if this doesn't help, but I'm going to try. I would say if I was you, I would kinda break up with your boyfriend. I mean it is hard because apparently you love him, but also, apparently he's lying to you, and you need a trustworthy boyfriend and someone to make you happy. If you do break up with him, don't go out with your ex, at least not for a long while because rumors will go around and it wouldn't be good. You're going to have to stay friends with him and then maybe as time passes you can become something more. Just don't rush into things.
-HELP4YOU.
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ok so this guy asked me out yesterday over text message and i thought that was really rude and showed no repect act all. so obviously i said no and then today he asked me out and i said no again and he wouldnt talk to me and i feel bad because we're like friends but then again i dont. and i like this other guy noah and was going to ask him out yesterday but i think that if i ask him out people will start talking about me jumping from the first guy to the next but this is actually the first time i've had like a relationship(or at least close) that like a bunch of people knew about. what should i do?! please help mee.
-thanks so muchhh (link)
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-Hey,
Well I think you should start off by actually talking to the first guy and explaining why you don't want to go out with him. Let him know that you have other feelings and explain that next time a better way to ask a girl out is not to text so he will know.
Then talk to Noah. See how he feels and ask if he would be interested in dating you. :)
-HELP4YOU.
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well mi friend said that the person i like is goin out wit someone but im not to sure i believe her cuz at 2 p.m. he said he didnt HAVE a gf and after that WE have to read and we cant talk and i was goin to ask him out tomarrow what should i do ?? (link)
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-Hey,
Find out from more sources first to see if he's available. If he isn't involved, then try asking him. Although I'm now sure what you mean by "you have to read and you can't talk"? Can you clarify it?
-HERE4YOU.
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