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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

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is there any way to tan easier or faster without using sunless tanning products or tanning booths?

I own a tanning bed, and I'm telling you; There's really no way to tan any faster. It depends upon your body and how well you tan. If you use a good lotion, you'll only have to tan outside or in a salon a couple times, then only one or two times a week to maintain your color.
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My mom and I fight alot,and when we do it's bad. She never wants me to have any style, she wants me to buy the cheap stuff. She doesn't understand that kids do tease you if your wearing a shirt with Barbie on it. I used to be known for my style at school but since my dads paycut she wont even let me get a haircut because "It Costs Money." I know it costs money, everything does, but there are something a girl needs like shaving cream and actual razors not like those crap disposable ones. It's not like we have no money whats so ever. We're just struggling, I buy all my own clothes and things. Its gettin to the point where she wont buy my the shampoo I need or the toothpaste I need. She always insists on the cheap stuff and I'm sick of it cause we always end up fighting about it. She thinks I need a job, but what job *besides babysitting* can a 13 year old do ?!?! PLEASE HELP ME. I know its long, but I'd greatly appreciate it.

You need to understand that people might say things, but they're only doing it to cover up their insecurities. Just because your parents are struggling with money doesn't effect you as a person, and it shouldn't upset you.

There really aren't many jobs that you can do at your age. I'm 15 and I still am having trouble finding a job. Most places require you to have a driver's license, be 18, or some places even 21. It all depends on where you're applying to.

All I can say are to get as many recommendations as you possibly can, because that will get you hired. Make sure that you check with the people you put on your application, because getting a call out of nowhere won't make them say great things about you. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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I am 13 and my parents still treat me like a baby! They won't let me get hair highlights! How do I convince them to let me get highlights??
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Highlights can be simple. They don't have to be extravagent, and you don't have to pay lots of money to get them done. Do-it-yourself home kits work just as well [depending on your skill] & you can always fix it.

I suggest you try to persuede them by showing how responsible you are. Also, pay for it yourself that way if you don't get a color you like, or if you want it changed back, it will be your own mistake and they can't say anything about it because it's not their money. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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Now everyone is dating really young and having boyfriends when their 13. i'm 13 and have had a couple of boyfriends but guys are just plain jerks sometimes at that age. most girls are crazy about dating young but older girls that have waited say that it is worth it to wait to date until your older. does anyone have any opinions on the topic?

Wait until you find a guy YOU think is worth it. Dating just because everybody else is doesn't make it worth your time. Don't listen to your friends, and don't listen to them when they're saying "Oh you should go out with HIM!!!" Because they will tell you that just to get you a boyfriend. If you don't actually like a guy, and he asks you out, don't say yes to be nice, or just to have a boyfriend. That's a waste of your time, and it's leading him on.
♥ Melissa

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I have to admit, I'm a huge wuss and I can't drink any hard alcohol straight. I always have to mix it with soda or something. Is there any way to make drinking alcohol straight easier or more tolerable?

[This is coming from a friend of mine, I haven't drank enough to know, & I don't condone it.]

Shots, and don't drink that much. Slowly take more because it will become more tolerable to you as time goes on & you're drinking it more.
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my bestfriend lives across the street from me.. well she talks to this guy who is 16 on aim and we are both 13 well hes not a virgin... since shes been talking to him her personality has changed big time. hes smokes pot and drinks all the time and shes starting to act like him. heres the bad thing she sneaks out of her house at 2 a.m and doesnt get back until 5 a.m. well she has done this the last 2 nights and im worried that something bad will happen.. they almost got caught out by the police 2 times.. id this keeps up shes gonna end up getting raped or something by him.. how can i tell her to stop this or something might happen.. any advice will be helpful and most appreciated..
thanks

signed
worried friend

First of all, it's good that you noticed this, and think you should be doing something about it. Even if she's met this guy in person, that doesn't mean anything, expecially if she met him online.

First try talking to her. If that doesn't work, which it probably won't, then you need to decide what you think would be the best thing to do. Maybe try talking to her with more of your friends, the ones you can trust. If that doesn't work, and you're still worried, you need to go to your parents or hers and let them know why you're worried and what's going on. Just let them know that you're concerned for her, and that you're worried because she's changed since meeting that guy. But remember, if the situation doesn't turn out to be as bad as you thought, then you could've ruined her freedom for a while. So let them confront her and try to help before telling them EVERYTHING you know.

Also, let her know after you talk to her, that if she doesn't do something herself, that you're going to go to an adult. Maybe if you do that she WILL rethink her actions. Good luck, hopefully things get better!
♥ Melissa

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me and this guy have been really close friends for about 4 years and i just recently got out of a 3 year relationship. me and my friend confessed feelings for one another(you may have read about this in another question i asked before)...and we decided to take it slow. yet, a few days ago when i was dropping him off at his house after hanging out(as friends)...he kissed me..and the whole way home i couldnt stop smiling and he said he couldn't either. and it just felt sooooo right and the feelings got stronger after that. BUT, i saw him again today and before we said bye, we kissed again. and, it was just so different. i mean, i like him still but we kiss soo different. like, he moves his tongue a whole nother way than me and its just so not right because we both kiss VERY differently and i couldn't help but feel upset about it. everything was so perfect until now. tonight we talked on the phone and i was kind of quiet and didn't really have anything to say to him and it's just so weird because now, i just kind of want to get back with my ex-boyfriend(even though we have gone through a lot of bad times)...i mean i dont know whats wrong with me ..i like this other kid and all but now i just miss my boyfriend...maybe its because im just used to him and dont know how to change...i really dont know what to do...im not even sure if i have the same feelings toward this kid anymore. please give me any advice that you can!!!

You just need to give yourself some time to think and decide what you want. You may decide that you don't need your ex, or you may decide that you really do. But after coming out of a relationship that long, you need some time just to THINK, and figure out what you want. Hopefully that helps!
♥ Melissa

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Heyy. I will be going back to school in early Sept. This summer I have really been into MTV. Well, I got even more into Laguna beach. When I see their lives, I am sooo jelious. I am not popular. We do have a popular crowd though.,.... My life can't be anything like the ones on Laguna Beach... is there anyway I can over come this and maybe even come close to having that life??? Please Laguna is almost my life....

You need to stop focusing on Laguna Beach and live your own life. I love that show too, but you have to have your own life. Most of the stuff on there is set up to look the way it does, or it's re-shot to provide the right look. Just because it's on TV doesn't mean that you should want to be like that.

Incase you didn't notice, they're having fun, being with friends, & living their own lifes. Before you worry about getting a lifestyle like that you need to find good [or better] friends and stop obsessing over a TV show. [Even though it IS a really good show.]
♥ Melissa

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I have really short nails.. i get really nervous and so i bite them. i want to grow them out for school but dont know how because i will end up biting them so does any one know how i can stop. and grow them out. thanks i rate 5's for good answers.

Just try putting some nail polish on & then when you get nervous or anxious, chip the nail polish off. There are other things you can do too, if you want some more tips leave a message in my inbox & I'll get back to you! Hopefully that helped.
♥ Melissa

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School starts soon, and I want a new hairstyle, but I don't know what to do. I always left it down last year. This year I want to try something new. I have thick,straight,blonde hair. Like if I should cut or highlight etc. Any ideas would help, plz!

I would suggest that you try getting it thinned a little, that would give you a lot more options as to how you could do your hair. Try some highlights & lowlights, because those are easy to fix if you change your mind or don't like them. Try some longer side swept bangs too because you can always grow those out quickly. If you like them then you might want to try shorter, because that looks cute on almost anybody. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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hey..
I have kind of a darker brunette color and im looking to dye my hair blonde. i want like a golden blonde.. or like britney spears in her my perogative video. the problem is that my mom said if i go to a pro to do it i have to pay for it myslef. and i really had my heart set on getting some new things for school. So if anyone knows any good brands of "do it yourself" dyes that actually work to dye brunette hair blonde.. id really appreciate it. and please dont say im stupid for wanting to dye my hair blonde.. caz im sick of the same old same old.. and i really need this. So please please give me some good brands that will work! thanks in advance.

Here's my suggestion to you: START WITH HIGHLIGHTS. If they turn out bad, they're a lot easier to fix. The box CAN be wrong, and you never really know how it will turn out because everybody's hair is different. DEFINITELY try the strand test [the box tells you how] It will probably take a long time, but it is DEFINITELY worth it. If you like the color of your highlights, get that same color in a dye. Don't do permanent at first though, because you might not like the color. Remember, if you DO highlight first, it will be DRASTICALLY different than just highlights, so you might take that into consideration. Hopefully it works out!
♥ Melissa

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ok so i have brown hair down to the middle of my back. i always wear it down and thats all. this year i wanna change the style of it, professionaly. any suggestions?

Don't cut it because you will eventually regret it. You might think you won't, but YOU WILL AT SOME POINT. Don't color it because that might be too drastic, but try some highlights or lowlights. [Or even BOTH.] If you want to try a different cut, start out with some layers, or long side swept bangs, because those are most easy to grow out. If you like the shorter layers, go shorter, but if not you haven't changed too much. Good luck!
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all my guy friends tell me guys like girls to take the first step with a guy. i like this one guy a lot. hes 19 im 17. so where would be best place to him out? and if i wanna hang out saturday night when should i call him?

Call him sometime and imply that you want to hang out. Then if he doesn't call you, call him again and just ask if he's free. If he isn't free that night, he will be eventually. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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my parents are WAYYYYYYY over protective.. i mean if i go out the house in front of my door they come after me.. i tryed talking to them and explaining to them that i am not a baby anymore and i need to learn to make my own mistakes and etc.. but all the said was were not over protective we just care a lot about you.. i cant have a boyfriend until i am 16 and when i get one at that age my dad and my uncle have to be wit me the whole date with guns and if he trys makin a move on me he will basically be died.. my dad said he would hire a body gaurd but he doesnt want to spend so much money on one.. for prom the plain on gettin me a lemo but i CANT have a prom date and my parents will be chaperoniing the dance.. i swear i think i dont have a life.. when ever i get a boyfriend i NEVER tell them.. i only tell them who ever it is is only a friend but i cant go one like this for ever can someone plz help me out!!! i am dieing to get some freedom.. o yea i am a 14/f..

You ARE only 14. I'm sorry, because TRUST ME, I know how much you hate hearing that, I still hear it & I'm going to be 16 in less than 5 months. But you need to prove that you're responsible. Technically there's not much you can do until you're 18, but if you show them that you can handle more responsibility, they may give you more freedom. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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wherever i go, i call my boyfriend before i go and tell him or he makes me feel bad

whatever i do, i call my boyfriend and tell him before i do it or he makes me feel bad

when we fight, i am given all the blame

if i want to hang out with friends, i can, but he makes me feel bad

if he is stressed out, i am feeling bad because hes telling me what i try is not enough and i should always put him before me

hes needy, and he knows it!

if im happy spending time away from him and im w/ friends, he feels bad and makes me feel bad

but he says nothings ever his fault, he cant help it if he feels bad

i am the one who has to do EVERYTHING!, because he used to do things for me in the beginning of our relaitonship but now if i dont do it, he makes me feel bad.

im always made to feel bad.

DUMP HIM. It's that simple. A relationship is 50/50 and apparently yours is about 99/1. That's ridiculous. You should be able to do whatever you want, because it's not cheating on him. That's not something you should have to deal with. Get somebody who treats you better.
♥ Melissa

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Ok well ive been dating this guy for almost 2 years. We really love each other and we live with each other. Hes been telling me latley that i dont act like i care about him. I really do and i tried telling him this and he says i dont act it and i dont show him that i care and love him..What do i do to show him that i really do wanna be in a relationship an i do love and care about him..ive tried talkin to him..an it doesnt seem to work..is there certain stuff that needs to be said? what i dont wanna loose him an i wanna be with him..but i need to know he knows i love him

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Maybe you should look at the way that you treat him, or act around him. It might be something like that. Or maybe you act more like a friend? You need to talk to him and see how he thinks you're acting, because otherwise you won't know how to fix it. Hopefully that helps!
♥ Melissa

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Me and my boyfriend (Greg)have been going out for almost 6 months.
Before I had no friends, and at the beginning of this year I started to hang out and become friends with his friends.
Then we started dating.
We are together almost all day every day,
because when I hang out with my friends, he is there too because they are his friends also.
I'm not saying I'm tired of this, I love being able to see my boyfriend all of the time. and I love him more than anything.
I can't help it if we have the same friends.
Is seeing my boyfriend every day unhealthy for the relationship?

It might or might not be unhealthy for your relationship. That depends on you two and how you act around other people. If you aren't fighting all the time, then you should be okay. Since they are your friends & your boyfriend's friends, you should be able to all hang out together. So no, I don't think it's unhealthy, but you should watch how much you're together, because it could make your relationship difficult.
♥ Melissa

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I have the weirdest phobia (Well to me) I can not swallow pills. My sister used to have trouble with it too, but she eventually got over it. My younger brother has ADD so he has to have pills so he it's no problem for him. But when I was little I had choked on something and I blacked out before it was dislodged, and even though I know it's not going to happen just because I try swallowing a pill, I still have a "pill phobia". Anyway is there anything I can do that will help me get over it. Or just ways to make swallowing pills easier? I'm almost 15, and a sophmore in high school, and I'm still telling doctors when I'm sick that I need a liquid or chewable, I don't want to be an adult doing the same thing. It's embarassing. I have friends that won't swallow a pill unless they have to, but even if it was the only way, I'd rather just be sick. So if you have tips on making swallowing pills easier or just getting over the phobia, please let me know!! Thanks in advance!

Try swallowing it with something to drink [like a slushie or pop] or maybe try food. Another good idea is always to get some kind of beverage in your mouth then put the pill in, that SHOULD help you to swallow it. You can always cut the pill up into smaller pieces.
♥ Melissa

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ok on friday i was supposed to go to the mall to meet up with a really close friend of mien with my best friend. since my parents are WAY over protective and wont let me if i told them i was goin to see a guy. i told my mom that i was goin shoppin and to the movies like a couple days ago and today she was like yea ok we will wait and see what happens, and since she trusts my friend a lot i know it would be a yes but then today she was talkin about friday about takin us swimmin and i was like i am not goin i am going to my friends house to go to the mall and the movies and she was like NO your not going to the movies or the mall wit your friend.. and i was like ok whay if i go to her house and she was like you can do that but not go to the mall. i mean today i was supposed to go to boardwalk wit her and she wont let me bc she has her party that she paid for to go to.. what i need to know is can someone help me out and make a plan that i could tell my mom or even tell her i am goin some place else bc the mall i guess wont work.. i need to go but i also dont want my mom to find out.. someone please help!! i have been waitin to see my close friend for like 2 weeks now... i have already tryed talkin to them about givin me some freedom and all they told me was ur 14 and at ur age you guys like to "experment" a lot of things.

You need to convay to your parents that you're trustworthy. Even if they already think that, do things to show them how mature you are and that you will make the right decisions. If they think that you're responsible and mature, then maybe they'll give you a little more freedom? Just try to prove that you can make the right decisions, and that you can handle a little more freedom. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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My friend Jennifer and I have been good friends since 7th grade but our freshmen year we became really far apart. I got a boyfriend and she felt rejected. Well I tried to reconnect with her hear the last few months and now she has a boyfriend. I invite her places with me and she always comes up with rediculious excuses to not go. I invited her to a concert with me and she didn't go because her boyfriend came to her house. I never blew her off like this. We have our old conservations on the phone and talk at lest 2 hours every other day. I just dont know what to say or do. I want to go to the old ways.

She really isn't worth your time if she's going to keep blowing you off for her boyfriend!! There's no reason for her to treat you that way, expecially if you guys used to be best friends. Just try to talk to her and see what she says. Maybe there's something else going on that you don't know about; just talk to her, and then go from there. If things don't get better, don't waste your time!
♥ Melissa

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