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feeling tied down
wherever i go, i call my boyfriend before i go and tell him or he makes me feel bad
whatever i do, i call my boyfriend and tell him before i do it or he makes me feel bad
when we fight, i am given all the blame
if i want to hang out with friends, i can, but he makes me feel bad
if he is stressed out, i am feeling bad because hes telling me what i try is not enough and i should always put him before me
hes needy, and he knows it!
if im happy spending time away from him and im w/ friends, he feels bad and makes me feel bad
but he says nothings ever his fault, he cant help it if he feels bad
i am the one who has to do EVERYTHING!, because he used to do things for me in the beginning of our relaitonship but now if i dont do it, he makes me feel bad.
im always made to feel bad.
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DUMP HIM. It's that simple. A relationship is 50/50 and apparently yours is about 99/1. That's ridiculous. You should be able to do whatever you want, because it's not cheating on him. That's not something you should have to deal with. Get somebody who treats you better.
♥ Melissa
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ok wow. stop. i was in a relashonship just like this and i will talk you through this and help you out just hit my inbox.
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a relationship is 50/50. one person shouldn't care for the other more or less. Even if you truly love him i would break up with him. to me it seems that he doesn't need you but since you are around in his life he'll treat you like dirt. sorry if this sounds harsh but you should look at the reality of this relationship
modelkate11
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Your boyfriend is not worth having. You need some time just to talk to your friends and get away from him for a little bit. You both need your space. Just tell hmi I think that we should take a couple months away from each other and if we still like each other we can get back together. Hope I helped ♥
heather
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BREAK UP WITH HIM!!!! my god. don't put yourself through that!!! i had a boyfriend that was the same way (not quite as bad, but still) and it is NOT worth putting yourself through that!!
sorry if it seemed like i spazed, but it's true. don't deal with his bullshit.
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Do you enjoy feeling this way? Because it's definately not the way someone in a respectful, loving, real relationship should feel.
In fact, it sounds downright abusive. Your boyfriend is emotionally bullying you. This is not your fault.
You do, however, have a choice here. You CAN end this relationship out of respect and love for yourself. You also are not doing your boyfriend any favours - every minute he's treating you this way and you accept it, he's learning that it's okay to force other people to totally bend to his will.
Everyone deserves to be respected, to have freedom and flexibility, and to have an equal committment. And let's not rule out that relationships are about feeling GOOD about ourselves and our partner.
If that's not happening, it's time to really think about whether you want to choose to allow yourself to remain unhappy.
Best of luck.
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dump him you can do better then him. he is just using you.
hope it helps
♥ria
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This is a huge list of why you should dump your boyfriend.
Is there ANY reason to stay with him?
No matter what he does that makes you feel good, with this long list, you will never be happy with him.
Break up with him. You will feel much better with your life when you do.
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Does he make you feel good about anything?
It certianly doesn't sounds like it. It sounds like he is a controling jackass.
Dump him, there is no reason to continue like this, don't let him guilt trip you into staying with him. He wont change. Dump him, cry it out, and move on.
You are in control of your own feelings, don't let someone 'make' you feel bad. When people are being stupid and selfish, which is percisely what he is doing, laugh at them and walk away.
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Sounds like a control freak.
If you want to stay with him, write down a list of things you think he's doing which are unfair, then another list that has the way you think things should be if they were fair. Show it to him. Maybe that will wake him up. Maybe you guys can then make another list and give and take, until you have a list that you both agree on and think is fair.
If it has gone on too long for you to want to work it out, then leave him. Tell him you are sorry, but it's not working out. If he wants to know why, tell him the reasons you put here. Even though he's acting like a butthole, it's still not fair to him to stay with him when you aren't interested anymore.
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dump the fucking fag... my boyfriend all ways used to do that to me and i felt like shit!!! so do not let him walk all over you like that! just take it from me and do not let him push you around cuz' trust me once he see's that he can push you around it will get much worse and he will still do that to you!
~splappythewalrus~
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Oh god! I would be misribal! Don't let him do this to you! It can harm your reputation in school and life and living. If you got in this, You have to get out of it. Ask him if you guys and be ALONE. Then break up with him if you want to and feel strong enough. I had to do that because my boyfriend (old one) didnt want to do anything and i was resopnsibal for everything. I decided to break up with him. As you should do.
hope i helped
Madeline
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thats not a good relationship. you shouldnt be responsible for everything in your relationship. i personally think you should dump him, because you deserve better. ive been in the same situation as you so i know how you feel...i hope everything goes good!
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Don't let him do this to you! Poeple like that take advantige of the golden hearts. Leave him emediately. If he threatens you, it isn't true. But if he even gets close to hurting you, tell someone so you can get help. Those people are week, so they find a person that wants to help and destroy them, don't let him destroy you! I hope I helped, and remember,my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate if you don't want to, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!
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this should be very easy for you, anyone who makes you feel this bad you dont wanna be associated with just dump him if he cant take your feelings in to account then hes not worth it, hope i helped
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hi,
trust me, that's how my dad was wen my mom dated him. she tells me stories all the time. i no i hate my dad bc he's so controling and acts like nothing is ever good enough for him.he's trying to control him. dump him now. he might even refuse to let u break up with him, or threaten to kill himself, but that's all fake, he just wants someone weaker then him to control. dump him before u end up lik my mother, 41 with 5 kids and wanting a divorce for more over 8 years.
-dont be scared,please trust me
peace&love
god bless
danni<3333
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Youre in a mentally abusive relationship. If hes doing this he needs more help than you can give him. If I was in your shoes Id end it right away. Just remeber your happiness is more important than anything.
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i say that you should end things riight now because that is dumb ok why is he blaming everything on you?! i mean he has no riight to do that it doesnt seem that he really loves you or like you or is into a "real" or "true" relationship with you i say that you should break up with him riight now why wait any longer?!
*ariana*
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maybe hes not the right one to be with. you might think he is but just think about what you just wrote ..he always makes you feel bad..why do you want to go out with someone who always makes you feel bad..find someone that will make you happy...i mean you shouldnt go through life being unhappy...cause just think what about when something goes wrong in life, you going to be upset..and on top of all that your going to be even more upset cause your bf always makes you feel bad...hope i helped...
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okay sounds like this dude needs serious help. tell him he doesnt own you...and your not his mommy to take care of him lol...talk to him bout it...most likely he wont listen...and i dont think its worth bein with someone like that
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ok wow i see what you meant when you said you were feeling tied down..this is NOT a healthy relationship at all! you have to break up with him..this is not healthy..you shouldnt have to get the blame all the time and you shouldnt have to call your bf and tell him what you do and stuff like that..this is a verrrry unhealthy relationship...definately not good. this stuff is unhealthy whether your a teenager or 50 years old! it doesnt matter the age..its still NOT a good relationship
so i think you should get out of this relationship because its controlling and its too much.!
-melissa-
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