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I went to donate blood and almost couldnt because of high bloodpressure/pulse. I'm on loestrin 24. Sometimes ill just be laying down and will feel my heart going crazy, and once in a while ill check it randomly and it goes pretty fast. Could my birth control cause this? I eat fairly healthy and work out, but is there anything I can do?
Thanks
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Its certainly possible that it could cause high blood pressure. Its something you should mention to your doctor.
That being said, there are many other things that can also cause a rise in your blood pressure. Stress, anxiety, fear and the very common "White coat syndrome". Some people will have a rise in their blood pressure just by being in the doctors office or anywhere a nurse is. I'm one of them. The
best thing to do is ask them to retake it in 10 or 15 minutes. It usually is back to normal by then.
If it isn't, then I would get it checked out.
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ooook! so if my boyfriend and i havent had sex for a few weeks because i was scared i was pregent, but i had my period yesterday.. is there a chance im pregnant? because ive read that if you have your period then your good but ive also read that some women still had there period even though they were prego?!! (link)
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Chances are if you got your period you are not pregnant. I suppose it is possible but it is not common.
You should however, probably try to get on some form of birth control if you and your boyfriend want to have sex. Something that you're comfortable with. You can get on the pill through your local health department or planned parenthood. Look them up and see about getting an appointment, or just stop in. I know it may seem like a lot of trouble,
but anxiety until you get your period after you've had sex is gonna drive you nuts.
Be safe.
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i have been on lexapro for 5 years now. i wonder if this prolonged use will have any effect on my body or brain (link)
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I did some looking around and didn't really find anything negative about using it long term. You shouldn't just stop taking it, most of the anti depressants should be tapered off.
If lexapro is helping you, then I think that's wonderful. It can take a while sometimes for people to find what works for them. Discuss any questions with your doctor. :)
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My wife and I were invited to a 50th birthday party for the partner of my daughters mother in law. My daughter is getting divorced from her son very soon. The party is at the mother in laws house. Our daughter was not invited. We have no ill will against the hosts- our granddaughter will be there and we'd love to see her. Is it proper to attend under these circumstances? (link)
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I think the proper thing under the circumstances is to make all family type events as normal and drama free for your granddaughter as possible.
I think if this is something you want to do then by all means attend the party. Especially if it would be the normal thing for you to do. I agree it would be a good idea to let your daughter know that you will be attending.
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~so i have this fleshy lump thingy in my vagina. like right near the opening .. not on a lip but actually in the hole.... like blocking my opening i think?! it seems the size of my vagina and isnt so big it hurts or i notice it.... IT DOESENT HURT AT ALL WHICH IS GOOD :) so i have left it alone and never told my mom ... its been a year now and it is the same size and hasent changed and doesent hurt but it is kinda hard and fleshy but doesent hurt..... but i like cant see an opening from just looking in the mirror cause it looks like i dont have an opening cause of this fleshy thing. Bur i have never had sex or anything like that. but im scared to tell my mom or doctor... so what do you think it is? and what would be the treatments? cause i dont want anything painful!!!! but im scared cause ifeel like i have cancer or something and i dont wanna die or end up really sick cause i havent gone to a doctor.... BUT IT DOESENT BUG ME ? NO PAIN ........ please help! i searched online and got really scared by what it might be!!! so scared! (link)
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What you are seeing is probably your hymen. It will break and go away when you have sex. No need to be scared, it is perfectly normal. Here is a link to pictures. See if what you see isn't similar.
http://www.healthystrokes.com/hymengallery.html
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Hi, I am a 17yr old f. So, the other day I was walking my pug down main street of our town and this cute guy walks up. He is wearing no shirt, his abs are gorgeous, he has shorts on, and he is tanned. Lets just say he is an eye opener. He walks up (I notice I have seen him maybe once or twice before), and he says "Hey Dez, congratulations on your graduation." I thank him, then he asks if he can hug me and I say yes. After we hug, he casually asks if I am spoken for (I am kinda shocked he would come right out and ask that, but its kind of bold of him, which I like). I told him no and say I really don't know him that well.. he says "I would like to get to know you." We talk for a bit, he seems like an awesome guy, then he asks if he can have my number. I give him mine and he gives me his. Later on that night, I text his number and say "Just wondering, do you usually get a girls number and wait for her to text you first?" playfully. He has not sent me a message yet (how long does a guy usually wait?) and I am wondering what he might be thinking, what his reason for that is, or whatever you think might be why he has not replied. Should I text him once more and see if he replies? Thanks!
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I'd wait for him to call you. Something to also consider...Have you seen him texting? I know it is probably rare these days, but not everyone pays for texting service. He may have never gotten your message.
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Sooo for a while me and my bf have smoked together but it's like my whole paycheck just goes to weed, it's bad I know :( I don't even like to smoke just ocassionally and it's like evvverydayyy idk what to tell him about this like there's much better stuff I rather spend my money on but I know he's Always gonna want to smoke and it bothers me soooo much but I don't say anything cause he just expects it from me... I just don't know, any advice ? (link)
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Its simple really. You just tell him like you told us. If he wants to continue to smoke using his own money, so be it. But you have other things you'd rather spend your money on.
If he's going to insist you continue, then you need to seriously consider finding yourself a guy who respects you more than he does.
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a guy i like asked me to go to the movies with him and always picks me up and is so sweet, i do really like him hes perfect, but hes ben a druggie for a few years and finally sobering up. my friends dont like him around, my best friend gravely hates him, and we dodge my mom because hes always smelt of smoke. yet two of my girls who see me with him like him cuz theyv seen his sweet side.
that sounds very harsh but hes sobering up for me, and hes so protective of me so i dont get into drugs and from other guys. he is a pure gentleman, picks me up, tries to pay, holds me like im his world. i always told him i wont kiss a smoker when hed ask tho, iv never kissed him.
yet he picked me up n we went with his friends out to eat one day a while back, he got high and wouldnt drive me home he left to party, i had one of his friends drive me home and we got lost. il never forget that. hes the sweetest guy in the world now though, idc that he was a druggie, but then i look back at it.. i do really like him but should i try and move on? does the good outweigh the bad? does the past matter? am i over reacting? any advice on this topic. 16/f (link)
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I agree with snarky. I just want to add that even when he gets sober (average relapses is 3 times), he will be a totally different person. Better or worse, he will just be a different guy.
Most relationships do not survive if one person was abusing drugs or alcohol when the relationship started. That person ceases to exist once sober.
Even with the best of intentions, he can't sober up for you. He has to do it for himself or it will not work. So do not feel guilty should you decide to move on. And don't wait until he has recovered to move on. Do it now and avoid that all together.
Good luck.
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I'll just get right to the point here.
There's this really CREEPY guy whos two years older than me (he's about 17) and he has always bothered me...
i used to be friends with him, and a few months ago, he mysteriously got my phone number and began to text me
i left my phone for awhile, and when i came back, i had 5 or so missed calls from him and a voicemail or two.
This started a seemingly NEVER ENDING period where he would just call me non-stop all day, send me pictures of himself (just his face, looking sad, texting me, and leaving me voicemails. He must of called me 60 or so times over the course of a weekend. I never answered once which made him angry.
He began to call less and less until the point where he'd only call me once every few weeks.
I just ignored him in school and out of school.
So summer started about a week ago, and he started texting me again. and he was all like "oh we should date" or "why wont you give me a chance" and then he started getting really creepy and making me uncomfortable by saying things like "i think your so gorgeous and beautiful" and "how far have you gone with a guy, just curious". then he was all like "dont i seem like a really sweet guy because of the stuff im saying" and "why wont you just give me a chance, i can be a really nice guy if you get to know me"
by the way id like to say, i was NOT leading him on, so PLEASE dont try to stick up for him. i was truly trying to be nice to him-im always nice to people even when i dont like them.
he was also lying to me about how he "no longer smokes weed". this is a lie. hes a complete pothead, always has been. i hold a grudge with the whole stoner thing, but thats kind of a different story.
anyways, now for the bad part...yeah that wasnt the bad part.
so today he started texting me, and i pretty much told him to stop talking to me because he really annoyed me...and he FLIPPED out on me. he started calling all these mean names and stuff...a few of the texts were: (i apologize for the horrible language, but i just want to show the extremity of this..)
(i told him to go bother someone else, he replied with) "Ok. I will you fucking two-faced hobag"
or
(i said something like "wow your really pathetic arent you?" he replied with) "No you are a fucking cum guzzling thunder cunt. ok now stop texting me you ungreatful fuck up."
trust me, im a big girl, i can defend myself. some creep being a douchebag to me doesnt usually phase me too much, but THIS...really pushing it. Then it got worse
he started turning it around on me, saying that if i continued to text him he'd file harassment.
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IS THAT A JOKE? after HE called me hundreds of times only a few months ago??
so then i told him to go to sleep (something like that) and he suddenly says this: "Why dont you go die. or i will make it happen."
i have to things to say about this.
1.I lost a very good friend of mine this year, along with another classmate, and death is still a sensitive subject, i try to avoid it if i can help it.
2. could this be considered a death threat? after i told him "thats pretty low. how dare you say something like that?" and he replied with "I wasnt kidding."
I dont think ive ever been so mad in my life.
he also started to get all snippy with me, like when i yelled at him and told him that was a serious thing to threaten he just replied with "ok cupcake". i just stopped talking to him after that
i couldnt even speak. i didnt know if i wanted to cry or blow up. he made me so frusturated and mad and, to be honest, scared. but i would never give him the satisfaction that he scared me
i dont know what to do. i already told me younger sisters about all of it, and i would like to tell my parents, but id be afraid theyd blow the situation up and report it to the police and everything. im not saying its unreasonable, i mean, its not, but it would be out of my control, you know?
and i know it was wrong to continue pressing the conversation, but whats done is done, and it ended up like this.
what should i do exactly? press charges? brush it off? try to talk it out? i dont know!? any input would be great :) (link)
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Do not try to talk it out. That just seems to egg him on. You really do need to tell your parents. He has threatened you. He is bullying and harassing you. You need to tell the police.
Anyone who is so obsessed that they keep on after being told not to could be a danger to you. Do not reply to his texts or calls. Keep them and show them to your parents. Do not edit or delete the bad ones.
Its true your parents may blow it up and report it. They should. I know you don't want to lose control of the situation but there comes a time when you have to for your own safety and that of your family. DO NOT take this lightly (I think you already know that)tell your parents and help them do something to get it to stop.
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Can I have sex with a guy at work?
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Its probably best not to have sex at work. Wait until you get home. OK sorry, I couldn't resist.
Its really not a good idea. A lot of employers have rules against it. That may not always seem fair, but there are reasons behind it. The majority of relationships don't last. Once it is over, working together can become a problem. Especially if it wasn't a good break up.
Workers have been stalked by ones they have broke up with. They have had fights in the workplace causing tension for all. A simple conversation with a person of the opposite sex can caused jealous rages even with couples not broke up.
Then of course, employers worry about sexual harassment suits.
It really isn't a good idea.
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My mother has been physically and emotionally abusive all my life. the are spells of good, normal times but the bad times come unexpectedly. I am 47 years old. my mother has been helping my fund my child's education. She graduated in the top of her class , we had a party went out for dinner and had a great time. my daughter made a slide show of pictures of her growing up with the family. my mother felt that the other grand parent had more pictures. they have given very little to their education. She feels disrespected and this had grown into a major emotional problem. The video my daughter made was wonderful and I know my daughter felt she was fair and didn't count the pictures. she has turned a beautiful thing into something horrible. my mother was helping me with my other daughter's education and we need the help. she wants my kids to acknowledge that she helped and they refused. she doesn't want them to respect them. Mostly she is making me feel like I did something wrong and I know I didn't . what do I do? Am I crazy?
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Of course you did nothing wrong. Your daughter graduated at the top of her class, that should make any grandparent proud too!
Next time your mom goes on about this, just tell her, 'your granddaughter respected you and your help enough not to waste the schooling you helped with partying. She got good grades and graduated at the top of her class!'
As far as her slide show, well that had nothing to do with her education. The other grandparent gave good times instead of an education.
Nothing wrong with that. Just tell her the other grandparents had a camera around more often than she did.
It wouldn't hurt for the kids she has helped to send her a thank you card. They could each get a
nice card and send it with a note saying thanks for all you have done to help. After all,it was a very generous thing for her to do. Grandma would get her acknowledgment & perhaps get off your back about it. Ask them to do it for you.
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i am thinking about going on birth control. but i dont know the process of doing so. can i just go to the doctor and they write a prescription. are they gonna ask me questions first. do i need to do anything else. do i have to go somewhere else besides my regular doctor. is it expensive?
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Your family doctor would be fine. Gynecologists are great doctors but more expensive.
In most instances, depending on age mostly, you will have to get a pelvic exam & pregnancy test
before any doctor will write you a script for
birth control pills. Then, you get one yearly thereafter before it will be renewed.
They will ask you many questions. None of them hard ones. Such as, when was your last menstrual period, are you sexually active now, do you smoke, etc. This is also a great time to ask the doctor questions. Make a list!
All info told to your doctor remains confidential. Never give your doctor false information.
Prices for doctors visits vary a lot. A first time visit to ANY doctor is more expensive. If
you have a doctor you see regularly, he/she will cost you less money.
You also have the option of going to planned parenthood or your local health department. They
will cost little if anything. Check for numbers in your area.
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heh, thanks. and between all this mess, i've been with 2 guys since we broke up! the last one.. ended because my so called best friend who is 25..almost 26.. decided to go after him, who is 19..while i'm 20.. how i found this out? his mother told me.. and then of course 2 weeks later my ex comes crawling back to me.. i must have some effing luck, eh? but my old boss type person i work with at school is like my second mother and i'm like her 4th child, so she knows everything.. and she was like i'm proud of you not jumping into this (since i showed her the IM of me not being so nice..) and then asked who would i rather be with.. the ex or the one my friend stole from me..and i'm like uhh my ex.. and shes like i thought so. and i'm just like i think because its old and done with, while the other situation is brand new. (link)
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Well, you know relationships can become a habit too.
Some not very good habits! Its just familiar and sometimes seems like less trouble. Just use caution & use your head. I'm glad you didn't jump back into it too. You're learning girl!
You know you will one day meet that perfect guy. It will all come easy and everything will just fall into place. He can't find you if you are messing with another.
Keep me posted!
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what does it mean when a guy says he loves u, but jacks off while laying beside you in bed? just because he seen a pretty waitress when you are able and have been waiting for him to touch you for weeks? and he keeps making excuses not to touch you? I am female and only 41 years old (link)
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Ask him. Seriously, he is the only one who can answer your question. Just tell him like you told us. I've been waiting for you to touch me and you take matters into your own hands. Whats up with that?
If it continues, find another man. This one isn't into you. Good luck.
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so it's been a while. and a lot has happened. i stopped seeing my ex, and he still owed me money so he said he'd give it to me the first week of the spring semester and i said ok. so when the first week came.. he saw me but didn't say a word.. so i ignore it.. so my mom tries to talk to him.. and his "girlfriend" is all hell no. and soo then my mom goes to his house.. meets his mom, she finds out everything and rips his head off when he got home that night.. and so a week later my mom went to his house to get the money he had owed me..and he apologized to my mom and said that he wanted to apologized to me, and my mother had told him no that it was too soon to apologize, so he respected my mothers wishes..i didnt speak to him since december.. on thursday he IMed me and said he was sorry and that he missed me.. and i was being cold hearted but it felt good that he finally apologized..and he told me that he missed me.. and that he was soon going to break up with her.. and im like oh so im a rebound..and hes like no.. im like dont expect us to be friends now.. and hes like i know im not. and anyways, he has IMed me everyday since he apologized..and he wanted to come see me friday night because he missed me..and im like uhhh bad idea...and my mom is like let him chase you. and so.. then his facebook status went to single.. and his default his just him.. and hers is just her..im not sure what to do.. my friends dont approve obviously..and im not going to make myself completely availble.. but im stuck? (link)
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Friendship might be possible someday, just don't rush things. I'd stick with simply IM for a while.
I know you still have feelings for him, but he treated you badly. You went through some rough shit.
You don't want to repeat it all again.
He may not see it as a rebound relationship, but it kinda is. Nobody wants to be alone and he probably thinks you'll come running back to him in the end. Prove him wrong. Play VERY hard to get. In the end, he still treated you bad.
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okay im 15/f and i think i love this boy but hes turning 13 and im fixing to be 16 im not sure how to handle the age difference and all. how do i know if hes to young and/or if i love him? (link)
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Age shouldn't always be a big deal. In your case however, you are approaching the age where dating someone that much younger could get you into trouble. The statutory rape law does go both ways.
16 being the age of majority in most states, I think you should probably just not get involved until he is older.
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okay me and my girl been together about a few months but ive known her for about a few years,i know she slept around but not with anyone i know,she cheated on her boyfriend with me and well she cheated on him with others before me,i ask her all the time if im just another Sergio(the guy she was dating)but she says she cheated cuz he cheated,bt i still have a real hard time trusting her,but i love her with all my heart,what should i do?or what should i say?-yazeed:D (link)
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To be honest with you, I think you have every right to feel the way you do. Cheating because he cheated isn't even close to a good excuse. Just means she is also vindictive. My instincts tell me she may be a good friend, but isn't one to give your heart to.
Sounds like that advice comes a little late though!
You can try to be boyfriend/girlfriend. She is going to have to earn your trust though, and its something you need to talk to her about. You are going to spend a lot of time being jealous. She needs to know this and understand why. The only way you will trust her is time & her good behavior.
Just know you certainly have reasons to feel she is not trust worthy. I hope she proves to be worth your trouble. Good luck.
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where do u live? please i need help!
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It isn't smart or safe to give just any random person your address. Perverts are everywhere.
Luckily this is one of those orphan questions
that probably got deleted long ago for that very reason. Those of you who gave your address please
use caution. Even on this site. Its open to the public.
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Okay so me and my best friend are dating and we have been for a month or so and we make out all the time but I kinda want him to do more. Problem is he's never been with anyone and gone past first base. So how do I get him to move to second? (link)
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The best thing to do is to talk about it. If you aren't comfortable enough to talk about these things, you shouldn't be doing them.
There is a chance your boyfriend is not ready for second base. You shouldn't rush him into doing anything he isn't ready to do, just as he shouldn't rush you.
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...So i know whats wrong...I just dont know how to fix it...I think I want too much at the same time. I want to have a diploma/certificate, a full time job/career that i like/love, i want to spend time with my bf I want to be healthy I want to work out but I cant possibly do all these things...then i get sad or depressed becasue i want a career but i dont know what, or i want to be healthy but i dont find time or W/E...anyways how do i fix me???? (link)
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I don't think you're asking for to much at once really. You will get a better job with a diploma of course. You're boyfriend will have to work too so, you'll just see each other when you both have time off. Try to find a job working the same hours if possible.
Being healthy can be done too. Eat right, walk whenever you can rather than take the stairs etc.
park further away from school, stores etc. You can get in your exercise that way.
First, think about the kind of work you'd like to do. Then make a plan for reaching that goal/dream job. Everything else will fall into place. Always keep in mind that you don't have to choose a career right away. Try different jobs and see what it is you love doing.
good luck!
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