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Hello, I am twenty years old and female.
I am currently on my second to last day of my period.
Yesterday and today, today is worse, I've been having this very annoying pressure to urinate all the time but when I to the bathroom, I don't actually urinate or it's a tiny amount. However, when I actually do go, it's an even worse pressure - but I can't really describe it as a burning sensation, it's honestly still just pressure there. I have yet to feel a burning sensation during urination.
My first instinct was to think it's a UTI, very common in women but then I read that any irritation to the vagina during your period could cause this, sorry too personal, but on Saturday night, my boyfriend and I hooked up, I obviously couldn't do anything so it was just dry humping mostly and I figured that may have been the "irritation" that could cause this too.
I've been reading about UTI's and it's always described as pressure, burning when urinating, fevers maybe (depending on how bad the UTI is), cloudy urination... but I only have the pressure.
I know I should go to the doctor but if it's anything related to my period, and my period is over tomorrow, I'm kind of just dealing with it til then to see if I still have this going on.
Any input is appreciated, if you get pressure to have to pee all the time during your period or if you've had a UTI before, anything I can do, if it's normal... anything, really.
Thanks!
The pee hole is very close to the vagina. Perhaps something got in there and did create a UTI. Instead of pressure, I call it an urge to pee, feeling like you need to expell urine. When you try, there's nothing there and yes, the urge or pressure feeling is stronger when you are straining to empty the bladder. When I have that feeling, it is an infection. The only couple times I have felt something similar is when I am dehydrated too long. Without enough fluids, the bladder doesnt empty properly and some germs can remain to grow instead of being flushed out with peeing. For now, you can drink extra water. But I am thinking the fact that you have period at same time is just a coincidence, and likely not related. Dry humping doesnt cause UTIs. As for the burning sensation, that will eventually come if left untreated and you can get a fever as the infection rages on without medication. Best to go see your Dr. If you can learn that this was a UIT and remember what it felt like, you can always try cranberry juice. It's a natural way to get over UIT/bladder infections. I would drink the juice, or even take cranberry extract pills from a natural supplement store. Both work. But I would drink the juice all day long, a couple gallons. in the morning of next day if it doesnt feel better, I schedule to see Dr. I get rid of mine in 2 days time maybe a little more using cranberry. But as I said, first times its better to know for sure if this is what it is, and go see your Dr.
Hi men,
I would like to improve my relationship with my brother and father, so i want to understand them. My questions are for all men older than 20:
1. What do you think about having conversations with your mom, sister, daughter, or girlfriend/wife?
2. Can conversation help in solving problems in relationships or not?
3. If yes, how should a woman approach her male family member if they have a problem, or if he did something wrong?
4. How can he know what's wrong and how to solve it if she doesn't tell him how it affected her?
Thanks in advance.
My screen doesn't show that anyone answered you yet so since no ones written back, I will try to help. I am not a man, but i prefer men for friends over women and so I believe I have a good memory of what men in general have said or feel about conversation.
I have found that men who like to communicate versus those who are quiet and rarely talk or want to hear you talk, is more a matter of personality type, same as it is with females. There are people who enjoy chatter and those who don't, where a talkative person, they try to avoid. I dont know your Dads or brothers personality type but I do know that at least 75% or more of people tend to be the friendly, outgoing, and talkative types who appreciate conversation.
Males like to feel needed. That's one way they feel appreciated also so if you need help with something from Dad or brother, open up and talk to them about it, same as you're doing, writing here, you will get a few different viewpoints of how to look differently at your situation.
Since no one is a mind reader, it is important to talk to people. I assume you have no problem talking to females? Men like women go about conversating just as we do. It's just that some may have no interest in the topic she brings up like having got her nails or hair done different, their birth stories for the older set, etc...
No matter if the conversation is about common every day stuff or something of a negative or problematic nature, men appreaciate women who willingly converse as its a way to gather information, know when help is needed, informed enough to know if their support, or compliments and such are needed. If you say nothing, they won't know and that is one of the pet peeves of guys, either fluff talk that is totally meaningless from a female, or when crucial information is needed to pass, she says nothing and clams up claiming everythings fine when it really isn't in her mind. Remember, guys converse for the same reasons as you converse or your girlfriends. If gal you can't stand at school calls and wants to chat an hour, wouldn't you groan at the prospects? Why, you and her personalitys don't mix, so its a chore to listen to her. Well males are no different. There are certain personality types of people they don't prefer to interact with but will be polite and give you their time and attention. My own husband groans when his Dad or sister contact him. And the next for a couple other people in his past. But he is polite and will truly listen and if his vocal support is needed, has spent a couple hrs helping them see a situation clearly so they don't freak out over a distant family members issue that came up.
Does conversation help in solving problems in a relationship? I know you're thinking more of either male family or with a boyfriend/husband but there are all sorts of relationships: how you relate to other students, teachers, a boss or co coworkers, neighbors, friends, family and a sweetie. It doesnt matter what sex the person is, they have a need to converse with people to give instructions, teach, give advise, support and build up a person, compliment, bring up issues that need to be brought into awareness and then dealt with properly. Yes, conversation helps relationships. When a teacher asks if you understood what she just said and you say yes when you don't, you're not allowing her to help you with more words, more spoken to help explain to you. Conversation is crucial to your learning there. If a girlfriend is mad at you and not taking your calls and won't talk to you, how will you know if its truly something you did or not or if shes just being moody? If you keep silent or aren't successful in having a talk with her, will you two be able to start talking again right away? No.
The idea with how to approach people when wanting to discuss an issue or a problem with involves them, is to be gentle and use the right phrasing with words. This applies the same to males as it does females. This is more about being good at conversing with other humans period! It doesn't mean anything different what the sex of the person is, people will turn off and screen you out if it seems you doing nothing but insinuating they are to blame or using language that makes them feel that way whether it was your intention or not.
Another thing guys don't like or understand is when a female moans to them about her problem and they assume she wants him to help advise her. However when they give advice the female tells them she doesnt want to hear that. Many females just want some one to listen to them bitch, but don't want their help...they just want a listening ear. It would be best if this is the case that you tell Dad or bro that you need to get something off your chest and just want someone to listen to you but not give you their ideas of a solution. At least the guy then knows you only need his listening ear but not advice and they'll be plenty happy enough to oblige. Guys just tend to naturally be more practical and logical by nature than women although women can be too. So all they know is spot a problem/fix it. Not discussing it for hours at length which does nothing to fix it. IT's one of those things men are never going to get about females. I have learned to be direct with men. Tell them what I am thinking or feeling. No beating around the bush. I explain exacting what I need them to do for me, whether just listen to me explain my days adventures or if I have an issue I need his help to resolve. I remember a day at lunch when a German coworker brought in a jar of saurkraut which was to be her lunch. None of us could open it. Even tried the tapping technique. I finally told her to just go ask Gary in the cubicle closest to the lunchroom is he didn't mind opening the jar for her. She wouldn't do it. Couldn't even at late 40's, approach a man to commumicate that she required his help. I said, Oh for heavens sake, give me that jar. I went straight to Gary and told him Sue couldn't open this jar which was her lunch, could he please do it? He grabbed the jar, saw the label and made a face, hesitating. I remember telling him jokingly, gary, All we need is the lid loosened, I promise to not make you smell it. And I laughed. He opened it, and said something back. Deed done. If I had stood there in his cubicle holding this jar, saying nothing, he might have guessed I needed help but probably would have asked to be sure.
Your last question is an answer in itself, You are correct. Whether it was Mom who said something hurtful to you for example, or Dad, if you do not let someone know how what they said affected you, they can not know how to change their behavior.
Now here's the trick with such a conversation, people become very bristly when someone tells their story and says when you said or did such and such, you made me feel worthless and very sad and depressed. No one can make a person decide how to respond to something they here. People reactly differently to things and it is unfair to place the blame on them. But it is okay to tell them in a way that they are not told they were the problem but they realize that it is a problem in that it affects you adversely. And a person will be much more cooperative to apologize and change their behavior as long as we're talking people who have rational healthy minds and are not under the influence or drugs or alcohol. In those cases, not rational talk with work. They need professional care and there's nothing you can do to improve conversing with them. I should know, my ex husband had mental issues.
So instead you would tell Dad or bro. "I know you probably didn't mean it, but when you said this and did that, I felt worthless, etc. (don't use: you made me feel worthless.) which points to them as being at fault. If it was unintentional, a good male will apologize and want to help remedy things, remember they like to fix problems, and you're doing nothing more but letting them know of a problem. no matter the fact that they are part of it. Logically, the way a male will see it, if you have an issue with them, and let it go by without bringing it up and later want to blame them for you needing to go to a counselor or see a Dr. about depression, they will feel you are totally out or order for blaming them for your fragile mental state after months or years of never telling them. It is totally unfair if you have an issue not to communicate it. What if you began to build up resentment towards a person and yet you never said a peep to them. They'd have a right to be angry and frustrated with you for not saying something sooner. In saying nothing, you continue to perpetuate your problem and that is a dumb thing to do no matter if its a guy or a gal who isn't communicating.
I hope this has given you what you need.
By how you phrased things, it seems you wonder if a male member of your family is even going to be receptive if you come to them with an issue. Most issues can be resolved.
If it's something different like lets a short fuse to anger where they hit or throw thing meant to hit you, they have an anger issue and that needs being reported to police as battery or assault and talking to the party is not going to solve things as their problems are way beyond what conversation can help.
The same goes for if its rape.
Let me know if you have more questions by going to my column to write me from there.
My father has another wife and a kid in another country. He and my mom are not married but he comes over everyday for dinner when he's in the country which is most times and takes us out for dinner/vacations/everything a father does. He didn't tell me about this other wife and my sister. I found out on my own. I don't know what to do with it though. He's a great father. And I can't wrap my head around this. My mother knows but when she had me she didn't. He promised he'd marry her. But he didn't yet he still is around with her. He doesn't give her much money only when she really really needs it and even then its a loan. So she's not here for the money. Every weekend we go to his house and they don't sleep together they actually talk. Sometimes past midnight. So I'm guessing he loves her. But I can't fathom why he wouldn't marry her or divorce the other one. But I was hoping someone here can help me with it. I don't know what I should do with this information. What should I do with it? And also any ideas on why he's doing what he's doing?
In s perfect world, we would all be married to our best friend and have the chemistry for romance and sex. There's two needs to be met, the emotional needs that can be met with a best friend but the sexual ones with a lover. My husband is both to me. Sounds like your father loves her for their friendship together. Probably tried the sex part of it which resulted in you coming along but found after time it didn't get any better and were not the best match in that dept. I always recommend finding one person who can be both to you.
What yu do about it. Nothing. It's their life and theirs to choose to live out the best they see fit.
This doesnt make him any less your father and somewhere in the world, you have a half brother or sister. At 16 it msy mean nothing to you but when you are older, it means alot cus when your parents are dead, all you have left is siblings, half or full doesn't matter, plus your own husband and kids if any. If curious, ask him how you can get in touch with your sibling.
As to why he's still nice to Mom and visits, he may be a man like my husband. Mine is a person who does not callously drop off past relationships into oblivion. There will always be some tie to any person who isn't a toxic negative person to be around. He keeps in touch with his school buddies, any one who he adopts into his life as family, that means what ever friend he had with his buddies sisters, he didn't date but was good friends with, and there is an old girlfriend happily remarried who he seems to chat with twice a year approx to see how she is doing. He is in touch with his ex wife who is family and they have one adult daughter together. While I wouldn't naturally gravitate toward her as a friend, I have accepted her as family. tHere is no threat of her wanting him back, quite the opposite. they were not as great at sex but made great friends. THat part of the connection is still valid, he just couldn't be her husband. It was their mutual choice to part. It doesnt bother me at all. It's all part of what makes my husband the man he is, caring and willing to be there for me, listen and comfort when needed, etc. and he doesn't choose to turn it on for one person and off for another. Some who does that may just be putting on an act as it does not come up with deep within his core of who and what he is. Hope this helps you.
F/13 Hi! So, I've known this guy for two years now and we used to talk everyday. He'd tell me anything and everything as would I. A few months ago, he asked me out. I said I didn't like him that way and wanted to keep the friendship going. But ever since then, the conversation has dropped and I speak a few words to him once - if I'm lucky - a day.
I hate that we aren't as close as we used to be and I have tried to get the friendship back. But, conversation gets low and he moves on to have better conversations with someone I hate. I'll admit I'm jealous. He laughs more around her like we used to. I probably sound stupid... 'I'm only 13. I'll make new friends,' I can already see the replies. But, I want to know whether to keep trying or to let go.
I don't want to let go but will it make him happier if I stop trying?
You could be direct and ask him if he feels uncomfortable around you having feelings but not being able to act on them. Ask him if he'd rather that the two of you no longer spend time as friends together.
Thats the best way. What if he just got real busy lately and still wants to be friends and you just drop the friendship without saying a word. He could think you're stuck up and being snotty.
Ok, so my parents are really strict when it comes to anything. Clothes, boys, even friends. Other teens have even asked me why my parents are so strict and that mine are way worse. They even have me homeschooled for that reason. I do go to church, but maybe four times a month, and my parents won't let me just hook up with some guy at the mall. They say he has to be a certain age, a certain religion, everything. I'm not around teens much, so I don't know how to flirt or get a guy to ask me out. I can talk to guys, but it makes me nervous. I wouldn't even know if he has a girlfriend or not, or how to handle rejection. Surprisingly, I found a guy that lives up to my parents expectations, but I don't know how to get him to ask me out. And I'm too shy when it comes to flirting. I'm a 16 year old girl and never had a boyfriend or first kiss, so it's really important to me. I know I'm not ugly, fat, or mean, I just don't know how to do this! Please tell me what to do🙏
I used to be immersed in the church as a parent and can understand why your parents have these strict rules. They are doing the best they know how and believe that what they are told and taught at church is the only way to guarantee their children have a chance of staying pure and following a Godly path. The reason I had rules when the kids were younger, was because I loved them and thought I was doing the ultimate best. By their teen years, I had left the church and decided I had been blindly believing everything the church taught without checking things out for myself. As a result when from the pulpit I heard to never let my kids have anything to do with the Harry Potter books as it was evil and you''re letting the devil into your life with that, I told the kids that those books were off limits. When one teacher was going to go through the book reading aloud to class every day, I told the teacher I wanted my child to sit out during that time as I didn't want her exposed to that book. The poor child had to sit out in the hall outside the class for the duration of the reading portion and read her own book. I now feel badly about it, knowing better. Just remember, church and christianity is part of your parents path in life. As their child, it is yours to go along with until you reach 18 and can be considered an adult. It is true you've been robbed of learning how to socialize with peers not to mention how to flirt etc. When you reach 18, you will need to self teach, read books on normal social behavior, on dating do's and don'ts, etc. Unfortunately in trying to protect you and keep you safe, your parents have done you a great disservice, leaving you totally unprepared for adult life and knowing how to navigate it. Since I switched to a more open minded spiritual path by time the kids were teens, they had it a bit easier. Lots of stuff all teens have to learn by experience even if their parents are open minded, so don't worry, other than having been sheltered, you can still catch up, but do so wisely, self teaching, not doing all the things they said not to like no drinking or whatever. If you get to 21 and want to sip a wine, then do so but don't have it to excess where you are drunk. By being sheltered, you are now open to falling for all the tricks of guys who aren't in love but in lust with you and are up to no good. Again, you'll need to study and learn what those things are. When you're at college, just cus its a Christian college if so, doesn't make it safe. I know college christian female friends who told me of supposed christian guys who tried to touch her in private places and he got upset with her when she didn't let him. Your parents cant be around to protect you after you leave home. You'll just need to make some good friend who are decent people who weren't raised in a sheltered life, and let them know that you were sheltered and have no clue how to go about anything.
For now, the advice of the other advicegiver is good, talk to the parents and try for inviting him to your home for some event.
Hey everyone im going to college soon and I want to have a little (preferably alot lol) of change in my pocket. I was wondering if anyone knew of legit ways to make money at home. I'm aiming towards surveys...but the few I've tried require me to pay them or they take too much time for too little or nothing (ex: a 25 min survey only got me 0.50) I'm interested in other options. if it helps I use my smartphone and I also have a laptop. Any suggestions are well appreciated thank you in advance!
I know that some college students who are fair at typing will make money doing typing jobs from home. As to where to get them, maybe typing for other students? I would check ads in the paper. If you don't mind leaving home/dorm, you can advertise your services for dog walking. that doesnt require much of your time and there are sites on the computer of services offered or wanted where you can post in a local place online and try to get customers that way. If you don't mind washing cars and vacuuming them out, perhaps advertise doing that for the nicer weather, depending on where you live. I wish you the best of luck.
First of all I'm 52 and I have never have an orgasm so I started masturbating because I wanted to see if I could reach an orgasm on my own but I haven't being able. I want to know why when I am feeling so excited this feeling of someone tickling me make me stop and I can't continue touching myself as mush as I really want to because I know I am close to get the orgasm. but I remove my hand because I just can't take that feeling of someone tickling me and it's really frustrating; what can do I do to be able to continue when I am feeling so good!!
regarding your title, Why can't you touch yourself? Who is saying you can't or that it's wrong? If you have gotten to the age of 52 with never masturbating or having an orgasm, then there must be some program running in your mind, something you're heard growing up or been taught. Things people hear is: that sex is bad, dirty or wrong except for if you are married, a single can't have sex and it is said that you're not supposed to touch yourself. Most of these misguided idea's come from Christianity in the US. There are always a few people who manage to get to adult life without ever having had sex, or an orgasm or masturbating which is the best way for any single to have an orgasm. I don't know if you're male or female but I will say this, it is possible for a married person to have sex and never have had an orgasm. Happened to me. First husband and I were a sexual mismatch. We did not have that pheromone chemistry. Without it, we could force ourselves to do the act and had 3 kids, but although he had his orgasms, mostly a bodily response, females tend to need the love and that spark before having sex can lead to orgasms. Not all women get orgasms with penetration for example, but they can when their partner works on manipulating their clit or going for their g-spot, that rough wrinkled patch of skin on the upper inside of the vagina no more than an inch or two in, right behind the pubic bone. I didn't have my orgasms by my husband, only through masturbation, even though my church taught it was an evil. I didn't feel guilt until I sat in church but back at home, it was good thing for me. Eventually I grew and learned that theres nothing wrong with it and after a divorce and all the guys I dated, I discovered chemistry which made all the difference when the basic sexual techniques were all the same. Plus more time and attention was spent on me to get me to the point of orgasm.
This tickling you feel is just the start of the sensations that tell me your sexual organs are in perfect working order. That tickling sensation grows stronger where your breathing is altered too, your heart rate increases, you can sweat also, and if blood hasnot yet engored the penis or the g-spot, these become larger and more sensitive. Try using a personal lubricant like KY jelly or other such products found at some drugstores where condoms are sold or at a Lovers Package type store. The lube helps with the friction so you don't make your skin sore. If you are afraid of a tickling sensation, then you are stopping long before the orgasm could come. You have to work through it before you'll get one. Otherwise, you'll never have one. Yes, you'll squirm and writhe about the same as you would if a perosn were tickling you, thats all part of it, let yourself go, don't hold back and enjoy. Its part of the sexuality God gave you and it is good, not dirty or wrong.
My crush who is also my friend found out I like him. Apparently he doesn't have the same feelings for me and although it is not awkward anymore and we agreed to still be friends I feel like he is still bitter towards me sometimes. I want to get over him now but I don't know how. It's hard especially since he sometimes Facebook messages me and sits right in front of me in class. I don't want to totally ignore him because I still want to be friends with him, just get over him as a crush. I'm a 11th grade girl if that helps.
How do you know he feels bitter at all? Do you realize that much of what we feel is inspired and comes from the thoughts swirling around all the time in our mind? Even our dreams can come from those same thoughts. And the fact is, that most humans spend more time thinking negative thoughts than positive ones. I am guilty too. But I have learned to catch myself in the middle of entertaining negative thoughts and putting an end to it so I don't dwell on it. When you dwell on certain thoughts too long, there is always a chance of you creating the scenerio you are afraid of in the first place.
As for him not having the same feelings, thats life. We can't have the perfect chemistry with everyone we met for being more than friends. I do believe it is good to become friends first with a guy you are attracted to and hopefully he feels the same attraction towards you such as always wondering what it would be like to kiss you. Guys dont wonder that with a girl they are not attracted to romantically. And yes, some guys make friends easier with females or prefer female friends, that is normal, as is the same in reverse, girls with male friends. Since he did not lose you as a friend and is still willing to go being just a friend, there is no reason for him to feel bitter. Maybe uncomfortable knowing how you feel but if he was that uncomfortable, he would end the friendship too.
Once bitten by the love bug, it's like a pesky mosquito bite, there is no instant way to get rid of the mosquito bite and it will continue to irritate you until enough time has passed that eventually it fades more and more until nothing remains. You still can have the memory of the bite but now you no longer feel the sting. So the same with unreturned love and breakups. It simply takes time to get over them. You are going to find that spending time with him other that the must see in class type thing is not going to make it easy for you to get over him. It can be prolonged or may not happen at all, kinda depends on you. I would watch how much time I spend with him, limit myself to a little less than before and start a new hobby or activity to keep your mind busy and occupied. Other than that, its a matter of time. I missed a previous boyfriend (as an adult) until I found the man I married. An a young lady, you may not have much of the needed skills as to how to determine when a guy is interested, if its love or lust on his part, how to tell, what clues to look for to know of possible interest, and how to act in a relationship, etc. Most people learn only by going thru the experiences which can be painful and wrought with failures. You can lessen the amount of failures and learn faster by doing some studying on your own on the computer. try all sorts of search phrases and checking out what come's up. Wiki-how is one I have used lots to help people on here with links. Lets say you want to learn 'body language that indicates a person is attracted to you.' I put in that whole sentence and if nothing good comes up I try simply body language when attracted. The web isn't so picky as it was when the internet first came on the scene.. Back then I had to put in a specific word or phrase to come up with hits, or no luck at all. today I can even mispell a word and the computer makes guesses 'did you mean this or that?' It's way easier than you may think to find info on line and start learning. You tube is also fun and comes up often with videos by dating experts, plus the teens who make up their silly videos that are more about them being views than having real advice. You'll learn quickly which is the real advice. Look for 'how to attract a man/guy' 'Dating do's and don't for women/females' and so on. Perhaps if you poured some time into learning and studying this stuff, that also will help preoccupy your mind while you get over the crush.
I'm writing a story about a girl and a guy who fall in love in the girls least favorite subject. And the guys friends don't approve and all that crazy stuff... Anyways I need help with a title, this is all the information I want to give right now. So hopefully that is enough. I just want to have a simple title so it doesn't have to be really creative or anything. Thanks for any of your idea!
I write too dear. Sometimes, I have a title but once I get into the middle of the story, some phrase someone says sounds catchy and I will use it instead for a title. I also read alot and sometimes the author has an odd title that occurs only once in the book later on and has no correspondance to all the other stuff that happens. Example: A favorite author Diane Gabaldon has a famous "Outlander" series. One of the books was called 'Dragonfly in Amber'. There was only one instance where a person gave the female character a gift of a dragonfly captured in a piece of amber. The story didn't center around the dragonfly at all.
Some people use the setting to put in the title. If they go to a certain school, or live in a lake side community, the name of that area is part of the title.
You've not given enough info that could give me any ideas. I don't know if this is grade school, HS, or college age we;re talking about. A guys friends not approving of him dating isn't enough unless you want the entire book to be about only that. then you could title it "Don't Date Her!"
Be creative. Give a name to the school, what type of kids go there, Is it a low income neighborhood and all the struggles that come with that or perhaps most the kids are the preppy types. What is the name of the school? You may change its name as you get further into the story. So if the story is about teens and trouble, or struggles, or dating...play around picking a name for the school to go with the issue using same letter for school name such as Dating at Darlington High, the darling part reinforces the story is about dating issues. Or Troubles at Tinkerville High, don't worry about not having a title unless you've finished your story. Read it over again for something that stands out like a action in the story. The guy hands the girl a bouquet of daisys he picked from Moms garden but by time she gets them, they are wilted...so you can name the story 'Wilted Daisies' or the girl buys new makeup to wear for the guy to get his attention or impress him only he's not into makeup that much. He see's lips as bright colored as jelly beans and makes a comment on it. His comment becomes the title, "Jelly bean Lips". Play around with it and have fun. I changed the wording of my title until it was catchy but short, I wanted a 4 word title or less. Good luck.
Hi Everybody,
So I am 19 years old and recently my mother and younger brother moved away, and I moved into my fathers house. As well as my boyfriend of 3 years even more recently moved away. I now live with my older brother, younger sister, step mom and father. I cannot be upstairs for long periods of time because I have some issues with my sister and I get very mad and irritated with her because she does not know what an inside voice is. Anyways, my mother and I are very close, and she is truly my bestfriend. And ever since everyone moved away I feel very lonely. I have never had many friends, so I basically sit in my room and do homework, and go to work, and go to college. I get very anxious not having anyone to talk too, and I have a strong desire to get a dog. I feel as though a dog could lift my spirits and save me from becoming depressed. The problem is, my step mom and sister have 4 cats 1 small dog and 1 guinea pig. I was close with my mother dog but she obviously moved away with my mother, and I just want to feel wanted. I know that having a pet that I could love and would love me back, and keep me company would fix my problem, but how on earth am I supposed to convince them? They know I want a dog, but they don't realize that I need a dog.
If you want a pet of your own, you need to be able to take full responsibility for him/her. Too many people at your age who get a pet find they can't afford the food and keeping up with shots not to mention taking the dog to vet if it becomes ill or hurt. And there is no guarantee that the dog will bond with you when there are other people in the household. Animals can be just like people and have their preferances too and no matter their own sex, only are drawn to and bond with humans of a certain sex. You need to be able to walk the dog and allow it to go outside. Would you be jealous if another family member showed the dog attention or the dog seemed to like them better? What of the times you are in school and at work, that must be a full day + away from the dog so there's very little time you're around to let the dog out to pee at the very least. And it would not be fair to an animal to lock it up all day in your bedroom until you get home. If your intentions are good, thats nice but in reality they don't work out that way and care of your dog will at times fall to other family members whether they like it or not or they may need to take on full responsibility of its care just so you can have it around to keep you company for the handful of hours you're at home and awake. When my kids were small, the family dog we got was from a pair of college girls who thought they'd have time for the dog and he was still an older pup when we got him. It's a nice idea but unrealistic, even if you promised them to take care of it all on your own. Then it's their house, not yours so it's their say whether to allow another dog in or not. The pay off for you in having a companion for those few hours of day versus any hassle it might cause them won't necessarily help them see it as worth the trouble. Usually if cats were there first and a dog is brought in, the cats will let the dog know its place and scratch and attack it to defend their personal space. If all is clear for you to get a dog, either a puppy who can be trained by the cats as to who rules the place or adopting a grown dog from a shelter who is known to have lived with cats previously is a good bet. And I just remembered, if a pup, there's potty training that needs to be done and you need to be around to take care of that. A dog won't know that he's supposed to hold it all in all day until you are home for a few hours in the evening.
All of that is your uphill battle against getting the okay to have a dog. If you mean for them to purchase a dog for the family just so it can be your pet, I know what I'd tell my kids who are a bit older than you, 'sorry hon. I know you want a dog but you'll have to wait until you're out of school, working fulltime and can afford your own place and the care of the dog.' Perhaps your parents don't care one way or the other. All you can do is ask.
Now, the question you did not ask: Is there any way I can find human friends for companionship?
Yes, I agree pets make wonderful companions but they can never take the place of needed interaction between two humans. I know pets become family members, but that is like expecting an infant who can't talk to fulfill your needs for meaning conversation with another...it ain't gonna happen. Unlike an infant who grows up and can later talk, your dog never will. It can show you love, learn your moods and know when you need attention but it isn't all about you. The same in boy/girl relationships. It can't be just one partner needing all the attention and the other not getting any of their needs met. A guy will walk away from a relationship or a girlfriend will leave if its all one sided and your not there when they need you. A dog can't walk away, its dependant on you. Sometimes, that is the reason a pet dog seems more of an answer than learning how to make friends. I'm not saying this is why the boyfriend left, just trying to make a point.
As a mom, if you complained you had trouble making friends, have no one and want a dog for a companion, I would not think first if a dog is the answer, a mom would wonder what is happening with you that at 19 you still have trouble making friends and I would focus my attention on helping you figure something out in that area. Perhaps you are just shy, that can be overcome. I used to be shy as a kid. Perhaps it is something more serious, such as a social disorder which a Dr. may need to diagnose so you can learn how to work with it and still get what you want out of life. You are normal as far as wanting to be wanted and needed. All humans do. I think pets as companions are great if a person is older and already has no problem making friends but a mom gets a dog when all her kids have finally left home so the house doesnt seem so empty, or for the elderly who aren't strong enough to get out and about much anymore to socialize and so a small pet works for them. For a young healthy teen/college age person who feels that a dog is the only way she won't fall into depression indicates there is something not right that can't be solved by getting a dog. there are plenty of people who suffer depression on a regular basis for whom having a pet did not make their depression go away, only proper Dr. care and medication can. If your depression is very recent like the last couple months and no episodes of it before, it likely is linked to all the changes in your life. No one likes change. Change is very upsetting to human emotions. But it is a part of life to learn to deal with unexpected changes, to be flexible and not fall apart when we need to move through change successfully. I have an ex husband for whom this was difficult. He'd freak out and worry and get depressed and it always fell to me to be the adult and handle whatever emergency came up or unexpected outcomes to whatever. It's tough on some people to pick up the slack for someone like that. It wasn't until late in life when I finally divorced him that I had discovered he had mental illness. Nothing severe that anyone in society could pick up on but once at home where he could unwind and be himself, that's where he lost it most often. Not saying you have a mental issue either. But there is such as thing as some people who struggle harder than others with how to normally socialize. Its a common disorder, you don;t need medication for but just the knowledge of what you are dealing with for life. Otherwise, you have a very lonely life ahead if trying to wing it by yourself with out seeing a counselor to see if there is something more you can do to make friends. What if your car battery dies and you are stranded. With a friend you can call for help, your dog just can't help you. Your parents aren't always going to be around. If you feel that all you need is a boyfriend or husband and no one else. Maybe it might work but if you were laying all your expectations on one person to fulfill all your needs, it can be very hard on a person. There's a chance that if this partner has their own friends, buddies and you don't feel comfortable or its just guy time, you may not want to allow the guy to have time to see anyone but you. It can smother a partner so you end up losing him. I still think you should find out what you can learn about yourself and see if anything needs to be worked on. If not, then a pet will not be the bandaid solution for you and not address the real issues.
I went t0 the doctors and she said I had herpes she just looked at me and gave me meds but never did a real test on me.I have herpes. I gave it to this guy and now he's going to prosecute me. I have a two year old and I can't go to jail. I was raped perviously by another guy and was embarresed.I don't know who the guy was. I didn't know I had an out break. I take meds everyday. So does he have a case? I asked the doctor if it was illegal for me to not tell anyone she said no. I dunno if this is true. HE now has herpes. What do I do.
If I were you, I'd talk to a lawyer. But there is no way to prove a person knew before hand or not unless you actually admit you knew. If you were raped and could have got it there, did you go see the Dr. after the rape, did they use a rape kit and carefully take all steps with you including to treat you for the possibility of STD's and test for herpes. If you have never had yourself specifically tested for herpes, there's no way to know if you were a carrier. Just because someone is a carrier of herpes doesn't mean they pass it on to someone each time they have sex.
My guess is that what Dr.s know about herpes will mean that they throw his case out of court.
I know, cus I have herpes. I always made sure to regularly get checked for STD's. What i did not know is that Herpes screening is not included in those screening at all on the one time I asked if it was. So i ordered it. It came back positive and this was in my forties, that I finally learned I was a carrier, and never had an outbreak.
The reason why the majority of the population have it and don't know it is because they have never had an outbreak. Think about it, an outbreak is painful and there's an obvious sore on the body and no one is going to feel like having sex when their genitals are screaming in pain or the sores are near the mouth, no kissing no sex. My mom used to get the oral kind and wouldn't kiss when she had the mouth sores. But the issue that makes it such a problem is that the herpes virus can sit in limbo forever at the base of your nerves in the location it was first transfered by contact, and for many it takes some stress in life to make it travel to the surface where the virus sits on your skin without showing any outbreak for about 2 days before sores develop. It is this two day window of time when it is present
What would cause chronic pain from head to toe
Its best to see a Dr. And the other advicegiver is right, Fibromyalgia is not a new disease on the scene and yet so many Drs. know so little about it and it's hard to diagnose. Now if they find something specific in you and treat it and pain gone, great. But if it goes and another pain shows up and then the other comes back or you have many pains that seem like they can't be related, it could be fibromyalgia. My sister has it. She spent 10 years going from Dr to Dr. Many told her it was all in her head, not real. There don't seem to even today be any real good testings to determine if its the cause of your pain. She accidentally finally came across a Dr. who seemed to be an expert on this. She had so much pain and Drs wouldn't give her any medications that really help her manage it better, that at one point she went to the streets looking for the illegal pain killers. If you end up in the same spot, remember what I said, find some support group on line for people suffering from fibromyalgia and try to find those in your state and find who their doctor is if they're getting great help and see that Dr. It could be something else and hopefully it is and there is no cure for fibromyalgia, just treating the symptoms. I do know another person diagnosed with it and when she changed her diets to exclude any meats and only got protein from other sources, her pain levels went down drastically. But every person is different. If you get diagnosed with the disease, try that diet also. But you will need a good Dr. Go see your Dr to at least rule out any other causes and problems.
It's annoying and inaccurate. That skinny teenager likely had parents giving her balanced meals and shuttling her to and from expensive sports teams all her life. Not to mention the other aspects that affect weight and general development, like the effect of stress, and etc. I once had a coach that said our high school bodies would be the best we could ever attain. I'm a recent graduate, and that's one of the things that motivates me at the gym. I wasn't my healthiest in high school, and had many things stressing me out, leading to a lot of stress eating. I was actually my healthiest when my family first moved to America, 15 years ago. Then the "America effect" happened to my whole family. We're still in the process of combating it. It's annoying how on one hand America promotes cheap, big burgers, and on the other, skinny women in most forms of advertising. A horrible combination being those Carls Jr commercials, where women as skinny as Paris Hilton pretend to enjoy high calorie burgers all the time.
I've never been obese, but I never had the supposed miraculous "teenage metabolism" I so often hear about, so it annoys me to hear it from that perspective. For the most part, my family eats home cooked meals, and I would normally eat healthily at lunch, with a cookie or something once or twice a week at most, but a lot of my peers could get away with eating junk food every day and being very slim, and yet I'm looked at as the one out of shape, even though we're on the same school sports team, and I've done sporty things from a young age.
Anyways, my issue with that leads to how society nowadays is so accepting of becoming obese. I go to Khols after working out at a gym for 2 hours, and hear "All About That Bass" and it just makes me roll my eyes. I'm a size 8 dress size, but I'm still very close to becoming obese, and I need to shed a lot of weight. So why promote a size 14 dress size, however normal it is? Why should we promote something that leads America to have the highest medical bills in the world? The highest rates for cancer, heart issues, etc? Just for looks? Cause on the other hand, being really skinny is also unhealthy, but really skinny models are everywhere. I tried seeing a trainer at my gym and he didn't understand why I didn't want to look "fit and muscular", and instead wanted to look "skinny fit", like a Victoria's Secret model. I mean, he's a guy, so maybe that's why he's kind of out of touch, but still. He said he didn't like the "bony" look in women but I want to look good for myself. If a guy doesn't like the figure I'm trying to pursue, he's not for me. It's just frustrating that I say I want to look skinny fit and he interpreted what I said as some kind of eating disorder. It's like he doesn't know the body a normal woman dreams of, which is more like Candice Swanepoel's than Jillian Michael's, to be honest. Not that anything is wrong with Jillian, she's actually a great example of someone who got to her ideal figure after high school, but hopefully you get what I mean. I mean, women should be free to aspire to any healthy figure, but healthy doesn't mean obese just as it doesn't mean anorexic/bulimic.
Excuses like "I'm just big boned" or "Everyone just has different bodies" just piss me off cause we're all malleable humans. Yeah, adults can't grow taller, but our weight and muscle mass is fully within our control. It might be difficult, like for the rare person with a thyroid problem, but it's not something you have to be genetically blessed with and it's weird for trainers and people in general to give that pessimistic and inaccurate impression to people.
This country is very awkward! It's been 15 years and I still feel like an alien, at times. I'm not really sure how to interpret what it means for me personally to be an American, even though I spent a lot of my formative years here.
There is something called the Metabolism in your body. This is what determines how 3 different basic types of peoples bodies are going to react to diet and excercise. A person with a high metabolism and eat and eat and no pounds will add to their weight. In fact, it doesnt have to be healthy food and can be nothing but a junk food diet, and icecream candy, that stuff that adds onto others easily, doesn't with the tiny person with high metabolism. Even with the weight but a poor diet, they could be very unhealthy heart wise because of their diet. This type also doesnt need to do much exercise to stay in shape, a simple walk or bike ride occasionally is enough. Then at the far end of the scale is people with a very slow metabolism. They can watch their diet and just looking at food seems to add on the pounds. Their exercise needs are extremely involved, to the point that they must exercise daily and for long amounts of time to get the same results as the person on the opposite end of the metabolic scale and then there are those who fall in between. In India Indian medicine there is a system that addresses these different needs in the basic 3 different body types. It is called
Ayurvedic medicine and is a natural health system thats been around 5,000 years in India. You might research this more and see if there are any Drs in your area who practice this. The popularity of this and other natural medicine systems has spread around the world and can be found in the US if thats where you're from. I would think even a few visits to learn what body type you are and about the specific needs it has in order to be at optimal health is a good thing. Regular medical Dr.s are not trained in depth on preventative health. They can refer you to a dietician but they only know what they have studied and been taught to get their degree which does not include the many other natural health systems known around the world. In the US are naturopathic Dr.s who train not only on everything a regular dr. has to but also on many of the natural health systems too. If you can find a clinic that has both regular physcians and also natural health physcians, theres a chance insurance might pay but generelly natural health practioners are not covered or accepted by health insurance which is a shame. So if paying out of pocket, it's gonna be a big deal financially but I would think even a few visits could help, especially if you let them know you can't afford to keep coming and ask for what books or information or study you can follow on your own to lose weight and become what will be your natural healthy body weight. Good Luck.
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Hi, I'm 19. Currently enrolled in a biology lab class. Anyways there's this guy in my class who is in my lab group and also lives in the same dorm hall as me. I decided to build up enough courage to ask him for his number today. I went up to him and asked him if he wanted to trade numbers for lab class. Should I text him and ask a question about the lab, or just start a normal conversation? I'm afraid if I text him too soon he will think I'm creepy. I should have just asked him for his
number, not added the lab part in there. We talk casually during our lab and I think I might have a chance.
You asked another question of me in responses and normally if we don't catch those within 24 hrs we're not allowed to answer a new question here, I can only edit my previous response which is why my old answer is below. For next time, if you have more quiestions to ask a responder, go to their column and then click button to write direct to them.
Now for calling same day or after, if you feel better making up something related to lab, it better be a valid question you want answered, otherwise your call will come across as fishy unless of course you say why you really got his number. think about this, what would you do if he answers the question and then makes as if to hang up. The purpose was help with lab, he gave his answer, he's done and so it's natural to hang up now. Don't count on a guy wanting to just do small talk and chit chat then. There's a chance if it wasn't his idea to call you that he may be busy and focused on completing another too and he won't see a need to continue conversation. Would you be happy with that? If so, what did you accomplish towards getting him to know that you have an interest in him? All he knows is that for some reason you chose him to help you with lab. If a guy did that to you, would that be enough information for you to know 100% for sure he is interested in you? Maybe you might but the majority of girls I answer every week seem to always question a guys action as it could logically not be interest but simply asking for help or just being polite to talk to you. Its not enough info for you likely to just ask him out. Same for him. So just in case you do call just about lab and try to chit chat but he has to go, then in the end, you will need to eventually say something to him in lab to get across the message that you are interested in him. And it wouldn't be too late to tell him in lab that the reason you got his number and called was because you are interested in him. The worst that could happen is that he says he's not interested in you as anything more than a classmate. I know it's scary, but at some point in life, we all learn to be more direct to get what we want in life. Unfortunately for me, it took most my life to learn to not fear people and their responses. I am of course an older person in 50's but young at heart and I finally decided lifes too short to mess around or beat around the bush. At your age, I was just like you, worried about what my actions might have on a guy. I will say there's more chance that telling the truth will get you somewhere with him than not. If a guy was raised to believe old fashioned ways that it is the guys jjob to make the first move towards a girl, that's the only time it could rub the wrong way with him. But luckily, 99% of guys your age range raised in todays time find it perfectly normal and actually welcome the fact that a girl has taken the scary burdon of first contact off his shoulders. I learned thru life to pick up on body signals and other non verbal signs that a guy has some interest in me so its easier to make the first move. So there may be some signals like that you aren't noticing. But if chatting in lab is by choice and not an assigned lab partner, then he likes you enough to be in your presence to talk. A person who is not attracted to you would back up a step or two to create at least arms length space between you and him. What if a guy who you are grossed out by started following you around lab like a lost puppy dog always trying to get close to you even just to do lab stuff, wouldn't you feel uncomfortable and want to step away from him? That's one of the body language signs. And this is stuff most of us do without being aware of it, subconsciously. I will also say when I met my 2nd husband, now knowing better, I could feel the attraction between us and see his interest but I had to make the first move when seeing each other to even just kiss. I was so special to him he didn't want to scare me away by making a move too soon even though he greatly desired to. Either he could have said, um I'm interested in you just as a friend, nothing romantic, or a guy will respond back in a kiss which no person can do easily if there is no chemistry, otherwise it feels like you're doing a romantic kiss with your brother, yes, that icky. LOL. I've experienced it. Guy was hot looking but the kiss ended it all for me when feeling that response. So really, no matter at what stage of a relationship, there's always the next move to make and someone has to do it and guys these days tend to leave it up to the females. there are more females doing that than ever before so my opinion is that it's half and half to maybe 70% of girls making the first move these days. And it most situations, the guys are flattered and respond positively rather than saying no. Go for it dear. If he's so picky that he truly is offended for some reason, then he has some serious personality/characters flaws and probably isn't worth your time. I actually found it great if I could eliminate a guy as a prospect early on rather than go on dreaming about him for a year...again this feeling that my life is too short to waste time on a person not knowing if we have anything in commom and would work out. Whatever you decide to do, think it out with several different possible responses on his part and what your next step will be to get past that. If you don't think it out now and have at least some rudimentary plan, you'll just freeze up on the spot and not know what to do and then feel bad thinking you looked or acted dumb or foolish for fumbling and not knowing what to say next. Plan out for several scenerio's and tell yourself its okay no matter what his response is because the object of this exercise is to find out IF he'd like to become a friend outside of class and soon after to determine if he's romantically attracted to you. Good luck.
If you text too soon and he thinks you're creepy it's only because you're not giving him the truth. Even if he's not into you but you explain you asked for his number using lab as the excuse when you were just simply attracted to him and wanting to talk to him. If you say this, it's more likely he will feel flattered. Guys are like girls in this, they love to be flattered, they crave compliments, and they love someone flirting with them, paying attention, and enjoying being touched as much as any female. Just aren't as open as females about it. Or you have the option to chicken out for now and make up something about lab and tell him later long after you've established a solid friendship just for the laughs. I know my husband and I confided things to each other as to what we were thinking when we first met that we didn't dare say at the time that weren't cool to share. Like he confessed to trying to take peeks down my shirt without me noticing the day we first met in person and he's right, I didn't notice, he was real sly. LOL I'm sure it'll be fine, no matter which way you decide to go.
So in one of the dreams I had this morning, all I can remember is some girl with short dirty blonde hair in a ponytail saying to me, flustered, "What are you doing here, this isn't your dream, you're not supposed to be here! Your in the wrong dream, this isn't your dream, you can't be here!"
I've never had a dream like that. The dream pretty much was over after she was done shouting at me; like I left because she told me i needed to go. So my question is, is it possible that it was a little more than JUST a dream, maybe something bigger? And what could it possibly mean? Thanks.
For the most part, our dreams all are generated by our subconscious mind and any meanings to our dreams and what we see and experience during the day, what's important to us, and the subconscious being where our emotions live and generate from, what is bothering us or emotionally important to us will come into a dream. If it's a one time occurance, it probably doesn't mean anything. If it repeats, there may be something to it that you have to figure out why it's happening. Now here I will share two examples one from my life and my sister. We both have a few physic gifts, non we seek after, but being that we don't nurture it, happen to crop up at odd times. My sister once told me she wasn't really good sleep lately. When I asked, she was having nightmares every night of people dying in a tsunami, every night it went on for almost a year and then the 2004 Tsunami that hit Sumatra happened and the dreams immediately stopped. Then she had nightly dreams of flooding and people drowning again just before hurricane Katrina hit, and after it happened, the dreams stopped. I know people who have heard from loved ones who have passed on, in their dreams..in some circumstances even before knowing with their conscious mind that the person had died that night. I used to have a dream that would repeat, not often, but it bothered me, being a female and Christian at the time and in my dream I was a male and marauders were trying to break down our door to get in and I only wanted to protect my family. We broke the door down and what I did was hand to hand fighting in which I simply snapped each ones neck because I was that strong a male. Some time later in life as I began to believe other things the church didn't, such as reincarnation and that souls can take turns being born as a male or female, I finally understood why I had those dreams, in some previous life I was a male and had killed to protect my family and had guilt over it. When I understood that sometimes killing in defense isn't an option but a must to survive and God won't punish me for that and that I had been a male in a previous life, the dreams stopped. I haven't had them now in way over ten years.
Some people have lucid dreaming. Some claim to be able to do astral traveling.
I believe that a soul can manifest to someone in a dream to communicate. If a soul that no longer has a mortal body to be able to do that, then logically it would stand to reason that there is a possibility of a live person during sleep, has a soul able to leave the bounds of his earthly body without danger of dying and astral travel, perhaps to someone elses dream while strictly in their soul form. Although I have not yet heard of any accounts of this either through life experience or through any books of peoples experiences, I have seen a movie and read a book or two that have used this concept. This is something that science can not prove even if it was possible so without a way to prove it exists or not, I will not say it isn't possible. If it happens all the time, as I said, then truly something is happening, whether your subconscious mind is actually picking up on memories of a past life, which I feel is very possible as Its happened to me, or whether somehow you and another girl have some kind of psychic link you never sought. If there is a link, you'd begin to have lots of these dreams year after year that don't go away. No one talks much about psychic giftings but you can find out more reading and checking up on clairvoyance, clairaudiance, clairesentience and others. I know a gal who had all of them as a young child, age 4 or 5 on. If any such abilities surface unbidden in someones life, it seems the greater majority do not see anything like this until their teens or in their 20s. For me, it didn't show until late teens early 20's. So I wouldn't worry about it. It doesnt make you abnormal. All people have these abilities but are born with it buried so deep in them than it never surfaces in their lifetime. In others, it voluntarily shows up. It doesnt make you a crazy person at all. So if you DO have another such dream, don't freak out. Just hold a normal conversation in your dream and try to gather information that can prove you right or wrong as to whether this other person exists or whether its just lucid dreaming.
If I had the experience you did, I would ask questions. I met a spirit guide 10 years ago and when the image of the odd looking male showed up in my mind, he looked so real, I opened my eyes to look where he'd stood but no one was there and I was awake at the massage appointment, face down on the table. I asked who are you and things like that. In your dream, it may help you feel some control and feel better asking who she is, what year, and date it is for her and where she lives and get a phone number from her. If once awake you can check out what you got in your dream and contacting the number asking for her by name brings her on line, then it was for real ending up in her dreams. As to why, it'll be for you and her to figure out. Any other such questions in the future, I'd be glad to listen and share what I think.
So there's this guy at my work that I like, and we've been texting each other back and forth pretty often. Before reading week ended, I gave him this gift card to a sushi restaurant and he said we should go, and asked me to go to dinner! He picked me up and dropped me off home but didn't make any move. All throughout dinner it was really nice, it never felt awkward , but I just couldn't read him. Fast forward a few days, I texted him a "so do you know what I was craving today ?! Crepes ! Haha When are you free ? We should go out sometime !" And he replied "Haha I had some on my birthday! But I'm still down for crepes! We should go after exams are done! We can celebrate all of the A's we got haha" . Does it seem like he's interested in me ?? There were other instances where we were talking about soccer and I said I would watch him play over the summer and he said that he'll score a goal for me, or the time when he said he'll buy me green tea kit kat when he goes to Japan cause it's my favourite, or like how he'll teach me ukulele because I'm teaching him violin .... Like does it seem like he just thinks of me as a friend or more ?
I may be wrong, but I don't think it sounds like he is making the first contact with you each time, sounds like its you contacting him, even the gift card was first move for you so of course he said lets go to dinner. He responds nicely but if a guy was truly into a girl like you are into him, then he'd be doing what you are doing, at least once in a while, being the one to call you. It may be too early to tell but do look for that as time goes on. We all tend to make time for that which is important to us. He simply hasn't had enough time spent around you getting to you yet to decide if he's interested in you as a friend or possibly something more. Lots of guys might like a gal as a friend and be too afraid to make any move for fear of scaring her off. He does work with you so he may not want it to backfire and become a sexual harassment case thrown at him in the future, even though you'd never do it but guys can get really paranoid about that. I hear as much from several male family members regarding the workplace. It may be that he is always willing to meet and makes no move because there is some chemistry but too low really, or he is gay or maybe asexual but enjoys having a friend. No way to tell until you have such conversations and ask. You need to find an opportunity to start a convo geared in that direction. Say you spot a person and can't tell if it's female or male. You ask what he thinks, can he tell. Then you mention how there's no way to tell by looking at most people what their gender orientation is by looking at them. Like for example, I can't tell by looking at you whether you are straight, gay or what. I am straight for the record. What are you? It isn't asked point blank but woven into a conversation and doesnt seem odd or awkward then. You can then flirt if he says he's straight with "Good, because I am finding I Really enjoy time spent with you and am hoping we can become closer friends, and I am open to more than friends when it comes along." Then leave it to him to make a move. Or you can just make the first move at a time when you both are sitting or standing very close together. Just reach out and kiss him and say, "I just had to do that, couldn't resist because I'm attracted to you. Hope that's okay, is it?" You want his answer cus if he isn't interested in you that way, it's a pheremone thing, chemistry and not bound to change. It's better now than after lots more time spent as friends together and then finding out he could never become your boyfriend.
am i gona fall pregnant if i had 3 tregestrel
Who put you on the trigestrel prescription? They should have explained to you how it works.
No, birth control pills don't cause you to become pregnant but read on cus you need to hear the following.
Hon, sadly someone needs to tell you, you have zero knowledge of anything having to do with your sexual organs, sex itself, how one gets pregnant or how birth control works. If you're old enough to take the pill, your doctor should have explained how it works.
The pill is meant to be taken daily and at the same time. You are not supposed to take more all at once if missing days. When days are missed, its better to use condoms and/or spermicide as back up. You can harm yourself by taking too many at once. The normal sides effects that some get with the pill are more likely to really mess up your body when taking multiple pills or even when using something like the morning after pill, plan B if not on the pill, it has a higher concentration of the same hormones. I could write several pages here to explain just the basics that you need to know. While it is not your fault that someone did not teach you the basics, it is up to you to self educate and you can do that easily by checking out books on the subjects from the library, buying them at bookstores so you can refer to them over and over. But if you're not high on reading, then get on the internet. there are many informative videos teaching you what you need to know. Planned Parenthood is a great source for anyone, even teen girls 14 and older. Some actually hold classes teaching this stuff to teens. HS used to have great health and sex ed classes in my time, and now I hear they're almost non existant so as I said, you'd have little knowledge and information. Plus its embarrassing for some to ask in the first place. I suggest you start with a you tuber by name Laci green. She's college age now but started as a teen self educating and in her quest for knowledge realized so many young people were in the same boat as her with little knowledge of sex and relationships and gender issues so she began to contact professionals to get the straight story and has very nicely put together the short entertaining videos that teach upon a myriad of subjects, including one of my favorites "You can't pop your cherry". I will give you the link. Please at least start there and then search for more information hopefully through Planned Parenthood but you have to call and ask for help and information and teaching. No ones going to know unless you ask so you'll have to get over any embarrassment you might have. It will in the end be way more embarrassing to have made a grave uneducated guess and got into trouble.
https://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-info/pregnancy/how-pregnancy-happens
how should i show my boovs to a guy????
I am going to guess that you are very young but puberty has hit you earlier than most so you've got more chest than your peers. So you're probably attracting lots of attention from the guys. They may have been asking you to let them see your boobs. While it is understandable that hormone driven young boys are going to wish for this, it is totally disrespectful for them to even ask you to do so. I have not yet run across any young female who seems to have an incredible urge to bare her boobs to show them to males of any age.
If your're the first, realize this, your body belongs to you just like anything else that is strictly yours, your bike your cell or computer, etc... If someone asks to let them have your cell phone to use for the next week, would you hand it over? Simply because they asked? Why on earth would you send photos of your chest to any male and meet him secretly and whip off your top for them to see your boobs just because they asked. You don't owe them anything and certainly not that. If you think it will make you popular and get you a boyfriend, you better think twice about what you are getting into. Young boys like you have brains that have not finishing growing and wont be fully mature until at least age 25 or later. No teens are fully capable because of that fact of making good decisions on their own so I am glad you wrote in. I may not be answering your question as you liked but it doesnt matter how you bare your breast to any male, all it will do is attract the wrong kinds of guys and wrong attention. There are countless girls who send nude shots to boyfriends, only to have the boyfriend or a friend of his get hold of his phone and post the pics for the whole school to see online and the girl was bullied and taunted and felt like killing herself over the embarassment. So the thrill of having someone like your body can turn into a nightmare in the blink of an eye. There are males of any age who will approach underage girls cus that's what they like but that is not okay with the law. If any male 18 or older is asking you to show your boobs, you need to tell your parents so the police can be contacted. You are in danger of being lured by these older men with all sorts of promises and then used for sex. You may be unlucky enough to be sold into the sex trade market in other countries even. The likelihood of that, I can't say but in this current world we live in, those likelihoods increase on a daily basis and sex is still the highest selling item in the world, even just pornographic stuff, not just the sex act. I don't care of older sis does this, or mom or even a friend, just because someone else shows off their boobs doesn't make it right. The ONLY time you will ever rightfully be able to show your boobs to a right should be when you are old enough to marry and the man you've chosen is in love with you and treats you well and you are the best of friends and the best way the two of you have to show your deep love for each other is through the sexual act and anything else related such as flaunting your body in front of him. Some women do this while single and younger. If the guy treats them well, loves them and has made a commitment to be her boyfriend for however long it lasts, then it is also okay, provided they are older teens. Girls younger than 14 can't go to planned Parenthood for example and get onto birthcontrol yet so if the law considers you too young to help out with birth control at that age, you really shouldn't be thinking of doing anything like being nude for guys because eventually that will lead to sex. A guy may be so overwhelmed with lust that they wont listen to "No" and force you and rape you against your will. So do think twice about this idea of showing your boobs off to guys. It just isn't a hot idea.
So I was adopted by my grandma. My mom was in my life, though. Basically my mom and my grandma both raised me. Anyway, I'm 24 and I'm living in my own townhouse with my boyfriend in a completely different county. When I lived at home, I paid the bills and helped any way I could, because I lived in the house. However, now I have my own bills I need to pay. My grandma called me constantly asking for money to pay her such-in-such bill because she couldn't afford to pay it. I refused her once, and she would always bring up the fact she adopted me and that she raised me and that I owed her for it. Then, I end up having to go to court FOR her because the old landlord sued her and she refused to go. I'm now having to pay this debt to him because I was the one who showed up. Now, again, I'm having to go to court because of something she won't pay and won't go to. I tell her that I shouldn't have to go, and she, once again, brings up the fact that she raised me and that I owe her for it. It makes me feel so horrible. I didn't ask to be born, why does she keep doing this to me? And not only that, but it is getting me and my boyfriend into HUGE fights. What can I do about this?
as has been said, if your name isn't on the bill or any rental agreement or other agreements of mom or grandma, you are not responsible.
I am guessing they are intelligent to know you are not responsible and grandma is manipulating you to make you feel guilty for something, for making you feel like you actually do owe her or mom something simply for the fact that one brought you into the world and the other raised you.
Look around you for a moment. If this concept she is telling you was true for most of society, then all young people would be paying back their parents for having raised them. It is ridiculous. Think of an adult who goes for a bank loan, the bank handles what ever it is they are purchasing, house, car but you as an adult are signing documents to promise to make monthly payments because you chose to go into this agreement for a loan and now you owe them money back with interest. But that's willingly doing so as an adult legally willing to agree to such a thing.
A child was not thrust upon your mother without her agreeing to it. She made a decision to have one or made bad choices and got pregnant when she didn't want to be. And she still had a choice to have you or not or she'd have had an abortion. As a newborn, you have no say in any matter, adults take care of you. You as a baby or child were never expected to sign a contract with parents or grandma stating that you promise to pay them back for raising you starting at 18 when you become an adult. No child is Ever expected to pay for parents to take on their bills and commitments, just because you share blood or were raised by them. In some cultures, its a culteral expectancy to help look after anyone older people in the family but that is cultural and is not the law .
You have relatives playing the guilt trip card with you and it's worked once with you willingly showing up at court. By law you would never have had to pay this bill. But you're showing up in person, implied you were willing to do so and financially able to do so, so now you're stuck paying back her landlord. DO NOT show up at court ever again for either grandma or mom. They are adults and if in financial stress they can turn to the same agencies for help that you would have to if you lost your job. I suspect the reason grandma hasn't tried her local department of social and health services is because she is too proud and can't bide the idea of going to strangers in some agency for help from the state. Next time she comes begging for you to bail her out, tell her to check with her local DSHS office and get referrals for agencies that can help. You've bailed her out now this time and probably on other smaller things so she knows you are easy to manipulate. So unless you learn quick how to resist her, you'll do it again and again and run your own financial situation into the ground. If you and boyfriend are living together and sharing bills together, I'd say he has a right to be angry that you are willingly handling many of grandma's bills which put a strain on your household budget which both you and he are a part of. stick with the commitments that you and he got into and pay your own bills. If you know you won't be able to resist grandma manipulating you to feel guilty....then don't take her calls. Or you and boyfriend can agree on what needs to be said and he be the one to take the call and give grandma the advice that you have agreed upon. He'll be able to resist her and she wont be able to play the guilt trip on him. WHEN you have a husband someday, that's what he's for...when one of you is weak, the other is strong and you both take turns doing what you are strong at to make the marriage work. You can start practicing that now with the boyfriend, especially if you think this is someone you'd like to be with life long anyways. Good luck dear.
My boyfriend and i broke up about a month ago... Before we broke up we had communications issues. he said we should stay friends and see if things fall into place. I didnt like that so i called it quit, after a few days i called him back saying that we should fix it, he agreed, but after days go by he wont call or text, i would bring it up again, he would after to fixing it and the same thing would go on again.. At some point i would text and he wont reply. Finally one day i told him that i dont want to be led on again and he should tell me where we both stand, he then said that he cannot commit to me. I was very hurt i just thanked him and said goodbye he replied that if it was the final goodbye then okay... So i deleted him from my contact, bbm and everyoda social network. I didnt call or text him, a week went by and the second week came... Towards the end of the second week, he called but i didnt take it, after about four days he called again and i didnt take it... I decided to download whatsapp on my new phone, because i stopped using my old phone which was giving me issues.. i started seeing his messages he sent to me Within those four days consecutively.. his not a type that goes to whatsapp,he barely even used it... So when I saw the msgs i replied Hi and immediately he replied "how have u been" after about 20mints i said "fine Thank u" he replied "just checking in" and i didnt reply afterwards.... Is he trying to come back or is he just missing me....
I would't count on it. I know guys who when they befriend someone, even if the relationship doesnt work out, they tend to think of the person as adopted or extended family ever after, like a cousin or sister and will from time to time keep in contact to see how you're doing. My own husband is like that. Old male friends, a few of old co workers, female friends, and his ex. wife. Not many people are like that, I'll agree, but its possible this old boyfriend of yours is.
If he had wanted to come back he would ask a question to determine if you are still single or seeing someone. like "So are you dating anyone new yet?" Since he didn't, I think you can safely assume that his decision of before, that he cannot committ to you, still stands. If he didn't explain in detail why...it may be not knowing the issues that give you hope that something can be worked out. But he may have not given more info. simply to spare you from having any more hurt feelings than you did from just the break up.
Put yourself in his shoes (if that was the case) and lets say you were dating a guy who was extreme needy and a low self esteem, always apologizing for no reason, too shy, and you didn't want to tell him that those are the issues he has that are the reason you are breaking up. It would make him feel worse of course. So you say instead, "Well, I've decided after all this time that we just don't have enough chemistry to be a couple, so I am breaking up with you." It will hurt him but not as bad as the extra weight of the issues why. Hope this helps a bit.