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Transgender??
Hi! I'm a 15 year old biological girl and I'm having a bit of an identity crisis. I think that I might be transgender. Some days I feel so feminine and I go to school it frilly shirts and hair ribbons but some days I take clothes from my brothers closet. I love my long hair, but somedays it disgusts me and I tuck it into a cap. My identity changes and I don't know what I want. I know what I want. I know that there's genderfluid people and people without genders but I want to pick one. I feel like if I had to pick girl or boy I'd be cutting a part of myself off... What do I do?
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Why hello there! :) My name is Natalie, and I have been involved in several youth programs which support LGBT youth. The first thing I will say to you is to try not to stress too much (I realize that's easier said than done). If you aren't sure about your gender now, that is perfectly okay. You are not obliged to choose a gender immediately, you don't owe that to anyone. For now, go with the flow. Try to find a way to be okay with feeling more boyish some days and more girlish others, because it's totally natural and you aren't alone. It sounds like you'd like to pick a certain gender for yourself (male or female from the sound of it), and that's totally cool. Label yourself however you feel most comfortable and confident. Also remember, however, that gender is fluid. Don't panic if the label you choose begins to feel off or not right again. You are in charge of who you are, and you always have the power and the right to alter it.
Try seeking professional help. I don't know where you're from, but there is most likely a youth program for LGBT kids somewhere near your area. Do not be afraid to reach out to these types of programs, because they really are there to help and you can most likely find others there who have gone through (or are currently going through) situations similar to yours. Therapy is also a great option when you are going through an identity crisis. Also, when you're ready, discuss this with a friend or family member. The empathy of others can really help mental stability through all of this.
Other than that, just remember that life is simple in the end. You are here to be alive and to experience the world. You are going to get through this and it will not ruin your life. You are not strange, you are not a freak, you are merely a human being. Do not let others tell you differently. You are wonderful. Stay strong, my friend!
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There's nothing wrong with wanting to do both at different times. I'm kinda the same way. Sometimes I want to wear a cute top and wear my hair curly, and other days I just want to throw on baggy jeans and sneakers. I dress differently on my mood. Some days I'll look girly and sweet and some days I want the goth look. If you don't want to choose what to do as your look, you don't have to. I'm still trying to figure out who I am and what I like too. I'm sure the answer will come, but as for now, just keep doing what your doing and you'll find out which you is most comfortable. Maybe you want the tomboy look who sometimes wears a little pink, or maybe you want the girly look who will sometimes wear sneakers and baseball caps. Until you find out what you want, just keep doing whatever you feel like doing. 👌
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This is straight from urban dictionary:
Gender Fluid is a gender identity best described as a dynamic mix of boy and girl. A person who is Gender Fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders, but may feel more boy some days, and more girl other days.
Being Gender Fluid has nothing to do with which se
That seems to describe where you are at. To choose one means you are ignoring the other half of you. So as much as you may think it is better to chose one, you won't in the long run be happy.
Since it seems like two genders in one, I did a search for bi-gender and got more hits. There are lots of sites that can be found like support groups for Transgender, but the public is slowly getting caught up to include bi-genders/gender fluid. Here's one post:
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This next one describes the slight difference between b-gender and gender fluid
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For a search theres more hits on bi-gender than the other label. Here's one more site. And perhaps you can find a support group on line. Thats a good way to go, talking with others going through the same thing and how they are handling it.
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do a search of your own and I wish you the best in finding support.
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