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Why aren't we friends anymore?
F/13 Hi! So, I've known this guy for two years now and we used to talk everyday. He'd tell me anything and everything as would I. A few months ago, he asked me out. I said I didn't like him that way and wanted to keep the friendship going. But ever since then, the conversation has dropped and I speak a few words to him once - if I'm lucky - a day.
I hate that we aren't as close as we used to be and I have tried to get the friendship back. But, conversation gets low and he moves on to have better conversations with someone I hate. I'll admit I'm jealous. He laughs more around her like we used to. I probably sound stupid... 'I'm only 13. I'll make new friends,' I can already see the replies. But, I want to know whether to keep trying or to let go.
I don't want to let go but will it make him happier if I stop trying?
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Ok, I'm gonna be honest here. If he's with someone he knows you hate and laughing a lot around her, I think he IS trying to make you jealous. When guys really like a girl, they will go to pretty strong strengths. Be direct and ask him why he's avoiding you lately. He may be upset that you turned down his offer, and is doing what he can to make you jealous and want him. If you can't talk to him, text, email, call, use Facebook, Instagram, ANYTHING to try to get ahold of him and prove how much his friendship means to you. If he avoids your ways of getting in contact, have someone speak for you, without letting him know you put him/her up to it. Someone you and him can talk to as a friend preferably because then that friend will listen to you, and he will listen to him/her. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!👍
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You could be direct and ask him if he feels uncomfortable around you having feelings but not being able to act on them. Ask him if he'd rather that the two of you no longer spend time as friends together.
Thats the best way. What if he just got real busy lately and still wants to be friends and you just drop the friendship without saying a word. He could think you're stuck up and being snotty.
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