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hello is it possible for you to have a pimple in your ear? Because this morning i woke up and there was kind of a bump in my ear it hurts reall bad when i touch. I can touch a part of my ear where the bump is kind of my and it will kind of hurt. Is it a pimple? Please tell me soon this thing is really bugging the hell out of me and it hurts like a bitch. thanks please help!! :( (link)
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Yes you can have a pimple in your ear. They do hurt
too!
There isn't a lot you can do about it except let it run its course. :)
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Me and this guy talk alot of about dating and agree to it...so i guess were going out but i dont really know how to be girlfriend to this guy...because i dont like kissing in public or anything like that plus i need a fuckin step stool to get even close to being able to kiss him since im 5'2 and hes 6'2. What do you think? (link)
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Don't worry about it. It will work out fine. My son is 6' abd his wife is 4'8.
No need for public smooching but if you want to...he bends! :)
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theres a guy that i really like and were freinds with benefits, since he said that he dosent have time 4 a girlfreind. i have talked to him about us dating instead of being freinds with benefits, and like i said before, he said that he dossent have time for 1 and he feels as though if we dated then he wouldnt be able 2 spend the time with me that he felt that i would want, but the truth is that as long as i got to see him at school and sometimes on the weekends that would be enough 4 me. well he dosent know i feel that way, anyways, he said that he really likes me, and he DOES show it, but kind of secreltyish, um like if were leaving the room, he will grab my hand or do something sweet, and if were in the auditorium, than he will rub my leg and rub my hand. and now im REALLY into him, and i mentioned us dating again and he said "once again" that he dosent have time 4 a girlfreind, but once he does then i'd b his first choice. well latelyi havent asked him about the whole "dating" situation, but he has kind of said some thigns related to it. but now things have changed a little, he is kinda talking about other girls in a way, like i asked him to homecoming -he cant go- but he had said that like 4 other girls asked him, and i asked him if he could go to the dance then who would he go with and he said that he didnt know & that it was mean of me to ask that cause there was some other girls whom he have known longer than me, and it wouldnt have had been fair 4 him to have answered that question. so i dont know whats going on with him. and he also said about the whole girlfreind thing that he not only didnt have time 4 one but even if he did, he didnt reely want 1 cause he likes it better having anygirl he wants, anytime he wants other than having 1 girlfreind and no other girl. now THAT reely pissed me off. i hope he dosent just think of me as a peice of ass. cause that would hurt.
what should i do??
please help!! (link)
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I'm sorry but that is all he is seeing. That's what the whole friends with benefits deal is. He wants a piece you give it to him and he is free to see other girls all day long. Of course you could see other guys as well but girls minds don't really work that way most of the time.
The only way you will EVER get him to think of you as anything else is to cut off the benefits. Most likely you won't hear from him again. That's what he is depending on though. The fact that you like him enough you won't do that. He is a player and a user.
Show him the door and stop letting him use you.
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ok well i like this guy and he likes me so we are going out but theres this other guy who likes me but i don't like him until one night i had a dream about him and i don't know what to do i like them both (link)
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See how it goes with the guy you are going out with before deciding. It is easy to have feelings for another that might not be real.
You could also date them both. There is no law saying you have to be exclusive to one guy. :)
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i had sex with my bf for the first time yesterday and afterwards put the condom in a bag to dispose of later on. when he went i cleaned up and looked in the bag and im pretty sure the condom was split. is it right i have 72 hours to take emergency contraception and where do i get it from? thanks (link)
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You can get it from planned parenthood, emergency rooms, doctors offices and possibly your local health department.
You might talk to your boyfriend about it. It is possible it ripped while he was removing it. :)
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hey im 17 female and everytime i get with a boy and he goes to do put his fingers in me it really hurts im turned on i just dont know why it happens please help (link)
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Make him use some sort of lubricant. You can get the generic KY jelly at most drugstores or even walmart
or dollar general. :)
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my fertile days were 9/29/06 - 10/3/06 i had sex on 10/9/06 but he pulled out is there a possobility that i got pregnet on that day? (link)
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OK girls don't bicker back and forth.
Fact is both the other girls are correct. Anytime you have sex there is the chance you are going to get pregnant. The pull out method is one of the worst methods of birth control going.
Is there a possibility you got pregnant? Yes there is for the reasons given below. :)
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ummmm well im a 15/f and i think that i may be pregnant and i know for sure that if i am and i tell the daddy he's going to say it not his(he's a bitch). Now normally i dont believe in abortion but i dont kno wat to do i mean my mom would be mad but she would help me but i dont know if im ready! they said that i can have it and take care of it, get an abortion, or adoption but i dont want to kill the baby or give it to someone els! im very confused! if i am how or should i tell the father??? should i keep it??? plz help me i dont know wat i should do!!! (link)
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I can understand your confusion. If you trust your mom, talk to her. Let her help you make this decision. She knows you much better than we do and this is something you definitely need help with.
Telling the father at this point is up to you. Do you still date him? If you do and plan to continue dating him then he needs to be told. If you are not dating him then as said before me, wait until you
make the decision. They do have DNA testing. so he can deny it all day until you have that done. It will tell the truth of it. :)
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who sings the song 500 miles of you could tell me that would be great (link)
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The original that was also the title song on the Benny and Joon soundtrack was done by the Proclaimers.
It has since been covered by Less than Jake.
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My friend (17) and I (17) want to go to get birth control. I have been reading on here and on plannedparenthood.com about the different kinds and the exam and all that good stuff. But I have found contradictory statements. How much money should my friend and I bring each for the total amount? (link)
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If you know where you will be going, give them a call and ask them. Prices vary so much that is the best thing you can do. :)
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Hi! Here's my problem: I'm 15/F, and my parents won't let me go out with guys. I'm responsible, I get good grades (A's and B's), and I'm not a liar. I don't do drugs, smoke, or drink. But my parents won't let me go out with guys until I turn 16. My problem is that I can't just, well, turn off my hormones, you know? And if a guy asks me out that I really like, I don't wanna miss out. But I also don't want to go out with a guy behind my parents' back. Anyway... what should I do? Thanks in advance! (link)
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Do you think they would let you go out with a group of friends as opposed to going out with a guy alone?
That may be a place to start.
You might also ask mom how you should handle it should a guy ask you out. Can you have him over to your house instead of going out? Are you allowed to go to his house if parents are home?
If it has been a while since they told you that you needed to be 16 it is a good idea to discuss it again too. They may now realize that you are mature enough. Tell them what you would and would not do on a date. Discuss it with them in a very mature way.
Whatever you do don't go out behind their backs. If caught they will be a long time trusting you again and you don't want that.
Good luck, hope they realize you are a responsible girl. :)
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what exactly is a yeast infection and how long could it last if it hasnt been treated?? i think i may have one but i've had this
certain problem "down there" for a long time. so please someone
tell me what it looks like and just what it is, and how long it lasts
if not treated, and how to treat it. THANK YOU!
14/f btw. (link)
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Here is a site for you that has all the info you need.
http://www.coolnurse.com/yeast.htm
They do make over the counter medications for yeast infections. They are pretty expensive but you can try one of them and see how they work for you. If it doesn't help, please seek medical attention. Don't suffer needlessly. A simple antibiotic will take care of it and it is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Women get them all the time. :)
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so i have to find/make something from around my house
that if i put it in a tank of water..it will sink to the bottom of the tank ..and stay there for least 3seconds...then float back up...
any ideas??? thanksss so much (link)
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Ivory soap floats. Lame but thats all I can think of. :)
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I've been in High school now for about 3 months, and I can't stand it! With all the work and relationships changing, it's putting too much pressure on me! I'm doing horrible in Math, I've made a good friend but lately all we've been doing is talking about my other good friend behind her back and I feel INCREDIBLY guilty. I try to stop, but that one friend makes me so mad, she makes me say mean things about her behind her back. I also HATE getting up in the mornings. It's now impossible to wake me up. My mom gets so mad at me. All I want to do is stay home, I practically give up on school, but I'm trying not to because I want to learn. I've already missed 3 days of school, and I've been tardy about 4 times. I never was this bad in middle school. I only missed 2 days in 8th grade through the whole year. I can't do this. I'm also getting sick of my one friend who is ALWAYS in a bad mood now. She says it's school, but she doesn't need to take it out on me all the time! I really want to leave and go to a different school, but it would have to be a public school, and I've always attended a private school my whole life. I also don't think I'll make any friends because I'm so shy. I really need to relax, but I don't know how. I just want to get away from my 1 old friend, then everything will be ok. But how can I do that when I'm scared that she'll get amd at me? part of me wants to stay, but an even BIGGER part of me wants to leave! Thanks lots, and sorry... I complain a lot. =) (link)
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It takes a little while to get into the swing of high school, but you will.
Sounds like your biggest problem is the friends. Sounds like they don't like each other much. You need to tell your new friend that you will talk about anything under the sun except the old friend.
Just tell her it upsets you and you don't want to discuss her good OR bad.
Just make sure you have some good friends. If they get annoying, stop hanging around with them and find some new ones. You probably don't need to change schools just maybe the people you hang out with. :)
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Hi, I've never written to any sort of advice column before... infact I've never even read an advice column before. But I am at the point in my life where if I don't send something, or say something to somebody... I think dangerous things could happen.
I am 20 years old, and living in western Michigan. I won't tell you exactly where I am or who I am because I believe after I am done writing this, you could very possibly feel a need to send it to somebody who would probrably want to put me on medicine, or lock me up.
I have had a pretty decent life to be honest, up until the point when I hit 18 years of age. Some things about my life are pretty strange, like the fact that I started smoking cigarette butts I found on the street when I was about 9 years old. This makes me a smoker of about 11 years now. My parents got divorced when I was 6 years old. I've been on near every anti-depressing medication that I can think of, and on the few occassions since I've become an adult that I have thought about taking new medications to try someting new; the doctors usually have a hard time trying to figure out what I haven't already tried.
I've never cut myself, becuase I have never really had a thing for blood. But... I have tried to commit suicide on two occasions from my freshman year until present date. I have been in and out of psychologists trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I have tried to diagnose myself. And the only thing that can be brought us is uncontrollable depression. Or bipolar disease, but the medications don't help me.
I feel depressed every day. There is a cloud hanging over my head that makes me feel like life isn't worth living. It isn't that I am the type to walk around moping or pouting to myself. I don't listen to emo music and cry to myself in a corner about why life sucks. But I do usually sit quietly and think about if I would feel better dead.
Sometimes when I am sitting somewhere I will get angry with myself for being so weak. I clench my fists and try to fight back the tears because I don't like looking weak at any cost. I just keep on going, grunting and crying the whole time.
Depression for me takes on physical symptoms aswell. Such as my muscles spasming to the point where I sometimes quake. I feel much weaker than I am almost all the time and I have to pump my adrenaline throughw arm-up exercises just so that I can go to work without feeling like I can barely raise my arm.
I want to die... but I'm almost afraid of what will happen if I do kill myself. I don't want someone to talk me "out" of it. And I don't want someone's sympathy... But I would like to hear someone's thoughts.
I'll give you a little bit more about my history now, just so that you know. When I was in middleschool nothing phenominal happened to me. The worst part was that I got into fist fights alot. Because my school was dumb and didn't know what to do about me because of it they sent me to special education. My mother had to threaten to sue in order to get me out and transfer me to a different school.
In highschool I wasn't exactly popular, I mean I went to a school with a few thousand students so very few people were all that popular. But alot of people did seem to know my name for some reason and I couldn't explain it very often. I dated girls online mostly because I was too much of a pansy to approach them in person. One relationship in particular sticks out in my mind with a girl from another state that lasted about 3 years. Some of that time I was still in middleschool.
I truly fell in love with her emotionally. Of course there was very very little physical attachment save self induced.. but I truly can say she is the only person that I have ever met who I would do anything just to hold her for 10 minutes.
I tried looking for her once after we broke up and I lost contact with her. Finally after about a year of solid searching she logged in quite randomly to her old screen name... When I told her that all I wanted was to talk to her and know that she was okay and everything else... She wouldn't reply. So I sent her one more message that said basically if she needed me or wanted me to stay completely out of her life and stop looking for her then i would. And she sent me a message back... that was very short. It said "so be it."
That was one of the times I tried to kill myself. I took about half a bottle of sleeping pills because that is all there was left, and when I got done swallowing them all the next thing I remember is waking up about 3 days later. It's while I was living alone so nobody really noticed, except my work which fired me for it.
I spent the year after highschool living in my car and eating when I got a free meal at work at Mc Donalds. I saved my money to put gas in my car so I could run the heater in the winter. And occassionally I would rent a hotel room or something so that I could shower and do my laundry about twice a week. Shortly after that is when I tried to commit suicide the second time. I tried to suffocate myself with a can of compressed air which I was breathing in to cut off my oxygen level. The next thing I remember a friend was kicking my ribs until conciousness came back and then he proceeded to give me a bloody nose and a few other bruises because he figured out what I'd done.
I tried the college thing, and overdosed on street drugs a couple of times. I couldn't handle myself on any kind of drugs or too much alcohal, I would let it take me over and eventually I found myself waking up in a different bed every night and with no money. So I went into counseling and stopped.
Then I moved to Detroit and started a production company with a guy i met at college. He promised he'd pay for everything so the 1 year of college and no degree was no problem. We went there, he spent all his money on random crap he didn't need, and that fell through. So I started working 80 hours a week as a security guard. Then when I finally was about to get my own apt again I went back to get my furniture and my car broke down.
The place I worked wouldn't give me the moneyt hey owe me for the last month I worked there, so I couldn't fix the car and got stuck in Grand Rapids (ish).
Now I finally convinced my mother to let me move into her basement temporarily, and convinced my dad to call one of the companies he does business with (because he's a pretty big boss at a disel mechanic shop) and he got me a job at a tire company.
And now here I am... spending every night praying that God, or whoever, or whatever might be listening would come and steal my life while I sleep so that I don't wake again... And while I am awake I think about how I could kill myself without it physically hurting too horribly much.
Once again I say that I don't want pity, I don't want doctors, I don't want medicine... I don't even want hope or a way "out" of it... I just want to know what your thoughts are from reading this. A response would be high appreciated.
Sincerly yours.
Kissing The Bullet Goodbye -
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Depression is a very tough thing for some people to get past. I do know you can be helped it just may take some time. That in itself is depressing I know.
I do know that some medications can take up to 30 days to really help you. Some need to be in your system for a while. So even though you don't want to try all that again, it may be you need to give it more time. It would really be worthwhile if it worked.
It sounds, by the size of the school went to, that it has probably been easy for you to hide. Don't do that. Be around family and friends as much as possible. Sitting all by yourself won't help depression. Try to keep busy. Work, go to movies,
just be active.
Tell a doctor about your physical symptoms. Those too can be helped.
Fight the urges to give up. They are the result of the depression and you know that. Get help where you can and never give up.
Don't blame yourself or get angry because you are feeling bad. It isn't your fault you feel
depressed.
Suicide is never the answer. If you can't stop the feeling of wanting to kill yourself for you, think of others. Think of what it would do to your parents. They would blame themselves. Your mom or whoever found you would be devastated for the rest of her life.
I am sure nothing I said will help much. I do hope you find something that will work for you. Never give up looking for it. :)
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Hi my name is jay i have a major crush on a girl I have been thinking aboute asking here out but i just can't thinck of how to say it I NEED HELP!!! (link)
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Keep it simple. Just say "will you go out with me" or if you are wanting her to somewhere in particular with you, "would you like to go to a movie with me on Saturday?"
Good luck!
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I'm really athletic, but I have recently became anorexic. The thing is I don't want it to make me weak or have trouble running and stuff. Do you think it will effect me?? (link)
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It will defiantly affect you. It can kill you for starters. You will get weak. Your teeth will rot.
your bones will become brittle. Your organs will stop working.
Please seek help before that happens.
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13/F
Is it ok to not know if you like your guy friend or not, and then go on a date? Just to see if it works out. If not, is it okay to say no to a second date?
Thanks! (link)
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That is a very good way to do it.
That is the way it is supposed to work.
It just seems these days that in order to go out with someone, people think they have to be a "couple". Not true at all.
So go out. If it just doesn't feel right, politely say that you want to stay friends but dating is just to weird! :)
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Me and my boyfriend have had sex, but I have never bled and I really don't believe he's popped my cherry... but my period's late. Could I possibly be pregnant even though he hasn't popped it? I'm a 16 year old girl... (link)
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A lot of girls break their hymens when they are young without realizing it. Not all bleed the first time they have sex for that reason.
That being said, you could indeed be pregnant. If you have symptoms get a home test or go to your local planned parenthood or health department for one.
Here is a site that has symptoms and information for you.
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm
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how should i condition for soccer? im 14/m and play at a varsity level. i was wondering what foods to eat and what exercises to do. thanks in advance...ive always enjoyed your advice. (link)
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I don't think I would be much help on this one. I do know someone who would be though. He is banned at the moment but should be back, probably tomorrow evening. I am afraid I might give you the wrong advice.
We are lucky to have a personal trainer as an adviser. He knows what he is talking about and I would trust him to give you the best advice on this subject.
Look up mikecft. Since he is banned I can't pull up his link for you. Just go to the search columnist link in the blue column tomorrow evening and pull him up. If for some reason you can't get it let me know and I will hunt it down for you. :)
Glad you like my advice. Sure wish I knew your answer. :)
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