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wat should i do!
ummmm well im a 15/f and i think that i may be pregnant and i know for sure that if i am and i tell the daddy he's going to say it not his(he's a bitch). Now normally i dont believe in abortion but i dont kno wat to do i mean my mom would be mad but she would help me but i dont know if im ready! they said that i can have it and take care of it, get an abortion, or adoption but i dont want to kill the baby or give it to someone els! im very confused! if i am how or should i tell the father??? should i keep it??? plz help me i dont know wat i should do!!!
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first off calm down and relax. this is a sticky situation, but it's not an impossible one. you need to stick to your guns. if you don't want to have an abortion or put the baby up for adoption, then don't! this is your baby and this is your choice.
having a dad in someone's life is a great thing, but it's not a neccesity. tell him, even if he is a prick. he still has a right to know. if he denies it, don't push him. you and they baby is wayy better off without him anyways.
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Actually I've been in your situation except I was 14 when I found out I was pg. You need to sit down with your mom and tell her whats going on. Then she can help you in getting tested because its better to know what your dealing with before you go to your bf about any of it. Of course the thought of having a baby is scarey and yes you have options. I opted to keep my daughter who is now almost 14 years old. A child is a huge responsiblity but if you are indeed pregnant and keep the child life will go on and you will figure things out. They (babies) make things more difficult but not impossible like alot of people tend to say. If you would like to talk about this further please feel free to IM me.
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you should probuly figure out if you pregnet first
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I can understand your confusion. If you trust your mom, talk to her. Let her help you make this decision. She knows you much better than we do and this is something you definitely need help with.
Telling the father at this point is up to you. Do you still date him? If you do and plan to continue dating him then he needs to be told. If you are not dating him then as said before me, wait until you
make the decision. They do have DNA testing. so he can deny it all day until you have that done. It will tell the truth of it. :)
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I am sorry to read that you are stuck in such an awful position. I think you should talk to planned parenthood and ask them for the advice you need. They will have people trained in helping young girls make the decision that is right for them at that particular time of their life.
It is good that you feel your Mum will support you in whatever decision you make and if, as you say, the father will deny it is his, then there is no point in telling him until you have made your decision.
As a starting point, why not write down all the pros and cons of having this baby - seeing it all down in black and white may help. You need to consider your age, your family circumstances, any ambitions you may have, the help that you will receive - anything that will have an impact on your life.
If you decide that having a baby is not right for you right now, then, hard as it might be, you will have to consider abortion.
I hope that I have been of some help. I wish you all the very best and hope that whatever happens, you will be happy. Take care.
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