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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i have had about a few girls who confessed their love or infatuation towards me but the thing is i'm not the type of guy that falls into love easily like most ppl(no offense) and I just wanna be friends.so how do i reject a gal in the most polite,friendly and casual way?

Just tell her that it's nice that she's interested, but you're not looking for a girlfriend right now.

ok, so i like this guy and hes a year younger then me tho, for some reason i like him but he treats me terrible, he talks about me and stuff. His best friend is in love with me, and its kinda weird because me and the guy that i like were friends but now that he found out i like him, he hates me. i cant stop liking him but idk what to do. i see him about 4 times a day and its really awkward, i just want things to be the way they used too. i just need an oppinion. i tried to say sorry to him becuase my friends always like goo "" ooooo" in front of him and like go up to him, so thats why he hates me because of my friends anoying him. i tried to say sorry by a note because i never get to talk to him, but he just through the note away. plz help what should i do??? thxxx

He probably doesn't know how to cope with it & your friends also have something to do with it apparently. When you see him, talk to him. Just be like "Please don't walk away, this is important." Then tell him how sorry you are about how things are going & you didn't mean for it to be this way.

As for your annoying little friends, tell them to stop before you're not talking to them. It gets annoying when they do that & they're not helping anything at all. They're just making things worse for you & him altogether, so they need to chill out. Sounds mean to say to them, but they need to hear it.

what are some bands that sound like:
plain white t's
panic! at the disco
this providence
the classic crime

=]

This is probably going to be long because I'm taking the music section from my MySpace & posting it here for you. Haha. Some of the bands you listed might be on there, but that should be fine. Here you go:

30 seconds to mars.

A
aiden.
avril lavigne.
anti-flag.
atreyu.
armor for sleep.
avenged sevenfold.
against me!
all time low.
anberlin.
afi.
a fading memory.
a kiss could be deadly.
a static lullaby.
a heartwell ending.
and then i turned seven.

B
brand new.
breaking benjamin.
bloc party.
blink 182.
bright eyes.
boys like girls.

C
cute is what we aim for.
cobra starship.
cartel.
chiodos.
coheed & cambria
chevelle.
crossfade.

D
down to earth approach.
dashboard confessional.

E
endless hallways.
envy on the coast.
escape the fate.
evanescence.
eighteen visions.

F.
flyleaf.
fall out boy.
four letter lie.
from first to last.

G
gwen stefani.
gym class heroes.
greeley estates.
gatsby's american dream.

H
hinder.
hellogoodbye.
head automatica.
hollywood undead.
heavy heavy low low.
him.
hawthorne heights.
hot hot heat.

I
i am ghost.

J
jack's mannequin.
jimmy eat world.

K
kill hannah.

L
lostprophets.
linkin park.

M
my chemical romance.
men women & children.
matchbook romance.
millencolin.
motion city soundtrack.

N
new found glory

O
ok go.

P
paramore.
plain white t's.
papa roach.
panic! at the disco.

Q
queens of the stoneage.

R
rise against.

S
senses fail.
saosin.
sum 41.
say anything.
sugarcult.
saves the day.
straylight run.
slipknot.
safety in rumors.
smile empty soul.
self against city.
silverstein.

T
taking back sunday.
the red jumpsuit apparatus.
the used.
the matches.
three days grace.
third eye blind.
three doors down.
the all-american rejects.
the academy is...
the higher.
this providence.
the number twelve looks like you.
the fall of troy.
the postal service.
the hush sound.
the killers.
the sounds.
the almost.
the fray.
the fully down.
thursday.
thrice.
the faint.
the black dahlia murder.
the click five.
the raconteurs.

U
underoath.

Ok, during lunch we have a friend, and she always goes over to these guys table. She eats her lunch at our table then leaves so she doesnt have to eat it over ther. our table is really getting fed up with it, and she just doesnt get the hint. She claims that were her best friends and that shes there friends too, but i swear there isnt one day when she hasnt sat at our table for about 5 min then leaves and we dont see her til end of the day. when ever we bring it up she gets all defensive and stuff. The lunch lady even got after her for switching tables everyday, my friend was so embarrassed she started crying, yet that just diddnt seem to be enough so she still goes over there. Gosh cant she get a clue aobut this? what should we say to her to let her know that these guys prolly dont even want her over there nemore. ugh thxxx

Talk to her about it some more. I mean, don't jump down her throat about it & get an attitude with her. Just tell her that she can't keep ditching you for those guys & it gets annoying & that you guys are hardly seeing her anymore.

If she doesn't seem to get it, just let her do what she wants. You're going to get ditched, yes, but you also need to learn to accept that you guys are not the only friends that she has & she's just expanding her horizons. You're going to do it too someday. And besides, you guys aren't always going to be sitting together for the rest of middle school or high school. You're gonna meet new people & eventually split up. You need accept change as it comes, whether it's something you like or not.

Why is it that most of the time, it's said that girls are complicated? Why not guys because I personally think that they are, if not more, as complicated as us girls.

I'm not sure. Maybe when you see it, a guy is saying it. But we're both equally complicated. There is no getting around that.

Okay, there are these guys in my bio class... they beat on me. mainly this one guy... and at one point, they kicked my ankle, and now its swollen and has a weird angle to it. I think it might be sprained. The other day, I was worried about hitting my head, and cracking it open from the force of the kicking/hitting/shoving.
anyway, I'm really sick of dealing with them. Is there a quick and painless way to kill myself, without overdosing? I'm not scared of cosmetic pain, because I used to cut all the time, though I was trying to stop. So any method you can think of???

Instead of killing yourself, find an authoritative figure & tell them. They can get you help & get these boys away from you. Tell your parents, tell your principal, your counselors, your teachers, your friends, whoever you need to tell, tell them! They are the ones that help you majorly because killing yourself is not the way. Trust me. Besides, if you do that, you're just letting them win & that's not what you want.

ok. so ive been going out with this guy for like a week know. i liked him for about a month before we went out and yeah. but anyway hes kinda the prep type and i liked him better like that but last night we went to the movies and hung out and all that and he like looked emo in a way. like he was wearing this black shirt with a skull on it and these like black shoes and it was really weird. idk it was kind of a turn off. should i tell him that? or just go along with it? i mean i dont want to sound like someone who judges someone just how they dress but its really unexpected from him and hes not really that type. it doesnt really fit the way he is. what should i do?

If you're going to judge him based on what he was wearing instead of how he acts & treats you, then that makes you shallow & you should probably dump him because you don't deserve him.

It's not what you wanna hear, but it's the truth.

I'm so tired and slightly angry at my friends! Today is one of the busiest days of my life, I have to download over 50 videos on Mega Upload for today only because the owner of the videos said that she's going to dlete the links tonight!

I only downloaded about probably 10 until it said I cna't download anymore in like 4 hours. Then I thought "HEY! My best friends could download some for me, and then send them to me on msn!"

When I asked them, they're both liek "ugh..."

I am so ticked off! Sometimes I can't sleep just to think all night of how to wokr out this problem to hlep them with their homework and help them with their stuff but yet they can't do a little thign for me?

Can anyone think of things to calm me down and feel better about this and probably not cry about the videos? thanks for caring

I know exactly how this feels. I do things for my brother all the time, sometimes without him even asking; although yet when I want a favor done for me, it's almost impossible for him to do it even if he's right there, like today:

He was across the street & the girl who lives there was borrowing some clothes of mine. I called him & asked if he could get them for me, and he declared "No." and when I said "Why!? You're right there!" He said "I just don't feel like it." and I said to him "Well, when you want something, I definitely won't feel like doing that for you either."

And I'm not doing things for him anymore until he can learn to appreciate the shit I do for him. I mean, yes it's nice to do things for somebody else, but it's also nice to get acknowleged for it & to have someone do something nice for you as well. So basically, don't do things for them. Tell them that what they need is not your problem & you're sick of being nice without getting at least a nice thing done in return for you. If they get mad, then they're two faced.

Is it possible to drink TOO much water? If so, why??

Yes, it's very much possible. If you drink too much all at once without using the bathroom, you can die from it.

I'm not exactly sure why, but I know you can die from it. But anyways, if you plan on drinking water, don't drink too much.

14/f and he's 15/m and we're both in 9th grade. This is really immature and childish but can you just read and answer for me, please?
So, there is this guy [let's call him Scott]. He's bi/gay and he's a major drama queen [no pun intended]. He'll get mad over the slightest thing. For instance, he got mad at my bffl because he always wore the same jacket. He got mad and started yelling at me b/c I didn't bring a cookie b/c I forgot. He drags me to the lunch line every other day and basically orders me to buy him food with my money.

Well, about a week ago, he suddenly called on Monday after school and said he was going to come over right that instant. I said no because I had homework and a violin lesson later that night. Then he said that all I did was homework and that I needed to get a life and be a teenager. Well, we went back and forth saying yes, no, yes, no. Well, about two days ago, my other friend and I were going down the hallways and I jokingly said that I was going to come to his house one day and he said that I already lost my chance? I was like okay then...but then he seriously went into full drama mode and said "If you don't hang out after school, I'm not going to talk to you." Or something like that. So I finally snapped and got so pissed off because he was getting mad at me for controlling my own life. So I told him that if he wanted to be a b*tch then he could be a b*tch and walked off.

Well, I don't really care that he's mad at me and I'm glad that I'm free from his drama because frankly, I was sick of tolerating him making me buy him food, yelling at me, and getting mad at me for stupid things. Right now, he's going around saying that I'm being a b*tch and overreacting and making a scene...when I'm ignoring everything. So, my question is am I overreacting? Is it reasonable for me to be mad at him?

Sorry this was so long.

No, you're definitely not overreacting. I'm surprised it took you this long to snap though. Knowing me, I would've snapped the first time he DEMANDED I buy him lunch. Seriously, just stop being his friend. You'll be so much better off & there'll be NO drama for you.

i need some really good techno songs. just like i don't know but good ones with words not just music. & dont say cascada. songs and djs!

I don't know any songs by this artist, but my friend recommended him to me, so he must be good. My friend is really big on Techno music.

Eamon.

Hi i'm a teenage girl who has given up on relationships and everything else in life.

Before i commit suicide i want to have a hookup with someone.

How do I go about getting a hookup with a guy who won't hurt me or abuse me?

thx

Are you kidding me? You want to kill yourself because nothing is going right for you? Don't take this the wrong way, but you're pathetic.

Life is not going to get better if you run away from it & do NOTHING to solve your problems. If you keep hiding from things, they're never going to change, and they're just going to get worse. Instead of trying to take the easy way out, try to make shit better for yourself.

If family isn't working out for you, try to stay with someone else. If things with them are rocky, try to make up with them & fix things. Things won't get better if you don't talk them out. Keeping everything inside just makes things worse & will not help you at all.

If you've got no friends, make some! It's not hard to do at all. You've just gotta be yourself, and be positive. Nobody wants to be around a negative person. Be honest to yourself & to others. Nobody likes a liar. And just do what makes you happy. If people cannot accept you, that is their bad & you shouldn't try to kill yourself because of it. There are others who will accept you when others don't.

If school isn't working out for you, try to get homeschooled. If you cannot afford that, stick it out. Just keep your mind focused on things that matter: education & success. Do your homework, take notes & do your work in quiet places. Ask questions, stay after for help. Join sports & clubs. Things can get better but you've gotta make the effort to make it happen. If you sit back & watch, life is gonna pass you by & fuck you over.

If guys don't like you for some reason, then they're stupid & they're missing out on what's important. Let them go for the slutty girls who'll break their hearts. Let them feel exactly what you do from a distance. One day a guy will fall in love with you, but you can't just give up because no one seems to right now. That's dumb. And as much as it's hard to believe, guys are NO ONE at this age. You don't need them right now. They can come in for you later. If you can, try to date around though. See the different types of people out there. Set your standards high, meet new people, see new faces. Do new things! Life is about chances & risks -- you've just gotta be ready & willing to do it.

Don't kill yourself though. That's stupid & it won't help anything. You can do so much. You can be somebody. You don't have to be another statistic. Be the person that finds the cure for AIDS or Cancer. Be the next Einstein. Be the next Ivan Pavlov, or Erik Erikson if that's what it takes! Just don't kill yourself. Life can be a wild ride but that's the fun of it. If you kill yourself, you'll be missing out on what life has to offer & you'll look stupid. Besides, once you kill yourself, you can't get your life back. That's it, it's over. Think about it.

Ok well heres my sittuation.
I have a bf and hes in anyones eyes great. He treats me very very well, is very nice, and i can tell him anything. The thing is, I don't really like him that much. We've only been going out for a week. And i really didn't want to go out with him in the first place but i just couldn't turn him down b.c hes super nice and he really likes me.
I know that sounds weird but this kid is seriously really really nice and sweet - i have no idea why i dont like him like him.

Well yeah so theres him which i barly even like, and then we have an ex that i like very very much. Its been over a year, and not too long ago we tried starting up things but he just stopped talking to me pretty much. But i relaly really like him, like A LOT. I really just want him back. But we never really talk and hes kinda a douch half the time. SO yeah your prob. wondering why i don't like the nice guy, and do like the dick? welll i ask myself the same question.
Urgh it just stresses me out and i have no idea what to do :/

If the relationship with the ex didn't work out the first time, it probably won't work out this time either. So, you probably shouldn't go through with it. You'll save yourself from protential heart-break.

Basically, keep dating your current boyfriend for a little while longer. If no feelings develop, then break up him with & consider yourselves better as friends.

So theres this guy that I once went out with but he cheated on me with a girl not even a week later. We got into an argument and he said that he didn't regret it. This happened almost a year ago and he had had a girlfriend for 4 months and recently broke up. Now he claims that he was really sorry and only yelled at me because he didn't konw what else to do. I know it sounds stupid but he was talking to a friend of mine and she sent me the conversation and it seems as if he's being sincere and honest. He said that he regrets breaking up with me and cheating on me and its the biggest mistake of his life. At first I said serves him right, but now that we talk alot more, I'm starting to like him again.. I know its wrong and some people think I should give him another try but I'm kinda nervous and I kind of like him but I don't. It's hard to decide what to do and hoping someone could help me and maybe relate to my problem. Also, that girl he just broke up with after a rocky 4 months for them went out with him when I liked him. So do you think it's alright if I were to go back out with him? Would that be something really backstabbing to her? I'm also afraid that he heard that I would do stuff with him and maybe the only reason that he's talking to me alot more is because he just wants action. I'd rather be just a hookup then being used and pretended that he likes me. Sorry this was so long, haha, but I appreciate the help! Oh and I'm a 16/f :)

If you believe in second chancses, give him one. If you want the truth, tell your friend to ask him if you're just a hookup, or better yet -- ask him yourself. But give him a second chance if you think he deserves one, & hopefully he won't fuck you over again. Good luck.

lately i havent been eating anything because the public pool opens in 2 weeks and i dont want to look fat in my swimsuit. please help me. i dont know what to do.

You're going to get an eating disorder by not eating.

Just exercise, eat healthy & drink water. Don't eat fast foods or junk food & stop drinking sodas. It's a lot easier than killing yourself daily by skipping meals.

soo, today, this kid whos like super popular, but i dont really know, asked me out. and i was yano excited, obviously. but i didnt know what to say, because i dont know him too well. and i like to get to know people, before i date them.

but anyways, i was all excited to tell one of my friends, well, one of my best friends, about it. and shes like.. well can this wait? im playing a game. and i was like.. you dont wanna hear about it? its hugeee. and shes like, one second. and so i was kinda just kidding when i said this, i was like fine =P if my love life isnt that important then who cares. =P. and shes like, yeah i know, glad you realize that, kayy brb! and i was like.. wtff.

and so right now im not talking to her.
but, i know that sounds kinda stupid, to get mad over that kinda thing, but shes one of those people who, talk behind alot of peoples back, doesnt care if your mad at her, and says whatever sshe wants. and alottt of people dont like her. but i always have. but now, idno. because she probably talks about me, because she talks about everyone else.

and i cant really talk to her, because like i said, she just doesnt care.

so basically, should i ditch her? or what?

If you can't talk to her about this, then yes -- ditch her. Like you said, she's probably running her mouth about you behind your back & saying shit. You'd save yourself from that.

Give me some fighting tips...im a female and i wanna kick this bitches ass...i need tips...dont answer this if ur gonna say no you dont need to fight her.

I'm not gonna tell you that you don't need to fight her because even though you don't need to, you're probably gonna get pissy about it.

Anyways, if you can't fight & you need tips, chances are this girl could probably kick your ass. If she can't fight either, it could be an easy fight.

Just listen to music that makes you mad & gets your adrenaline running, and then find her in slam her head into a wall or something. Refrain from scratching, biting or pinching because you'll look pathetic trying to fight someone that way. It's all about punching, kicking & stomping.

So some friends and i are thinking of a school prank, nothing damaging or something that would ruin anything but what are the consequences if you got caught on school property? Or if your caught in the act, what would the legal cosequences be? Were 15 if it helps.

Well, it depends on what you do, where you go to school & how harsh they are & how much they enforce rules. Anything can happen. You can get suspended, maybe even deal with cops [but hopefully that won't occur]. I think the worse that'll happen is that you'll get suspended for a bit.

And you've gotta have a clear conscience. If you do this prank & it turns out that the school doesn't happn to find it funny, then they'll probably be looking for who did it. Usually when you're getting into trouble you wanna speak up, but you can't make it look obvious you did it when someone mentions it.

Hey. I'm thirteen, female. Don't get me wrong, I despize labels more than anything in the world, and I try not to use them, but for this question, I think they're the only way someone could understand. I used to be really really really 'preppy'. And like I only got clothes from Abercrombie and Hollister, and I was literally afraid of hot topic. And I labeled everyone and I never wore black, always pink. Now, I really like the 'emo' stuff, rather than the 'prep' stuff. See, I tried just wearing what I like, and doing what I like, ect. But, then I got in a HUGE fight with like 4 people and all of them told me I was 'fake' and a 'poser' when I was just doing what I wanted, and they told me to be myself, when finally, I was. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't like preppy stuff anymore, but everytime put an 'emo' quote in my profile, my friend always copy&pastes it and asks me about it, like, 'who's that to' or something, you know, just giving me a hard time about it. She thinks she's so much 'smarter' than me becuas she's in 8th grade and I'm in 7th. I really don't know what to do anymore. Please help me, I do rate.

If people around you cannot accept the changes you're making, then they're lame & you shouldn't associate with them. I can see where they're coming from though. I'm not saying you're fake, or that you're a poser, but a change like that can be hard to get used to. They're still "coping" with the fact that you're no longer a stuck up princess.

Do what makes you happy though. If you wanna be emo, go ahead. And you can still shop at those stores you used to because they have a lot of cute things there. If anyone had to label me, they would probably call me scene, but to myself, I don't really have a label. I wear what I want & shop where I want.

But in all honestly, forget about them; do what you wanna do. Don't let people put you down or hold you back. If you do that, you're just letting them win. Stand up for yourself & don't take anyone's shit.

13/f

this is gonna be long..

okay. so my best friend's name is jess. she's been my best friend since 4th grade. well, in about october of last year, she decided to get a new best friend [katie] & kick me to second place. i was really really hurt because i never thought i would lose her. i still call her my best friend because she truly is my best friend.

i've tried so hard to get her back but nothing works. i want my best friend back. i have talked to her about it numerous times. she says katie has never had a best friend so now it's her turn to be in the "spotlight". did jess stop & think about our friendship? about how i would feel? about how this affects me? of course not. it's basically like she felt sorry for katie so now they're best friends. does she even care about what she did to me? doesn't seem like it. i really don't understand why she would do that to me.

i want my best friend back more than anything. i would do anything to have things back to the way they used to be. i feel so left out & isolated around them because they completely ignore me when we all hang out together. so now i have no best friend & i've felt betrayed, sad, mad, disappointed, & confused for the last 8 months. i'm beginning to think i'll never get her back. i will seriously cry if i don't [i have cried many times over this problem already].

please don't say stop trying or move on. i really don't want to. thanks to anyone that can help me. i'm crying as i type this.

i hate my life.

Okay, listen to what you just said:

"did jess stop & think about our friendship? about how i would feel? about how this affects me? of course not. it's basically like she felt sorry for katie so now they're best friends. does she even care about what she did to me? doesn't seem like it. i really don't understand why she would do that to me."

If your friend cared about your friendship, she would've been Katie's friend, but kept you both as good friends. If she was your friend, she would've thought about your feelings & talked to you about it first. If she was your friend, she wouldn't push you to second place & if she was your friend, she would care about what she's done.

Like you said, it obviously seems like she doesn't, so she basically does not value the friendship anymore. I'm not gonna tell you to stop trying & move on, but I am going to tell you to rethink this friendship over because she's clearly a bad friend & she doesn't deserve you. And also; never make your life revolve around a certain friend. There's lots of other people to be close with. And you should never have a best friend. It could be like saying none of the others are good enough to be the best.

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