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confused about a boy
So theres this guy that I once went out with but he cheated on me with a girl not even a week later. We got into an argument and he said that he didn't regret it. This happened almost a year ago and he had had a girlfriend for 4 months and recently broke up. Now he claims that he was really sorry and only yelled at me because he didn't konw what else to do. I know it sounds stupid but he was talking to a friend of mine and she sent me the conversation and it seems as if he's being sincere and honest. He said that he regrets breaking up with me and cheating on me and its the biggest mistake of his life. At first I said serves him right, but now that we talk alot more, I'm starting to like him again.. I know its wrong and some people think I should give him another try but I'm kinda nervous and I kind of like him but I don't. It's hard to decide what to do and hoping someone could help me and maybe relate to my problem. Also, that girl he just broke up with after a rocky 4 months for them went out with him when I liked him. So do you think it's alright if I were to go back out with him? Would that be something really backstabbing to her? I'm also afraid that he heard that I would do stuff with him and maybe the only reason that he's talking to me alot more is because he just wants action. I'd rather be just a hookup then being used and pretended that he likes me. Sorry this was so long, haha, but I appreciate the help! Oh and I'm a 16/f :)
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a question you should ask youself is "if you can really trust him again". (i am a guy and i personally think all guys that cheat should get their balls cut off but that's just me) i do believe in second chances but when i guy cheats it just really sucks and can get really messy. i'd say if you really are going to give him a second chance but you're not sure if he is just going out with you just to get action, you should take it really slow with him. if he really want to go out with you because he really likes you, it will show. i'm not saying if you say "wait" to him he's going to go "okay, just tell me when" he's a guy, guy's like action. but what i'm saying is that he won't tell you he'll brake up with you if you don't or something like that. like someone said before me, "once a cheater always a cheater". there is a chance he could cheat again. but there is also a chance that he saw his mistake and regrets it enough not to do it again, you never know. if you do decide to go out with him i hope you don't regret it and same the other way around. hope i could've helped in some small way.
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If you believe in second chancses, give him one. If you want the truth, tell your friend to ask him if you're just a hookup, or better yet -- ask him yourself. But give him a second chance if you think he deserves one, & hopefully he won't fuck you over again. Good luck.
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wow, i was in a similiar situation about a year ago. and trust me on this, do NOT give him another chance. once a cheater, always a cheater. this guy sounds like a complete idiot. i don't know if it would be really "backstabbing" his ex, but she'd probably be upset, it's not worth it.
there's plenty of other guys out there sweetie, just give it a little time and the right guy will come along :)
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