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i want my best friend back.
13/f
this is gonna be long..
okay. so my best friend's name is jess. she's been my best friend since 4th grade. well, in about october of last year, she decided to get a new best friend [katie] & kick me to second place. i was really really hurt because i never thought i would lose her. i still call her my best friend because she truly is my best friend.
i've tried so hard to get her back but nothing works. i want my best friend back. i have talked to her about it numerous times. she says katie has never had a best friend so now it's her turn to be in the "spotlight". did jess stop & think about our friendship? about how i would feel? about how this affects me? of course not. it's basically like she felt sorry for katie so now they're best friends. does she even care about what she did to me? doesn't seem like it. i really don't understand why she would do that to me.
i want my best friend back more than anything. i would do anything to have things back to the way they used to be. i feel so left out & isolated around them because they completely ignore me when we all hang out together. so now i have no best friend & i've felt betrayed, sad, mad, disappointed, & confused for the last 8 months. i'm beginning to think i'll never get her back. i will seriously cry if i don't [i have cried many times over this problem already].
please don't say stop trying or move on. i really don't want to. thanks to anyone that can help me. i'm crying as i type this.
i hate my life.
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i am in exactely the same predicament. its awful ive cried too.
im having alot of friend issues too. ok here are some of my tips:
1) talk to her, in person, a real talk, basically tell her the things you told me, but try not to be accusing otherwise shell get angry at you.
2) this is very dangerouse this to do as it could get you in even worse so dont do it unless you know it will work. talk to the new "best friend". but still BE NICE
3) get a few new friends, talk to them about your other best friend, become friends with them. the new friendship will help ease the pain, also (and pls dont think im saying to use ur new friends) they may get your old best friend to notice you. if she says, you have a new best friend now? what about me? tell her that you were really sad cos you thought she didnt want to be best friends anymore so you got someone else to be friends with. say you have always wanted to be her best friend and still want to but you thought she didnt want to be...really have a heart to heart...although i still havnt gotten my best frind back.. it bin two years but i have lots of new friends now and that helps..
gd luck.
the key to any relationshoip is communication.
gd luck
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uhm.....are you in love with this girl...fuk her....she ditched you so therefore she doesnt deserve you....it seems like u guys are a little too close or you are n love with her.
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Okay, listen to what you just said:
"did jess stop & think about our friendship? about how i would feel? about how this affects me? of course not. it's basically like she felt sorry for katie so now they're best friends. does she even care about what she did to me? doesn't seem like it. i really don't understand why she would do that to me."
If your friend cared about your friendship, she would've been Katie's friend, but kept you both as good friends. If she was your friend, she would've thought about your feelings & talked to you about it first. If she was your friend, she wouldn't push you to second place & if she was your friend, she would care about what she's done.
Like you said, it obviously seems like she doesn't, so she basically does not value the friendship anymore. I'm not gonna tell you to stop trying & move on, but I am going to tell you to rethink this friendship over because she's clearly a bad friend & she doesn't deserve you. And also; never make your life revolve around a certain friend. There's lots of other people to be close with. And you should never have a best friend. It could be like saying none of the others are good enough to be the best.
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I've been in exactly the same situation. My best friend of 10 years started ignoring me and hanging out with a new girl who she started calling her "best friend." I was devastated and hated her for awhile, but then I figured the best way to show her what a good friend I was would be to stay just that: a good friend. Eventually her new BFF dumped her and she came back to me. She realized what a jerk she had been and apologized like crazy. I know your situation may be different but I still think the best thing to do is to always show what a good friend you are...and if she really values your friendship it will turn out alright. (CH)
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well laura first off you do have a best friend, me. well at least your guy best friend. you shouldnt hate ur life. you need to love life. sometimes it gunna throw shit at you that your really gunna hate. this is 1 case. i really wish i waz with you when you typed this cause im ready to help you get through all the shit life throws at you. the only thing i think you could do now is leave them be and mabey she will think its time for katie to be out of the spotlight soon. and dont take any shit from her. you say they always ignore you when you guys hang out. well dont take anymore of that shit. you gotta take charge, get their attention and keep their attention. show jess how much you really want her bak as your best friend and prove to her why you make the better best friend. thats all i can say.
if you already didnt figure out its hunter.
i really hope i helped
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