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13/f
this is gonna be long..
okay. so my best friend's name is jess. she's been my best friend since 4th grade. well, in about october of last year, she decided to get a new best friend [katie] & kick me to second place. i was really really hurt because i never thought i would lose her. i still call her my best friend because she truly is my best friend.
i've tried so hard to get her back but nothing works. i want my best friend back. i have talked to her about it numerous times. she says katie has never had a best friend so now it's her turn to be in the "spotlight". did jess stop & think about our friendship? about how i would feel? about how this affects me? of course not. it's basically like she felt sorry for katie so now they're best friends. does she even care about what she did to me? doesn't seem like it. i really don't understand why she would do that to me.
i want my best friend back more than anything. i would do anything to have things back to the way they used to be. i feel so left out & isolated around them because they completely ignore me when we all hang out together. so now i have no best friend & i've felt betrayed, sad, mad, disappointed, & confused for the last 8 months. i'm beginning to think i'll never get her back. i will seriously cry if i don't [i have cried many times over this problem already].
please don't say stop trying or move on. i really don't want to. thanks to anyone that can help me. i'm crying as i type this.
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i am in exactely the same predicament. its awful ive cried too.
im having alot of friend issues too. ok here are some of my tips:
1) talk to her, in person, a real talk, basically tell her the things you told me, but try not to be accusing otherwise shell get angry at you.
2) this is very dangerouse this to do as it could get you in even worse so dont do it unless you know it will work. talk to the new \"best friend\". but still BE NICE
3) get a few new friends, talk to them about your other best friend, become friends with them. the new friendship will help ease the pain, also (and pls dont think im saying to use ur new friends) they may get your old best friend to notice you. if she says, you have a new best friend now? what about me? tell her that you were really sad cos you thought she didnt want to be best friends anymore so you got someone else to be friends with. say you have always wanted to be her best friend and still want to but you thought she didnt want to be...really have a heart to heart...although i still havnt gotten my best frind back.. it bin two years but i have lots of new friends now and that helps..
gd luck.
the key to any relationshoip is communication.
gd luck
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whats a wife beater? (link)
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it depends
a wife beater si either
A) a mean who beats his wife
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B) a type of sleevless shirt.
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I was babysitting this ten year old... he was bein a brat and wouldnt go to sleep... my girlfriend was there and we couldnt have any time alone... so we had coke n we did it cause we were gonna have to stay up to watch him... he said he wanted to try so we let him... he started running around and actin like an indian... we got a pipe and some pot and smoked... he wanted to try but when he did he coughed n said he didnt want to do it... i told him if he didnt he would die... so we smoked 3 bowls with him and he got sleepy and went to bed... I feel bad that i gave this kid drugs... His parents never found out... what should i do??? (link)
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I cant believe you gave drugs to this kid??!?!?!!!!!!
what kind of babysitter are you? god i hope that kid tells his parents that you gave him drugs! i think u should tell his parents. Or your parents for that matter. Seriosly get some councelling.. and dont you ever go near a child again.
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I started to babysit for money. But there's this evil little kid that is very young (only 6!!) but is verrry perverted. He watches rated R movies, fastforwarding to sex scenes, and he's always trying to touch my parts. I'm 15!! How gross is that?! I told his parents about it, but they wouldn't believe me. He acts like an angel in front of them I guess. I yell at him and everything, but nothing works!!
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i feel really sorry for you,
i agree witht he camera idea but you might not be ale to do it and chances are hell notice .
I would say, turn of the dvds of put them in a place he cant reach, or if they dont belong to the parents show them to them. explain calmy everything they need to know and say why would you make this up and your really sorry but if this continues you will quit but you really dont want to becuase you enjoy babysitting.
gd luck,
that kids a creep!
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Hi,
I am a home daycare provider. I have been taking care of a 2 year old, Mikey, for almost 2 years now. I NEVER call in sick, I am very dependable. The only time in almost 2 years I have EVER called in is when I had to be hospitalized for 3 days. And even then, I got a back-up sitter so the parents didn't have to miss work. I am cheap too. $100 a week for a 2 year old is unheard of! I am very loyal and loving to all of my daycare kids. I have grown very attached to Mikey, I love him as if he were my own.
I am a very passive person. I let people walk all over me and I know it. I never say what's on my mind, in fear that I will lose the kids or cause an argument. But in this case, I have had it!
I have my own child, who is very sick right now. He needed to see a doctor yesterday. I understand that being a daycare provider means that you have to be dependable, and I am. I put the daycare kids first and waited to take my kid to the doctor until all the other kids were gone to take him to after hours care.
I discovered that my son has strep throat and an ear infection. Strep is very contagious!
Trying to do the right thing, I called all the parents and told them that my son had strep. Being that all the kids were here yesterday anyway, they were probably already exposed. I told the parents that their children are more than welcome to attend daycare, but I just wanted to make the parents aware that my son does have strep. I made it abundantly clear that it was THEIR choice whether they wanted to bring their child to daycare or not.
According to my contract, I am to be paid whether the child attends daycare or not unless I have 2 weeks notice. If I call in sick and cannot provide care for their child, then they do not have to pay.
Mikey's mom called this morning, FREAKING out on me. She says that she cannot find another sitter on such short notice, and if Mikey doesn't come today then she isn't paying me...blah blah. She totally made me feel like I was screwing her and leaving her optionless. I explained AGAIN that it was HER choice to bring Mikey or not to bring Mikey, that I was open and already had other children there. She rudely said she would call me back and hung up on me.
She calls back and rudely says she has absolutely nobody to watch Mikey so she is gonna stay home with him. Before I could even say OK or I am sorry, she hung up on me again!
At this point, my blood is boiling. She has no right to get an attitude with me or to hang up on me. I have always given her child love and I have always respected her. I do not deserve to be treated this way.
But being the passive one, I let it go. Then I saw that I had a voice mail. I checked the message and it was her. Again, she is saying I don't know what to do....this is ridiculous....If Mikey doesn't come I am not paying you, I will not pay for 2 sitters...Blah blah...then rudely slams down the phone.
First of all, if the measley $20 is an issue, all she had to do was talk to me about it. In the contract, I am entitled to it. But I am such a push over that I probably would have waived it because I felt bad.
Secondly, I never told her Mikey could not come. I made that very clear more than once that this was her choice.
So my question is, how do I handle this? I am so angry with her that I wanna scream. How dare you talk to me like that and then hang up on me? I would never do that to her and I don't deserve that. Should I offer to waive the $20? I would have anyway. Should I put her in her place and tell her how I feel or just let it go?
I am really upset about this! I love Mikey and want to continue caring for him, but I know this is going to turn into an arguement if I bring it up.
What would you do???
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first of all,i totally understand, i'm angry at her for being angry at you. i think you should see her face to face (not on the phone or she can and will hang up!). and tell her that :
you love looking after mickey and becuase of that have only had one sick days in two years, you tell her (IN SUCH A CALM VOICE THAT SHE SHOULD CRY!)
that the daycare WAS in fact open and you DID in fact have children and were more than willing to look after mickey but wanted to warn her that your child Had caught strep throat just so she knew, because you wanted her to know that, so she could be aware, rather then unknowingly risking mickey getting infected. tell her your sorry (even though she should say that, wewant to PREVENT an argument right?)for the misunderstanding and you hope to put this behind you both because you enjoy looking after such a wonderful kid as mickey and that your sorry for causing her worry, and for her missing a day of a job that helps provide mickey with such a caring and happy home environment.
ok?
gd luck and if you have any questiong email me
chewie x
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When buying a used car what are the proper steps to take in order to keep from geeting a piece of junk and getting tricked? (link)
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first of all, (if possible) check the car out yourself. make sure you read up lots about cars or talk to someone who works with them so learn something about them. or , even better bring a friend who knows about cars along with you to check it out! ask questions about it like how much it costs, how man miles has it done, how old is it etc. and remeber the old saying, "dont buy a car without looking under the hood" literally.
best of luck
chewie
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I'm really confused about my sexuality. There are so many things that turn me on. I have no idea which ones for me. I don't know if I'm gay, straight, or bi. I don't know what I'm into. I'm so ashamed of the things that get to me. I mean we're talking like Jerry Springer style wierd. I have no idea what to do. I can't go out and experiment to find what I like because I can't even get a date, yet alone a sexual encounter, and even worse of a chance of getting a kinky sexual encounter. I'm so confused. I'm so scared. What can I do? I know it's naive to ask how to get rid of it, but what can I do? Please help me.
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think about kissing a girl and kissing a guy, see which one appeals to you more. If its both then you mayu be bi. whatever you are there is nothing wrong with it and nothing to be ashamed of. people who make fun are jsut insecure and dont know the facts, they dont deserve to talk to you anyway. things that arous you, arouse you, everyone has different tastes. dont try to have sex just to find out if your gay or straight. eventually youll end up having a crush on eiother one or the other, or both, so dont rush,
chewie
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he's pretty quite and nice
and he likes baseball =)
i talk to him sometimes but it kinda gets awkward
any tips? what kind of topic should we talk about? and how to not make it obvious that i like him?thanks everybody =)
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he may either be awkard cos he doesnt talk to girls much, or he likes you.
be causal around him, dont just jummp up and say HI!
come up to him after practice one day (after watching dont just arrive)and say:
hey,i saw you playing, your really good etc(flatter him, but dont gush, smile, but dont grin like an idiot, laugh but not at everything he says. talk to him like hes a frined of yours.talk to him about baseball, school , etc. find out what sociel topics he seems to like and try and talk about them more.
once your comfortable, he will be too, so dont be all tensed and distracted, peop\le react to other people body language, so lean on a wall, to show, youd like to stay and talk to him.
over all, be casual
and he will too
chewie
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Ok, I wasn't sure where to put this but here I go.
The last few weeks, just under my eye.. like in the corner next to my nose it has been twitching.
It's driving me CRAZY. It doesn't twitch when I put my finger on it so i've been walking around with my finger on my face most of the day.
The girl that I work with said it was to do with tiredness.. but i'm not sure!
Can anyone please tell me how to get rid of it, i'm sick of it!
18/f if that helps at all...
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your work friend sounds about right, yoiu maybe stressed , or just tired! get extra sleep and relxa as much as you can in your free time. If it doesnt go away in a few weeks, speak to your docter or optician, it may just be a nervous twitch, so relxing may just work,
good luck
xoxchewiexox
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Okay, this may not seem like a problem, but I started babysitting for this one family this summer. They have a pretty big house and good jobs, so it's not like they are poor. I think they overpay me though. I know I shouldn't complain, but they paid me $40 for watching a 4-year-old and a nine-year-old from 6-11pm....and they pay me $100 a week to watch the 9-year-old while they are at work during the summer....watching the nine-year-old basically consists of watching tv or watching him play nintendo or watching him fish. it's not a hard job, and I enjoy it...should I say something about the high pay, or just take it as them appreciating me and being nice? I don't want to get more than I deserve.... (link)
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wel it does seem as though they are overpaying you a bit, most people get maybe 11 dollars an hour i think? but you dont want to upset the. When they say is 60 okey? say something like:
oh 20/30 is perfect!
they may seem a bit surprised but theyyl be happy enough when theyh start saving money!
chewie
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hi ,
it is my girlfreinds birthday on sunday which is 5 days away and i want to get her sumthing really special but not too meaningful and she has been having a hard time lately and i just want her to be happy but im not sure what to get her and idea's..?sumthing that will say i love you and neevr want to let you go but then somthing tht is funni and that she will cherish..and really like would be greatfully appreciated
thankyou..tyron..:) (link)
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well if your want a meaningful present, then jewellry would be good. necklaces are the most meaningful and mature, then bracelets and then rings. Earings are also good.you could get her a locket with maybe some sort of crystal on the front, with msaybe a lovesonnet on the back?or a pair of earings
and not hoops or sliver studs, some pretty dangly ones maybe?
as i dont know your girlfriends personality, you should go with what you think will mean the most to her, visit some jewelry stores in town, look for something that reminds you of her, (and thats in your price range) and if your a bit short, ask your parents if they can pitch in, dont ask for anything more then 20, thirty dollars/pounds if thier generous. tel them that its for your girlfriend not for you and that youll pay them pack from your allowence. this will show them that your responsible and can be trusted.
good luck
and happybirthday to your girlfriend
chewie
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14/f theres this new guy in school, i dont really like him that much maybe a little and hes pretty cute nothing special but i have a feeling he likes me. im in his music class and he stares at me sometimes because he sits across from me and i dont usually look back because i barely know this kid and its kind of creepy! oh yeah and today i was at my locker and he was at his and his is right near mine and him and his friends kept saying my name and i knew they were talking about me because when i walked by them he said to his friends "oh my god there she is shut up guys" and i pretended i didnt notice. ive never even said one word to this guy so im not randomly going to go up to him and start asking questions and none of his friends are my friends so i cant find out if he likes me for sure. and im undecided whether i like him or not, he seems like a good guy but i need to get to know him i just learned his name today!! what do i do (link)
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Poor thing, he probably doesnt realise hes staring at yoiu. honestly, you should take this as a compliment, they stare if they like. He sounds quite sweet, if a little odd, but i say give him a chance. He might even be staring at you so you notice him, so try and talk to him,NOTICE HIM. he'll be thrilled that youve noticed him..and you never know. you might like him yourself..
chewie
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i want to know how to become a better kisser. i am 13/m and everytime i make out wiht someone they tell me i am not good at it. what can i do? (link)
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first of all, dont think about it too much...RELAX... try and take your lead from the other person. If they r gentle be gentle etc.
and if they are insensitive enough to tell you that your bad then they arnt worth worrying about as they are probably trying to make themselves look good.
chewie
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Ok heres the thing. I have been with my recent boyfriend for more than a year now. I love this boy to death and want to be with him for the rest of my life. NOw there is this other guy who I dated back b4 my recent. He calls and says he wants to get back with me and asks me what if questions like, what if I kissed you and stuff like that. I have tried to explain to him that I'm with sumone already, he even knows the most intimate stuff I have done with my recent bf. What can I tell him so he will backoff and not ruin my recent relationship with the guy I have???? By the way, I am 15, He is 16 and my bf is 15. Also that guy lives out of state from me. (link)
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tell him that you are definately not interested in him because the only guy in your life right now and for a long time will be the other guy, and that your really sorry but your time together was great but you didnt feel as close to him as you do to your new boyfrind and could you just be friends.
also Quit telling him about your romantic life with the other guys as he probably thinks your trying to lead him on and hes getting jelous.
chewie
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My so-called best friend...K,..was talking about me behind my back. And when I confronted her she was like "OMG I SWEAR I DIDN"T SAY THAT!" Because, her boyfriend, my good friend and ex, just broke up with her and she said that he left her for me. I know that doesn't seem like something to get mad about, but it made me furious! Because, I liked him, and I told her too, and she just forgot about it and omg,...do I have a right to be mad? Should I just forget the whole thing? Thanks in advance!
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yes you do, but it depends on where your coming from. If your angry at your friend for dating him in the firsgt place, i can understand that you might feel jelouse and therefor upset. IF your angry at him for dating her, then breaking up with her for no good reason, i understand also. most people feel portective of their friends. Reading your problem you seem to be angry at her about taking him from you. So i suggest that you talk to both of them. say:
i know you really like Jason(or whjatever his name is) but i really think you should have asked me before asking him out, as i really would have appreciated and it made me feel really uncomfotable being between to good friends like that.And i feel your not listening to me because when i told you that i still liked him, you ignored me."
there isnt really much advice you can give to a stiuation like that, but the best thing you can do , is to get to TRUTHFUL sides of the story, then add them together to get the truth.
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you know how there is always that one friend you have to says what they feel right to your face? well, i do and her name is carrie. we got in this big fight today at lunch and she was all up in my face. i was like back up and she was like whatever, your such a two faced b*tch. god she makes me so mad! what should i do about this? help me!
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Well though i cant do much for you i can tell you this,
ask her(nicely,) if you can talk.Find out why shes mad, and without getting mad yourself talk to her about, if she screams just listen and be calm. She might talk for ages, so dont interrupt or say anything. she might just want to get things off her chest, so you can tell ehr anything at the end you need to talk to her about, throughout the whole things stay calm, then say your sorry, hopefully she will too.
good luck
chewie
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I used to play sports pretty much 24/7, all the time. Lately I haven't really been playing as much sports and I used to and I'm getting out of shape. I was wondering if anyone had good ideas of what kind of diet to have and what kind of fitness or workout routine they do that really helps them. It would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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first of all while sports a great for your body and keep you fit, they shouldnt be done 24/7. WHen you get home do your homework first. then work out. the reason your getting out of shape is because as you worked out so much,you body is getting too relaxed and loostening up a bit. If you want to prevnt this,
do not work out 24/7 seven and especially do not wrok out 24/7 the slow donw as this will happen again and your body will get confused. so
i suggest you work out maybe three times a week for medium sixzed sessions and keep it at there for as long as possible, incresing, will strain your musceles. Make sure on work out days, have plenty of carbohrdrates, drink LOTS of water, sleep loads the day before and after and STREACH!!!!!!
chewie
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13/f 8th grader. I've been becoming stressed out alot lately.. I don't ever get enough sleep(12:00am? - 6:00am), I'm trying my best to get my homework done and its hard, Trying my best to keep my grades up, also trying to keep doing good in basketball to make the high school team, I'm also trying to get this boy to date me but he is leading me on and everything..I always never get to listen during class cause i'm always trying to get my homework done for the next period! What should I do to help myself out a bit?.. Thanks in advance.. (link)
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first of all, this weekend, get all the missed out homework done, and if you have probelms DO NOT BE AFRAID TO ASK!!!!
this is the three things you mentioned basketbaal boys and homework in order of importance
1)HOMEWORK!!!!!!!!! this will be what teachers tell oterh school and colleges about, as well as you classwork and behavior so do not under any circumsdtances miss out loads of home work or fall asleep in class!!!!!
2) BASKETBALl, a great way to keep fit and be healthy...keep it up!
3) BOYS while these are important for developing relationship skills and confidence, they do not matter too much right now,
THIS WEEKEND:
do all missed out homework(seen above) and prepare for any tests or whatver the next day. Go to bed ealry( nine thirty) as this is one of the routes to many of your problems and as a teenager your body needs plenty of rest to develope.
wake up a bit earlier than usual so you have time to have a full and balanced breakfast with lenty of carbohydrates as these keep you alert and give you lots of energy for sports such as BASKETBALL HINT HINT)
pay attention in class, and when yo get home,
1) do your homework first thing, after a snack though if yoyu want)
then spend the rest of your time, playing basketball or chilling.
keep this up and do not miss out lots of homework, it should all be written down in a book to remember and done as soon as you get home your not up late doing it. If you dont understand as a paretn/gaurdian/teacher for help or a friend maybe but they might not understand either.
as to the guy thing, try to look nice and AWAKE! talk to him as a friend for a week or two and if he responds then ask him if he wants to do anything this friday(?)
Good luck
Chewie
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i know that everyone likes the popular guy but i really like him. i have lunch with him and we talk but normally just about sports or the math homework. he's a year older than me. basically i want to know how to talk to him and have a decent conversation and hint to him that i like him without publically humiliating myself and getting hurt if he doesn't like me back. (link)
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like miss bones says, solidify your friendship first, most gilrs never speak to popular guys, he must think of you as cool, or more than cool otherwise he wouldnt talk to you, continue talking to him , but not about the same thing each week otheriwse he'll get bored of you and go away.
so try to look nice for school, be interested in the things he is,
if there is a party sometime soon, bring it up he might say :
oh yeah should be fun, are you going with anyone?
or
oh yeah im taking tiffany (or whoever) who are you taking?
it should probably be the first one if he isnt an insensitive toilet brush, so you say:
no noones asked me u?
and hell say
yeah im going with amber (?)
or
noone really (and maybe)/do you wanna go?
if he doesnt say do you wanna go?
say
we coiuld go together if you want?
the "if you want" bit shows that you not to needy and your giving him some space in case he wants to say no, so keep that in definately. If he says yes say
great see you friday(?) then. or something to that effect, let him know that your happy that he said yes, withiut being desperate. if he says no, ask another guy, look really nice and try to make the popular guy jealous, (but to avoid being too mean to the other guy, say that u want to go just as friends, be extra nice to him as he might be a bit sad or annoyed even.
Hope youj too have good luck together!
be yourself
xoxchewiexox
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