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I'm confused about my sexuality
I'm really confused about my sexuality. There are so many things that turn me on. I have no idea which ones for me. I don't know if I'm gay, straight, or bi. I don't know what I'm into. I'm so ashamed of the things that get to me. I mean we're talking like Jerry Springer style wierd. I have no idea what to do. I can't go out and experiment to find what I like because I can't even get a date, yet alone a sexual encounter, and even worse of a chance of getting a kinky sexual encounter. I'm so confused. I'm so scared. What can I do? I know it's naive to ask how to get rid of it, but what can I do? Please help me.
16/m
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Well, if you haven't been on any dates,
and haven't had sex before (that part is NOT bad), then i'm only guessing and don't be offended if I'm wrong...but you have probably seen some porn.
Often times the things you see at an early age imprint on your mind and so if you've seen some sort of bisexual or whatever stuff then it probably makes you interested. Just go on a few dates. Unless you SERIOUSLY are into the "Jerry Springer" things, thery're not what you're actually going to be into when you're an adult.
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First of all, you have to keep in mind that everyone questions their sexuality at one point or another. Yeah, even all those hardcore christians out there. So don't worry, you aren't the only one who has gone through this. I promise.
You're right. There are so many things a person can be. And I understand why you're so confused. But here's the thing, you have your entire lifetime to choose. No one's making you choose now. So don't worry, you've got plenty of time. Just remember this, gay or straight, you're still in love with someone. So when you meet a special someone, whether it's a girl or a boy, you'll know what you are. It's ok. If anyone asked you, just say what you want to say, 'undecided' works, doesn't it?
Don't be scared. There are clubs, blogs, websites, all sorts of support groups out there for gay, bi, straight, and undecided people. Try finding one, that may help you choose.
I'm sorry I couldn't be of some more help. If you need anything else whether it be advice, or someone to talk to, leave one in my inbox.
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well i am not sure but ill try listen what do you like girls but if you like boys thats okay 2 so just pray and ask god to help u
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The media shoves sex at you everywhere you go, and you are at an age where your hormones are on overload as well. This means that almost anywhere you go, something will remind you that you are a sexual being and it does not take much to get you going. This is normal. Now part of growing up and becoming an adult is learning how to control our impulses (sexual and non-sexual) and to see the whole picture. Remember that television often depicts fantasy and not reality, so what you see is a lot of play-acting. If you stick with reality and limit the amount of time you spend in fantasy land, then your own sense of self will become clearer. Getting a date in order to have sex of any kind is not realistic or respectful. Dating is about getting to know and enjoy someone as a person and exchanging ideas. Of course we all have attractions, but that does not mean we should objectify and use someone to satisfy our curiousity. Fantasies are fun, but once trasferred to reality, they lose their magic. Many people find out too late, that the experience did not live up to the fantasy and that reality and consequences can leave you with big regrets. I know this is a lot to handle, but try to use that other big organ...your brain, and entertain yourself with the wonderful reality of your life. If you choose to overstimulate yourself with fantasy, you are choosing to enslave yourself to your obsessions. Satisfaction will not come from overindulgence. My advice is to cut out the junk food t.v. and get to know yourself better, before you attempt to live out your fantasies. Sexuality is something that we are born with, but like any part of our character, needs to be developed in a healthy environment to reach maturity. Along the way, we are taught different things by different people. Sometimes there are so many options, that we don't even know where to begin. Begin within yourself, and don't look for definitions from others.
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Everything you are feeling is okay. More than that, it's normal.
Most people, at any age of life, have a few sexual thoughts they feel are so kinky they wouldn't want to share them with another person. But in reality, sexuality is fluid, wide, and varied - and intrinsically part of being a human being.
While there can be a lot of pressure to find some sort of label, as it can make feelings easier to deal with, in fact it might take you some time to really work out who you are sexually - again, this is okay.
You're young, which makes exploring various things difficult - this is due to lack of experience or knowledge about what's out there, as well as having to put up with the usual strains of dating, etc. Rather than trying to force yourself to come to a final conclusion or try to change who you are, see what it feels like to just be honest with yourself.
Whether you like guys, girls, or both - and however you see yourself being with those individuals, give yourself a break and a little bit of acceptance.
Best of luck.
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think about kissing a girl and kissing a guy, see which one appeals to you more. If its both then you mayu be bi. whatever you are there is nothing wrong with it and nothing to be ashamed of. people who make fun are jsut insecure and dont know the facts, they dont deserve to talk to you anyway. things that arous you, arouse you, everyone has different tastes. dont try to have sex just to find out if your gay or straight. eventually youll end up having a crush on eiother one or the other, or both, so dont rush,
chewie
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in my opinion , this happens to everybody .. EVERYONE i know has questioned their sexuality at least once . i did when i was like 12 , and i turned out to be bi . you dont nessicarly have to get rid of it tho . just think about it .. would you go out with a guy , or would you go out with a girl .. or .. would you consider both ? [ and about the things that turn you on .. if they turn you on , they turn you on ! haha . its no biggy .. everybody has a different way of getting "aroused" er w/e . yours is just unique . get back to me on AIM with some more questions or concerns , `ight ? hanstastic23083 . hoped i helped
hanna </3
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