I'm anonymous and wise. I won't tell you how old I am, what my name is, or where I live. I am female and have always been a good listener. I try my best to never lie, and sometimes I offend people with how blunt and honest I am. Ask me a question, and I won't be afraid to tell you the truth, and I also won't be ashamed to admit that I don't know the answers.
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Okay I have been dating the same guy for 1 year & 3 months. I'm 18 & he is 20. We didn't have sex until 1 day after our 8 month anniversary. When we have sex he always aims to go for my butt instead of the other. Not only that but he always talks baby talk, I mean I know it may be our thing but whatever. If you really think about it at our age thats just weird. Okay here is the thing. It has been 2 almost 3 months since the last time we have had sex the right way. I bug him about it every now & then but not until it really bugs me. Well he had spent the night the other night after he had got off work, his parents were out of town so thats the only way he could stay the night, which is odd, because he is 20 but he still lives at home & doesn't plan on getting married anytime soon. Or moving out of his parents house. Anyhow. The morning after he had stayed the night nothing happened, I mean no kisses no touching nothing. So the next morning I asked him what was wrong & why doesn't he want to have sex with me, & he said sex isn't ever on his mind & it doesn't thrill him like it does other people or me. I barely get kisses. He doesn't even touch me anymore. He won't give me any explanation of why he seriously doesn't wanna touch or have sex with me which kind of makes me think hes gay, but anyways, if anyone knows how I can deal with this or if its even normal for a guy not to want to have sex with someone he says hes in love with. Please give me advice as soon as you can, I will greatly appreciate it.
Oh yeah, I forgot to mention. He was a virgin up until me & him had sex. That info might help..
-signed Confused One (link)
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yeah, i'd say you have a gay one. or he's cheating, or asexual or something. anyway, something's wrong...and you shouldn't have to put up with it. i hope it all works out. :/ (ch)
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Re your reply below completely honest - i have tried everything to get him to listen to me including counseling and communication classes I have been very reasonable and we have also separated twice on the subject - then he makes promises and we give it another try - he just doesn't seem to 'get' things. I have become his teacher and guide not his wife and so desperately want him to share half the load and for me to be able to look up to him sometimes too - respect him and know if anything every happens to me he is capable of taking over responsibilities - but this just doesn't and probably wont ever happen - I am worried that i have to accept this is the way he is and i am not going to get the man i thought i married and the one i can live the rest of my life with in peace and security .. or how i thought it might be..
completelyhonest answered Monday August 13 2007, 7:50 pm:
i'm not sure if your husband is dumb, but it's obvious that your putting more in than he does. it is true though that lots of men get into the habit of relying on their wives/girlfriends, probably because girls naturally have a more nurturing nature. my advice would be to talk to him, rationalize, and make sure he understands exactly how much you've been putting in. make a plan to split responsibilities? hope i helped. (ch) (link)
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wow that's a really heavy load. i guess i really don't have an answer to this one...especially since i don't really know you or your husband. i really hope it all works out for you and it's a good thing that you know what's wrong with the relationship. good luck
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I am on yearbook staff at my high school. And I am trying to think of some creative ideas for it and the layouts, color schemes, etc..But first I need a theme! Would there be anything just absolutely amazing to have? Ideas muchly appreciated! THANK YOU :] (link)
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my school had a sort of cool "looking back" theme where they compared what happened at our school 5 years ago, 10 years, 50 years etc. i guess it just depends how old your school is...but it was a really cool yearbook. (ch)
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I am in my 40's and married. I am really concerned either i have it wrong and i have issues or my husband is really dumb. He takes this thing men can only think of one thing at a time to new levels - and when he does make a decision he stuffs it up - he has got us into all sorts of problems mostly financial so i seem to do everything to keep us moving forward - my gripe - is that he has a lower end management job but i know he HAS to make lots of decisions during a day - its like i get the bum end of things - am i being mean or are most men dumb anyway and need us women to keep them and look after them ?? I work full time in a senior management role and run a business after hours besides doing all the house budgeting and management - and I mean ALL - even talk to tradesman that we need to fix the house! sorry but I'm being completely honest (link)
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i'm not sure if your husband is dumb, but it's obvious that your putting more in than he does. it is true though that lots of men get into the habit of relying on their wives/girlfriends, probably because girls naturally have a more nurturing nature. my advice would be to talk to him, rationalize, and make sure he understands exactly how much you've been putting in. make a plan to split responsibilities? hope i helped. (ch)
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My love handles get in the way of everything!
I love wearing tight clothes but in some cases i cant because they look really weird on me. It looks like im really wide. See, i am not sure if my love handles are like part of my curve. I am not even sure if i have a curve! My tummy is flat and all the fat goes to my sides! Should i flaunt these "curves" or should i cover them up? (link)
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hoe up or blow up! :D no problem with flaunting it...especially if you have clothes that flatter the best parts of you body! (ch)
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I asked the same question yesterday but I was told that I should give more information,so here it goes:
A few days ago I noticed that my ribcage seems asymmetrical.On the left side,about an inch or two under the breast area,my ribs seem to go in a little more than the right.There's no pain or redness and it feels just about the same as the.Could anyone tell me what this could be? (link)
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my ribcage is like that too...really not sure why if someone gives you a good answer could you tell me? (ch) thanks.
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well, ive tried things.
and im not so sure if im having an orgasm or not ?
can you tell me what happens if i am or not ? (link)
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trust me, you'll just know. (ch)
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What is an average penis size for a guy who is 17 years old?
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Anywhere between 5 and 6 inches is average. (CH)
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i'm a teenage girl.
So there's someone who I want to hook up with, and he can drive, i can't yet... I just don't know where is a good location to do it.
We might not go all the way, but definately at least to 3rd. (it depends on how it goes and how i feel then)
So please don't say anything like "oh don't do it".
I just need to know where. And it couldn't be in either of our houses b/c my parents would find out. (link)
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Um, I'd say use the car...but some people aren't comfortable with that. Maybe a park or something...but that could be dangerous. I don't know what to tell you, but when I was your age I just used the backseat. Haha. Good luck. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. (CH)
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HEy soo is there pushup bras for size A? where can i get one if there is (link)
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Yes there is! You can get them at target, victoria's secret, kohls, pretty much any store that sells bras. (CH)
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can masturbation make breast bigger? (link)
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Haha...I wish! But seriously...no. :) (CH)
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Is it normally to crave food before your period? I'm usually not the type of person that eats a lot or wants to, but my period is suppose to come next week & I feel like I need to eat like crazy. Any ideas? (link)
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Haha it is for me! A week before my period I crave chocolate and pizza...so yeah I'd say that it's normal. (CH)
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i dont like have a mustache, but i have some facil hair (im a girl btw) ik your not supposed to shave it b.c it will come back thicker or darker or whatever, bit if i pluck it, will it have the same effect as shaving it? or will it not grow back stronger or darker or whatever? (link)
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Get it waxed. :) (CH)
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why do some people judge someone by how they act when they are drunk?
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A lot of times people who don't have the courage to say something when they're sober have the courage to say it when they're drunk...so sometimes people say hurtful things when they're drunk. Also, if you get drunk it's definetly a reflection of self-worth and all that jazz...especially if you do it a lot. (CH)
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16/f. I had unprotected sex yesterday and am expecting my period within the next two days. Since it is so close to my period is it possible for me to still get my period now even if I am pregnant and just skip the next one?
Also, how long after should I start noticing signs of pregnancy if I am pregnant?
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Yes you can still very easily be pregnant. Condom next time? Good idea. (CH)
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Ok well my sister had two stiches on her forward because of a cut and its been two weeks since the stitches have been removed and it still didn't heal yet! What can I do to hlep make it heal?
Please let it go away..it's all my fault she got it and if it never heals then my family will be mad at me for life and we'll always remember it since we can see it on her face everday!
And she always wanted to be a model! Most likely she won't but atleast I wanted her to have hope for it. (link)
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use maderma (sp?) scar treatment. It takes a while, but as long as you but it on like 4 times a day it should be gone within a month or two. (CH)
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im 16/f and i really wanna get my lip pierced but my mum thinks it looks awful. What can i do to convince her??
and i havent told her whether i want the bottom or top done yet coz i cant decide!
plz help! (link)
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Show her you've done your research show she takes you more seriously. Find out the safest place to get it done, and the risks involved. BTW, bottom lip for sure. :) (CH)
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my girlfriend was over one time. and i asked her if she wanted to have sex and she said no. which i figured since shes waiting for marriage. then i decided i didnt care and i sat on her and forced her clothes off. shes really tiny and week she weighs like 91 and i weigh 156 so it wasnt hard. she tried to get me off of her but we both knew she couldnt. so my friend who was coming over to hang out with us came. and he held her down while i fingered her. she was screaming and telling me to stop but i didnt. then he sat on her and held her legs apart while i stuck my dick in her vagina. she was screaming and crying for us to stop she said it hurt.so my friend told me to punchh her so she will shutup so i did. i didnt mean to punch her that hard but she passed out. so i finished up and my friend left. and i just stared at her. i didnt mean to hurt her. i love her soo much. and i couldnt believe all the bruises all over her shoulders,legs,arms,colar bone and her face was dripping blood. so i got a towel and wiped it off. then when she woke up she couldnt move so i helped her get dressed and carried her home. i kept apoligizing but she didnt say anything to me. when i see her in school she looks scared and runs away from me. how cdo i get her to tlak to me thanks. (link)
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If you ever want to be a respectful person ever again you need to turn yourself in. Wtf. Leave the girl alone because you'll only end up hurting her more. (CH)
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13/f
this is gonna be long..
okay. so my best friend's name is jess. she's been my best friend since 4th grade. well, in about october of last year, she decided to get a new best friend [katie] & kick me to second place. i was really really hurt because i never thought i would lose her. i still call her my best friend because she truly is my best friend.
i've tried so hard to get her back but nothing works. i want my best friend back. i have talked to her about it numerous times. she says katie has never had a best friend so now it's her turn to be in the "spotlight". did jess stop & think about our friendship? about how i would feel? about how this affects me? of course not. it's basically like she felt sorry for katie so now they're best friends. does she even care about what she did to me? doesn't seem like it. i really don't understand why she would do that to me.
i want my best friend back more than anything. i would do anything to have things back to the way they used to be. i feel so left out & isolated around them because they completely ignore me when we all hang out together. so now i have no best friend & i've felt betrayed, sad, mad, disappointed, & confused for the last 8 months. i'm beginning to think i'll never get her back. i will seriously cry if i don't [i have cried many times over this problem already].
please don't say stop trying or move on. i really don't want to. thanks to anyone that can help me. i'm crying as i type this.
i hate my life. (link)
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I've been in exactly the same situation. My best friend of 10 years started ignoring me and hanging out with a new girl who she started calling her "best friend." I was devastated and hated her for awhile, but then I figured the best way to show her what a good friend I was would be to stay just that: a good friend. Eventually her new BFF dumped her and she came back to me. She realized what a jerk she had been and apologized like crazy. I know your situation may be different but I still think the best thing to do is to always show what a good friend you are...and if she really values your friendship it will turn out alright. (CH)
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ok so me and my best guy friend are friends with benefits. we had a big fight about 2 weeks ago and we just started talking/screwing around again. he only talks to me online, through texts or when we're alone. im kind of confused why he does this, he used to talk to me all the time no matter where we were. are all friends with benefits relationships like this or just mine? dont tell me to stop being friends with benefits with him. we both tried doing that but we have this strange connection where we cant keep our hands off each other. how do i get him to talk to me in public (link)
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From personal experience, this sometimes does happen with friends with benefits. There's two possibilities. One: He's shy and feels awkward being around you when you're not doing stuff. Two: He doesn't want anything but benefits with you and doesn't really value your friendship. I understand that it's hard to stop a friends-with-benefits situation...trust me I've been there...but sometimes it's better for your emotional health. Hope I helped! (CH)
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