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Judging a person when they are drunk?
why do some people judge someone by how they act when they are drunk?
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For the same reason we judge people when they're tired, hyped up on sugar, sick, overworked, whatever. You are who you are, and if you're going to be friends with someone you take the whole picture into account. If you're dating someone who beats you, does it really matter if he beats you when he's drunk or when he's sober? Either way you're getting beaten, and it hurts. People need to take responsibility for who they are no matter what's influencing them.
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It could be a number of reasons I think. Firstly it's said alcohol makes a person let go and come out of their shell so when someone is drunk they act more like themselves and what they are like so some people go by that literally and judge people by that. To be honest I've seen no scientific evidence to support this theory since I know for a fact that with me this is not true - so with some people it may be true but not with all.
Others I guess are just ignorant. They judge someone before getting the chance to actually get to know them. Saying this though there are others who can just be stupid and when they are drunk it makes them even worse. I've come across plenty of people like these when I used to work as a doorman at a fast food place (don't ask).
When people get in a group and get drunk they sometimes do dumb things. In a circle of friends it may seem amusing and funny and even when they find out the next day they'd probably have a nice laugh about it with their friends but others would just look at them and frown and judge them by that. Again, I don't see any reason why they should but then if people do that it should in my opinion just be ignored. There are some people when drunk have been known to do things that were bad and wouldn't normally have done (cheat without realising because they were too drunk for example) and usually the only thing I say to this is that they should be a lot more careful when out drinking so things like this don't happen or at least have a friend you can TOTALLY trust with you who will be able to step in and stop you doing anything wrong/bad if you get drunk. People judge others by this when maybe it is the persons own fault to an extent but again, they were under the influence and it may not really be who they are at all.
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A lot of times people who don't have the courage to say something when they're sober have the courage to say it when they're drunk...so sometimes people say hurtful things when they're drunk. Also, if you get drunk it's definetly a reflection of self-worth and all that jazz...especially if you do it a lot. (CH)
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A well dress young man goes into a court room and politely explains to the judge:
"I'm so sorry your honor. You see, I was drunk. I had had four beers with my buddies that night. So I was drunk when I beat up the pool boy, and drunk when I kicked the puppy, I was still drunk when I punched that police officer too!"
Do you think the judge is going to say "Ah well I understand, and since you seem to be a pleasant, well dressed young man we'll just let it slide this time."
HELL NO! The judge is going to say "Being drunk is NO excuse. You are guilty of crimes and you are going to do some jail time. Period."
So why do we judge people on their drunken behavior? Because they choose to drink, because they choose how much to drink, and just because alcohol lowers inhabitations doesn't mean another person takes over your body. It's still you doing those stupid drunken things.
A little bit of drunken antics is fine, but if you are behaving ludicrously, then you drunk too much. If people are judging you unfairly, then you are out drinking with the wrong people.
Being drunk is never as excuse for anything. People make their own decisions when it comes to alcohol, so they need to live with the consequences, that includes what other people think of them.
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Being drunk isn't a get-out-of-jail-free card. We are still responsible for our own actions whether drunk or sober, and it is perfectly fair to judge someone partly based on how they act when they've had one too many. If a person can't help behaving badly when they drink, they shouldn't drink.
"I was drunk" is not a good excuse for poor decision-making. One should always be responsible enough not to become so drunk that one can't make good decisions.
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