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RE: are men really dumb?
Re your reply below completely honest - i have tried everything to get him to listen to me including counseling and communication classes I have been very reasonable and we have also separated twice on the subject - then he makes promises and we give it another try - he just doesn't seem to 'get' things. I have become his teacher and guide not his wife and so desperately want him to share half the load and for me to be able to look up to him sometimes too - respect him and know if anything every happens to me he is capable of taking over responsibilities - but this just doesn't and probably wont ever happen - I am worried that i have to accept this is the way he is and i am not going to get the man i thought i married and the one i can live the rest of my life with in peace and security .. or how i thought it might be..
completelyhonest answered Monday August 13 2007, 7:50 pm:
i'm not sure if your husband is dumb, but it's obvious that your putting more in than he does. it is true though that lots of men get into the habit of relying on their wives/girlfriends, probably because girls naturally have a more nurturing nature. my advice would be to talk to him, rationalize, and make sure he understands exactly how much you've been putting in. make a plan to split responsibilities? hope i helped. (ch)
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wow that's a really heavy load. i guess i really don't have an answer to this one...especially since i don't really know you or your husband. i really hope it all works out for you and it's a good thing that you know what's wrong with the relationship. good luck
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