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caught drinking
my parents found out i had friends over and that we drank. she threatened me to tell who was here, so i told her, after about a half an hour. now she won't ever let me see those friends again. i am going off to college in a week so it's not the end of the world, but still i feel bad that i told which friends were here. i don't know what to do. should i tell these friends? they are not my friends from school...they are from work. i feel like i betrayed them (my mom won't call their parents, she said she wouldn't) but i still feel bad & don't know how to explain to these girls i can't ever see them again. also how do i earn my parents trust back?
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Youre going off to college in a week. Your parents forbidding you to see them lasts exactly that long.
You are 18. You are old enough to choose who you do things with and what you do.
Remember the following.
1) From this point forward, the way you live your life is none of your parents business.
2) Your parents wont share that opinion, so feel free to not share anything about the way you live your life.
3) You are far too old to obey an order to not see anyone anymore
4) Remember that they have the control. While they dont have a right to tell you how to live, they do have the power to control you somewhat. Either show them what they want to see, or cut yourself off from their support.
In the future, do not give your parents any information outside of yourself. If you end up in a situation like this again, you can simply tell them that your friends lives are their own business and that while they have a say in your life they dont have a say in your friends lives (as your friends are 18, or you can at least claim that).
Under no circumstances should you explain to your friends that you cant see them. Quite the contrary, you should see them whenever you want to and have the chance. Just dont let your parents know and dont bring people to your parents house any more.
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you can just tell your friends that you had to... they'll probably understand after they blow off some steam.
you can probably still see them... you work with them still right? and you're going to college... have them over to your dorm or meet them somewhere. you're old enough that your mom can't keep you away from people like you are 9 years old.
it's not a big deal... they won't freak out at you for it as long as they don't get in trouble. if they do then they might.
earn trust back... don't drink and follow all the house rules. <3
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you should tell em, explain how your mother is on things, and try to tell them because of the drinks she she's them that way instead of this way, yea she said that, but since you are going to college, you're 18 right so shouldn't you be able to choose who you hangout with? Does your mother accept it? you need to try talking to your mother on an adult to adult level with respect to show maturity and gain....some respect back. you made a mistake, that you should learn from let her know that. I feel the same with my mother sometimes, its like we don't see eye to eye, but i'll catch her when she's in a good mood and free my mind. cause its better out then in. and to cool your self out...... get this song and listen to it
2Pac- Dear Mama
it's the ultimate mama song that makes you just think about the good times
peace, homegirl
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uh-oh :(
I think you should just tell them the truth. Your mom threatened you if you didn't tell her. You can still talk to these girls, I don't mean to sound like a horrible person. But you can hang out with them and not drink. You just don't have to tell your mom.
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