Can you be born with herpes, or just have it somehow? My boyfriend and I have never had sex, but we have done oral sex which I know transmits the herpes virus. But since both of us are virgins is it even possible for us to have the std? He had three cold sores in his mouth and complained of a headache for the past several days. These may just be a coincidence, but I'm worried. We two healthy teens, am I just overreacting?
Look, there's nothing to be embarrassed about, people with hsv1 are not either evil people who are suffering the consequences of poor judgment or innocent victims of the negligence of others. There's this weird stigma attached to a disease which can be transmitted sexually versus any other disease. A wart on your hand is banal while a wart on your genital region is worthy of a panic and unfair judgement.
Your boyfriend should know the difference between hsv1 symptoms and a canker sore, as well. I sometimes get a canker inside of my lip and, I learned contrary to what I previously believed, this was not caused by herpes. And if it was actually herpes, remember that good people still get infections.
Peeps answered Thursday July 10 2008, 2:35 am: I know this is extremely late but I was SHOCKED by the previous answers and HAD to correct this question so people searching about herpes are not confused.
The only way you are actually born with herpes if if your mother had herpes and had an outbreak during childbirth and passed it along to you. You, most likely, would then have herpes in more than one area of your body, including your eyes (which causes blindness so you wouldn't be able to see).
Other than that, not everyone is born with herpes. The users below are COMPLETELY wrong.
Here is some information about herpes:
You would be astonished by the number of people who have accidentally given their child herpes (type 1 and/or 2) just by changing the baby's diaper. It's so contagious it's frightening.
Babies can also definately be born with herpes but is not a natural occurance. If the mother experiences an outbreak during labor then there are high chances the baby will contract the virus. The baby also may be blind or end up with ocular herpes since it passes through the vaginal canal and the eyes may come in contact with the sores/infected areas.
I contracted herpes, HSV-1 (usually referred to as "oral herpes") to be exact, before I even kissed another person. My first outbreak that I can clearly recall was in kindergarten but I'm unsure if I had outbreaks before then.
I'm not sure how I got infected but I suppose I blame it on my mother's carelessness. She obviously had outbreaks frequently and did not take the right precautions to protect me against it. My mother NEVER kissed me on the lips; however, I did occassionally share drinks with her. As far as I can figure, I shared a drink with her while the herpes virus was shedding out of her (as it does periodically, which may not be visible, by the way) and contracted it.
Many people only have one initial outbreak and it's years before they ever have another outbreak. This doesn't mean they can't pass it along--the cells are ALWAYS being shed so there is always a danger in contracting it from an infected person. It also may be possible that someone simply does not know they are infected because their outbreak was so long ago (like if I had an outbreak prior to kindergarten I truly cannot recall back that far) or they have so many outbreaks they are very accustomed to it and don't think it's a big deal.
My mother never told me that she had herpes. My mother never told me that the outbreaks I experienced on my lip was herpes. She didn't tell me anything to help me protect other people against myself. As a matter of fact, I thought it was completely normal to get blisters on the lips like I did--many of my classmates through elementary school even suffered from the same thing! Years later (when I was about 19 or 20) I accidently ran into an article online about herpes and realize that the sores I had previously experienced was herpes. This was later confirmed when I had a STD screening.
In short, many people have herpes that have never had sex before. Many innocent people have never even kissed anyone before and have herpes because of adults in their life that didn't take extreme precautions to prevent transmitting the virus to their infant. Many parents are so ashamed of this that they do not bother to actually tell their child that the outbreak is not normal and that it's an STD they have to live with forever.
If you suspect you or a partner has herpes then you need to be tested to make sure. From there you can find out a lot more about herpes and how it affects the body. There are many questions here about herpes and such that I have answered. Here are some links you may be interested in if you want to learn about what herpes is and what it can do to your body:
Any other questions you have, PLEASE fee free to ask me! I am fairly well educated about herpes, including some treatments for it (no, it's not curable yet). I want people to be as educated as they possibly can be about this because it's serious business. SO, please feel free to see a question to my inbox if you have any you want me to answer. [ Peeps's advice column | Ask Peeps A Question ]
WhitneyBT4T answered Saturday August 18 2007, 1:50 am: Everyone is born with the herpes gene. Cold sores are a form of herpes but they aren't always the STD kind. If the both of you are worried about having herpes, you should go to your doctor and have a STD Test done. Thats the only for sure way you can find out. [ WhitneyBT4T's advice column | Ask WhitneyBT4T A Question ]
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