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Ditched Everyday
Ok, during lunch we have a friend, and she always goes over to these guys table. She eats her lunch at our table then leaves so she doesnt have to eat it over ther. our table is really getting fed up with it, and she just doesnt get the hint. She claims that were her best friends and that shes there friends too, but i swear there isnt one day when she hasnt sat at our table for about 5 min then leaves and we dont see her til end of the day. when ever we bring it up she gets all defensive and stuff. The lunch lady even got after her for switching tables everyday, my friend was so embarrassed she started crying, yet that just diddnt seem to be enough so she still goes over there. Gosh cant she get a clue aobut this? what should we say to her to let her know that these guys prolly dont even want her over there nemore. ugh thxxx
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Talk to her about it some more. I mean, don't jump down her throat about it & get an attitude with her. Just tell her that she can't keep ditching you for those guys & it gets annoying & that you guys are hardly seeing her anymore.
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If she doesn't seem to get it, just let her do what she wants. You're going to get ditched, yes, but you also need to learn to accept that you guys are not the only friends that she has & she's just expanding her horizons. You're going to do it too someday. And besides, you guys aren't always going to be sitting together for the rest of middle school or high school. You're gonna meet new people & eventually split up. You need accept change as it comes, whether it's something you like or not.
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as soon as she gets up from the table, invite someone else over
be like "hey, the seats finally open!! come over here"
or fill her seat before she even gets there to eat
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Well, where she sits is not your problem, really. She can sit wherever she wants and you and your friends should not be jealous or posessive of her. Why don't you ask her to sit with your table every other day and let her be a social butterfly and sit with other people other days. If you're really her friend, you won't tell her she can't be friends with other people as well.
Sabine
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