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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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My husband and I haven't been separated very long but our marriage was over along time ago we stayed together for the kids. Didn't even sleep in the same room for over a year. I moved over 12 hours away. Long story short I am in love with my ex. My sons father. Every time I see him I get butterflies we talk so good together every thing seems so perfect when we talk. I'm not sure how he feels though. He gives kind of mixed feelings. I have known him for 7 years.
Perhaps you may of needed the separation, This may of rekindled the spark of your marriage. You should sit down and talk with him, Let him know how you feel, If he feels the same as you do just begin to take things slow. Go out casuall, Talk on a level where it doesn't seem to be overwhelming and work your way up there.
He may still care for you but may be afraid to committ himself to you in fear that it won't work out. Perhaps it may be that he is just happier being mutual with you. The only way to know is to talk to him about it.
F/16
Okay i will be going into college in 2 years, and i Really want to study for a field agent, but my boyfriend doesn't agree with me. He wants me to have a job where i can spend some time with him, and our future kids. He says i need to find a job where i'm going to have time for him, and be able to spend time with the kids, not a job that i will probably never be home, or always have to travel places and blah, blah, blah. We are planning to get married and have children, but anyways. I really want to become a field agent, and i don't know if i should look for another career to satisfy him, what should i do, i don't want him feeling sad ???. : /
Thanks very much-
Wow....
If you aren't planning on College until you are 18 why are you worrying so much about it now?
Also for the heads up, It is unlikely you two will be together in 2 years, I am not saying you won't be but realistically you both are only 16.
Also, Would you seriously put YOUR plans on hold over some guy?.. This would be the biggest mistake you could possibly make. YOU should always come first, You only live once and no guy is worth that. And kids? Really? You are 16! Focus on achool then worry about College in another year or so but for now enjoy being a teenager and stop talking about kids.
I'm really confused about this, I place my penis inside her but it doesn't ENTIRELY go in, half inside half outside! There's something inside like a layer that stops it from going in , this must mean that she's a virjin right?
By the way my finger also goes in easily and doesn't reach that layer.
So how much distance is there between the outside layer and the inside virjinity layer?
High five to all.
-Thank You.
A hymen really doesn't mean shit nowadays.
If a penis goes in the vagina then no she is not a virgin.
21/m with 22/fm
Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. At the beginning everything was great; we spent alot of time talking or together so we got to know each other fast and fell in love in only 2 weeks. Lately (or for the past couple of months) she complains that I never talk to her and she misses talking till 4 in the morning like we use to; and since then we've become alittle distant. We're together like 10 hours out of the day (including sleeping for like 2 or 3) but we get on each others nerves alot so you can say we're both not satisfied with this. We love each other and are always there for each other in the good and bad times; it's only been a year and a half but we've gone through alot.
My question is have you girls ever had this probably with a boyfriend you thought was your soul mate? Or your boyfriend that is now your husband?
I know it's a stereotype that men don't like to talk very much so did you just put up with it or did it hurt your relationship?
What I really want is just to make her happy but talking about the same crap everyday doesn't make me wanna talk "how was your day"? "Same annoying girl anoyyed me" or about our money problems.
Men can answer to if you have something useful to say
If you want any relationship to last then you need too allow it to breathe. Spending 10 hours a day together is going to smother the relationship and of course you will naturally get at one another. Being apart for a day or two isn't going to kill you, In fact it may enhance the spark of your relationship.
Basically, She has become so used to having you around that she is actually dependant upon you. Her dependant is turning into being a bit needy because she hasn't learned that a relationship is also about being independent also.
You go off wirh your friends, Let her go off with hers for a day. Give each other space
Okay so my friend found out that hes HIV positive. And I was wondering, this is a weird question but he has this spiky thingy for his teeth and he bleeds from his gums sometimes and the blood is probably on the object
And if somebody else also uses that object for their teeth and also bleeds, will the person also get infected or is it rare to get infected like this?
Yep it's possible
Why would anyone share something that is meant for someone eles anyway?...
I dunno what to expect in 9th grade. I mean the work is nothing to me i have great work habits idc about that its just like i go to a PreDominantely white school, and im black so people make a lot of jokes about stereotypes for black girls over the years ive never had a lot of problems with things maybe a weave joke or two mostly but now thag im going tohigh school im scared that people be rude to me. Does it get like that in high school? Or does it just stay the same with an a fewjokes i mean im not sensitive but i have some friends that might be not sure. Im also afraid that some people i hangout with are going to like go down the wrong road
It's normal to be nervous but I promise it will all work out.
High school isn't easy, I won't lie. Many people nowadays seem to be hypocritical about everything. In high school you will make friends and you will loose friends. It is much different then middle school. People seem to have "groups" popular, Nerds, Jocks etc. And sadly? Nobody seems to realize that not a bit of this matters after high school. If anything it isn't stereotypes, It's peer pressure you should worry about. I think you are smart enough to know to stay away from anyone who is acting like an ass or just has a head full of stupidity. If you feel your friends are going down the wrong road then listen too yourself and back off.
So my bf broke up with me about a week ago saying he wasn't really ready and wasn't that interested he said we were friends for now but he blocked me on IG and doesn't respond to my kiks and he didnt defriend me on xbox. Then today, his cousin texted me and said to take him out of my bio (one of my back up IGs I haven't been on and I had him as a friend) he doesn't like you anymore. And all if this has made me so depressed to the point that I wanna kill myself because he really loved me and showed me that he cared and he changed my life and I really loved him. I really want him back so badly and i want him to talk to me but what should I do? Thanks.
(Btw: we were together for 3 months :/)
He isn't interested and doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.
I am sorry to be the barrier of bad news but harassing him isn't going to make him come back. He blocked you because he knew you would try to initiate contact. He doesn't want to be friends, He doesn't want to be with you.
The best thing you could do is to move on and stop trying to contact him. Unfortunately, He made it pretty clear he is done. There isn't much eles to say
his ex is so disrespectful she always wants to know what is happening between he and i. anyone else having this problem? she is 53yrs old
Your husband needs to be the one to tell her to leave you both alone. If ahe refuses and is becoming an everyday burden then you may have no choice to give her a warning, If ahe don't stop then go to the police.
Hi, 20/M
Me and my girlfriend (all but name) have been going through a rough patch recently.
I saw some messages on her phone at like 1am from a guy that she was introduced to at work. He sent her a pic of herself, and sent messages like "I'm not the type of guy that has sex with just anyone". I told her that I saw them, and it really upset me. Not only do I find it to be inappropriate to be texting someone else at 1am, but what really upset me was that I left hers, because she claimed to be too tired, at 12am.
We spoke and she apologised, and she said she didn't see it like that and understood why I was upset.
There is also this other guy, who is the boyfriend of a mutual friend. We went to a BBQ a while ago, and I kept telling her that he was flirting with her. I then saw messages from him, on her fb, at 1am, with him telling her that "she's cute".
Again, we spoke about this and she said that she didn't really it as a problem, and she didn't see it as flirting.
I'm worried that because our relationship status is not public (people just think we're friends), when she is nice to guys that flirt with her, may give the guy the wrong impression i.e. that she is interested, when really she says that she doesn't know the difference between flirting and someone being nice.
It feels now that she has really taken on board what we've spoken about before. But do I have anything to worry about? Is it inappropriate for a girl to be like that with another guy? My friend says yes, but my girlfriend just happens to get on better with guys than girls (I also get on better with girls than guys).
What also confuses me is that sometimes she will say "I can't just stop talking to them, thats rude" or "He helped me with my job application, I can't make it look like I was using him" which to me sound like excuses.
I just don't know what to think. Am I being paranoid, stupid, and jealous? Or are her actions inappropriate? I of course want her to have friends, but why am I being so paranoid when it comes to these two guys? Is it just because it happens to be that they were flirting? Or am I going to carry on being like this with every guy friend she has?
I should reinforce that our relationship is fine apart from that. She loves me, and I love her. She hasn't physically cheated on me. It's just this messaging.
She isn't listening too you nor respecting you.
You have expressed your concerns on different occassions and she still doesn't seem to be reasoning with you. I can really only think of a few reasons she may be texting another guy at 1am and that may be that she is having mixed feelings. Does she tell these men that she isn't interested? Why isn't your status public? Perhaps this may be giving men the impression she is available. Either way, She needs to start respecting you more or it's time to leave. How do you know she isn't feeding into the problem? Well, Here is the icing on the cake.... Texting at 1am? Red Flag
hello I am an almost 13 year old girl and in 4th grade I was not popular and he (I will call him blue) was the second most popular guy, everyone liked him, he was athletic, cute, smart and nice. so one day my friend comes up to me and says "yesterday after school blue told me to tell you that HE LIKES YOU!" so i just go no no no your wrong why would anyone like me?! i'm not pretty, i'm super shy and not very smart. but i guess he still likes me! so then in the summer we hung out a few times then in 5th grade end of the year he asked me out. the summer we hung out once. just once. I miss him so much and i'm going into 7th grade. in MN where i live middle school is going into 6th grade and i haven't seen him in 2 years! i don't know if I should text him just to tell him how i still feel even if he doesn't feel the same or not. my friend texted him about a week ago saying i miss you and he said i cant wait for high school when we get to see each other again! i just miss him so much so any advice if i should text him or not? thanks. xoxo
Liking someone isn't about looks, This is were some people are wrong. Personality speaks louder
Also, How do you know if he likes you? Did HE tell you? I wouldn't always go by what someone else says as people lie and make up rumors all the time. Talk to him in person but never assume
hello,sir/madam/
i am from india , my age is 22,
i have one gf in my life and our relastion is going good but my gf always fight with me at my final exam time,and i don,t have to consntrate on my reading,,finally this time my exam result is come and i am fail in my exam i have lost my 1 year and i m detain,,,and after my result come my gf say i don,t carrry thid relastionship more ,she ask me my parents will find guys for my marrige and this time you are not able for marrige ,and she leave me at my bad time. i have lost my all confidence so please help me ,,,i don,t have any one support
She isn't worth your time
Life is too short, Don't allow others to make you miserable. If you do not want marriage, Then that is okay. Nobody is forcing you, You have the right to be happy.
Sounds like she is not respecting you. Your main priority should be to focus on school. If you feel it is too stressful, Tgen tell her it isn't working out.
13-f
I was at a waterpark today with my friend -one girl, one guy-and I jokingly pointed out a cute boy that was standing by two other guys.. so my -guy- friend went over and said, 'Dude, she likes you.' ... and his friends laughed and said, 'THAT girl??!' and they did that dumb 'gag' hand gesture where they point down thier throat and pretent to throw up. The worst part was, I think, was the fact that I later found out one of the guys was the son of my dad's co-worker/best-friend... it just lowered my self esteem even more later on, when I was getting out of a pool and they started splashing me with a lot of water and yelling at me.. so I kinda lost it and flipped them off and hid in the restroom--more info-- im a middle schooler, blonde, very skinny, and short short hair.. and I have depression. :( so I guess the question is, how do I deal with this? I haven't had a boyfriend for almost two years, but every time my friend trys to set me up, she ends up with the guy, and every time one of my guy friends trys to, they come back saying guys thought I was.. ugly.
Sweetie your 13, Unfortunately this is how it is nowadays.
Kids and young teens are hypocritical about everything. They are rude, obnoxious and disrespectful.
You are not ugly, There is nothing wrong with you. Stop and think for a minute, How were they acting? Very immature.
If people treat you this way then it's time to find new friends. These people have growing up too do, Be the bigger person and walk away. Not worth it
My ex admitted that he liked me, and I kind of figured that he did. Honestly, I don't wanna get back together with him. I kind of did a bitch move the other day where I guess I sorta led him on. So our group of friends decided to go to his house to play but they were all guys (I'm the type who has mainly guy friends) and they all wanted to game. It was pretty late in the night and I was gonna game with them later, so to boost my energy, I said I would take a nap first. My ex decided to slip into bed with me 5 minutes later and I was half asleep and was like WTF. He put his arm around me and being the stupid drunk girl I am, I let him cuddle me. It sort of turned into a makeout session when he leaned in and kissed me. The next day, he was expecting me to be more intimate with him but I didn't want to, so now he's really pissed because he doesn't get what he wants. Idk, I kind of feel bad for "leading" him on like that and now he refuses to talk to me, but rather says bad things about me to others. What should I do?
Put your foot down and tell him it's over and to back the fuck off. If you want people to get the picture then you need to grow a backbone. Sometimes being nice just isn't good enough. Don't invite him over, Don't answer calls/text and don't initiate contact. Tell him no!
If he hopped in bed while you were drunk then clearly he had intentions of taking advantage of you.
So I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, I live in the U.S. and he lives in Australia. We have yet to meet up, because of money issues.
Today he tells me he has to tell me something and then proceeds to tell me he was caught masturbating in someones backyard. He was questioned by the police and has to go to a hearing in a few weeks.
I honestly thought he was joking, but he assured me that he isn't. I'm in shock, I don't understand why he'd do something like that. I asked him why and he said he's not really sure. I can't wrap my head around this, I'm in disbelief. I feel sick to my stomach, but I'm also worried he could potentially go to jail or something.
What brings a guy to do something like that??
How well do you know him exactly? Have you met him in person before?... Unfortunately, He may of revealed a whole nother ball game here.
Does he masturbate in his neighbors yard for a particular reason? Does his neighbor have children?..
he is a bit of a creep. 1, He can't give a valid explanation to why he did it, 2, He just willingly told you? Not many people just get caught masturbating in public... Perhaps you don't know him as well as you think you do.
I had a friend I considered to be my best friend. But for my bday 30th she called an hr before some of us were going out to celebrate to tell me she wasn't going because she felt akward around my friends she didn't even know.. but she can go out with other friends with their friends no problem. And she also had a get together and invited other friends that ive hung out with but didnt invite me. We haven't talked since, and she is making it look like to others I was the bad guy. Over it? Wouldn't you be?
She doesn't sound like a true friend, A real friend would suck it up for the sake of their friends. She blew you off, she's ignorant and only thinks of herself.
How do you know if a 13 year old girl is bulimic? She told me she is but I'm not sure if she's lying or not because she isn't losing weight. So what's signs/sympotoms is there that she is bulimic?
People who are bulimic aren't always skinny. Some are even over weight because they are suffering from malnutrition.
If a 13 year old told you she is bulimic, You need to take it seriously and get help. Not wait for signs
I sucked my bf'z dick nd he waz sperming in my mouth so can I get pregnant I swallowed half of dem
No....
You can only get pregnant if a penis penetrates the vaginal area.
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Yes but it's not a bad thing
You attract what you are, not what you want.
You attract by being who you are as a person, You don't always attract what you want.
This is a question for men, preferably, around 30.
I am a 21 year-old female, I'll be 22 in December.
I was just wondering if there was any chance that a man around 30 years old would be interested in someone my age other than for just sex. I feel like most men would just look at me like I'm a stupid child they wouldn't want to waste their time on.
I've never really fit in with any of my peers. I've always hung out with older people because I felt like I fit in much better; I relate to people older than I am. I've had some horrible experiences with relationships, and I've come to the realization that it's probably because I want a MAN. I appreciate the maturity level of an older man since I've always been more mature than my age.
So how do I attract an older guy in such a way that he looks at me as dating material instead of just some young girl he'd like to sleep with?
There's someone I'm interested in who's about 7 and a half years older than me. Is there anything I can do to get on his "potential girlfriend" radar?
What got me really thinking about this was when my mom told me the other day that she has a strong feeling I'm ultimately going to end up with someone 7 to 10 years older than I am. I think she's right, and I'd like serious advice on how to go about it.
I can't exactly tell you how other then to be yourself
When I look at women, I tend to look for someone who has stability, maturity and someone who I can see myself with. A relationship is based off a connection between two people. Try to engage in conversation without coming across as trying to hard. Find out what their interest are and talk about it with them. Ask them out for a coffee sometime etc.