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Ex boyfriend hates me?! :(
So my bf broke up with me about a week ago saying he wasn't really ready and wasn't that interested he said we were friends for now but he blocked me on IG and doesn't respond to my kiks and he didnt defriend me on xbox. Then today, his cousin texted me and said to take him out of my bio (one of my back up IGs I haven't been on and I had him as a friend) he doesn't like you anymore. And all if this has made me so depressed to the point that I wanna kill myself because he really loved me and showed me that he cared and he changed my life and I really loved him. I really want him back so badly and i want him to talk to me but what should I do? Thanks.
(Btw: we were together for 3 months :/)
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So you got dumped and pestered the dude who dumped you with texts and stuff. Classic mistake. Rookie move.
Everyone gets dumped. Celebrities get dumped. It happens. When you are dumped, it means you are dumped. It doesn't mean "you're dumped, but if you send me a zillion IMs over the next six hours you won't be".
PLEASE DO NOT TALK ABOUT KILLING YOURSELF. It's like saying "I have a gun" - if people take it seriously (and someone will), all kinds of bad, crazy stuff happens.
You are bummed because you got dumped. That's all.
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What should you do?
You try to move on. He doesn't want to keep in contact with you and you can't change that. Who knows why he's going out of his way to try to unfriend you on everything but you just need to forget about him.
You can't make someone want you back and you can't make someone talk to you so these are your options..
You can keep waiting around and hoping maybe he'll talk to you and respond to your messages, but that most likely will push him even farther away and you'll end up even more upset or you can do your best to move on with your life.
Dating is about learning. I'm assuming it was a good relationship and you enjoyed it. So it's a good memory and you should treasure it, but don't dwell on it and hope that it'll come back. You'll end up finding someone who will want to be with you just as much as you want to be with them. This guy isn't the right guy for you, so just let him go and find someone new.
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Not sure about your age but I will say that during the preteen thru college years, dating is all about learning. Learning what relationships is all about, how to communicate, gaining trust, respect, what you like and don't like in a guy, how to love yourself enough to not allow yourself to be treated badly by a guy...etc You can't learn all of that from one relationship. Whether its 3 mos or a year or 3 years, who is to say how long it takes to learn what you need to know and then move on to the next. Our problem is getting our hopes up to high when someone starts dating us. Dating someone doesnt mean that the two love each other necessarily. If you assume that a guy is in love with you because he asks you out or starts dating you, you have lots to learn yet dear. When you put things into perspective, you'll be able to enjoy the process of learning about relationships with the opposite sex instead of fearing getting hurt or moping around after a dating relationship dissolves. It doesn;t mean you failed, it means one or both weren't ready for that level of relationship or you just plain weren't right for each other. I am not addressing your depression because once you set your mind and thoughts on the right track and understand the relationship process, you won't ever have this issue again...yes you may for a while feel hurt if you cared about someone who didn't feel the same but there is nothing on earth anyone can do to force someone to like or love you. It takes away a persons free will and God has given that to all of us. I have written something about the steps of relationships that I will post for you now along with a link to a site on dating, relationships and sex by a college age female who is very good at what she shares.
The Normal steps to a Relationship
Attraction: Whether just plain looks or a pheremone attraction. It doesn't mean that either one "Likes" the other yet so it is important to go beyond the staring at stage to conversation.
Conversation: Now you are talking and find that you like the persons sense of humor, how they think, their beliefs or way of living life...this is the teaser...either you decide you want to learn more in depth about the person or you decide you don't have enough interest from the conversation to want to learn any more. Someone not interested stops talking to the other and looks elsewhere. If both want to learn more about the other, you start dating.
Dating: Dating is not all about calendar appointments to go to a movie or out to dinner, or out dancing. It is a time to learn what you like and don't like about the opposite sex. Find out more about the person you have interest in which happens only if you start seeing each other regularly making it a conscious choice. If there are too many dislikes, start over again with someone new. Or take this to the next level. Usually a move to being a steady couple happens automatically without any conscious thought.
Steady relationship: This is meant to be a time where you have plenty of opportunity to spend in each others presence getting to see how they handle themselves 24/7 under all sorts of conditions, their good days, and bad days. Many choose to live together at this time. There isn't much that can be hidden when you live with someone, like their housekeeping habits, what their usual diet is, any mood swings, and by now there should be a good idea of what their normal sexual habits and needs are. You don't want to get matched up with someone who is the opposite libido level of yourself.
Committed relationship: Here there are vows and oaths made to each other, a professing of mutual love and devotion for each other and it goes beyond words to living it out daily in how one treats their partner. This person will be your life mate with a marriage license or without one.
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Good luck dear.
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Defiantly do not kill yourself for starters. I know this is cliche but there are other fish in the see. Because there are, you got him and later on you can get another. I am not going to tell you to just get over him, because saying is a hell of a lot easier than done. I can't get over Chris Brown and we've never met before haha. Though I know that him leaving you was the best thing for you. Just think about it, he let you go so that another guy can who is actually right for you can come along. There are 4 billion dudes out there, you are too great to cry over ONE. Sulk for like a day, then delete him from everything and then add some more cute respectable guys to take his place. Trust me when I say, HE ISN'T WORTH IT!
Lillian Garvin
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He isn't interested and doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.
I am sorry to be the barrier of bad news but harassing him isn't going to make him come back. He blocked you because he knew you would try to initiate contact. He doesn't want to be friends, He doesn't want to be with you.
The best thing you could do is to move on and stop trying to contact him. Unfortunately, He made it pretty clear he is done. There isn't much eles to say
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