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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

One thing I LOVE to do is to analyze dreams. Just tell me about a dream you had, and I'll help you understand what it means. :)

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ok well..my best friend (who is a guy) really likes this girl. He is still getting to know her and hasnt asked her out yet but he still seems to like her..i do not have feelings for him nething more then a friend but i really dont like the girl who he chose..hes had some bad experiences and i just want him to be happy, but shes not right for him, i know more about her then he does and i want to tell him, but i dont think hed understand and i think he would just be mad at me..and i dont want him to get mad. The other thing is it seems like she tries to copy things i do bc she thinks its going to make him like her more..and i think someone should just be themself. Whenever shes around he wont talk to me or any of his other friends..i dont know if i should tell him...or let him be...

I know that you want to protect your friend, but chances are, that you're at an age when everything can seem confusing and overwhelming. The best thing you can do, is let your friend figure it out for himself. You definitely don't want to go up to him and say "That girls is dumb and a slut and she tries to be just like me!" That will make it sound like you Like him.

If he's smart, he will figure this girl out soon, so just give him some time because he can make his own decisions.

~Johanna

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I am Male 13.

I have liked this girl now for 5 years.We are the best friends you could ever hope for. But she doesn,t like me any more than just being friends. Now for a while I was fine with it, I just kept thinking I dont like her anymore and it worked,m for a while. I went to camp over the summer and she met,What she called a really hot boy. This made me realize I still like her. Now when ever i am around her I hurt. Now heres the question i dont know if i should quit being her friend or talk to her which is really hard when on the subject of me and her. Plus it doesn,t help that i feel stupid for feeling this way, should I feel stupid.

Don't feel stupid, its completely normal. I hear alot of wuestions like this, so heres my advice: Just because you like her more than a friend, doesn't mean you can't still be friends with her. Me & my boyfriend are obviosuly going out but he's like my best friend at the same time!

Don't worry about your friend saying she met a "really hot guy." Everyone thinks someone else is "hot" sometimes. I'm not sure why she told you about that though, since it is kind of rude to you, but maybe she doesn't know that you like her, so make sure you give her CLEAR signs, but don't go overboard.

You really have to talk to her, but DON'T feel bad if she doesn't like you back. Theres plenty of other girls out there. And DON'T let this situation ruin her and your friendship.

~Johanna

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what do guys like in a girl??? i have a bunch of friends who are guys and one of my best guy friends told me that his best friend likes me. i asked him why and he said he didnt know...i really would like to know what guys like in a girl cause its kinda annoying when a guy likes you but cant tell you why!!!

Well, he could be shy. Alot of people don't like saying WHY they like someone so early in a relationship. He may just be nervous around you or even a little embaressed that the truth got out about him liking you. So just give him some time. He might not exactly know yet why he likes you. Hey- it happens. Get to know him better & don't be like, "WHY DO U LIKE ME KID?!!!" lol. Just wait it out a bit. See what happens.

:) -Johanna

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um i cut and i want to stop do you have any tips??

You just stop. I don't get why everyone is like "Cutting is SOOOOO addicting I CANT stop!" Thats not true. You CAN stop, trust me I know. Just try using a journal to write in about how you feel and whats going on in your life. Also try listening to music. That should help. I sugguest hawthorne Heights.

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ok i asked this really beautiful girl. and well i asked her out on a date to the movies. but the problem is that well she is going to be the first date i went on with a girl. also its her first date too with a girl. and i wanna know how i cant stop my self from being so nervus and what can i do to make sure i dont screw up this date i really like this girl and i mean alot!

p.s. 14/f and my name is joanne

Well just be yourself! Don't try to act all fake and smiley and gazing into her eyes. That never works. Don't force things either, just act like shes your friend and you're hanging out with a good friend. If you want to get close to her during the movie, don't rush things. Just maybe put your arm up on the same arm rest as her and she should get the idea. Good Luck!

~Johanna

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my dog was 10 yrs old n he died yesterday n i cant stop crying wut do i do to get over this? he ment so much to me! we were bffs

Aww, its okay. I know how much pets can mean to people. I have 7 pets and they are my best friends also. It's going to be hard dealing with the loss of your dog but you just have to ask yourself Would you want your dog in heaven or would you want her here suffering? Also try to keep a journal and write your feelings there, write about memories you had with your dog, about where you think your dog is right now, just get it all out. Also music helps too.

Hope I helped! And its OK to cry!

~Johanna

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okay well im 13-f and i got my belly button pierced when i wasz 12. and for my 14th i wanna get my tongue done. because i really want to i guess lol... my mom and my sister has it so i want to. But my mom wants me to wait till im 16 to get it done. i dont get it at ALL because i was 12 when i got my belly button and my sister said it doesnt hurt at ALL. UGH this makes me so mad. i want to convince her into getting it for my 14th or even 15th birthday. PUHLESZ help me!!! i rate 5'sz!

and i already tried telling her that i already got my belly button and it isnt that much of a difference. so that isnt gunna work.

you're stupid!!!! You got your belly button done and you never have enough, do you? You always want more. Well, I have nothing and I am older than you. And you probably get to do alot more than I do.

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well......tommara is my first day in the 8th grade!! woopii!! im excited.. but the problem is that half of my skool is moving 2 a different skool becuzz they decided 2 move the skool border line things...well the line is on a road..that is about a mile away frum my house!!! and only pepl i no frum my elementary skool n sum other pepl r stayin but i donno who 2 sit with for lunch!! lmao.....and my best friend...i hate all of her friends....and they dont like me very much... (which is weird i no ...but me n my firend have been friends since... we were alive!) and another 1 of my really good friends has a lot of pepl i no...and i donno if i wood get along with them...but they seem really fun.... then ther is my cusiin......the most popular girl in skool...pretty much....shes that popular that last yr in 7th grade.. her boyfriend.. has anger problems..but her guy friends were flirting with her...the next day him and a friend brought a knife 2 skool and threatened the guyz... thank god she dumped him and he got expeled so0o yay!! but her friends...are all popular but ther all nice... so0 i donno... they all get... sorta sluty (they almost all r) so i have 3 choices nad i donno wat 2 take...im thiknin with my friend...with summ of thepeople i donno very well....but help!!! pleez! lol (sorry its so0o long lmao)

thanx bii

I know how you feel. I just started school too and none of my friends are in my lunches. My sugguestion to you would be sit with a small group of friends. Don't sit with the "popular" or "in" crowd. Just because they all have a big group of friends doesnt make them "cool" Watch out, because once you sit at the popular table you turn into...one of them. So just try to sit with your friend and the new people. You can make some new friends.

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okay im 16 and just got my bellybutton pierced like last week. theres is this girl bianca and i basicly coacher her into the school and like made her cool and hot and all of that sort of stuff. and like she has been bragging that she got her belly ring when she was in summer of 8th grade and its like.. okay get over it. but she is turing into a totall bitch about it and i really dont want to be friends with a girl like that. do you guys think its okay to get your bellybutton pierced at 13/14. i tried telling her to stop bragging and no one cares because no one really does except for her, is there any way to get some sence into her to make her stop being annoying?

Well, I think you should be the responsible adult here, because um, you are sixteen so you really shouldnt care what the hell she does. I mean, you're like alot older than her, so why should you care? Just tell her "Good For You" and then just stay away from her. I know a friend who got her bellybutton pierced. Yeah, everyone thinks its so cool, but that really deppends on what kind of person you are.

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=/ I suck at reading guys' actions, so.....

1) He sits next to my best friend in my Social Studies Class. So one day before class, I went over to talk to her, and he jumped, yes JUMPED up and RAN, yes, SPRINTED across the room, and started talking to his friend. Matter of fact, he practically leaves everytime I come near. I'm not mean to him or anything, and we get along well (just got aquainted about 2 1/2 weeks ago)

2) When I come late into class, he stares. Like the other day, I came in late, and he looked at me for about 5 minutes while I was explaining to the teacher.

3) He'll only talk to me if I say something to him. I don't think this means anything--a lot of my friends say he does that anyways.

=/ And he has a girlfriend. Or should say "groupie". She's VERY obsessed with him. I think he just gave in, (they were friends) and was too nice to know.

What do you guys think?

Well he definitely thinks of you alot. My guess would be yes, he likes you. But make sure hes not a jerk. If he has a girlfriend already then he shouldn't be making it so clear that he has a crush on you, since well, he is, making it very clear that he likes you. So just talk to him, or sometimes boys feel more comfortable talking online or on the phone.

~Johanna

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I want to get my lip pierced but idk if it'd look good on me, alot of people said it would but i just want some more advice uhhhhh..
here's a link to my picture o_O

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v410/glitterglitz/9d7f9fd3.jpg

lol i drew one on once and it looked okay haha.
but ugh its body manipulating and i just wanna make sure o_o

Wow, you're pretty. Lol. But Now for the part where I actually help you- I think a lipring would look good on you, but its really up to you. Just because your friends say you would look good with a lipring, doesn't mean you Have to get one. If you feel like you can take care of it by keeping it clean and everything, then go for it.

--Johanna

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I`m Havin my birthday party in a week and idk what movies to rent for the party.
(Its a sleepover and I have 8 Friends coming ) We all like comedies/chick flicks such as Mean Girls. Some of my friends are still 13 so please not any R rated movies. We also like some scary movies.
Thankss for the help loveliess``.

Freaky Friday, Finding Nemo, White noise, The Village, Pirates Of The Caribbean, Edward Scissorhands, Whats Eating Gilbert grape, Cry Baby, Mean Girls, Confessions Of A teenage Drama Queen, Raise Your Voice, Must Love Dogs, Sliding Doors, Can't Buy Me Love, Love Don't Cost A thing, The Stepford Wives.

Hope I gave You Some Good Ones.

--Johanna

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13/M

I'm a really late developer, so I'm still the shortest one in my grade; my voice is very soprano; and it just doesn't seem like I've been going through puberty yet. But I have, because I love this one girl. School starts in under a week, how can I make it look like I've been going through changes, like I'm taller, stronger, and have a deeper voice? Thanks!

Well, you could wear platform shoes/boots, take steroids, and talk in a macho voice, but that won't get you anywhere. If you really love a girl, and she loves you back, she shouldn't care about those little things. Don't worry that you are not "developed" yet, because boys physically mature slower than girls. So just be yourself.

--Johanna

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My brother is getting married next month. He lives in Washington and we have to fly there for the wedding. I am scared to death to fly and I really don't even want to go if I have to. Should I say something to my parents? Should I just go and hope it doesn't crash? HELP!

I am scared to fly on airplanes too, but I have to sometimes. It makes me feel better to pray that the plane will not crash and that we will get there safely. Sometimes you just have to trust God. Also try staying busy on the plane, keep a journal or listen to your cd player/mp3/ipod.

Anyways, think logically. It is more often that the plane gets there safely than it crashes right? Yep, plane crashes are atcually kind of rare. So don't worry about it because:

1. The pilots know what they are doing, alot of them have trained in the airforce, and they have been flying planes for many years!
2. Ever since September 11th, Airport Security has been very tight, so that should make you feel safer.

Love & Peace,
--Johanna

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Hey I was just wondering which would be better for health reasons: eyebrow, nose, bellybutton or lip piercing? thx

No, your belly button is not the most safe. In fact, you could get an infection from all of these. I would go with your eyebrow though.

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Okay i'm 15 f and I have been going out with this guy (braiden 15m) on and off for about 3 years, and i really like him alot, but recently school started and there were alot of my old friends and peers that got really hot, and last night i was talking to one(kile 14m) on the phone and we were talking about our days and he was like i only saw like 3 hot chicks and i was like one is me cause i'm soo damn cute and he was like well yeah... and i was like Braiden is your bestfriend and he was like well the rest of his friends LIKE you too and i was like wtf do you mean and he was like nevermind... and I'm really confused because i really like braiden, but I also kinda like kile and i dont know what to do... Sorry so long, i rate high...

Are you talking about brayden Tucker?!! Yes, well if you are, I know him....

If its a different brayden, I'm sorry I brought it up but anyways, you should know that guys do have alot of thoughts about other girls, just like you might think other boys are cute or hot too. It's part of a normal relationship, but he shouldn't really talk to you about that. it's kind of rude. You should talk to him though. Test his respect for you by having a friend go up and ask him if he would ever cheat on you, or if he would ever dump you just because another girl was hotter. If the answer is yes to either of those, hes not a good guy to be with. Maybe he will mature a little more as he gets older. Just make sure you speak up about this to him and don't let him walk all over you! Also, I think that maybe you should take a break for a while. Kyle sounds like he only wants you and Braiden to break up, and like you said, braiden and you have been on again off again for 3 years, so maybe its time to find someone new.

Drop one in my inbox if you want to talk again.

--Johanna

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Heyyy I was wondeering how to dress if i wanna be a punk... i dont wanna wear spikes and ugly stuff... i just wanna look different

You all are Whack. Avril Lavinge is about as punk as my grandma. She misses the whole concept of "punk" and so do you. You don't need spikey bracelts and stud belts and dark colors to be "punk" unless you are Joel Madden from good Charlotte. As a matter of fact, its not how you dress at all. Punk just means listening to punk rock and viewing the world different than other people do. Also they are VERY much into punk music, and I don't mean Good Charlotte or Avril lavinge, thats poser music. I mean real punk like Iggy Pop, The Strokes, and the Ramones. See, people like me ("punk" people) are against school social pyramids. We don't think there should be popular people telling us what to do. So you sound like a major retard who was kicked out of her little popularity throne, saying "I don't want to wear like spikes and ugly stuff." Well, you're obviously someone who actually CARES about how they look. And FYI: you can't make yourself punk. It's something that just happens. So why don't I give you some real advice? Stop labeling people as punk and goth & get a life!!!!!

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ok im the one who asked about the church crush and if i should break up with my bf. ok well, my bf is having some REALLY big family problems right now and i feel i need to be there for him. i mean everytime i even THINK about him being hurt i cant keep myself from feeling really bad. i mean....sigh...he was there for me when i needed him and i tend to be there for him but i cant do that when were not together. i mean i do love him. but another thing is he is really prude and i dont like that in a guy, but i like him so much that i dont really care. i really really really need help! PLEASE!

Well, I think you should wait things out a little. Obviously, he is going through some hard times, so he needs a friend. I think you should talk to him about whats going on, tell him that its okay, things will get better eventually. I know this because my family fights alot, and whenever things seem to get bad, they usually always blow over, if you just wait it out.

You can also wait until you think its a good time, and talk to him about your relationship. Tell him: "Maybe a girlfriend would be too much trouble for you right now. I really want your family problems smoothed out and I don't want to stand in the way of it. I think we should be friends for now because friends can help each other out when somethings wrong." He should understand that, because that is not being mean at all! So just be there for him, talk to him, be a friend to him. If he doesn't appreciate it now, then he will later.

;)Keep me posted!

~Johanna

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hey i wanna tone my tummy so its like flat...ive started doing twenty sit-ups a day is that enough? and how long until i will see a change in my tummy? thanx...xxx

Well, I think you're going to have to do alot more situps to get a flatter tummy. Yes, it is unbelievable, but you might have to do up to 50-75 a night. But ofcourse there are other options. So check out these websites:

http://www.seventeen.com/health/train/spc/0,,625882_674772,00.html
http://exercise.about.com/od/abs/ss/abexercises.htm
http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p2954.htm

P.S- Make sure you are on a good diet too. Eat light, crackers, fruit, veggies, bread, fish, tofu, white emats. And stay away from red meats like steak.

Good Lucks & Have a good summer.

--Johanna

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At rock concerts there are 3 dances that people do but i dont really know like how to do them or what they look like...

Hardcore dancing, skanking, and 2 stepping

help?

Well, I'm not sure because I've never danced at a rock concert before, and not many people do. Hardcore dancing is probably like when your in a mosh pit, but beware, those can be dangerous. Skanking sounds like dirty dancing hence the name, SKANKing, so I don't know about the two stepping. And you don't necessarily have to dance especially at a rock concert.

Have fun.

--Johanna

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