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what to do?
ok well..my best friend (who is a guy) really likes this girl. He is still getting to know her and hasnt asked her out yet but he still seems to like her..i do not have feelings for him nething more then a friend but i really dont like the girl who he chose..hes had some bad experiences and i just want him to be happy, but shes not right for him, i know more about her then he does and i want to tell him, but i dont think hed understand and i think he would just be mad at me..and i dont want him to get mad. The other thing is it seems like she tries to copy things i do bc she thinks its going to make him like her more..and i think someone should just be themself. Whenever shes around he wont talk to me or any of his other friends..i dont know if i should tell him...or let him be...
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First, it makes sense that she's copying you. She's probably jealous that you guys are so close and she wants to be close with him. And to the subject that he doesn't talk to you guys when she's around just shows that he likes her a lot! But you could try bringing them into a converstaion, maybe get to know her.
I'm not totally sure how close you guys are, but if you are really close then you might try telling him that you're not sure about her. If he asks why, just say you're not sure but it's something about her. That way, you're not accusing her or him of anything and he has no reason to get upset. After that, if he likes her then let him be. Support him if he asks her out, and while they're going out-it's the only thing you can do. You dont' want to seem controlling.
Good luck!<33
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Hiya! Sometimes you just need to let them expierience the pain for themselves, or else he'll never learn. If he finally realizes this girl just isn't for him, he'll know not to make the same mistake in the future! I agree with you that she should just be herslf,but her true personality will come out eventually. Not to worry...
XoBaByLoVeoX is always here for you!!!
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you should sit sown with your friend and talk to him. i have been in this same situation before. except it was my cousin going out with a girl. and she had given more rides than the school bus. just sit down with him and talk it out.. tell him how you feel. he seems like a good friend. if he gets mad at you then when he finds out you were telling the truth .. he cant really say anything. atleast you told him.
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I know that you want to protect your friend, but chances are, that you're at an age when everything can seem confusing and overwhelming. The best thing you can do, is let your friend figure it out for himself. You definitely don't want to go up to him and say "That girls is dumb and a slut and she tries to be just like me!" That will make it sound like you Like him.
If he's smart, he will figure this girl out soon, so just give him some time because he can make his own decisions.
~Johanna
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