Don't change a thing - remember that always.

No not all guys go for looks, but who wants the ones that do? Wouldn't you want your boyfriend, or anyone for that matter like you for your personality? Honestly, if a lot more girls would stop worrying about what they look like and realize that it is closer to being unimportant than important, they would actually realize that the guys that do go for looks aren't worth it.

Why? Simple. Why would you go out with somebody who is interested or attracted to you just because of the way you look. Thats rediculous! I don't know about you, but I would want ( and have ) a person in a relationship that cares for me, respects me, is responsible, and knows about me...not that talks to me because of the way I look.

If you have a great personality and are fun to be around, then you are miles ahead of girls that over-do the makeup for the attention. That is really all you need. Then why havn't you had a boyfriend or been kissed before? Who knows. What I do know is that you are only fourteen (I don't mean that in a bad way), and that you have plenty of time for that when you are older, so don't rush.

Realize that before he is your boyfriend, he has to be your friend. Are you friends with people for their looks? I would hope not! So why would a relationship be based on that? I'm telling you all that to show you that not all guys go for looks, the ones that do aren't worth it, and that you don't need to change anything about yourself to get guys to like you...because then they won't be liking you, they will be liking what you do and what you've changed. So I say just wait cause good things come to those who do. Focus on just making good friendships and moving on from there - when the time is right things will happen; no worries. Hope that helped and good luck.

Relax and no you are not alone in this. Think about it though: if you aren't in a relationship, you are free to talk to and be friends with whomever you'd like...and at the same time are not tied down to calling every so often, weekends, etc. Just because you havn't done things with guys or havn't had a boyfriend, doesn't make you a bad person. Actually, a lot of guys would probably want that in a girl; they would naturally want to choose that over a girl who's had a past with guys and sexually active, ya know what I mean? Don't let it bother you really. Cheer up, when the time is right you will find the right person...but don't focus all your time on looking for the right person or anything, because of two things: if you do find the right person, it might be after going through a lot of things (which could be bad); and also because you should concentrate on being a person who can actually love, that way you can form a relationship based on that and not on just who the guy is. Hope that helped, feel better, and good luck.

First off thanks for dropping it in my inbox, feel free to do so any time. You could try asking him. Really, most guys don't mind when girls are straightfoward. Let him know that you would really appreciate it if he went over. Make sure you tell him with enough time and directions and everything though. Personally, I find it easier ( and I guess my parents do too ) when I know about things ahead of time. So talk to him and let him know that, just make it clear. I don't see why he wouldn't want to go. Well I hope that helped and feel free to drop one in my inbox anytime, and good luck of course with your boyfriend and the tournament.
P.S. - I'd love to go, where is it?

Fun! Relax and don't be afraid. After the third week you'll be used to it and it won't seem that different from regular school. You do have your work cut out for you, but who doesn't? It will probably the easiest thing in high school ever, so relax! Everyone is feeling the same way, really. Nobody is going in there knowing the place already, and its not like everyone is friends with everyone else except you. For me it was pretty easy, maybe too easy. It was good cause nobody was friends with anyone else, so you could talk to anyone. Teachers usually cut you a break because they know you're new and stuff. No need to worry, just make sure you don't slack off on your work and don't cross the line with rules/people. Hope that helped and good luck.

Want a boyfriend? Make sure he is your friend first. So yeah just get to know him and let him get to know you. Make plenty of friends, but not for the sake of dating him later. Remember to be: confident, respectful, and honest. There's really no secret. Don't focus too much on 'finding the right person', definately go for being a loving person...cause when you have that it doesn't matter who you got. Take things slow and don't rush into things - you might just as easily fall out as fast. Don't set out to just find a boyfriend, cause you should be somebody's girlfriend because you like them a lot, not like them a lot because you want to be their girlfriend. Hope that helped and good luck.

I have this same problem. iTunes will only work under that account, your dad's. I don't know if its because it's the administrative account or because it was the first one programmed to work, either way you can't change it. So find the folder on your account that has all the songs you want, then cut and paste them into the Shared Folder, under My Computer. So now you can go to your dad's account, and re-open those songs under the iTunes there. You will have to use the iTunes under that account from now on, there isn't anything you can do to make it so you can use it on your account to update your iPod, sorry. Hope that helped and good luck. If you need anything else let me know.

They've got it all right, what has been said so far. Because Jesus Walks - Kanye West, he says Jesus and God, and they don't bleep it out, be he is also not using it the way Panic is.

Nah! Wanna know why? Well I mean you could, but would you want somebody to like you out of jealousy? Instead of trying to make him jealous, try what a lot (maybe 80%) of guys wish girls would do - confront him and tell him you like him. I mean I'm guessing you want him to like you more because you like him. Besides, you do take that risk when trying to make somebody jealous - it could backfire in your face and he could just completely forget about you all together. Seriously, you'll be much better off if you just talk to him and be friendly, because jealousy leads to tension, which has the potential to create problems. So don't keep trying to make him jealous, just be yourself and wait for him to like you for who you really are, not for being jealous or the things you do to him like that. Hope that helped and good luck.

Hmmmmmm! Write him poetry or a song. If you play the guitar or any other instrument, try writing your own music and lyrics for him - that's like the ultimate. Draw a picture of yourself and him with some scenery, use paint or colored pencils. Why? Sounds a bit corny, but it's definately something you keep in a shoebox for 30 years. Cook for him! I love food. So maybe if you find the materials to make something easy for him [yeah even that pasta in a bowl thing works] I'm sure he'd like it too. If you can, try slipping in a note into his pocket or something without him noticing, with a small message like I

Well for starters, what he may think is love and what you may think is love could very well be two totally different things. If you two don't hang out or talk to each other that much or anything, then how can you really know each other enough to say that it really is love? If you really want to keep this going, I will warn you that it might not be pretty, or work out in the long run either. I would confront him and let him know everything you just wrote.

Here's one to remember for any and all dating: if you want a guy to do/not do something when you are around or with you, directly tell him and make it clear. Why? Well some guys just won't pick up on hints or just won't ever think about saying things or doing things that you would expect - not because they don't care either, just that it never occured to them. So if you'd like to keep the relationship going, let him know. If you want him to call you back more, to talk to you more, to hang out with you more - let him know all those things. If he really cares about you then he would be willing to try.

I wouldn't get your hopes up. It doesn't seem like much of a relationship at this point, but that doesn't mean its a total loss. Plus, from what you've said it seems like you are the one giving and he isn't giving much back. Sometimes its uneven even though both are trying to give 100%, but it doesn't seem like he is even trying. That's not fair for you. He's cheated before? Hmm I would definately take that into account. Do you really love him for who he is, or just the idea of being in love and having a boyfriend? Talk to him about all of this and sort out your feelings, ultimately the choice is yours. Oh yeah, just because he is your first boyfriend that doesn't mean anything - it shouldn't stop you from breaking things off if you feel like you need to, and it doesn't mean you can't find another one later. Hope that helped and good luck.

Hmmmm. What you should do is tell the truth to everyone. Probably the last thing you wanted to hear from anybody, but sorry if it had to be from me.

Look at it this way: if a friend of yours had the same thing going on, some other guy that you started to like pulled the same thing off on you...wouldn't you feel worse if you found out it was a lie the hard way than if he just confronted you and was honest? What I'm trying to say is that either way, he's going to find out. It might as well be in a way that puts you in a positive light, by telling the truth and being courageous.

Could it ruin your friendship? Maybe. But think about it - is it really worth keeping a friendship if it is built on lies? or is it even a friendship at that point? Tell him about everything, and the truth, and see if he still wants to be your friend. If he does, then he really was your friend. If not, then oh well, sorry to sound a bit harsh though. If he is moving in a few months, what are the chances you will see him again? If it is very unlikely, then it's not worth going through the trouble of making up lies to him or even to your parents anymore. So think about it, try to find it in yourself to be honest and truthful with yourself, C, and your parents - things might not even turn out as bad as you expect, they usually don't. Hope that helped and good luck.

Despite what anyone else may say - you're in good shape. Thats nothing to be embarrased about, not at 15. At some point or another everyone has no idea what they are doing, really. What, did you think that all your friends just knew exactly what to do first time? Probably not. Nothing to be scared about either. Nobody says that because you like them that you need to be able to and should do all those things. Really wanna see if he likes you that much? See if he still likes you after you set the limits and say: hey I'm not gonna do anything sexual with you. Sounds stupid, but honestly - if the guy cared and respected you that much, then he would agree to it...whereas others who don't care about you as much wouldn't. Anyways its nothing to be afraid of, you can't really be put down or made fun of for not knowing how to do all those things yet. Hope that helped and good luck.

First off thanks for dropping it in my inbox, feel free to do so any other time.

Should you break up with your boyfriend? That is ultimately your decision. First you should talk to your current boyfriend and tell him how you feel about everything. Yes tell him that you think things are too serious right now, that you don't like it that way, and that you don't like him as much as you do. Why? Well if things were the other way around, and he was the one that didn't like you as much, wouldn't you want him to tell you that instead of just pretending or going along with it?

You both need to communicate, you owe it to yourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend, and even just as friends. It is always difficult to not hurt someones feelings when you want to break up with them, but I think its even more difficult to explain yourself and get through the situation if it was two months later and then you confessed you didn't like him as much since the beginning. So while you might hurt his feelings by telling him soon, better sooner than later.

Before you do talk to him, give yourself a chance. Since he's been like this only recently, things could shape up or change a bit - you never know. So I say wait a bit, not too long, but enough time to decide for yourself if it really is true that you don't like whats going on at the moment. I say maybe a week or two is enough time.

You could also try asking him why he's so serious about all this all of a sudden, before you let him know you don't like it. You don't have to ask him in a tone or way to show that you dislike it, but just ask him like you would any question.


About your other friend...tough. Are you sure you have strong feelings for him? Again, I would say to wait a week or two to see if things have settled in. Think about it some more. Is he your friend as much as you are his friend? Before you would even question him as an option for a boyfriend, you have to see him as a friend first. Also, you want to make sure you really know this guy too. I'm not saying you don't know him, but just that sometimes we see the better in people and like that, instead of waiting to see all of the person, good and bad, and then deciding. So I think it would be unwise to suddenly break up with your boyfriend just to be available for your other friend.

First, if you feel like your feelings for your friend are stronger than that for your boyfriend, and you don't want to continue anymore, then first go off by letting your boyfriend know that you think you might like somebody else. Then move on by letting your other friend know that you like him. Yes, letting him know is something you should definately do. It could very well be that he is trying to not like you because he knows you have a boyfriend. Whatever the case is, let him know. Even if you let him know that you like your friend, if he doesn't feel the same way for whatever reason, that doesn't mean you still can't be friends. In other words - let your boyfriend know that you like somebody else, and let your friend know that you like him.

Sorry my answer is so long, but I wanted to make sure everything was clear. If not or I didn't totally answer, let me know right away. So it really is up to you. Give it some time to think things through. You should definately give your boyfriend somewhat of a chance to see if he changes, and also let him know that you don't like the seriousness as much. But whatever your decision, good luck and I hope that helped. Feel free to ask me anything else anytime!

The bible does say:

"Man is not to know the time or the hour that God has set for the end of time"

So basically just as every prediction that has come before us and been wrong [remember Y2K?], many more will be made, none accurate of course. What is happenin today? Nothing, just an ordinary day. Media tends to get hungry and over-exagerate things. Hope that helped.

Apologize and forget. No one incident or moodswing or whatever should ruin a friendship or anything. I think you should apologize to her for your actions, explain to her why it is things happened that way [sorry if you already did do those things], and let her know that it bothered you that she showed up uninvited. Let her know you didn't mean to treat her that way, but that next time she should consider your feelings by not showing up uninvited - I'm sure she didn't mean to make things worse. Hope that helped and good luck.

A good majority of the guys I know that feel the same way would almost never directly ask a girl if they liked them or tell them that he likes her. I even asked a lot of them: do you think its weird if a girl tells you she likes you or if she asks you if you like her? They all said no. Most guys are at ease when they know if a girl likes them or does not - as in he probably won't act differently then he does around others.

Best way to do it? Straight out ask him if he likes you. Thats all there is to it. Really. Sounds simple, but yeah I know - easier said than done. Honestly, once you ask him you'll see it really wasn't a big deal at all. It's all about confidence - and all guys love to see that. Hope that helped and good luck.

Two reasons why he could have gotten mad:
1.His friends that he trusted enough to tell them that told you after not wanting anyone to know.
2.It's not true and his friends are the ones trying to make him look bad.

Whatever the case, ask the your friend what she thinks. Are the guys you heard this from dependable? Is the guy himself dependable? Talk things through with your friend - be there for her.

I don't think there is much you could do in terms of helping the relationship. You could help your friend by talking to her about things you hear or anything else. If she feels that the relationship is not too much of a strong one, or that what was said is true [as in all they do is make out], then it would probably be better for her to let him go. Personally, it does seem like her could just be using her and not actually want to be committed to the relationship. But it is up to her to make the decision, so try not to force a break-up/stay-together on her. Hope that helped and good luck.

You might want to be her friend, but she might not want to be your friend. Talk to her. Set aside time for when you're both free to talk to her for a few minutes and let her know everything you just wrote. Everything. Ask her if she still wants to be your friend. Even if you have been friends for a long time, there's no use in keeping that friendship if one doesn't want to be friends anymore.

I don't necessarily blame you or anything. I think she's could be going through a lot to handle right now and a lot of changes. You could still be there to support her, but even if you do, I wouldn't expect much from her back. So talk to her and if she blows up on you again, then it would be best to let things go one way or the other - no use in sticking around if it's not fun and making you upset. Talk to those three others about the idea and see what they think. Hope that helped and good luck.

" I've been introduced as being prolife, but I want to make clear that I'm really pro-choice. I believe that a person has the right to do whatever she wants with her own body. It's none of our business what choice she makes, and we have no right to impose our morals on others. Whether I like someone's decision or not is irrelevant. She should have the freedom to make her own choices...

Yes I'm prochoice. Thats why I believe every man has the right to rape a woman if that it his choice. After all, it's his body, and neither you nor I have the right to tell him what to do with it. He's free to choose, and it's none of our business what choice he makes. We have no right to impose our morals on him. Whether I like the choice or not, he should have the freedom to make his own choices..."

Exceprt taken out of a book, so not my own words. The term pro-choice is vague, because not all those for the choice of abortion, are in favor of other cases of choice [as the example provided above]. Simply put - and this applies to anyone regardless of who you are - your [and I mean in general] opinion is not disputable.

Just because you have the power to do something, does not necessarily mean you must excercise this right. Example: "Since June 24, 2004, the New York State death penalty statute has been declared unconstitutional by the New York Court of Appeals." Yes states have the right to grant a person the death penalty, but nowhere is it implied nor that they must use or resort to this. Other states do however.

Why talk someone out of it? Or why talk anyone out of anything for that matter? I don't like using generalizations, so I can only say that a majority of people try to talk somebody out of doing something because they think it's wrong or shouldn't happen.


I'm not telling you that you are wrong or that you are right. That was the best I could do right now in terms of answering your questions, since as somebody very clearly stated earlier, this isn't really a question or asking for advice. This is more of a 'hey what do you think' kind of topic. By the way, I'm pretty sure a majority of those pro-choice don't have parents who are... so if you're parents gave you the chance and gift of life, why wouldn't you do the same?

1 Byte = 8 Bits
1 KB (1 kilobyte or 1000 bytes) = 8000 bits
1 MB [megabyte] = 1000 KB
1 GB [gigabyte] = 1000 MB
1 TB [terabyte] = 1000 GB

1000 bytes are in 1 KB
1000 KB in one MB
1000 x 1000 = 1,000,000
So 1 Million Bytes in 1 MB

Hope that helped

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