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Is he using her?
okay my friend she's 15 and she really likes her boyfriend and stuff and she talked to his friends and they said that he is only dating her for 2 reason: to make out with her and to make someone else jealous. I would try to help her more but i don't know what to do. She then asked him if it was true and he got mad. If you guys read this answer asap i need your help as soon as possible. If your a "guy" then i'd love to hear your advice to thanx :)
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*sigh* YES HE IS USING HER!!!!!!
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first of all shame on this guys friends for telling his gf that he is just using her, true or not it is still gossip and none of their business... secondly i can totally see why this guy got angry when she asked him that, if you are really into someone and they have doubts about it, it hurts. lastly, and this is the sucky part, no one will ever know the truth in this dillema, because the only person that knows the truth is the guy, and he would never admit to using his gf. this girl needs to follow her heart on this one and not listen to all the gossip around her. if she never suspected being used before, why would she just because some people said so? if i said the pope isnt catholic, he just likes to wear the hat, the pope wouldnt question me, because he knows the truth...
but enough about the pope...
only the girlfriend can determine whether or not she is being used, so if you are really that concerned about it, ask her. it couldnt hurt.
good luck!
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i just thought of an idea of what could prove if it is a lie or if it is ture. ask your friedn to do this. let them do whatever they usual do together but tell her NOT to kiss him or make out with him. ask her if at any point there is where there is a girl and he always trys to be all over at that moment but once that girl is gone then he stops? if that is ture thewn what his friends said was true. otherwise just leave it alone. if ur friend doesnt want to believ you then let it be your friend and since you tryed helping her and it didnt work all you can do is help her back up when she falls.
♥ Steph
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Two reasons why he could have gotten mad:
1.His friends that he trusted enough to tell them that told you after not wanting anyone to know.
2.It's not true and his friends are the ones trying to make him look bad.
Whatever the case, ask the your friend what she thinks. Are the guys you heard this from dependable? Is the guy himself dependable? Talk things through with your friend - be there for her.
I don't think there is much you could do in terms of helping the relationship. You could help your friend by talking to her about things you hear or anything else. If she feels that the relationship is not too much of a strong one, or that what was said is true [as in all they do is make out], then it would probably be better for her to let him go. Personally, it does seem like her could just be using her and not actually want to be committed to the relationship. But it is up to her to make the decision, so try not to force a break-up/stay-together on her. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Hi person who I've never met. i'm sick of starting off my answers with Well, and first of all, and technically, so this time i'll write person I've never met. Well, about yor question, I would open your friend to the possibilities. Does she know for a fact that what her boyfriend's best friends say are true? Maybe they could be trying to get her away from him because a)they want her or b) they're jealous that this boy spends more time with her than they do with them. What do you think about him? Does he look like the bad type of person? Ask your best friend the same thing? Only time will tell, because sooner or later, he might let his true colors show and then you'll know if he's using her.
Hope I helped :b
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Relationships are all about honesty. If she talked to his friends, they'll usually know what's going on. (if they're his closest friends)And if he got mad when she asked, that usually means that he has something to hide. But know that it's okay to be there for her but she's old enough to take care of herself. You have to let her make her own decisions....buutt.....that doesnt necessarily mean you have to stay out of it completely. If you hear something about it, tell her. However, you need to let her know that she needs to talk to him. Like i said...relationships are about honesty. Tell your friend that I'm here for her. Keep me updated on how it goes.
♥ Me
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Yes, I think he is using her. However, my personal experience shows that this isn't something you should meddle with. I know you care about your friend, but she needs to be able to make her own mistakes. If a guy is a jerk, he always has a way of telling you. Your friend just wasn't paying attention. She's going to go through a lot of conflicting emotions. You'll probably hear her say, "I forgive him, even though it hurt. I know he loves me." She'll probably ask you what she should do. Go ahead and tell her that she's making a big mistake, and that she should break up with him for good, but be warned that it probably won't do anything. In the end, she's going to make her own decision. It's going to hurt her for a while, but she'll live. Hopefully, it will make her a little smarter, and next time she'll make the right choice. But that may take time, and a few more boyfriends. I've been in your situation quite a few times, so believe me when I say that there is nothing you can do to stop her from doing what she wants. If you want to be a good friend, stay by her side with tissues and hugs at the ready. She has a perfectly good brain to tell her what to do, she has you to comfort her and cheer her up.
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I'm not a guy, but I might be able to help. You, as her friend, should try and find out if this is true or not. If you know for a fact it's true, talk to your friend. Make sure you are there to support her, because she might need it after she finds out this information. Make sure she knows you are there for her. As for her boyfriend getting mad that she asked, it seems he has something to hide. Personally, I think your friend should dump him. That way, her bf will not only be embarresed because he was trying to make someone else jealous, but he will lose his "play toy". Revenge can be sweet. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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