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best friend or not?
(16/f)
alright so me and this girl have been the best of friends since 1st grade. we were seriously inseperable up until about a month and a half ago. i think she has changed so much. for the first time we started partying and we met some new friends over spring break. well now she has been skipping school..shes failing the 10th grade. she doesnt do any work..she did have a problem with drinking but then she quit drinking as much. she yells at her parents and cusses them out if they ask her to help around the house. well lately its like i cant stand her. at first i like this guy alot and i started talking to him first but then he started liking her cause she was flirting with him constantly and they started hanging out and she made out with him and she knew that i really really liked him. she flirts with every guy that comes along. my other friend liked a guy and my best friend did stuff with him. on top of all that its like if i say something stupid she blows up on me and says "fuck you" and cusses me out even more. it seems like everyday we get into a small argument. like today.. we were in the lunch line and my friend asked how this guy we know found out about her and another guy and i said " well she might have told him" and my best friend blew up on me saying "i didnt fucken tell him so dont go blaming shit on me..you fucking always say and ask stupid shit" its like i cant stand her anymore. i dont want to lose her as a friend but i seriously think i am starting to hate her. and im not the only one that feels like this. 3 of her other friends feel the same way. what should i do?!?!?!? ILL RATE HIGH
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You might want to be her friend, but she might not want to be your friend. Talk to her. Set aside time for when you're both free to talk to her for a few minutes and let her know everything you just wrote. Everything. Ask her if she still wants to be your friend. Even if you have been friends for a long time, there's no use in keeping that friendship if one doesn't want to be friends anymore.
I don't necessarily blame you or anything. I think she's could be going through a lot to handle right now and a lot of changes. You could still be there to support her, but even if you do, I wouldn't expect much from her back. So talk to her and if she blows up on you again, then it would be best to let things go one way or the other - no use in sticking around if it's not fun and making you upset. Talk to those three others about the idea and see what they think. Hope that helped and good luck.
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I suggest not be friends with her anymore, because if she cusses at you she might not want to be your friend anymore.
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Eeek. im sorry to hear this, i think the best thing is maybe try and take a break from her for a little while. ask yourself is this someone you really want to be involved with, and does a true friend treat someone that way? you could also try to talk to her and maybe she will open up to you, because im thinking something is bothering her and causing her to act out. =)
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You can't do much. You can not control her actions. The only thing you can do is to stay away from her. It sounds like you were best friends. But she's definitely changed. What you have to do is decide if you want to wait around to see if this is just a phase or move on. It will be hard to move on but know that what makes it hard is the fact that you remember the way she used to be. If you want to make it better, you have to look at the way she is now and base on what you know....answer the question of is she going to change. and if she is, is it soon enough to wait around for and put up with this for that amount of time. Good luck to you.
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The fact that she's flirting with a lot of guys, has family problems, and is irritable with other girls probably means that she's desparate for love. Not "desparate" in the sense that she wants a bf, but she just wants someone, ANYONE, to show her love and attention. Most likely, she views you and other girls as threats and is affraid that you will steal the guys, thus the way she treats you. But it isn't an excuse for her behavior.
There could be something else much more serious in her life that's happening, too, so be wary of that. It seems like she's really hurt about something and probably doesn't want people to know.
My advice would be to back off... She needs some time to herself perhaps Don't be mean back, be kind, but keep your distance. If you feel that you should move in and help her out, do so. Do not involve this girl in any aspect of your love life, though, it will just lead to trouble.
Good luck! This person can still be a friend, but she needs to sort out her life first
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Well, first of all, your friend is at a point in her life where it's normal for her to change. It may have been a bad influence, or maybe trouble at home. She probably could have had something bad happen to her that made her like that. Secondly, did you ever do anything bad to her before she started acting like this? Think carefully. Well, lay off her for a while. She's going through 'that stage.' Maybe in her adult years she'll calm down. If you still want to be friends by then, then try to rebuild your friendship. But for now, let her be.
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