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I don't want this to be long or panic-y, but I need some advice. My friend and I are 13. There is a 17-year old across the street who is 17 and a juvi. My parents think he is 18, but really isn't. We played basketball with let's call him C, and we got his number. We hung out with him and we lied about out ages and we said we were 15 and 16. We lied about where we go to school and everything, and now we're hanging out with him. I've been lying to my parents about where we going and everything, but here is the main problem. I'm going into 8th grade this fall, and getting on the bus (right in front of my house!) in the morning is no big, but when the bus drops us off, it's 3:50pm. Big problem, because C smokes, and has to go outside and smokes. What if he sees us? I really hate to lie to everyone around me, and the lies keep getting bigger. Should I be honest with C? My friend and I have been flirting big time with him, and that will ruin out friendship. And, the other problem, even though C is moving is September, I'll have started school, and his brothers go to my new school! What should I do as an overall result? Thanks so much!
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Hmmmm. What you should do is tell the truth to everyone. Probably the last thing you wanted to hear from anybody, but sorry if it had to be from me.
Look at it this way: if a friend of yours had the same thing going on, some other guy that you started to like pulled the same thing off on you...wouldn't you feel worse if you found out it was a lie the hard way than if he just confronted you and was honest? What I'm trying to say is that either way, he's going to find out. It might as well be in a way that puts you in a positive light, by telling the truth and being courageous.
Could it ruin your friendship? Maybe. But think about it - is it really worth keeping a friendship if it is built on lies? or is it even a friendship at that point? Tell him about everything, and the truth, and see if he still wants to be your friend. If he does, then he really was your friend. If not, then oh well, sorry to sound a bit harsh though. If he is moving in a few months, what are the chances you will see him again? If it is very unlikely, then it's not worth going through the trouble of making up lies to him or even to your parents anymore. So think about it, try to find it in yourself to be honest and truthful with yourself, C, and your parents - things might not even turn out as bad as you expect, they usually don't. Hope that helped and good luck.
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He's going to find out the truth either way. Especially if his brothers will be going to the same school as you and if he'll be outside smoking when you get off the bus.
I won't lecture you on how lying is bad because you're going to learn that lesson through this experience. Once you start one lie, they just keep growing and growing. Anyway, all lies come out eventually so if you were being lied to about something like this, what would you feel after finding out? Who would you rather find out from, the lier or your siblings or just by seeing it happen? I would rather find out from the one who is lying to me. Anyway, just tell him straight out. Tell him you need to talk to him and that he is probably going to be upset with you but that you don't want to lie to him any longer. Then just kind of blurt it out and wait for his reaction. If he's mad, understand. Don't tell him he's overreacting or anything like that. Give him a little time if he's upset in anyway, don't bug him and continuously try to get him to forgive you or anything. He may not be upset with you, he may just shrug it off. You never know. Expect the worst and hope for the best.
If you want some tips on what to say, drop me a message to my inbox with some details and I can try to help you think of something.
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You should tell him the truth...that may seem really hard but if you think about it he will find out sooner or later and it would be better if you told him and he didnt see you get caught in the lie.
i hope this helps
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if i were you i would just tell him and then get all the lies off your chest. but sersiuly, i wouldnt hang out with him if i were you. he doesnt sound like the best role model. but thats totally up to you..its your life not mine. i hope everything works out! <3 amy
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i agree. since hes bad news, dont hang out with him. thats not a smart idea, who knows what kinda things he could talk you into, maybe even illegal things. i dont think you should keep hanging out with him, but its relaly all up to you. i just doint think you should. plus hes a lot older. i think you should come out and tell the truth about how old you are, cuz sooner or later hes gonna find out the truth. and so will your parents. lying always leads to more trouble, which sucks. and usually people find out you lied. really, you dont have to tell your parents if your not gonna hang out with him anymore, just make sure you tell him, so he like doenst call you and stuff. good luck, and remember, sometimes the the hardest thing to do, is the best.
hope this helps!! :] ♥
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Lies,
Well you are experiencing the direct result of lies. Look at this as an opportunity to learn the lesson about lies. I want to suggest to you to stop the chain of problems and start being honest of who you are and what you want. Besides the fact that being dishonest is actually not honorable to the person you are lying to...you are also being dishonorable to yourself most of all. You are creating more problems in your life due to the lies you are telling. You deserve better than what you are setting yourself up for. Think about it this way...you are compromising your integrity for someone else and the bottom line...you should never do that for anyone. If someone can't like you for who you really are, then they are not worth the time. In the long run, being honesty about who you are will set you up for more success and happiness in your life. Don’t beat yourself up over this issue, just start making the right choices for yourself. Choose the option that honors who your really are and be honest.
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Well, If they arent good news,
you shouldnt be hanging out with them
and you shouldnt have lied.
I suggest you tell them the truth,
and then cut off conversation,
just to be safe.
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well, if his brothers are going to your school, he is going to find out.
Just know, once he finds out, he may not be friends with you anymore.
If you just tell him, he might forgive you faster though. Just tell him, you are really sorry, but you thought he wouldnt talk to you if he knew you were only 13.
This is a crazy situation, and lieing like that always brings crazyness, trust me, i know.
Good luck! :)
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