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sex, drugs, and rock n roll
alright so im (15/f) and all of my friends have done stuff with boys. i havent. is that wierd? i think im just scared because once i find someone i really like i dont wanna be like hey yeah i dont know what the heck im doing! lol soo what should i do.
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i dont think you should do anything sexual untill you've been with a guy for about 2 years and you know he is the one. When you have that urge that says alright he is the one then go for it. Because if he isnt the one that you love deaply and after you have sex and he leaves you . Then you would be crushed.
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i FELT THE SAME WAY ABOUT A YEAR AGO..
THEN i DECiDED TO GO AHEAD AND SLEEP W/ MY BF. WHO i HAD BEEN WiTH FOR ABOUT A YEAR. LET ME TELL YOU. iT WAS A BAD iDEA. SO MUCH STRESS COMES FROM THAT. EMOTiONALLY ABOUT WHAT WiLL HAPPEN iF THiS GUY LEAVES YOOH. iM FEELiNG DiFFERENT iS THiS STRANGE...? AND OTHER THiNGS LiKE REGRETS AND THE FEAR OF GETTiNG A SLUTTY REPUTATiON. ANOTHER DOWNSiDE TO DOiNG MORE iS STD'S...THERES ALWAYS THE CHANCE..AND THEN MORALS NOT TO MENTiON GUYS USUALLY DiSCUSS WHAT HAPPENED WiTH FRiENDS...MY ADViCE iS WAiT UNTiL YOU'RE READY...iT DOESNT MATTER WHEN YOUR FRiENDS DO iT. THiS iS YOUR LiFE ANYWAYS...
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Just because your friends are doing things shouldn`t make you want to do them. You are you`re own person. When you`re ready to do stuff with a guy you will. Wait for the guy you know is right. Don`t do things just because you think it might be kool. Best of luck =]
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Hi, it is definately not weird. It proves that you have more self-control and you will meet someone perhaps one day that you would like to have sex with eachother. Have sex when:
a) You feel ready
b) Its the right time, right place situation
c) When you've sorted out contraception
Don't let anyone push you into sex. Having sex with the wrong person can be a bad experience. There are different types of sex, for example:
Intercourse: When the male shoves the erect penis into the females vagina and moves back and fourth till you both get pleasure.
Oral: Which includes, licking, sucking and kissing each others genitals for pleasure.
Sex should be done in a quiet place, were you both can't be disturbed. Of course not outside.
Just do it when your ready. Look out for the age of consent law in your state/country. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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j o n e l l e
make matt wear a condom haha
im one of your slutty friends :[
your not werid chick
i told zach "uh i think im doing this wrong" and
he was liek uh yeah so lmao
im lame
yourr lame
we have summer school tommrow
fuck man,,,,
♥ e r r
p.s it was so cute matt called
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No actually that doesn't make you weird at all. It shows that you have more self control than your friends. When the time is right, the person that is right for you will understand and even appreciate that you haven't had sex yet. Hopefully he won't know what he is doing either--because it would be best to be a mutual "first" Back in the old days many girls saved themselves until marriage...and things worked out. Even though your friends act like they know what they are doing, not many 15 year olds really do. People like to talk big when the conversation turns to sex..so don't worry you are doing fine!
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No this is not weird at all. I think it is very good actually. You should not give in to peer pressure ever. Do not do something you are not comfortable with or not ready for. You don't want to do something that you might regret later. Just continue on doing this until you think you are ready. Go at your own pace.
Good luck
I hope this helps
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if i was in ur situation i wouldnt worry about it because there is always a first for everything and most of the time when you do it the first time wit a guy and they know that it make them feel special. i wouldnt worry about if i were you.
♥ Steph
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Hey there :)
Actually, your not wierd at all. I think its great that you want to find someone special to do stuff with! But what yor feeling is peer pressure, to give into what is cool. I would try to avoid the pressure to give in, and only do what is rite to you. Haha, and if anyone tells you anydifferent you can send em to me! ;) j/p. If you have any other q's or need help with this, you can email or IM me.
christine1012005@yahoo.com (Im only)
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no way is that werid!
i am 14
i have some friends who have had sex many times
i have some friends who have had oral sex
i have friends that have just made out
friends that have only kissed
and friends that havent even done that!
its nothing werid at all! (no one knows what they are doing at first anyway)
you should just wait till the right moment to do (or not do) what you decide
whether its just kiss, or "go all the way" (be safe please!)
just do not be like "I wanna get this over with!" and do something you regret, k?
anyway, good luck! :)
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Despite what anyone else may say - you're in good shape. Thats nothing to be embarrased about, not at 15. At some point or another everyone has no idea what they are doing, really. What, did you think that all your friends just knew exactly what to do first time? Probably not. Nothing to be scared about either. Nobody says that because you like them that you need to be able to and should do all those things. Really wanna see if he likes you that much? See if he still likes you after you set the limits and say: hey I'm not gonna do anything sexual with you. Sounds stupid, but honestly - if the guy cared and respected you that much, then he would agree to it...whereas others who don't care about you as much wouldn't. Anyways its nothing to be afraid of, you can't really be put down or made fun of for not knowing how to do all those things yet. Hope that helped and good luck.
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No it's not weird at all. Your friends obviously found someone they wanted to do that with, or they did it just to feel "cool" which is what alot of girls do.
Don't just put yourself out there and be like HERE I AM BOYS COME AND GET ME! Wait until you are ready to be with a guy in a way that your friends have been. If you're scared, then that's normal. You're young, you don't need to be rushing into anything because all your friends are doing it.
Once you find someone that you are comfortable enough with to be with like that, then go for it. As for right now, just don't be throwing yourself around and acting like a whore. (Not saying your friends are whores, FYI)
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Oh my goodness, it definitely is not weird! It's fantastic!! Put it this way, in years to come, all your friends are going to look back and say "Oh my GOD!! WHY did I do that with HIM?! I wish I'd waited..." and you will be able to lean back, smile and say "I did!"
The problem is that young people today are in such a hurry to grow up and sometimes that isn't a bad thing but when it comes to anything of a sexual nature, it is almost always very bad. The problem is that anything sexual means being vulnerable and open and honest with another person and at 15, you are too young to behave that way with another person. I know that might sound patronising, and if so, I apologise. However, there are such great benefits to waiting.
For starters, can you imagine having baby at 15/16/17? Some of your friends might not have a choice imagining it, with the massive rise in teenage pregnancies and the majority of couples that have children at that age split up within 3 years of the child's birth. Waiting means you have a greater chance of ensuring that if such a fate did befall you, it would be at a time when you are in a happy, healty and secure relationship and are of an age where you could cope with being solely responsible for another life.
Please don't worry about what everyone else is doing because at the end of the day, none of that will have any long term effect on you. Acutally following what all your friends are doing could have huge long term consequences to you. In this life, you only get one shot at a first time and it only takes one mistake for things to go horribley wrong. In other words, it's great that you have a smart head on those shoulders of yours and I really don't think you should worry about this. You are doing the right thing. When in time, a guy comes along that you think is truly worth it, you will be so glad you waited before doing anything with a guy.
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NO thats not weird at all, and if you find someone and you want to try, then try. It really depends on what stuff your talking about though...But it is not weird at all, I didnt do anything until I was almost 16, some people dont until later. Its totally normal. But if you want to you shouldn't be afraid, just make sure its with a guy you trust and please be safe if you kno what I mean. If you need aditional advice just ask
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