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should i break up with him?
my boyfriend lives in a different sity than i do. he comes to see me alot though but he has to work and he wont be back here untill the end of the summer and i hardly got to see him when he was here for the weekend and he almost never calls me and when he does or when i call him we only talk for a few mins then he says ""i got to go ill call you later" but he never calls. dont get me wrong i love him and he says he loves me but im so confused (by the way this is my first boyfriend.) and he makes it seem like he doesnt like to hang out with me like he would rather hang out with his friends than me. and im gonna miss him when hes gone for the summer and it would be easy for him to cheat too and he might cheat on me because hes cheated before. sorry theres not much of a question but i just need advice on this im thinking about breaking up with him but i love him and i dont want to im just confused PLEASE give me some advice on how to make this relationship better thank you so much ill rate and commnt to whoever leaves me good advice tips.
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I'm sorry but it doesnt seem like his heart in is your relationship at all, it doesnt sound like he loves you and he's cheated on you before, if his heart isnt in it then chances are he will cheat again.
It's just that, if he loves you, you would see you you as much as he can, he would call you and talk to you and text you as much as possible and he wouldnt have cheated on you if he loved you.
i know its hard because you love him, but you need to see him and talk to him and see where you stand with him, if he wont come and see you and he wont ring you or talk to you for long then it doesnt seem like he cares about you or your relationship.
dont let him treat you like this, you dont even trust him anyway, you cant have a good relationship without trust, if he wont meet you or talk to you then i'd dump him. you deserve alot better, a propper boyfriend who is there and treats you right...your "boyfriend" at the moment isn't boyfriend material, and may not even think of you as his girlfriend.
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Long distance relationships are often hard to keep together, the possibility of him cheating is alot more posible, but i guess that this kind of distance will test the streanth of your relationship, i think that you should stay together with him, but if there are any signs that he is cheating you should dump him immediately
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I know you're afraid of the pain you'll have if you put an end to him being your boyfriend. For me, this is very understandable.
However, you both don't get to have a lot of time together and it seems that you both are only friends because he calls you every once in a while and the conversation isn't for very long. And when you add the fact that there was a past problem where he cheated, then you'll probably spend your summer stressing about it. Now, cheating can be forgiven, but when it comes to how he makes it up to you and and he's really not because he doesn't call back when he says he will.
In my opinion, it already seems to be the end. It sounds like it's slowly dying and things are just waiting for one of you to call it quits. I know how much you want to make things work and it hurts you a lot just thinking about breaking up, but I think you deserve someone whose going to show you he cares and loves you. First boyfriends are always the toughest to get over, but don't ever think that the pain won't go away. You'll have a lot of mixed feelings about this and you might feel regretful. Just don't let those regretful feelings convince you that you've made a mistake. I think that if anything should happen, he should make his move and prove to you that he wants you as his girlfriend still.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well for starters, what he may think is love and what you may think is love could very well be two totally different things. If you two don't hang out or talk to each other that much or anything, then how can you really know each other enough to say that it really is love? If you really want to keep this going, I will warn you that it might not be pretty, or work out in the long run either. I would confront him and let him know everything you just wrote.
Here's one to remember for any and all dating: if you want a guy to do/not do something when you are around or with you, directly tell him and make it clear. Why? Well some guys just won't pick up on hints or just won't ever think about saying things or doing things that you would expect - not because they don't care either, just that it never occured to them. So if you'd like to keep the relationship going, let him know. If you want him to call you back more, to talk to you more, to hang out with you more - let him know all those things. If he really cares about you then he would be willing to try.
I wouldn't get your hopes up. It doesn't seem like much of a relationship at this point, but that doesn't mean its a total loss. Plus, from what you've said it seems like you are the one giving and he isn't giving much back. Sometimes its uneven even though both are trying to give 100%, but it doesn't seem like he is even trying. That's not fair for you. He's cheated before? Hmm I would definately take that into account. Do you really love him for who he is, or just the idea of being in love and having a boyfriend? Talk to him about all of this and sort out your feelings, ultimately the choice is yours. Oh yeah, just because he is your first boyfriend that doesn't mean anything - it shouldn't stop you from breaking things off if you feel like you need to, and it doesn't mean you can't find another one later. Hope that helped and good luck.
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