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boyfriend help
Okay well first of all I am 14/f and I have never had a boyfried. I have never even kissed a guy before. Well my question is why? I mean I'm not the prettiest but I have a great personality and I am fun to be around. Do guys only go for looks? What are some things that attract guys or what should I change to get a boyfriend?
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Well you should know that guys are jerks. Now a days, yes most guys only go for looks. But thats not what you would want. You want a guy that loves you for who you are. Not what you look like. If you have a great personality like you say then thats all you need. Just wait until you find that perfect guy that loves you just the way you are.
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-Steff*
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Don't change a thing - remember that always.
No not all guys go for looks, but who wants the ones that do? Wouldn't you want your boyfriend, or anyone for that matter like you for your personality? Honestly, if a lot more girls would stop worrying about what they look like and realize that it is closer to being unimportant than important, they would actually realize that the guys that do go for looks aren't worth it.
Why? Simple. Why would you go out with somebody who is interested or attracted to you just because of the way you look. Thats rediculous! I don't know about you, but I would want ( and have ) a person in a relationship that cares for me, respects me, is responsible, and knows about me...not that talks to me because of the way I look.
If you have a great personality and are fun to be around, then you are miles ahead of girls that over-do the makeup for the attention. That is really all you need. Then why havn't you had a boyfriend or been kissed before? Who knows. What I do know is that you are only fourteen (I don't mean that in a bad way), and that you have plenty of time for that when you are older, so don't rush.
Realize that before he is your boyfriend, he has to be your friend. Are you friends with people for their looks? I would hope not! So why would a relationship be based on that? I'm telling you all that to show you that not all guys go for looks, the ones that do aren't worth it, and that you don't need to change anything about yourself to get guys to like you...because then they won't be liking you, they will be liking what you do and what you've changed. So I say just wait cause good things come to those who do. Focus on just making good friendships and moving on from there - when the time is right things will happen; no worries. Hope that helped and good luck.
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well at a certain age guys go for looks and at your age their pretty confused about what they want so just be yourself and the same and trust me the perfect guy for you will come!just be patient!hope i helped!TWEETY
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Dont change anything about your self. it takes time to find the right guy or even a guy. give it time flirt with a few guys here and there.
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You shouldn't need to change. Guys are generally a lot more immature than girls at your age and therefore tend to go on looks more than personality. Don't be in a rush to get a boyfriend or to be kissed. Just enjoy yourself even if all your friends are going out with people. People mature at different ages and as guys get older they start to realise girls with a great personality like you, are better in a relationship than gilrs with good looks but absolutely no personality.
Keep looking around all guys are different and like different things about girls. Maybe you're just not looking in the right places. I'm sure you'll find the right guy soon.
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Remember this: It's true that guys get attracted to a girl's looks at first, but it's their personality that keeps them hooked.
There are a Lot of girls who are pretty don't really have the personality to go with it and there are only few who have really, really great personality. Be one of the few.
You said that you're not the prettiest one around but you have a great personality.... I guess that's enough for you to attract boys. Just wait for the 'right one' to come along.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Hi, heres a list that the average guy will look for in a girl:
1. Good looks
2. Humour
3. Honesty
4. Passion
5. Plays hard to get
6. Hot or sexy
Of course some of these are'nt nessarcerry, but there you have it. The thing is, if you want something in life then you have to reach out and grab that opportunity. Start a conversation with a guy. Go to clubs of your interest. Talk to your friends, or someone you can trust about how you can get a boyfriend. Don't change your personality, or be someone else who your not. Being yourself is the best person you can ever be. You just hav'nt met your right match yet. Explore more through your emotions, and remember, if you want something then you have to reach out and grab it with both hands. Heres 3 tips on how to have a conversation with the opposite sex:
1. Compliments
2. Small talk
3. Questions
Join a group, create the opportunity. You can do it, and if you don't succeed the first time, then try again. Never give up your dreams. Daniel.
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Most guys these day do. But if you do find one that does he wants one thing..we all know..wait for they guy thats gonna go after you for you great personality and your fun to be around self..AND DONT EVER CHANGE ANYTHING about YOURSELF just cuz of a guy!!!
x0x0x Kristen
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well,not all guys go 4 looks...what you have 2 remember though is,at 14 guys are very mellow and they dont want 2 even be involved with girls yet but when they get a little bit older,theyll realize it.also,if no one your age wants 2 go out with you,then you can also look 4 an older boyfriend.thats what i did at 14.i got a 16 year old boyfriend.theyre more mature,and theyre better kissers.lol.but seriously,try 4 an older guy,thats the only way that i got my first kiss or else i'd probly still be waiting 4 it too.im 15 now by the way.
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Hey there! The first thing I want to point out is that you're BEAUTIFUL, and you shouldn't change just for the purpose of having a boyfriend. I mean, it is absolutely normal. (I haven't had a boyfriend yet,I'm nearly 16 but I'm still happy =D). Just continue to be confident in yourself and be who you are, because your potential boyfriend should accept you for who you are, not what you attempt to change yourself to be. =)
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At 14 guys can sometimes be shallow. Thats a big plus that you have a great personality, don't change that. I would know, but I'm sure you're definately not ugly. If you want, you can always do a mini makeover. Get a hair cut, maybe color your hair, etc. If you don't wear makeup, maybe go and get some and start wearing it. But don't do it JUST to get a boyfriend. If YOU'RE not happy with they way you look then you should change FOR YOU, not just for guys. But yea, I'd try that. And also, are you confident? Having some confidence is a good quality to have.
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There's nothing wrong with you if that's what you're thinking. Not all guys go for looks but a couple of them do. It's the same thing with girls, too. Don't change yourself to get a boyfriend. Just be yourself & act a little bit more flirty.
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