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I hate my dad..I'm not joking. I honestly do and not just for some stupid reason.
My dad always is threatening my mom with a divorce and stuff she starts crying. I hate seeing her cry when she never even did anything to deserve this. He always is calling her horrible names and cussing at her and me. He hits her sometimes too..she almost called the police. He even hit me once..
I'm so scared of him and so is my mom and my brother. I haven't talked to any of them yet about this. Whenever I hear him yelling or something I'm usually in my room and I start crying because it really is starting to upset me. I can't even TALK to my own dad..whenever he says something to me all the horrible things that he has done to my mom and I in the past just flash back in my mind and I can't speak and I have tears in my eyes. Everytime I hear him screaming at my mom I just want to go down there and tell him to calm down and leave her alone but, I just can't..I'm too scared. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't talk to anyone in my family about this.
How do I help my mom and get my dad to stop yelling all the time?
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I have the same exact problom. What I did was i talked to just about all of my closest friends about it. One of them suggested calling child services but i cant because i'm not the one being hit my brother is. But your friends will always be there to comfort you. What i Do is just get out of the house as much as possible. And if it gets SUPER bad just runnawwayy to a friends. Whatever you do NEVER resort to cutting or anything of the sort. I have and i am now addicted to it. So pretty much just talk to your friends They'll always be here for you.
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Oh, I know how you feel. I really do, my dad divorced my mom when I was really young, then he got married again, and divorced, then he got married again. And he's currently married, but he was really abusive to his last wife, and it was horrible to listen to them exchange words so cruel and harsh and painful. I talked to a counsular about this, even if its hard, I think you should talk to an adult other than your parents, that can you help you.
As you know, this is a serious situation, and things need to be done, before things get even more out of hand than they already are.
Sometimes there isnt really anything you need to do to get your parents to stop bickering, because this has nothing to do withyou, it has to do with their relationship, somethings wrong obviously with it, and they need help.
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I have never liked my dad either. It's hard to not like someone you're supposed to love. If he hits you and your mom a lot you should call the police. Even if he doesn't hit you and you're mom that much what he is doing is verbaly abusive and is just as bad. I would suggest you talk to your mom about it, how it makes you feel, what you want to happen, and tell her what her options are. I did that with my mom and her maternal insticts came over and she made my dad go away, she finally stood up to him and it worked, we are a lot happier now.
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Alright well i have been in the same position as you. Except things kind have gotten better. when i was younger my dad would tell my mom he is leaving and everyone would cry. well then for the past couple years he has been hitting us mostly me when no one was around then lied about it and my mom would take his side. i relized whats best for them is not to be together. my mother went to California for a visit to my older brother. and while she was gone i got along with my dad for the most part. and thats weriod because it doesnt usally happen try talking to your mom to getting you all to go to a counsler and if it doesnt work maybe your mother needs to break it off.
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Praying is all well and good if it helps you out but it's not going to solve the situation. If you are still in school talk to your councilor or a teacher you trust. Just talking about it can help and they should be able to help you out one way or another depending on your personal situation. That might sound scary and sound like it could make things worse but this has been going on for far too long and if you do nothing I'm afraid it will just continue until and unless your mum gets the courage to walk out.
If you don't want to talk to someone you know there are several helplines you can call anonymously and free of charge. Not knowing where you're located I can't really provide you with any but google it and you'll find some.
There's no excuse for your Dad's behaviour but on the bright side I'm guessing you'll be out of the house in a few years and so also be in a position to help out your mum and brother a bit more. Until then to be honest there's no real way you alone can get your dad to stop acting the way he doesso either you need to get someone to step in or you're going to have to block it out as best you can and try not to let it affect your life too much.
Hope it gets sorted out. x
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Listen unless you want me to come over to your house and knock some sense into your father... If you want to handle this then i would pay attention to what ticks your dad off and dont do it. Find out why your dad is so angry all the time, for example does he hate his job? dont ask him unless he is in a decent mood otherwise i dont think it would be wise, but its like this if you see a nail on the floor you dont step on it go around it. LIke when you asked him where the cough medicine was he yelled well next time spend more time looking and dont ask him. I have to tell you though listening to what he is like i just want to intervene on your behalf and if you lived anywhere near me i would help. Anyway for now you goal here is to survive and not make any problems with your dad if he wants to yell and cuss let him ignore him and if he insists on having your attention then look at the ground in his direction and if he wants you to look at him then look at him avoid doing anything that might set him off. If he is hitting your mom for no reason he needs to be put in jail, i know he is your dad but that doesnt mean he should be allowed to hit your mom or you.And i would give this advice to your mom as well, dont fight back verbally let him yell just so long as he doesnt touch you or your family if he continues when they are fighting call the police and say please come and then hang up they will track the phone number and come but if you do this make sure you are in the same room as your dad and mom leave only for a moment to get a drink or water or whatever because he wont think you called the police if you have been in the same room. And it will be on record with the police about his behavior so the next time they will know who to arrest. good luck
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Hey there! I agree with cj down there, the greatest thing you can do right now is to pray. Praying will truly help you divinely and can grant you that special peace especially needed when encountering problems like this... Also, the best thing you can do for your mom right now is to spend time with her and comfort her by just talking. Listening to someone who is going through a difficult time can help a million, and will truly make your mom feel better and stronger to face the situation. Helping her with errands or around the house is also very helpful, and your mom will truly appreciate it. Your mom, brother and you could also spend time together outdoors and do something fun, to be free from this problem, and to discuss it. The best thing you can do for your father right now is to just pray for him... Hopefully he'll be enlightened, and truly see how his actions are hurting others.
I really hope everything works out. Take care always and God bless....
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Dude, pray.
thats what I would do.
And if you are a dude, and not a dudette.......
I would listen to some METAL, get psycho, then stick that fool in the neck or somewhere like that.
Or you could try to scare your pops by pretending to be all satanic and stuff, and threaten to send some-one to watch under him.
then laugh in his face.
But I reccomend prayer and church. GOD LIVES.
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