I am a 20 yr old guy, people call me logical and i look at myself the same way. I have been told i give good advice so i thought i would give it a try. I can give advice on pretty much anything, frienship, dating, emotional problems, health problems, pretty much anything. i dont however take any interest in answering questions like what should i buy a green shirt or a blue shirt. serious problems only. I like to help people, its a good feeling when someone likes what you have told them. and that is why i do it.
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my mom caught me mastubating and watching porn and now i'm crying and i'm mad and i don't know what to do.... i feel awful... i cant stop crying i think i'm gonna cut myself... dammit i dont know what else to do!!! please help me i'm not some emo kid but im considering killing myself... (link)
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That must have been interesting, Go ahead cut yourself but it wont make you feel better. Go ahead kill yourself then it wont matter, OR... you could just take this as a lesson and NEVER masturbate again. POrn is Evil makes you think evil thoughts and do evil things,lets see how does this sound : i touch myself on my private parts and i watch people have sex... If you ask me i think it sounds pretty awful.sounds like a rapist or pedaphile think about it rapists and pedaphiles look at porn so the only difference is they actually act on their desires so stay away from it. Promising yourself that you will never do it again WILL make you feel better. Do the right thing and take my suggestion.
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I know nothing about cars.
I'm turning 16 soon and my parents are going to by me the car I want. I want the Pontiac G6 hardtop convertible.
They just need to know how much it is.
This is what it says on the site:
Base MSRP $21,365
Invoice Price $20,190
Which price is it? Or is the price the both of those combined?
How much less is a used car usually?
This is the car:
http://www.smartcarprices.com/(5rsty355ysim2055r1yrh055)/Quote.aspx
Please help! Give me any info you can.
Also:
-Is it a safe car?
-Can I get it with 4 doors?
-Is it at all possible to get it in pink?
-Can cars be painted?
-If so, about how much does it cost?
Thank you so much!! (link)
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The invoice price is most likely what you would pay, the msrp means manufacturers suggested retail price. Most cars are pretty safe these days since they mostly come standard with airbags.I would just try and buy the car you want in the color you want and if that isnt possible i would just settle for a different color they do have. painting a car is expensive if you want it done well and right. I agree with the other advice go for a used car with a full warranty for 90 days of whatever length of time you can get. brand new the car loses value as soon as you drive off the lot. Honda and toyota keep there value very well too.if you buy used make sure you take it to your parents mechanic and have him check it out 100 percent if it isnt already been checked out by the lot. Talk to someone you know that has bought cars before and ask that person to go with you and assist you with picking the car that you feel is right for you. your lucky your parents will hand you a car just like that so be responsible about this big decision. hope this helps
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17/f
Since you're a guy and you actually answer questions with thought-out answers, I'm asking you what a guy loves in a girl? What would make a "ladies man" actually really like a girl?
Thanks
I rate 5's (link)
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Well lets see here, first off it is near impossible to make a player settle with one girl because the player is so caught up in himself and his game that is all he cares about since these males are very shallow. I have personally known a player,and that is the way he functioned. Now if you really want to get with this guy play hard to get but tease him at the same time, i do not recommend these type of guys if you want a stable loving i wont cheat on you ever type of guy which i think you do?? PLayers like the challenge of getting the girl to like him and give him what he wants you know thrill of the hunt. So the answer is you can make him really like you by doing what i mentioned above but the odds are he wont ever just settle. SEEK elsewhere. CHoose well.
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Hi, I need some help. Theres this girl I really really like. And was just wondering, what do girls like being said to them (compliments)? What really turns a girl on? Can you help me because you must have a wee bit of experience with these sorts of issues. Thanks. I rate 5's for great answers. (link)
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If you want to compliment a girl tell her things that will make her feel good about herself like if she is good at dancing tell her she is or if you like hanging out with her tell her but dont sit there and tell her how beautiful she is over and over telling her occasionally should be sufficient. Girls are different and they get turned on different but for starts if you dont already have one, work out since most girls like buff guys the more muscular your body the better but obviously dont over do it dont shoot for hulk hogan other than that turning on a girl depends on her personality so pay attention to what she likes.
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I don't know what exactly is wrong with me.
I've gotten 'There is no point in anything' stuck in my head. It gives me a sick feeling.
I can't trust many people nor do I believe what they say. I can't even really believe that my boyfriend cares for me.
And then I felt really bad one day because I felt like I would stop caring for him... like he said he wouldn't to me. But I know I don't think I would but I'm still too afraid of getting too attached to anyone as well.
I think my last relationship really affected me. But I'm pretty sure I'm over it.
But I feel depressed. And I know it's not the every day mood kind of term.
Since at times, I have no idea why I feel like shit.
What could I do about this? (link)
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If you do have depression it wont be easy to cure, it will take time determination and focus. I dont trust many people either and i also have a hard time believe what people tell me. I would say perhaps you are like that because someone or some people have betrayed your trust? The best thing to do is talk about your feelings and your thoughts and keep a open mind. write me sometime if you would like.
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I'm a 13/f. And I'm constantly masturbating. I'm getting to where I do it 3 times a day. That's not normal...and I've been doing this for 2 years. And it is messing me up in school, cause I'm always horny. What can I do to stop?
And please dont answer and say "just get a hobby, to take your mind off of it"...that doesnt work, i've already tryed it.
♥please♥ (link)
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Sounds like you need to make some friends and do other things besides making your hormones happy. sounds like you got some issues since you said you have been doing it for two years that would have made you 11 and thats heavy. Your life is missing something, if i were you i would gather all the self control i could find and be strong for 2 weeks and after that you should be able to deal with not doing it.
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ive been really depressed as of late. i mean its summer so why right? one thing is that for some reason all of my friends have kind of drifted away & the only person i hang w. is my bf.. ive tried to chill w. my friends but they never call back or make any comitment to try to hang. every time i do go out my curfue makes me come home early.. i feel really alone & i cant talk to anyone really & my bf doesnt understand what im going through. also i feel really ugly. i feel fat all of the time & want to change almost everything about myself .. although i probably am not that bad (17/f 5'2 120lbs.) i cant really lift my selfesteme althou i try & i feel bad tellin my bf how i feel because i dont want to b one of those gf's that whyne all the time about their weight. i no he loves me no matter what.. but i dont love my self.. what can i do to make myself feel better? what can i do to not me so alone? (link)
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Dont be sad be happy! easier said then done i know. So why do you feel alone if you have a bf? I can tell you lifting self esteem is a difficult thing to do but with the right circumstances it can be done! So has there been anything as of late that might have made you depressed? If you tell me your feelings i wouldnt think your whining, and you shouldnt think that either because telling your feelings is NOT whining. If you dont want to feel alone try reaching out, like to me if you want. I want someone to hang with even if its only through words, feel free.
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I hate my dad..I'm not joking. I honestly do and not just for some stupid reason.
My dad always is threatening my mom with a divorce and stuff she starts crying. I hate seeing her cry when she never even did anything to deserve this. He always is calling her horrible names and cussing at her and me. He hits her sometimes too..she almost called the police. He even hit me once..
I'm so scared of him and so is my mom and my brother. I haven't talked to any of them yet about this. Whenever I hear him yelling or something I'm usually in my room and I start crying because it really is starting to upset me. I can't even TALK to my own dad..whenever he says something to me all the horrible things that he has done to my mom and I in the past just flash back in my mind and I can't speak and I have tears in my eyes. Everytime I hear him screaming at my mom I just want to go down there and tell him to calm down and leave her alone but, I just can't..I'm too scared. I don't know what to do anymore. I can't talk to anyone in my family about this.
How do I help my mom and get my dad to stop yelling all the time? (link)
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Listen unless you want me to come over to your house and knock some sense into your father... If you want to handle this then i would pay attention to what ticks your dad off and dont do it. Find out why your dad is so angry all the time, for example does he hate his job? dont ask him unless he is in a decent mood otherwise i dont think it would be wise, but its like this if you see a nail on the floor you dont step on it go around it. LIke when you asked him where the cough medicine was he yelled well next time spend more time looking and dont ask him. I have to tell you though listening to what he is like i just want to intervene on your behalf and if you lived anywhere near me i would help. Anyway for now you goal here is to survive and not make any problems with your dad if he wants to yell and cuss let him ignore him and if he insists on having your attention then look at the ground in his direction and if he wants you to look at him then look at him avoid doing anything that might set him off. If he is hitting your mom for no reason he needs to be put in jail, i know he is your dad but that doesnt mean he should be allowed to hit your mom or you.And i would give this advice to your mom as well, dont fight back verbally let him yell just so long as he doesnt touch you or your family if he continues when they are fighting call the police and say please come and then hang up they will track the phone number and come but if you do this make sure you are in the same room as your dad and mom leave only for a moment to get a drink or water or whatever because he wont think you called the police if you have been in the same room. And it will be on record with the police about his behavior so the next time they will know who to arrest. good luck
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ok..i want to become a model but i have a few problems..im not exactly skinny enough to be a model..i think that if i loose weight and start working out more, maybe i can do it. I mean im not like 300 lbs im just like 20 lbs above my ideal weight..I also have a pretty good looking face..lol..what should i do?
-Shawn (link)
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www.myspace.com/25884493 check out my profile there, If you want to be a model it will take more than just losing excess weight but if that is your goal right now hiring a trainer for motivation and excerises would be a good start towards modeling. Which i happen to be in the practice of. hope to hear from you soon
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what's the best way to invest money? Mutual funds, real estate, something else? (link)
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There are four major ways to become wealthy from investing, real estate, stocks bonds cds ect, internet, business. You could invest depending on your abilities in someone who has an idea for a business and then invest in them. For example, lets say i have an idea for an invention but i need funds to make a prototype and patent it and then produce the invention which i happen to have many ingenious ideas but lack the type of funds for creation at the present moment. Also i work side venture businesses, if you would be interested in a investment that could make an umlimited amount of profit send your inquiries to my box. Hope i helped
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Hi,i have been with my b.friend near 2yrs he suffers with depression but its always my fault he then answers phone when he wants and that? what should i do.im 19 hes 21. my parents dont want me with him at all,he makes me feel like a doormat sometimes too. (link)
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Listen i would like to answer your question and i appreciate that you would single me out to ask me however in order for me to give you the best answer possible i am going to need for you to describe the situation more fully. hope to hear from you soon
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I am glad these kids have a place to go where they may get some logical advice about sex (and some bad advice too which is sad)
I am just wondering how many of you "adults" think that too many are having sex too early? To me, they know very little about the consequences--most questions are asked after the fact. Perhaps this shows that sex education is not done early enough and it is not effective enough. What do you think? (link)
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surprise surprise who ever thought a guy would respond to this question lol, i agree with all yall people. It is the lack of moral character, for some reason parents are doing a lousy job of teaching their kids the importance of self control and good moral character. It is interesting and disappointing with all these young kids getting into sex, society these days is way to much into the opposite sex there is much more that these kids obviously arent getting access too. I believe they would be less likely to be so into the opposite gender if they were given opportunities to explore themselves as an individual rather than explore little cindy in science heh sorry :-d. You know what they say about idle hands! But the problem must be addressed at the source, teaching kids sexual education alone just wont do it. At a young age they must be taught and then reinforced sex is for mature adults, but this is just one problem not easily fixed. I should think the schools just must do double time in making up for parents lack of parenting skills and moral conduct if i was in a position to make such a thing happen i would do it in a heartbeat. who knows maybe in the future i will get the chance to put my money where my mouth is :-d
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We dated for four months. She dumped me two weeks ago. She had found a porn site on my computer. I rarely look at porn. But this site was in my history file which dumb me never emptied. Her mom I know is behind this break up to. However, We havn't spoken for two weeks. She has cancelled her cell phone. But funny thing is, We used to IM alot. Yesterday I was on msn and seen her log in. I said Hi. and we chatted for a couple minutes and then she said she had to go and logged off. She still has me on her msn. Otherwise we couldn't chat. I would do anything to win her back. I'm lost. I did everything for her. I said sorry over and over when she left crying my eyes out. I want to go to her house tomorrow night and sy my goodbyes but i cant I still love her. If i go to her house I want to win her back. What can I say or do even though her mom hates me? (link)
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Yeah guy should have never looked at porn now this is what happens, lets keep this simple what you did is NOT normal looking at naked woman on porn sites is what guys do when they are not satisfied with there partner after all if you can see your partner naked when you want why would you look at porn. anyway give your girl time, if she cares about you enough she will come back. I would just go to her house make sure her mom is not home and tell her how much you care about her and that site was simply a mistake and you regret ever weakening to it and you will NEVER DO IT again and brother you better mean it or dont waste her time saying it. let her know you still want her and you want her back and that if she can forgive you she wont be sorry (obviously the goal here is to make sure she doesnt regret it because if she does you can cry all you want she wont come back
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i hate my dad. he annoys me like deliberatly..he annoys the F*CK outta me and im a vegitarrean and he like sits there talking about animal cruelty and laughing and im really sensative and it makes me cry then when i fight back my mom always takes his side and then he realates meto my brother whose on crack and in jail and it makes me so mad because i get some bad grades and my brother dropped outta highschool to sell drugs and i hate it..and i ran away and for 5 days they didnt notice me..the police did on the street..and i cant take it..i like cry all the time and at school im all bubbley and the only people who knnoww about me are my boyfriend and my best friend..and all i have is music and my bedroom which is constantly violated!! PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I KILL MYSELF! (link)
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So what is your bf doing through all this? I dont know how old you are but obviously young enough that you are stuck with your family, you shouldnt say your going to kill yourself if you dont really mean it but perhaps you really do? That must make you feel really awful that your family didnt even take notice to when you ran away for 5 days, they obviously dont seem to care about how you feel or where you are. That is very sad because i am the type of person that can understand this.I think thats horrid what your father does and how your mom defends him,the only advice i can give you is be strong and outlast there torment. Dont give up hope there are better things waiting for you in the future. Email my box so we can talk about this more if you would like, perhaps i can help.
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Last night my boy friend and i were havin dry sex and he got some cum on his boxers, but we were both wearing underwear, and some of it might have gotten on my underwear too..is it possible that i could be pregnant? (link)
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i would say 99 percent no your not going to get pregnant, if you were both wearing underwear thats better than a condom lol. Look, you sound young you would have to be to ask this question, i dont know how old you are but if you continue this "dry Sex it will lead to real sex and one morning your going to wake up and you WILL be pregnant why take the risk and stick with kissing not a lot of feeling the sexual parts that will only provoke sexaul desires. Do yourself a favor and save that stuff for when your older, the male gender is not going anywhere :-d. Just my opinion.
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Sorry, I wasn't exactly sure what category to put this under, it's kind of a mixture of love relationships & family ones.
(17/f) So anyways, I don't have a good relationship with my family. It's a tense, hostile situation, especially between my mom and I. I know this is characteristic of my age range, but the feeling of my family is that she has some mental issues that she needs to take care of, and that she's an extremely unreasonable person to work with. I'm graduating a year early and I'll be going to college in the fall. My mom doesn't know this yet, she's strongly opposed to me going until Spring which is out of the question, and the rest of my family agrees. I can't live in my household for another year after this. And this is where part of the problem comes in.
I've already talked to some people about the problems I've had with her, especially my boyfriend. He's very supportive, and I love him and trust him more than anyone. He's encouraged me to go and talk to my school's principal and director of pupil services to get some help with this, and it really has helped. But there have been some (note some, they're not frequent) abuse issues with my mom. I'm kind of reluctant to tell my boyfriend about those, because they're not huge and they're not frequent, and I don't want to have him worry too much. When these episodes occur they're upsetting, and my boyfriend has asked about the reasons for the upset, but I find that I haven't been able to tell him because I haven't found the words. Plus, I don't want any kid of authority to catch wind, because I still don't want a legal battle to ensue or to cause anything that will cut off ties with my family completely, especially since I'm leaving for college in six months.
So my questions are 1) How do I/should I tell my boyfriend about the abuse? 2)What should I do in regards to it?
Thanks, sorry it's so long. (link)
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you have 2 options if you tell him he will probably get upset and want to tell some authority or will want to stop it by confronting her. i would suggest you not tell him but i would suggest that you tell your mother that if she abuses you that you wont stand for it becuase if she loves you at all she wouldnt abuse you. After you deal with your mom and its resolved then tell your bf, but listen you need to stop it yourself and if she doesnt listen then tell him and get him involved to give you support. BUT if this abuse is very bad you need to go to the authorities and she needs to be corrected for her actions. hope this helps
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There is this boy who has a girlfriend who always come to my house to play with my brother. He is so cute. when he comes over, he always flirt with me. I want to go out with him, but he has like 15 GF's. Besides, one of his girlfriends is my friend. I don't want to ruin our relationship. She knows that I used to like him. What should I do. (link)
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why dont we make this simple, just because he flirts with you doesnt make him anything special. With all those gfs just how special do you think you would be to him? raise your expectations and seek something better.
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OK so my best guy friend, well all my girl friends say that he likes me, and they say I like him too, which is true. But im way too scared to tell him(for reasons .. i just cant) and i wish he would just tell me ! what should i dooo?
PS-im going with him to a semi formal dance this saturday. (link)
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Well i can see why you would be scared after all he might reject you and that would be very bad for your confidence but look at it like this, life is very short sometimes shorter than you ever expected. Suppose you ask this guy if he likes you and i would think since he is going to this dance with you he likes you. He says yes and then you tell him well i like you too, if he says no he doesnt like you (which i dont think he will) then you say well why am i wasting my time dancing with you and then walk off ha then he looks like the loser. then you go find another attractive guy to dance with or hang out with your friends, and dont worry there is going to be other dances. hope this does something for you
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my intersest is always been a well qualified doctor of medicine but 2 yrs back i got admission in dental degree b.d.s , i didnt like my college as well as subject,and i left it.......................... THAT WAS THE QUESTION I ASKED YOU ON 17 hey thanx for the advise i am the same guy who asked for an advise and you did it on 17 feb 9.19 am , as it was asked to me to make some points clear here i am making and asking please after readind this make opinion one time more please
i m male as you asked my gender age 20
the fact is i know i have wasted two years alhough 1>i learnt many important lessons of life itself
2.but i sometimes think that okay i will go at a foreign university which provides me wat want ut the duration of course is 6 yrs and then 1 more year for geting registered for my countrys medical council + 2 yrs wasted == i am completing my degree in total 9 year duration which is actually 5 years if i do it here
3. When this thinking comes in my mind then i think like othe issues such as when i will peoperly get settle
4>will it be the biggest gamble of my life which will make or completely break my life
5. i m a bit sincere and thinking and analysing everything kind of character so sometimes i think that i wana get married when i am properly settled in life but the fact is the girl i love, will she or her family be able to wait for other 9 or may be mopre years
6. and then a selfish mind of mine says just for the sake of dreams or may be a false igo of mine i m ruining myself,go leave this dream of yours , may be go back, choose easy life,get married as soon as you complete bds and get settled well , what is the need to waste 9 years and then i ...... and also social responsiility like my family parents plays on my mind which say if u waste 9 yrs you are going away from relationships coz my parents also dont want me to go for mbbs they want me to join back bds but they never say it but i know thats what they want
7.but then again my attitude changes which says no i have to fight and do what i wanted at any cost
8.and believe me i cant even think more on this issue i am very much coinfused , i dont know what to do actually thats why i am asking coz i think can guide well so plz reply as soon as possible
i think now you can give a better advice which will help me a lot, but i know its a very delicate as well as compliated problem please take it as a challenge and help me to solve it,thanks (link)
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Listen you are worrying too much, the obvious answer is this: Do what you feel would make you the most happiest make the decision and live with it! Stop thinking about everything that can go wrong and start thinking about how you can simplify your life and ultimately make yourself happy! So go then and make the decision and live with it! you are only torturing yourself with all these thoughts and could bes and maybes,think about your situation and analyze it and then make a choice its better to make a choice and it be a mistake than do not make any decision at all! I am not saying it would be a mistake it could be the right thing only you know what would be the best choice.
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ok.. so i know this isnt good. but the other day i had a really low self-esteme and i took painkillers.. how many would like really harm me because im worried.. (link)
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You need to not take painkillers just one can have a bad affect on you, if your okay now you lucky. If you take painkillers and you are taking any other type of medication it could harm you. Dont take painkillers anymore its simple as that, its not worth the risk.
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