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my mom caught me masturbating
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my mom caught me mastubating and watching porn and now i'm crying and i'm mad and i don't know what to do.... i feel awful... i cant stop crying i think i'm gonna cut myself... dammit i dont know what else to do!!! please help me i'm not some emo kid but im considering killing myself...
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in ok it is normal to masterbay just toke to your mum about it and it will be ok i had a frend do the same thing and he slit his rists and naw he has got blud posening he is dieing so pliz dont hert your self !!!!!! thanks
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ok, well, i can tell you that "suicide is a perminent solution to a temparary problem". i'm a big religious person and i believe that everything gets better sooner or later. hang in there and don't cut yourself either. people think it makes your emotional pain go away, but really it just adds to your pain. only now, its phisical too. try talking to a really close friend. or do what i have my friend do,call a friend whenever you feel like cutting or killing yourself. if its a good friend they'll calm you down. nothings worth killing yourself for. nothing. remember that. hope it works out for you. let me know how your doing.
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This might make you feel a little bit better, but the humiliation goes both ways. This situation is just as embarrassing for your mom as it is for you even though you may not think so.
You aren't overreacting with your humiliation. Let's face it: this is a really upsetting and embarrassing situation that nobody ever wants to experience, but it happened. I think anyone would react the way you are now. Crying, upset and feeling like it's enough humiliation to just no longer live, but it's not. You aren't the only one who has gone through this kind of situation. People get caught in bad situations, people walk in on wrong times. It's happened to other people.
Let's get to the facts that everyone else has mentioned: Watching porn and masterbating couldn't be more normal. We are human. We see sex as something really exciting and something real and pleasuring. How can we honestly not look at sex on the internet or let our curiousity go? It's how our bodies react to it. And all of those same things go for your mom. She was once curious of sex, she probably still has sex. We all want to experience it.
Now that we are past that: Try your best to play things with your mom as if nothing happened. If anything, she probably feels just as bad as you do and wants to kick it to the side too. The fact is that she'll always be your mom, she'll always love you no matter what moments she may see. Tons of bad moments will happen, but once time passes by, you learn to get over it or even forget about it. Do you remember any other times when you felt embarressed about something? Try to notice how those feelings of embarrassment have passed from that moment and they will from this one.
-TheTeenGirl
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ok not to be mean but i think that you overreacting...alot. a lot of people watch porn, and masterbat. It is normal. Whatever you do not kill yourself, just because your embarrest cuz ur mom caught you. Thinks are going to be a little werid between you two for a while but after some time I think you and your mom will get over it. hoped i helped.
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well they shouldnt say everyone does it because not everyone does it me myself i find that disguisting but i guess its normal at around your age...ok well its nothing to kill yourself over imagine she came on you having sex...see anything can get worse...listen number one ask for privacy your old enough to have your own privacy and two i dont think your mom wil hate you for this im sure she thinks its normal..talk to her im sure youll feel alot better! hahaha but c'mon why cut yourself!? so shell see u masterbating..wathcing porn...and to make it better your gonne cut yourself? do you think that shell be happy if you did? shell get angrier...and cutting yourslef just hurts! it wont solve the problem...just be brave im sure youll be fine best of luck ~SkAtEr~ laterz
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dont be upset every body masterbates you just got caught so what give it time.its not that serious i would think it would be worse for boys there wiennie is all up in the air bout ready to blow so dont cut yourself atleast you were in the privacy of your room.let your mom know that to you need privacy your 16.tell her so what your gramma did it ,she did it thing happen it s goona be o.k.
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Your life is worth much more than a masturbating incident.
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Hi
You are not alone i knew somebody who went through what you are going through and she felt desprate and alone.But she got through it,and today she is happy as can be. The problem with some people is that they dont understand what you go through so my advise to you is dont do somthing rash and you are not a disgusting person.Have you ever thought there is some emotion or some situation that could cause you to feel this way.You need to talk to someone you trust and consider going for councilling and as far as your mom goes give her time and also talk to her that is why she is there.The secret to why my friend became happy is because she worked through her problems and sucidal nature and most of all she found God and i can tell you that he changed her and he can heal you and he Loves you remember that.
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well every one masturbates well thats what people tell me and they do but killing your self is not the answer talk to your mom about it and i was more embarressed i caught my mom giving kevin aka her ex bf a massage and i thought they were having sex i talked to my mom about it and i felt better i started crying to b cuz my mom and dad just got a devorce talk to your mom about it i mean alot of girls your age are doing worse then masturbating and watchin porn just talk with her i hope my advice works
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Don`t kill yourself did you even get in trouble for that? If you did tell them your sorry, & they will forgive you. Don`t trip about it really, just talk to your mom about it and everything will be okay. :)
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dont do anything to hurt your body thats not rightt....your parents are gonna forgive you for anything you do just tell them your sorrryy
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Dont worry about it! It will be awkward most likely but just remember she has probably masturbated! She should be happy your doing that and now running around having sex you know?
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Hello there,
Please don't harm yourself... there is no need.
I can give you my word, from experience that walking in on someone you do not think of sexually while they are getting busy with themselves... is FAR worse than being walked in on.
I have had both experiences, and I am here to tell you, for a fact, that, unless your mom is a sexual predator, she is AT LEAST as weirded out about this as you are.
I know it seems odd to suggest, but you really should talk to her about it. She knows you are growing up.
Explain to her that, at least you aren't doing what others are: Risking their future having sex at your age.
As bizarre as it is to think of your parents as sexual creatures... there is one fact that should make you realize they aren't in a position to come off high and mighty on this:
They didn't get YOU by rubbing elbows. :-)
Hopefully that made you cringe and smile at the same time.
You will be fine, honestly. Welcome to growing up.
Now remember... in the future, like oh, say, in college: LOCK THE DOOR.
Better to learn these important lessons now, since your mom isn't going to come in, take a picture, and post it on the Internet as a "priceless" picture... but your college roommates will. ;-)
Please feel better soon, the weird feeling wears off. Trust me.
DN.
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I'm sure your mother is as shocked as you are. You shouldnt be embarrised or ashamed, there is nothing rong with porn or masturbation.It's considered healthy, and your not the only one, every one does this at one point, even if they refuse to admit to it. Give it a while and im sure things will blow over between you and your mother. However, if things are stil awkward between you and your mother, try talking to her, I know it's seems completly out of the question and is most likely going to resort to complete and utter embarisment,but, it may relax things a bit. Next time i sugest locking the door. wishing things will turn out for the best:)
Tianna Audra
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That must have been interesting, Go ahead cut yourself but it wont make you feel better. Go ahead kill yourself then it wont matter, OR... you could just take this as a lesson and NEVER masturbate again. POrn is Evil makes you think evil thoughts and do evil things,lets see how does this sound : i touch myself on my private parts and i watch people have sex... If you ask me i think it sounds pretty awful.sounds like a rapist or pedaphile think about it rapists and pedaphiles look at porn so the only difference is they actually act on their desires so stay away from it. Promising yourself that you will never do it again WILL make you feel better. Do the right thing and take my suggestion.
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First off, don't hurt or kill yourself. This definately isn't worth doing something like that.
Your mom is as embarassed as you are. Just keep in mind that masturbating is something that everyone has done... including your mother I'm sure.
I know it probably seems pretty akward at this point, but it will pass in time. I don't know how close you and your mom are, but (though it may be embarassing) maybe talking to her about it may help the way you feel. She wouldn't want you to feel so badly about yourself, and believe it or not, moms understand a whole lot more than you will ever think they do.
JUST PLEASE DON'T HARM YOURSELF!
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It sounds like you're just extremely embarassed, but you don't need to kill yourself. I mean, it's bad but it's something almost everyone does or has done and I doubt your mom cares all that much. Imagine how she feels walking in on you! haha
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Don't worry so much about it. You are probally embarrsed (spelling). Anyone would that was found doing that would be. There is no reason to go and cut/kill yourself though. Mastubating is normal and healthy. Talk to your mom about it. I'm sure she will understand. You weren't doing anything wrong at all. Just talk to her. DON'T HURT YOURSELF because of it. That wouldn't help anything, just cause more problems then needed. Just talk to her about it & trust me, you'll feel a 100 times better :]
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You're embarrassed. Don't kill yourself because of that. Chances are you mother was embarrassed too. Don't cut either. Have a talk with your mom.
Won't be easy for either of you but try and do it anyway. :)
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Woah..relax just because your mom caught you masturbating &+ watching porn doesn`t mean you should cut yourself / kill yourself.That`s crazy.I don`t think you should freak out about this..just pretend like she never caught you.♥
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Ok I see a few issues going on here, number one everyone masturbates even your mom! Anyone who says that they don't lies. I think also that your mom also would prefer that you maturbate then go out and have sex, if you show her that point of view she will probably not freak as much. I know its embarassing but you will get over it as will she.
The second issue is the cutting, since you mentioned that you feel like doing this you have probably done it before. As you may or may not know cutting releases endorphins which is why you feel better when you do it. It is now being recognized as an addiction, I think that if this is something you do on a regular or semi-regular basis that you need to talk to your doctor about it. Your doctor CANNOT tell your mom as that would break dr/patient confidentiality and he can tell you how best to deal with this problem.
Thirdly as for contemplating suicide that is probably due to being "mortally" embarassed, don't do anything rash and this feeling will pass we've all felt at one time or another in life that dying would be easier to facing this situation, a couple of years from now you will laugh at this situation as will your mom.
Good Luck and I hope this helps.
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ok ill be honest and say thats retarted cutting yourself cuz your mom saw you....what did she do after she saw you did she BEAT you up?i dont think so!its ok but if masturbating makes you feel guilty then you shouldnt do it.talk to your mom ask if shes mad and have a loooong talk with her bout how you feel its not worth you killing yourself.what are you gonna do if you happen to break up with your boyfriend????you need to toughen up a lil bit
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Hey whoa, I watch porn and beat it all the time. There's nothing wrong with it. Don't cut yourself over it. And don't kill yourself over porn. Porn is good. In fact, porn is great. Don't feel guilty you watch it. Everybody likes it.
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Cutting yourself or hurting yourslef in anyway will not solve this it will only make it worse. Your mother probly figured you masturbated because She probly did it as a teenager also. Yea maybe you can sit around and be upset but why not talk to your mother & and explain that your a teenager girl & look at the good thing im not out having sex.
- next time go somewhere that it private. (bathroom, bedroom)
-Lock the doors
-Or do it when no when is at home.
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listen, most ppl have watched porn or are watching porn around your age, it's very common and at some point EVERYONE has watched porn and masturbated, site down and talk with your mother she, has a parent, should no that most kids do and she herself probaly did to, it's nothing to be depressed aabout, by all means you can be a little embarassed, but honey don't feel so bad. i PROMISE that it's gonna be ok. alright? cheer up and go talk to your mom.
GoodLuck & Feel Better
Jon a.K.a GateKeeper
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OK. Frist thing DO NOT cut your self !!! All you will get from that is being in the hospital then you will go to a crazy person place or even end up dieing ! You need to go talk to your mom even if you cant face her write a note and explain why you were doing that. Like i said before dont cut yourself that is the worst thing you could do .!
Hope i helped !!
If you need anymore advice just ask me
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