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Q: Okay so my boyfriend came over and we made out and I got horny.. and My underwear was soaked but we didn't have sex, I wasn't even barely close to his private parts. He left and Now i'm like jizzing in my pants thinking about what happened. and Im having some pain In my lower abdomen it's the same pain I feel when I'm ovulating, is this a sign of anything Like pregnancy or Infections?! My back is kind of hurting to and I'm getting pains on one side of my hips then the other side, it's really wierd I mean no sexual intercourse happen I was wearing jeans and he was wearing shorts, but they werent jean shorts But i'm just wondering is this pain Im feeling normal? Oh and by the way im 13. And my period is supposed to be coming sooon so are these symptoms a sign of my period. Oh and i've been constipated lately so maybe are these symptoms coming from the lack of poop.? please help i'm scared.

Okay, well one thing... your 13 years old, your hormones are going crazy. Your experiencing new things and your body is changing. The pains could be from your period coming. I get sore and cramps to from my period thats completely normal. If you havent had sex, there is obviously no way your pregnant. & being constipated could also cause the pains. Your 13, dont rush to grow up and do things with your boyfriend. You have PLENTY of time to do those thing. You also have a lot of lessons to learn about boys and such before having sex. Sex at your age is very bad for your body also. If you got pregnant, you could die while having the baby bc your body is not fully developed and ready for a baby. Its harsh i know but its the truth. Dont let him pressure you either sweetie, you'll be glad you waited. Trust me.

Q: 16/f so ive been having sex lately i guess it has been pretty rough and like a couple times a week with my boyfriend but now my vagina is swollen like the lips and inside and kinda red and it itches SO BAD! and it hurts when i walk and stuff cause its so swollen. i dont know whats wrong and i dont know what to do! i have been icing it and it doesnt seem to be doing anything there is no abnormal dischanrge or anything but could it be a yeast infection? or is it an std?! i dont think my boyfriend has any but we dont use protection. please hepl me im in so much pain and uncomfortable i dont know what to do!

Yeah, its a bad case of a yeast infection, and the sex is only making it worse. You can get some really good over the counter medication for it. & drinking cranberry juice does work. ( but thats up to you ) As far as unprotected sex goes... i would say you really need to use a condom. It only takes one time to change your life forever, and i promise you the sex wont be worth having a kid at 16. Not when you have your ENTIRE life ahead of you.

Q: me and my boyfriend had sex the other day, and it burned during it. like it almost burned/hurt inside me. i thought that maybe it was just cause i had gotten off my period that same day. but we did it again this morning, and it still hurt. could it maybe be that i'm getting used to sex again? cause we didnt do it for over a week..cause i was on my period. does anyone know why it kinda hurts to have sex?

This happen to one of my friends and it turned out she had a yeast infection. I would suggest looking into that, and looking up a yeast infection and seeing if you have the same symptoms.

Q: i'm starting to think i might be slighly bi. i love my boyfriend to death, and i know i could never go out with a girl. i couldn't even hook up with one. i don't even like hooking up with guys. but when i'm drunk with my girlfriends or something, i always end up kissing them. i heard that drunk actions are sober thoughts, but i don't think about kissing girls when i'm sober. and also, most of my friends know that i'll admit that i think boobs are pretty. i don't know why, but they just are, and i like having them. my friends also know i'll be the first to admit that girls are absolute bitches, myself included, and i'll never go out with one, like i said earlier. does it sound like i'm bi or what?

Nooo, your not Bi. We love our best friends and we have no problem kissing them. We share food/drinks, make-up, clothes, shoes, everything with them. I dont mean randomly making out with your best friend but after drinking it happens, no big deal. So what its all in fun. Girls like attention and kissing another girl defff brings it in. I think its all in fun. Girls everywhere do it.

Q: 18/f

I am really close to my mom, but she is really getting on my nerves. I will be out on a Friday night at like 10 pm, and she'll call me and say "where are you, when you getting home?" I seriously will have just left An hour ago. Then like half hour or hour later she'll call abd say, " oh misty & mally
miss you, guess what they just did..." and it's like shut up I'm out with my friends, leave me alone. I even try to say this, and she just won't quit. What should I do?!

Your mom is like most moms & because you are close to her she just wants to make sure you are safe and out of harms way. My mom does the same thing. You just need to talk to her and tell her she knows she can trust you and its okay to call and check up once but the continuous calls are too much. Before you leave the house tell her where your going, and when you think you will be home. Let her know, if your going to be late you will let her know and not to worry. Make sure you tell her you love her before you leave the house, and that YOU will call and check in, in a few hours. Just let her know how you feel about the whole situation, she was 18 once too i promise you she will understand. (:

Q: http://cbimg6.com/scripts/07/08/13/805a.jpg

how do i make my pictures all together like similar to the pictures on the bottom of that person's page?

You can go to photobucket.com make a free account upload your pictures. and then just copy the html code and put it where you want the pictures. if you want them side by side you just put the codes one after another. if you want two on the top and two on the bottom. you do the same thing but when it comes to the two on the bottom you put and that will make them go on the bottom.
hope i helped if you need more let me know (:

Q: My breasts Have been hurting very badly for about a week now maybe more. I am suposed to be getting my period any day now but my breasts have NEVER hurt this badly when Ive been on my period. I use a condom EVERRRRYYY time I have sex so i really dont think im pregnant but i know breasts tenderness is a sign. Im not sure what to doo! I'm also afraid that for some screwd up reason I'll end up being pregnant and kill it because I do drink alchohal once in awhile. what should i do.

try a pregnacy test to be sure.

Q: this girl likes me. my friend asked her out for me. but she doesnt believe that i do want to go out with her.what should i do.

Ask her yourself. dont have someone else do your work for you.

Q: ok so once i tried to put in a tampon. I was really scared because it was my first time and it freaked me out. So i read the directions and everything and tried to put it in. But when i tried to i felt skin and it felt like there was no way to get in all the way like there was no hole. So i put a mirror down there and i could see an opening but not a hole. Is that how it is suppose to be? Is this something serious or am i just freakng out?

I had that problem at first. and i tried and tried and it didnt work. Depending how old you are it may be harder if your younger like 13 under. but just relax major thing if your not the hole gets tighter and harder to get it in. i found its easiest to put it in standing up. It seems like you cant get it in its just a muscle type thing you have to get pass then your good to go. just push in the applicator . make sure when you get it in you push up so that your fingers are touching your skin even a bit further. then just push the last lever and your good to go. if you can feel it when you walk or it hurts its not in far enough. dont worry just pull it out and start with another one. it will hurt the first few times of pulling it out thats normal. hope i helped. let me know if you need more (:
good luck!

Q: I have really thin, extremely straight, very fine hair. Right now it is inbetween blonde and brown. My hair changed colors and so instead of dying it again to try to match my hair I am just going to grow it out. My sister told me I have a round face, and I think so too. I also have a really annoying calick in the front, my hair goes back kind of alot in the front where the calick is. It pretty much makes everything IMPOSSIBLE! I am 20 years old but I look like I am 14 at the oldest. It is extremely embarrassing. I am starting to dress more sophisticated at least to try to help. I am from the states but am living in Europe right now so I will have to go to a stylist here to get a cut and that worries me a little. I have a guy friend back home that I don't know if I should ask what he thinks I should do with my hair or if I should just do what I want and hope in five months he likes the way it looks! We aren't together right now but I am hoping it will go somewhere so I don't want to scare him off with an awful hairstyle! I read your advice to other people about the hairstyle website but I couldn't find any for my calick! My friends say I should bob it but I am waaaayyy too scared. I like to scrunch my hair with gel and hairspray and sometimes put it in a low ponytail. My hair WILL NOT hold curls here in Europe because of the humidity. Well, after all of that explaining here are my questions: 1. What should I do with my hair? 2. What other things can I do to look my age?

Well as far as your hair goes, you may be scared to go to a hairdresser in Europe but i am sure they have seen a calick before. My best advice would be to go to a stylist and just ask them if they have any suggestions. Ask them what they would do with it, have them describe what they will do with it so you know exactly what there going to do. and if it sounds good then go for it. if you dont like it it will be pretty much grown out in 5 months. To look your age while your there you can ask about styles that may be flirty or make you look a bit more like your age. Or go shopping (: and get some flirty dresses and cute heals to go with it. Or some nice jeans and a nice shirt. Another suggestion is to go to a store and tell them your sittuation about your 20 and you look 14,and you need some clothes that will help you look your age they will help you.
hope i helped and hope everything works outt.
anymore questions let me know (:

Q: i just started my period and i hate pads already. but my tampon hurts like hell when it is in and i can't find any other way to put it in it also hurts when i take it out. what should i do?

alrighty. i know what your going threw pads are so annoying. the reason the tampon hurts is obv. you have never had sex so yeah nothing have been up there before. basicly your trying to get it past a muscle and thats what hurts. i know it hurts but just put alittle push into it and you will no when its past the muscle because you can kinda feel it. but push it up pretty far it may seem like you are putting it to far but your not. you know it should be far enough when your fingers are barly holding it anymore. then just push and its in. if you can feel it then its not in enough. and you have to take it out and try again. and it hurts when you take it out bc its not completely soaked. you should use tampax pearl. hope i helped. also if your periods not that heavy but you really hate pads they have tampaz light. which are for lighter periods. or days when your almost done good luck. let me know if you neeed anymore help (:

Q: Alrighty does anybody know of a really good mascara that gives you long, full lashes? I've tried a few expensive ones and many cheaper ones and I just can't seem to find one that makes your lashes both long and full. So, please and suggestions, perhaps links, would be greatly appreciated! Thanks so much!

My favorite is called Define a lash by Maybellin eits in a green tube.another good one is called Great Last Mascara also by Maybelline its a pink and lime green tube. hope i helped
(:

Q: I have a very small room and I have a bunch of makeup, and perfume, what can I put it in that will still look cute? And what are some other ideas for hodling stuff and making things take up less space. Also, I wanna put pictures up on my wall but tape with time they start folding out, any ideas?

Hey!
Ok you can go to Target or something and get like a cute little shelf that you could always paint with polka dots or whatever and hang that up in your room and but everything on it. some shelfs have hair dryer holders flat iron holders.. ect. then go to like belks or anywhere and find cute little frames and frames to put on your wall. if you go to like a arts and craft store you can buy cool letters and make collages of pictures and maybe the headline could be Night out with the girls or something. or maybe One crazy night and then find some pretty decorated ribbon and hang the frame up with that.
Hope i helped.
also buy some cool lamps like maybe lanters that hang from the ceiling
(:

Q: I know this isn't really asking for advice, but the last few days I was just thinking about this and wondering why the people here joined.

I guess it is just out of pure curiosity. I would have just posted this in the moderator forum or in the supporter discussion, but I'd rather see why everyone joined rather than just those who have been here for some time and such.

So, why did you join advicenators and why are you still here? What about the site made you want to stay?

I'll probably be one of the first people to answer this (I'm not going to answer it in the question).

S_C

:]

Hey.
I was always giving advice and my friend knew i loved it. so my friend found this website and so i just got one and i am loving it. i didnt know how good i was at giving advice until everything i was telling my friends and random people my friends told about me was actully working and turning out good for people. i stayed because this is my hobby i suck at sports and singing and danceing but i can give advice (:

Q: right now my hair is long. its straight and its a couple inches past my boobs. i have layers but they are really long ones and you can barely tell. i need a new style but i dont want it short. i want layers. any ideas? pictures would be great

hairstylewatch.com i got mine from there and so did about 5 other people that asked the same question (:

Q: hey

im sick of my boring hairstyle.

i have black hair, wavy-ish, and shoulder length.

i have a round face, and i want to try something new. not DRASTIC POW POW BAM new. just something else. i dont know what would look good on a round face and im not super skinny..but im not fat.

please help! i need change!

go to Hairstylewatch.com
then have awesome hairstyles and they have great hairstyles for round faces. when you get there go to medium hairstyles.

Q: I'm putting together a notebook with meaningful quotes and sayings. What are your favorite quotes and sayings? It could be about anything: love, life, death, happiness, sadness, friendship, etc. They can be from movies, books, famous people, songs, etc. Thanks!

you and me forever?
sounds like a plan.

we were just friends
always just friends, i thought
but i just happened to fall
and so did you, but it wasnt
with me

true friends stay
together through:
[ thick and thin ]
[ rumors and grins ]
[ pain and tears ]
[ & all of your years ]

we're so hot that we make
fire stop, drop, and roll (:

It`s the . . .
up all night || all the time || girl talk || never fight
pinky promise || guarantee || best friends forever
. . .kinda thing

maybe i'm over you
maybe i've moved on
maybe i like someone else
but maybe i'm a perfectly good liar

Sometimes, there's just people..
you never get over.
++ The Hills

so it's not just the phone calls or kodak moments;;
it's not just the laughs or smiles;;it's having each other's
back && being a sholder to cry on;; it's simply loving
each other until the day's ends.
&& that makes us--
Best Friends

I love you more than Spongebob loves jelly fishing,
- - Sandy loves karate - -
Mr. Crabs loves being cheap,
Squidward loves the clarinet,
- - Patrick loves eating - -
and of course the way I need you
like the way Plankton needs the
secret formula for the crabby patty.

because for me, it's always
been you.. always i've tried to
fight it.. i've tried to deny it but i
can't.. you're undeniable - OC

I have a ton more. Let me know if you want some more (:

Q: Can someone give me some pictures or tips for a new haircut? I wanna be pretty when school starts. Here's a picture of me for reference: http://img253.imageshack.us/img253/898/pic6py0.jpg

It's gotten a bit longer; that picture is a couple months old.

I want something short, but not too short, but I dunno if I have the right face for it. Maybe a Nicole Richie style? I'm not sure, you tell me.

go to hairstylewatch.com everything and anythingg

Q: i neeed to get my hair cut. as for clothes, i wear a lot of things from delias, alloy, charlotte russe, dots, wet seal, ect. skinny jeans. that sort of stuff. i have sidebangs and a little longer than shoulder length hair. i absolutely loveee jennifer love hewitts bangs, like this picture- http://www.imdb.com/gallery/granitz/5104/JenniferLo_Ausse_10093462_400.jpg.html?path=pgallery&path_key=Hewitt%2C%20Jennifer%20Love&seq=4
but i dont know what i want for my actual hair. soo i need some pictures of hairstyles with bangs like jennifer love hewitts in that picture, and then something that would fit my style. i dont really want websites to browse unless the whole website has great pictures that fit that, because i've been on google all day, and i havent found anything.

thanks so much!=]]

hairstylewatch.com i found my hair style there. theres tons.

Q: Apparently I have dry hair?
Even though I don't blowdry, straighten or curl my hair.

What are some good shampoos for dry hair?

No pantene please.