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Im a really cool person who loves to talk and give advice.i love volley ball and soccer and im makin all As and Bs in school(finnaly)!!!i am currently single and supa excited to finnaly be in highschool!-anyway I am really good at writing and really want to wright a book but i know i dont have the patients for it. ive been through alot of stuff and im still here so im thankfull for that. i truelly hate people who constantly complain about the things they have because they want something better. Kids are much more fortunate than many people in other contries.they should be proud they have the freedom they enjoy and the beautiful life they live. i apprciate everybreath i have and every day that i am on this earth living the good life i live. heres some advice to people who need it now. if you have a problem always ask for help. dont think you can solve any problem on your own. youll just make the situation worse. also dont think less of yourself at all. some people dont understand that u are as powerful as the most powerfullest person in the world if you just beleive in yourself. feel free to ask a question because i will answer!!!!!!!!!!!! lots of luv ! peace!!!!!!!!!!

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I am sure I went to bed at 1am last night. About 2pm today, I found out that I had called one of my friends on the phone at 3:30am, but I don't remember calling and I know I hung up when I heard the voicemail because she didnt get a voicemail and she didn't answer the phone because she was sleeping >

I doubt it was u that did it!! I remember a few years ago i used my dads phone2 call1 of my friends and the next day in the middle of class my friend said my dad was calln her!i looked and surley enough it was him and when we answered all we heard was static!i asked him bout it lata and he said he hasnt called any1 that day! He said it might have jus been the phone calln the# on its own! Só thats what i think happned!its seems a lot more likely then u sleep calling!!lol! Hope this helped! :)

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Hello, school will be starting soon and i really wanna b in good shape! I need to lose about 10-15 lbs. does anybody have any idea how i can do this within 7 to 10 days?

i know every one is saying its not healthy and im not about to differ,i just want to tell you my experience.i ate only fruits,vegetables,and water for a whole week and i lost 8pounds!! Every kept saying it wasnt possible but i did!! Every one loses weight at different rates só im not saying that its a deffinate possibility you will lose the weight but its worth a try:)! Jus try and excercise some too!hope this helped&good luck:)

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17/f

Alright, this is sort of embarassing, but I havent had my period in a very long time. I started when I was 13 and have been irregular ever since I started.
I've only had about 9-10 periods in my life. I was concerned about it before, but when I talked to nurses they always told me it was alright to be irregular.
I've always felt really bad about it though. So a couple years ago I went on birth control (to regulate it). It worked, but it became a hassle because everytime i forgot to take a pill, i'd get a period. So I quit that.

But its been over a year now? Or around there since my last period. Im 17 years old. And im just wondering...that cant be healthy right?

I know I should be asking a doctor these questions, but I havent been to one in ages and its hard to make an appointment (they're always booked for months)

But this is probably going to have a bad effect on me im guessing. My biggest fear is that I wont be able to have children in the future.


So I guess what im asking is does anyone else have this problem? or has heard of someone with this problem?

...what do you all think of it? Should I be worried? Should I go back on the pill?

my sister has the exact same problem!she would go almost two years and not have a period!she went to the doctor and they told her the same thing! I think that you should listen to the doctor because they have probably had alot of patients with the same problem and if their were any bad effects later on in life caused by your lack of periods,I'm pretty sure they'd tell you! I do not think you should go back on the pill because my mom(who is a doctor) says that it gives you ulcers.most ulcers don't cause to many problems but some may grow and that can become a huge health risk! I say that you should not worry about it because like the doctor said it is normal!jus be lucky you don't have cramping and bloating monthly like I do:)!lol

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i wanted to give my bf a bj but i've never done it before and i wanted to know where you're suppose to spit...like if you're inside...and im afraid of gagging/puking too...i plan on telling him to let me know when he cums and finish with my hand so i don't get it all in my mouth but i'll probably get precum in my mouth, thankyouu.

I'm not sure about the spitting part but I can help with the gagging.what I do which seems to work is,if I plan on deep throating (which guys really like),I'll swallow all the saliva that's in the back of my throat b4 I do it because that's what causes me to gag.when your giving a bj your forced to not swallow so saliva builds in the back of your throat and that's what makes you gag if you try to deep throat!hope this helped&good luck:)!

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14/f

hey i am going into high school in september and i am kinda scared. everyone says it is awesome but others say theirs drugs (especially at our school) and that since i am new to the school they dont really care about you. i also dont wanna take the bus to school. And i am kinda scared of the gr. 11 and 12's. any tips or guidance would be GREATLY appreciated thnxs!!

my school is like that to and so is alot of other schools!the best advice I can give you is to choose your friends wisely! This is extremely important because the last thing you want is to be friends with people that use or sell drugs.I know alot of people who smoke weed and it's easy to get drawn into unless you hang with people who have nothing to do with it!they sort of act as a support system to encourage you to not fall into the drug using crowd.as for the bus ride,jus try to make friends with someone on the bus so you will have someone to sit with and won't ever have to cross paths with the 11th and 12th graders. To be honest,there are some very friendly 11th and 12th graders who won't hate you just because your a freshman.just try to be openminded when you get into highschool.you'll be suprised what friends you'll make and how much they differ in age:)! Hope I helped! Good luck!

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i have a disection coming up and i have a reealllyyyyy weak stomach! Im so scared that im gunna like throw up or something..
Is there any tips on how to overcome this???

(please dont say like "skip it" or something like that, and also we're not allowed to do a computer disection)

Thanks:)

i hurd eating crackers helps keep you from throwing up so maybe you should eat some crackers before or keep them close by!wanting to vomit during these things is all in your head!when you constantly tell yourself o my gosh im about to vomit you accually make yourself vomit!so when doing this try not to think about your stomach or how sick you might feel!!try your hardest to stay focused to the disection and not on your stomach!!well i hope this helped!!good luck!!

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i have this really good friend and i was wondering how can i flirt with him? or just drop some hints without telling him to his face, also when the time is right i was thinking of giving him a note saying how i feel about him but like what would i write? and would that be a good idea? i never done this before please help, thanks

16/f

well....flirting for me has always been playful hoarseplaying!!jus hit him for no reason or kick him in the tush(but not hard!!).if he laughs then continue but if he seems annoyed thats a good sighn to stop!or instead of kicking and hitting like start poking him or tickling him!!if you are a rather shy person a note is a great way to express your feelings clearly and the way you want to!first say that you really enjoy being his friend and how his friendship meens more to you then anything.then simly say to him that--- these pass couple of weeks ive felt closer to you and grown to like you as i think more then just a friend.i was just wondering if you possibly share these same feelings as i do?---make sure that you metion that no matter what his answer you dont want this to change the tight friendship you guys have!!well hope this helped and good luck!!!

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Well I REALLY like this guy that 'used to' go to my school, but then he got expelled so now he's going to another school!
And we don't see eachother outside of school...So right now I'm like really depressed and I miss him and there's like no one I can talk to because some people are tired of hearing about him and others might think I'm pathetic or something if I tell them how much I miss him! So how should I deal with this? I hate being depressed (obviously), but I can't help it!
I miss him SO much!!!!!!
What should I do???!!!
Any advice would be GREAT! Thanks!

trust me this depression will surely pass!it might seem like youll neva stop missing him but trust me you will!i bet you the next sexy boy who walks by you will deffinately get you sayn 'billy' who??lol!so just try to mend that broken heart because as soon as you do you will be more open to meet new people!cuz when your in the doldrums it can make you some what unattractive and unavailable to those sexy boys youve been waitn for that are looking for a lady!!lol!but if for some reason you cant get over this lost love...find out if he has a myspace or e-mail or try to get his number then you can talk to him and maybe spark some chemistry with this lad!!lol!!well whatever you do i hoped i helped and good luck!!!

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What's the song that they play when the crew is eliminated? It sounds like Will I Am. But i'm not sure. Thanks in advance.

i think your talking about walk it out by dj unk?

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I REALLY NEED HELP! i have a 6 week old puppy, he is a lab/pit bull. he was crated when he was with his mom and brothers. but now that hes crated here even if hes falling over tired he still cries! he wont stop. all night long. non stop.. we have to put him in the basement where we cant hear him but i feel so bad!!! even in my room if the door is shut he starts yelping. i know the crying is just cause hes out of what hes intouch with but everything people have said to do does NOT work. even if i lay down with him and my fingers inthe crate singing or talkign to him he SCREAMSSSSS and i cant take it. i start to cry. if anybody has ANY tips pleaseee help me.

*a vet told me not to put any hot water bottles, school clocks, blankets, or toys unless they are kongs. they choke on toys and blankets, pop the water bottle, pee on the toys and blankets. it makes a mess... so i cant put anything int here!! i put his stuffed animals outside looking in thinking that would help. it didnt.

*I take his water and food up about 2 hours before being crated and i take him to go to the bathroom and run him around alittle bit untill he gets SUPER tired and is falling over. (he still wakes up when he is put in there and starts howling)

any tips, stories, anythiiinnngg!!! just please help me! thanks sooo much in advance.

my two puppies did the exact same thing!!!what we did was place a sheet over the crate.my dad says the only reason they do it is because they can see you and if you put a sheet over the cage he wont see you and he will probably go to sleep.we also put them in the cage for a certain amount of time everyday.like mon. we would put them in their for about 10 to 15 min. then let them out and each day keep them in their for a little longer.that way they will start to get a little more use to it.trust me the more time he spends in their the less he will wine!!!and dont forget the sheets!!!hope this helped and good luck!!!

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13/f

My friend who I was extremely close, we are/were best friends. She says she is my best friend. She doesn't show it. I see her about twice a week at church. Except I went over to her house every weekend. She has gotten bossy and just hits me sometimes when she gets mad. I have talked to her about it and she said she was sorry and she didn't realize what she was doing. She is an only child and spoiled too. She is acting like that again and I have stopped hanging around with her now. We haven't hung out in awhile and I am just confused. So any help would be appreciated thanks!

i think it is best that you do sepparate yourself from that kind of person because there doing nothing to you but further agravating you.just incase you want to hang with her,what you should do is the second she hits you or makes a bossy comment or command you call her out.be like"thats exactly what im talking about right there".she says she doesnt realize that shes doing it so if you call her out at the exact time she does it she will deffinately see.if she doesnt dont let it agravate you because a person with that type of attitude is honestly not worth your time!!hope this helped and good luck!!!

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Basically I was sent a text saying that My best friend didn't want to talk anymore. I was saddened its been about 4-5 months that we have not talked. Funny though because he still wears a shirt i bought him and he is always staring at me. No matter what he looks at me and last semester asked someone how i was doing. Another he told that i did a great job on my project and funny thing i was in his class. i don't know what to do.. he held the door today for me but i used the other door. im confused as to what to do...i wrote him a note but im not sure if i should even bother giving it to him somehow...or sending it via email. whats a girl to do? I miss him and I have frequent panic attacks.

-Lost Apart of My Heart

shoot you better give him that note and say the hell is up? yall cnt jus stop tlkn that is dum. if there is a reason ok. but if there isnt you beta jump on that friendship b4 it slips away

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he sits up front of me in a class. i am 17 and he is 16. He isnt that cute but i have this crush on him. i think why i like him is because you see im not exactly the perfect person, and he seems like he is. I've gotten into some drugs and stuff like that and he doesnt even drink or do anything bad. i dont know. but i feel like i am a good girl when im around him. the problem is i dont know if he likes me. how do i figure it out? like he flirts with me and everything in school and when we see eachother at parties but when i try texting him he is really short.

all i can say is ask your friends to talk to him on the dl then take it from there. keep flirting its good 4 u :]

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Okay, first. I am 17/f. Last October my best friend,lets call her Katie, stated dating this boy, lets call him Mike. Mike is the biggest jerk in the history of the world and he completely hates me for no reason at all. Since she fell head over heels for him we stopped hanging out and talking since then pretty much, not including the fights every once in awhile. Okay well, so. Supposedly they’re completely in love, although he calls her a slut, treats her horribly, and breaks up with her every other week. Last weekend she found out he is moving this weekend halfway across the country. Messed up, right? So, I really want to talk to her and make sure she is okay because supposedly she hasn’t eaten in days and is like totally depressed. I still love her and im really worried about her but she really hurt me when she started ditching me for mike. I want to forgive her and all and help her through this but at the same time I want her to apologize before I forgive her. I am afraid she wont apologize for awhile and when she does it will be too late for me to help her. I don’t know what to do.

tell her that if she helps you then you will help her. wow she is .. well im trying not to be rude but thats like staying in an abusive relationship. when you talk to her say if i forgive you will you say im sorry. then tell her that you stil love her and 'mike' was full or it! tell her that hes just a bitch who doesnt matter especailly after treating her so low. make sure that she KNOWs that she deserves better. if that doesnt work give it 2 more tries at the most. and maybe get friends together to help. make her feel welcomed again. theres not much else. except to talk to her parents. then maybe they can get proffesional help [hopefully she wnt go that far]
but on the bright side be thankful that 'mike' is gone for her sake and yours

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should I be upset if all my boyfriend (of over one year) is "supposidly" getting me a postar for valentines day? I mean, I feel it's a taky gift. Or am I being spoiled. Cause I mean even my friends who havent beeen with their bfs that long are getting more than a POSTER. COme on people. Flowes say I'm sorry. Choclates say I love you, and a poster says i'm an imature little boy who needs to grow up. SO any comments?

grl I DNT KNO WUTS RONG W/ HIM BUT.. no seriously
yes i hate to say we are being spoiled. but i would be the same way. a boy who i dont even go out with [yet] is geting me more. did you ask for something or did you say surprise me? has he really given you a poster?? who knows it might be better then you think. just TRY not to seem sad when you get it ;-)

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im 5'1, short, AND SELF-CONSCIOUS.
- my boobs, WONT grow! I'm in a 32B & im 17. its really embarrassing for me, and i just dont know what to do.

is there A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G. i can do to, make them develop, get fuller etc.

its really humiliating,
and my body isnt beautiful.
i dont ever want to go out in a bikini,
wear tank tops etc.

- implants isnt an option for me,
something safe..

thank youuu so muchh

you can only thank god that your living. you cant judge yourself like that. if you hate your boddy because you wear 32b than maybe you should start being optomistic. find the positives. if all you can think about is looks than you have to get your mind right. are you smart or funny. looks arent anything. if you were the prettiest but bitchiest girl i wouldnt be your friend if i knew you. and guys who actually got to know you wouldnt like you either. if anyone says anything to be mean tell them to F***off.
find positive friends.
dont let anyone tell you that you are ugly
and dont ever get plastic surgery unless you actully need it
if you dont like your looks improve it in a HEALTHY way. example: if you think your fat dont starve yourself just exercise and eate a healthy diet. and dont go on a fad diet either; eat normal and cut out the ice cream and Mcy Ds

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Hello...I am 14 and a guy... and I don’t know what to do...I haven’t had a girlfriend yet...which sucks...well I kind of did but we broke up like in a day...when we never really went out...but I'm not one of the most popular guys in school...but I guarantee that 99% of the people in my grade know my name...and I am kind of popular with the "not-so popular" girls...like I sit with 4 of them at lunch and they laugh at my jokes and sometimes I cant figure out what to say...so I just smile and nod but all of them are really close friends...I even think I talk to them more then I talk to my guy friends...and it would be weird asking one of my friends out...plus it took me like a month to ask that "not real" girlfriend I talked about earlier...and it turned out to be a joke...but like I cant go up to a girl and ask them out...I AM TERRIBLY SHY around girls and even if I did ask them out...I wouldn't know where to ask them to...what to get...what to do...what to say...I need to know what to do to get me to ask a girl and actually know what to do on the date...and if you’ve read this whole thing, I really appreciate it...thank you

you have to flirt with the girl first. only if you know her!! dont go up to sum stranger! but if u kno her joke with her and flirt but in a jokingly way. eventually if she likes you back she write you a note, talk to you, or get her friend to ask you if you like her. if that never happens stay friends with her but keep moving. dont try to be a little pimp but if you like a girl you have to flirt with her: put your arm around her, tickle her..
if she does the same to you dont jump to conclusions she might just be joking and not really really like. just be patient youll get someone

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ok so i just found out im pregnant. and im only 15. DONT JUDGE ME I JUST NEED ADVICE.

i have to tell my parents. but i dunno how. any help on that?

also, the father doesnt know im pregnant, either. how can i tell him and my parents?

and please please please dont tell me to get an abortion cause im so against that.

so yeah just gimme advice on how to tell my parents and the father.

i know it's going to be really hard. you either have to tell them or waur untill the pregnancy manifests itself. i think you would do better by telling them. write a note or send them an e-mail. i think you should invite the father over then just tell everyone all together. you can say it or you can write it down and pass it around. whatever you do you have to go through with it. don't invite the father over than get nervous, and he just goes home wihtout knkowing. or you could even get everyone together and just show them your stomach [not trying to be sarcastic or funny] that way you don't have to do anything except stand there. brace yourself for the response.

and sorry i have to say this but you should get tested..

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Okay, about a week ago. BIG DRAMA happened between me and my 2 closest friends. My 1 friend Abbie told Katie that I was spreading bad rumors about her saying that she was a slut, and has had sex. Which, I never did and I told both of them that. But, Katie dosent believe me. Then, at the lunch table, Katie was whispering to Abbie and our other friends about me. I couldnt stand it, cause they would whisper then look at me and laugh. I seriously wanted to cry. Just when me and Abbie became friends again, Katie told Abbie that I was talking shit bout her. Which, was a lie. Then, today I was reading their comments, and they were talking reallllyyyyy bad about me. It hurt alot. And, it made me really sad, I cried for bout a half an hour. I was so upset, I thought about hurting myself. I hate going to school, I want to be switched, thats how bad it is!

Please help!
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i agree with the girl underneath about the getting new friends because true friends would never do that!what you need to do first is to seirously tell them off!when there making those little comments at lucnh stand up to them!tell them if they have something to say they can say it your face and not whisper it to each other like little itches then get your stuff and go to another table !trust me it will make you feel alot better!if they continue to talk about you infront of you prtend that you dont see them laughing and looking at you!trust me that this will piss them off!if they think that you dont notice them talking about you it will bug the shit out of them!!!and please try to get new friends because life is to short to be caught in retarted drama thats only hurting you!you could be a much happier if you just learn to forget about them because there just a waste of your time!!hope this helped and goodluck!!!!!!!

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so i like this guy alot. i only told my one guy friend whose friends with him and he said i should ask him out. even though he has a girlfriend. but the thing is there not really together. i know its weird but idk. i really want to spend more time with him and get to know him better and my friend said he will introduce us more tomorrow but the thing is im really shy and i dont know what i would say.
im not sure what im asking here. advice maybe? or just things to tell me?? idk please help!

ps: im clueless (if i dated him he would be my first bf)

try to be confident but not to confident!guys like it when girls are a little confident.they dont like it when girls are always complaining about something they dont like about themselves so try not to do that.to start a convo just be like-"hey what did you make on that test/quiz the other day?And go from there-or you could ask if hes playing any spring sports.-Compliment him on something-it could be the littlest thing like his handwriting or some peice of jewlry he might be wearing-talk about something funny that happned that day or yesterday that you both know about or something he might not know about but you think is funny-be like--"omg did you see when(blank)tripped in the halway this morning!it was sooo funny!or tell him some jokes you think are funny!just be yourself and try to keep the convo going because the minute you rely on him to start a convo is the minute he becomes bored and uninterested!well good luck and i hope this helped!!!!!

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