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Don't know what to do.
Hello...I am 14 and a guy... and I don’t know what to do...I haven’t had a girlfriend yet...which sucks...well I kind of did but we broke up like in a day...when we never really went out...but I'm not one of the most popular guys in school...but I guarantee that 99% of the people in my grade know my name...and I am kind of popular with the "not-so popular" girls...like I sit with 4 of them at lunch and they laugh at my jokes and sometimes I cant figure out what to say...so I just smile and nod but all of them are really close friends...I even think I talk to them more then I talk to my guy friends...and it would be weird asking one of my friends out...plus it took me like a month to ask that "not real" girlfriend I talked about earlier...and it turned out to be a joke...but like I cant go up to a girl and ask them out...I AM TERRIBLY SHY around girls and even if I did ask them out...I wouldn't know where to ask them to...what to get...what to do...what to say...I need to know what to do to get me to ask a girl and actually know what to do on the date...and if you’ve read this whole thing, I really appreciate it...thank you
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you have to flirt with the girl first. only if you know her!! dont go up to sum stranger! but if u kno her joke with her and flirt but in a jokingly way. eventually if she likes you back she write you a note, talk to you, or get her friend to ask you if you like her. if that never happens stay friends with her but keep moving. dont try to be a little pimp but if you like a girl you have to flirt with her: put your arm around her, tickle her..
if she does the same to you dont jump to conclusions she might just be joking and not really really like. just be patient youll get someone
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Fourteen...what an awkward age to be dating. I don't think that there is anything wrong with being shy. You would surprised at how many girls out there that are just as shy. It sounds like you are a well rounded individual. This is a quality that women will appreciate about you when you are a little older. If there is a certain girl that you want to ask out...try asking her to a movie. "Hey, there is this movie that I really want to see, would you like to go and see it with me?" You may be surprised at your answers. If she says no, it is not the end of the world. All that means is that it wasn't meant to be. It means that the girl that does say yes, well, she is the one you will have a good time with. If you are already friends, then it should make it a little easier. Or, you could try and get together another couple - this sometimes makes the situation less awkward.
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well, if this helps at all, i think its really sweet. if you want to ask a girl, you have to be confident (i would say most girls love confidence, but i like it when a guy is shy i cant explain why though). i would say it is more likely that a guy would ask a girl out that he knows and is close with rather than someone he just sees around and maybe talks to sometimes. i was asked out by one of my bestest friends so that backs up what im saying by a little
but i guess asking a girl what she wants to do for a date depends a little on what shes like or what her interests. same goes for yours too. but heres some i can think of:
*movies
*picnics
*for a walk
*have her come over your house
*go out to lunch (doesnt matter where)
*roller skating/ice skating
*play a game like monoply or twister or even a video game (i know it sounds boring but its a very easy way to socialize and be yourself)
*go shopping at the mall (women love to shop so this could work)
thats all i can think of. but theres way more. just look on google if you want more. type in "inexpensive dates" or something along those lines.
as for what to say:
*be yourself.
*talk about things going on in your life
*ask her if you guys can do something the next day or later that week
*ask her if shes having a good time (always make sure you make her happy, thats what counts but you too derserve to have a good time and be happy)
*tell her youre having a good time and that there isnt anyone else you'd rather spend time with or be with (only if you mean it though)
*talk about your common intrests. that always helps. like your favorite tv show which is also hers or if you like the same music group talk about that as well.
as for what to do:
*always compliment your girl. most girls are very sensitive or self-concious about the way they look.
*chivalry is dead, so pull out a chair for her, open doors for her, be polite and respectful, just the usual.
*be yourself.
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