Hello to all: I have been writing since the second grade and journaling since the fourth. My passion is helping others and those who know me come seeking advice. I have spent most of my life in school studying everything from metaphyscial studies to abnormal psychology to animal behavior. I have also survived things that most people don't go through in a lifetime, so the combonation of knowlede and experience has made me who I am today.
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ok well its sort of a long story...
first of all ive been with my boyfriend for about 7 months. we get along extremely well and ive never felt so comftrable around a guy like him. i truly love him and i'd give anything for him & he would too....he used 2 be a player but im pretty much his 1st girlfriend and i doubt that he would be playing with me if he introduced me 2 his whole family...right? the thing is lately we have been having problems..first on saturday i saw he had called his ex fu*k around his baby b0o & it got me sooo mmaadd...then on sunday i found out he gave his number to some other girl...he didint know i knew her but now he does and he said he didint wanna talk 2 her but she asked for his number....anyways 2day some profile [wich i believe is fake] on myspace sent me a message talking about watch out cuz he talking to steph [his x fu*k around] & he telling her he knows he fucked up but hes sorry and all this sh*t...i told him about everything and he says that he never said that but the typing seemed so much like he usually types;/ its driving me crazy not knowing if i should hold on 2 him because they may be haters or if i should let go and try and look 4 someone whos not full of drama but i cant i cant see myself with anybody else...i mean guys will be guys but what if theres more to that? what should i do????? (link)
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I can tell you right now that the guy is playing you. I was married to the king of players for nearly eight years and they all do and say the samething. It is hard to accept that someone you really do care about would do this, but it happens. His excuses are weak. They are good at trying to convince you that they are doing nothing wrong, and that it's the other women...don't buy into this. Listen to your instinct. What does your instinct tell you? If you feel is doing something dirty, then he IS doing something dirty. Don't fall victim to these types of men, because once you get burned, it is so hard to trust anyone else. And, believe me you don't want to sell yourself short of any happiness. You sound like an intelligent person, and you deserves someone who is going to treat you right. If he is not going to do it, then F*CK him, sweetie. Find someone who will. You will be much happier with a person that you don't have to worry about playing you for a fool, rather than sit around and wonder when or if he is going to cheat on you. Remind yourself that he is in YOUR world, and if he doesn't want to play by YOUR monongomous (and societies monogomous)rules, then tell him play on player...play on. You deserve better and you are worth more than how he is treating you. Put yourself first in this situation. Good luck. Let me know if you need any other helpful tell-tell signs that he is cheating. I will be glad to share them with you.
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i want to look amazing in two months. is there anyway i can loose a lot of weight in that amount of time. i also want to gain muscle. i dont have a lot of extra time in my schedule and i really love food.
like i have tried throwing up my food. but umm thats not gonna happen. i just cant. its sick. & ive tried not eating, but that doesnt work. i love food. aha. hmm any tips. im considered skinny but i have like some extra chubs that my clothes hide. and its summer real soon, so i cant hide it anymore.
helppp.! (link)
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The best way to loose a few extra pounds SAFELY, is to add in a 20-30 min workout...it's best if you can do it in the morning. Get your heart rate going for a good 15 min then you can do lunges or squats with 8-12lbs weights. Eating the right foods is also very important. Chicken, fish, peanut butter,...anything with a good amount of protein is going to help build muscles tone. Throwing up your meals or skipping meals, is NEVER a good idea. Take it from someone who knows. It is much better to loose it the correct way. All it takes is 20-30 min a day, five days a week, for six weeks. Crunches will also help with developing your stomach muscles. There are some really good workouts that you can find online for free. If you don't have weights, you could use a couple of gallons of milk, or juice. Also, eat breakfast. Carnation instant breakfast is good if you aren't big on eating first thing in the morning. Since you love food - as most of us do - I have had three kids, and I lost the weight all three times and kept it off by eating six small meals a day. It keeps your metabolism going all day long. Try to eat something as soon as you get up, and then eat a couple of snacks (bagel, fruit) before lunch, then eat a sensible lunch, then one or two more snacks before dinner (vegetables, 1/2 peanut butter and jelly sandwhich) then a eat a sensible dinner. Replace soda with water and drink 1-2 full glasses of milk a day. I know this seems like a lot, but it does work. It is important when trying to gain muscle that you eat right and eat a good amount of protein everyday. Good luck sweetie, I am sure you will look fabulous this summer.
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After training for soccer (yesterday, for 1 and 1/2 hours), i had a muscle spasm in my left calf muscle and it was sore from the on (its still sore now), and now my other calf muscle is sore (but didn't have a spasm). It's not going away from stretching.
And yes i did stretch before training.
Is there other ways to get rid of the pain (no drugs, medications etc.)???
And how long will the pain last?
Thanks so much in advance!!
Kronix (link)
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Your calf muscles are probably just sore if you haven't trained in a little while. Try drinking lots of water and having 2 glasses of milk a day for the next couple of days. You can also try icy-hot or deep-heat, which will help soothe the muscle aches. Keep streching everyday - calf lifts...stand with one ankle crossed behind the other and lift the heal that is planted on the ground. Then alternate - this will get rid of the planter fascitis - that is were the pain is coming from. If it continues...which I don't think that it will, but if it does, then check in with your doctor to make sure that you didn't pull anything. Good luck.
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I have really bright, blue eyes. I was wonderin if anyone has any tips or knows of any websites that have makeup tips on how to really play them up, so they're really noticeable. (link)
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I have really bright blue eyes as well...for spring time I use very little eyeliner and then go a little heavier on the mascara. Also, use lighter color eyeshadows, such as lavenders and light pinks - this will bring out the blue. Good luck.
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Hello I have a seriously confused question.
Alright my school is kinda cliqued. Everyone has their own groups they hang out in. I'm not really in one. I' m a short skinny girl, 14 years old, grade 9 4'9" and 80 pounds. Everyone sees me as the smart shy girl in my class, except the people that know me of course:) Anyways theres a guy in my class who has been nice and polite to me since the beginning of the year. The only thing is he is my complete opposite. Filed grade nine once, goof off in class, that kind of thing. But something made me send him a message on facebook a few months ago. Then we started talking on msn then we started going for walks together like every other day. He has never said it but he acts like he likes me saying things like "you bring out the best in me "your fun enough to hang out with". I kind of like him to. He's really nice as I said but I just don't know what to do, even if he asked me out i wouldn't know what to say. He acts completely different at school he told me because the people he hangs out with wouldn't like the nice version of him. Please help he try to understand what to do!! (link)
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It is very possible to get along with someone who is your opposite. This is because you are attracted to the things that you wouldn't do, (such as goofing off in class), but you like that he can do it and not care. As far as his friends go...well, sweetie he is a teenage boy. And, trying to analyze teenage boys behavior, well, it still remains a mystery. Believe me when I tell you that he and his friends will spend the next several years trying to figure out girls. It's all part of growing up. Boys his age have an over abundace of testosterone running through them. So, it is important for them to feel macho and tough and it is completely against the "guy code" to act sensitive in any way. Now, I say as long as he doesn't say bad things to you or about you when he is around his friends, then do what feels right to you. It sounds as if he really does like you, and so he is going to show you his "real" side, because he wants you to like him back, and he is going to show his friends his "guy" side because he wants them to accept him. Why they do this, I have no idea. What I do know is that if he is sweet with you, then chances are here in a couple of years it will be more important to him to be sweet to you and less important to be macho towards his friends. Isn't growing up fun? LOL. Just remind him that you like him better they way he is with you. Sometimes that sticks in their head. Have fun...enjoy being a kid...and good luck with your guy. I hope this helped.
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Okay so like in three weeks from now 2/27/08 i really want to get my first and only tattoo. I'm a simple girl. I want it to be hidden easily, I want it small.. so i was thinking best possible place is by my hip, thats where i really want it, however my problem is finding what exactly i want. i really want something that reprsetns peace but the thing is my other friends are getting the dove and the finger peace sign. So i don't know what i want, I don't really care for the regular peace symbol ya know the circle one, i want it to be elegant and cool, but i jsut can't find images, i'm can't draw so its impossible for me to make my own, but does anyone have any suggestions as to what i can get??? this would help soooo much. i've been searching on the web for a long time but nothign just seems to stand out. your help is greatly appreciated. thanks (link)
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First, congrats on getting a tattoo. I have three of them and I am about to get two more. I was twenty-five when I got my first tattoo. I wanted it to represent me and my life at that time. I think that it is very important that you think long and hard about what it is you want. They are much more painful to remove. I know, because I was a surgical laser specialist and used to remove them. Tattoos are great symbols of personal expresssion...just really think about it before you get it. Also, you can go down to the tattoo shop and one of the artists there can help you draw something up. I have a scorpion that goes down my spine and two paw prints (two of my kids are leos). I am confident that you will discover the perfect tattoo for you. Good luck.
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ok well i shave down there usually but im not sure if what i do is enough. like if i were to do something with a boy would he think i need 2 shave more.! soo how much is like regular shaving.? i will be sooo imbarassed if i go to do something and he wont because of it .! but i do shave so i guess what else im asking is do boys want you to be completly shaved or is it ok for their to be a little something there.?>> (link)
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I think that it is important to be comfortable with what you want. I really don't think that most guys care, as long as it is well groomed. I personally prefer to have all of it shaved, but I don't like hair on myself. My husband doesn't really care. For a long time, I used to just have a little (a stip down the middle), but I have found it to be more comfortable with no hair at all. I say, it's personal preference and you should wear it the way you like it. Good luck.
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There was this girl who I was friends with for five years, & we were in a really big fight last year over stupid things & we didn't talk for four (maybe five?) months. The thing is, this afternoon, we talked for the first time in a long time & she apologized. She really has changed. The thing is, two of my ex-best friends told me that she tried to get them to drink, & their mom told my mom. SO, my mom already doesn't like the girl, PLUS now she thinks she drinks. I know it's not true, cause the girls who told me that turned out to be liars. My mom still doesn't like her & doesn't want me hanging out with her. Everytime I try to talk to my mom about the conversation I had with her & how she apologized, she just changes the subject. How can I convince her that she's changed, so I can actually hang out with her? (link)
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I know that this is probably what you don't want to hear, but believe me when I tell you that your mother is concerned for a reason. Your mother is only looking out for your best interest. If the girls who spred the rumor of your friend trying to get them to drink said that they were making it up, then you have proof. However, since your mother got a phone call from another parent, then she is only going to protect you. As far as convincing your mother that your friend has changed, well...I would suggest taking it slow. Maybe you could come to a compromise and ask your mom to get to know her. Then, if your mother still does not approve, then I would say respect your mother's wishes. Sometimes us parents are not always correct. We tend to protect our kids, and sometimes we don't give our kids enough credit. Make a pact with your mom...she takes time to get to know her, and then make a fair decision. This kind of negotiating should show your mom that you are trying to make responsible decisions yourself, and that you respect the fact that she has the final say. Believe me when I tell you that what your mother is doing, is only what any responsible parent would do in her situation. Be thankful that you have a parent that actually cares, because there are so many out there that don't. Let me know how it goes, and don't hesitate to ask if you need further help on this...good luck sweetie.
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My sister is 16, and she is my only sibling, and i am 13. In the last 3 years, she has been drinking, sneaking around, and smoking weed. In may she is supposed to get her license. It is making my mom scared that she is hurting herself and then is going to be able to drive but my mom would never yell or threaten her, because shes too kind, and she cries at night knowing whats happening to my older sister! What can i do to help my mom be happy? And what can i do to make my sister stop making all these bad decisions? Thank you! (link)
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It sounds like you are going through a tough time with your sister. It seems as if your mother needs to set some stricter ground rules. If I was your sister's parent, I would not allow her to get her driver's license until she started exhibiting proper behavior. The best thing that you can do for your mom is to let her know that you are there for her, and maybe make some suggestions about laying stricter rules down for your sister. Your sister is at an age where she probably is not going to listen to anyone. Your mother can also call down to your local police department and set up a walk through of the jail. Many times if you explain what is going on, then the police department is usually always coorporative in showing rebelious teens what to expect if their behavior continues. Also, your mother can call down to the county morgue, and they too will sometimes allow you to walk through and look at bodies of teens who have died while driving drunk, alcohol poisoning, people who have died from infazema and lung cancer. These tactics may seem a bit harsh, but they work. There is nothing like seeing the real thing before it sinks into your head that drinking, smoking, and sneeking around are not the smartest choices one can make. It may scare your sister straight. Keep your chin up sweetie - and be good. Let me know how things go...and if you need anything else, don't hesitate to ask. Good luck.
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i had a dream that i gave birth to 10 kids
only 2 girls
i was gonna keep 1 boy and 1 girl
bur i wasnt sure
i was giving the up for adopion and w as really depressed
my brother was fighting with me cause i was being moody which i said you couldnt blame me
then my 10 kids were int the apartment
i was looking for my mom to call the adoption place
(ohh and on the drive home i asked my uncle if i could make them each a dvd and leave it with them and he said yeah) (link)
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Dreams like this generally mean that you are feeling overwhelmed. Taking on more than you can chew. Looking for someone to help you in your dream - your mother - just indicates that you may need some guidence on what ever it is that is making you overwhelmed. The fighting with your brother could mean that his approval is important to you, and your subconscious is worried that he may not. Don't read too much into this. Dreaming about being overwhelmed (in your case you dreamt about giving birth to 10 kids) generally means that you are feeling overwhelmed about something. That's it. If you need more help with this, let me know.... Good luck.
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how old do you have to be in the state of CT to be able to move out of your parents house without there consent? for a guy (link)
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I am almost positive that it is eighteen, unless you go through the proper procedures of becoming emancipated. If you are having trouble and you need to get out of your house, then my advice would be to seek legal counsel and they would be able to help you with what you need. Good luck.
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I am graduating 8th grade in june. and i'm turning 14 in june too. i need help finding a graduation present. it can be up to $250.00 and i want it to kind of be like one big thing. I don't want it to be a tiffany, or doney and burke. no diamond and yeah please help! (link)
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Well, first congratulations! This is a big step in life...high school is coming. It might help you decided what you want if you made a list of things. First, make a list of catagories...jewelry, clothing, makeup, music, etc., then underneath each catagory, write the things you would want from each of them. Then once you see it on paper, it will help you decide what it is you want. This is an important time in your life, so my opinion on what I think you should get is not really important. What is important is what YOU want. Like I said, write it down on paper and once you start making your list, it will come to you...I promise. Your mind is just overly excited, and so it makes it hard to make a decision. Lists are awesome. Good luck. Let me know if you need any more help on this.
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I really want to be an actress but i don't know how to get started. i cna't try out at school cuz the only play they have is acting and singing, my mom thinks i can sing but i don't want to do it because its during track season and i can't do both. also track is my first love so that comes first. anyway, i really want to be in a play or get lessons for acting ONLY please. i live in Naperville IL so can you help me? (link)
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In many states there are recreation centers that offer pretty reasonably priced acting classes. A lot of times community colleges also offer these classes - open to anyone. You will just have to look around. If you have access to the internet, then you could look online to see what is available in your area. I hope that this helped. Good luck.
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Ive tried so hard to find love and whenever i think i find it, it hurts me. Someone please tell me what love is?
My idea of love, You want everything to do with a person, but you dont even have to date them, just need your little moments that make you happy, and if you get a kiss your lucky.
Is this wrong? (link)
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First let me start by saying that love does NOT hate you. The definition of love is different for everyone. You need to ask yourself what love is to you. As we get older and we experience life and love...we think, "oh goodie, I'm in-love." Actually, it is hard to find true love and be in-love with someone if you have not experienced love itself. We all have different standards as to what love is and what love should be. What do you want out of a relationship? That is the key. If you go around looking for love, chances are you will get burned. Write down what it is you want in a relationship. It helps to look at it on paper. When we look for love, we are looking for something to fill a part of us that seems out of place. A "void" if you will. Many of us make the mistake of trying so hard to fill this emptiness inside ourselves, that we overlook what it is we are actually seeking. True love takes time. You have to get to know someone on a much deeper level than you normally would with others. Compatability is essential when it comes to love. Don't be fooled by those who will see how much love you have to give and then take advantage of it. This sometimes can be very hard to see. I know that it can be frustrating putting yourself out there only to find out it wasn't what you expected. We have all done it, and we have all experienced the heartache that comes with it. Love is great friendship. My grandmother told me once...(a wise, wise woman), that "you could break the heart of a boyfriend/girlfriend, or spouse,...but, you would never break the heart of your best friend." I believe this whole-heartedly because it's true. I believe that this is why the divorce rate is so high. If you think about it...it's true. It also helps to figure out if there is a pattern as to the people you are surrounding yourself with. And what I mean by this, is what are the similar characteristics or patterns that you can pick out from the ones you have been with in the past that have broken your heart? It helps to also write these things down. Some how, things seems much clearer when we see them on paper. If you would like, you could send me a private message with your list or lists, and I will be more than happy to walk you through the problem areas. Then, maybe together we can figure out what it is you are actually looking for, and what it is you actually want. Keep your head up...these things are usually very easy to figure out. I hope this has helped, and please let me know if you would like further assistance on this.
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hello. I just started using birth control this month, so I've obviously been on it for 28 days. I'm on yasmin, and today I'm starting a new pack. throughout the entire month, I've been finding extremely small and tiny amounts of "blood". I literally just got off of my period. I started it on like saturday I think. it looks like now I'm finally off of that. so my period would've lasted 6 days. my reason for going on this, was because every month I'd get extremely sick. anything hot made me sick, nothing was helping my cramps, during the first few days of my period I'd bleed a lot, my period always lasted seven days, and I'd be throwing up every single month. my period has always been this way. my older sis takes yasmin so I thought it might also be good for me. I noticed a change in my cramps when I was on my period. They weren't as bad as they usually are, I didn't bleed as much as I normally do, but it still seems as if I stayed on my period for a long ass time. I thought using birth control was supposed to make my period shorter also, i didn't think I'd still be on it the same amount of days. I knew I was on it because I got bad cramps this time around, and the blood was actually red this time. with this "spotting" or whatever you wanna call it, It's always a lightish brown color. sometimes it tends to be darker. it seems like no matter what i do I'll never be able to go without using a pad, pantyliner, or tampon, because I'll end up staining my clothes a little bit. I ask my older sis about this all the time, and she just says I'm stupid if I stop using it. I read the whole booklet thing on this birth control, and it says it's normal for spotting to occur within the 1st three packs of pills, when you start using this. I'm starting the second pack today. what I'm wondering is, has this ever happened to anyone when they started birth control? Because I know this is normal, but I thought it wasn't gonna be like this every single day. even though It's just spotting, I've felt like I've been on a period this whole month. just because if I didn't use anything, I'd be staining my underwear. if this has happened to anyone, can you please inform me about it, and tell me what kind of birth control you were on? and also, I'd like to know if i should just wait it out, until after I've finished using a third pack of pills, and then see if the spotting stops. or if I'm better off just not taking it anymore? since this is my first time using it I don't really know what some good reasons are to switch to a different kind of birth control. It's not tons of "blood" that comes from me, but if I go without anything I'll stain my clothes like I said. It's fine when i pee and everything, but when I wipe myself, there's a light brownish color on the toilet paper. Does anyone think this spotting will stop soon, or am I better off finishing the 3rd pack next month, to see if it stops? I've been using those carefree thong pantiliners for this spotting, because it's not a lot that comes from me. Someone please respond if you'd know anything about this. I'm really sorry this is so long. If my sister would give me any straight answers I'd ask her. I'm getting really frustrated with this. Thank you so much to anyone who answers. Please answer asap :) happy valentine's day everyone! I hope you enjoy it! (link)
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Birth control can effect everyone differently because everyone is different. I use Yaz, and I had two periods a month for the first two packs. I now have my period at the same time every month and it helps with the cramping and the bleeding. Brown or black blood is usually an idication of old blood. This will come out first. If you have the brown or black blood every month, then I would tell your doctor, because it could be a sign of endometriosis. This is actually more common than you may think, but it can cause severe symptoms, such as painful cramping, throwing up, and excessive bleeding. I would get checked just to be sure. Good luck.
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I've dyed AND bleached my hair so much in the past that I gave it a break for almost a year. So my hair grew out from bleached streaks and a bob. I probably dyed it twice during the growing out stage because the bleached parts resurfaced over and over. So I'm asking for some help to get beautiful hair. My hair is to my boobs now and it's curly. I got a perm for christmas to get a loose curl. My hair naturally is curly/wavy but it forms knots, you know? >_< My hair was fine but now it's just going back to knots. Sometimes I try straightening it but it just comes out as bad Hermione hair. I mean it looks fried even though I use some hair product in it and it's completely dry. Right now, my hair is a light brown towards my roots and it gets darker as it goes down. I really want to dye it all a chocolate brown but get it professionally done.. Would that be a good idea use a little of bleach?
I really need help lol. What are some good products to use for knotty, damaged, dry hair?
Frizz serums? Heat activated sprays? Deep conditioners? I really want to get the color fixed but should I wait it out? It looks like I tried going blonde :S Or should I just use a color stripper again?
I'm on a low budget so if there's anything I can put together at home, it would be great =P (link)
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It sounds like your hair has had a lot of product on it. Hair color and perms are fun, but only in moderation. I learned this the hard way. I started getting perms (my hair is also naturally wavy) at the age of 5, up unitl about 20. I don't perm my hair anymore, but I still color it. I wish that I would have let it grow out to it's natural color when I was younger, because now I dye it to cover the gray. I use biologe shampoo and conditioner...this helps to put moisture back into it. Also, I use a silcone based product (silking gloss) to aid in the detangling and for the dry-frizziness that my hair loves to have. LOL. This may sound weird, but if your hair is really dry and unmanagable (Hermione hair), lather your hair with mayonaise and leave it in for about an hour...then wash it out. This will put back some moisture and shine. As far as repairing the damage, you can go to your local hair salon and they can suggest a deep leave-in conditioning treatment. These are usually only about $10-$20 to buy. Some salons charge around the same price to do the treatment for you. That will help with the damaged hair follicles. I would also suggest doing the conditioning treatments until the color has grown out more and your hair gets stronger. If you continue to color and perm your hair without giving it a break and putting back what the chemicals have taken out- I CAN PROMISE you that your hair WILL start to fall out. Stay safe and good luck.
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I have a really good guy friend... I'm female and he's 2 years older. We are both in high school. Anyway, I like him a lot... a lot. Actually I love him. 100% sure I love him, even if it is just as friends. Well, the problem is, I really want to go out with him, but he has a girlfriend. He was single when I met him though. He knew I liked him before he started dating her, but we didn't know each other very well then. His girlfriend is kinda mean to him, and I don't think she cares about him as much as she should. Maybe he doesn't tell her as much as he tells me, because if he did, she would have to love him more. So, at first I was happy for him, but then his girlfriend got bitchy towards me and his other friends. I don't think she's good enough for him. Now I'm going crazy seeing him with her and other girls. I want him to like me. I think I could have a chance, but I'm really shy and need to open up more. His girlfriend's good friend told me that she thinks they won't last much longer, and his girlfriend told me she thinks he likes me as more than a friend, but I don't think so. I really like him though and I want a chance with him. What I really need advice with is making him like me more. Ways to get close to him. Any advice you have would be good with this situation. I love him and everything he says he wants in a relationship I want to. Now don't forget I'm already really good friends with him. We hang out, and he comes to my house a lot. But I really want to get closer to him and let him know that I feel as strongly as I do. Another thing is, I always want to say "I love you" when he's about to leave or something, but I'm afraid he'll think it's weird or take it the wrong way, I mean, me and my friends do say that to each other, but would it be weird with him? Any advice on that would be helpful too. And, I always want to hug him, and sometimes he really needs a hug, but I think that might be weird for him too. Anyways to approach that? Thanks for any advice you give. Sorry it's long. (link)
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Communication is the number one key in ANY relationship with ANYONE. If you guys are really good friends, then tell him that the way his gf is treating him, bothers you. Ask him if it bothers him? It is important to find out how he feels. Also, be HONEST! It is scary to tell someone how you feel, especially if you are unsure how he feels. It sounds as if he may feel the same way you do. But, if you don't say anything...then how will you ever know? Wouldn't it be better knowing if you guys could be more than friends, rather than it eating at you and you not knowing? If he feels the same way, then AWESOME. If not, well...it will probably suck for a little while, but at least you won't have to wonder every day. Good luck.
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okay this guy that i really like, told me a while back that he had a gf but i thought he was sending me mixed signals...well today in class he was saying what he liked in a girl and i was sitting right next to him...(it was the assignment to talk about relationships) and everytime i was supposed to talk, the first time he swung his leg to hit mine...then the other times he moved his torso toward me and smiled and said its your turn...and the fourth time he did it i moved towards him...also i was trying to tell this girl a joke but he kept moving back and forth to where i couldnt see her...and he like would look at me when i was talking and smile...and when he looked at me he looked at my eyes...his pupils looked dialated...and i dont know if he looked at my mouth or not but he was focused on my eyes everytime i spoke...and he had his arm in front of me, and he was touching me the whole time and he kept on calling me blonde and loud..but he would laugh (basically saying it was funny)...
at first i was like oh my what just happened....but then as time drove on i was thinking what could he want me for he has a girlfriend i am probably just turning nothing into something....but he said if i needed anything to talk to him....
any ideas on all of this?? (link)
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This guy is good. There are many guys out there that want to have their cake and eat it too. If he has a girlfriend then he should be focusing his flirtatiousness on her, not you. It sounds as if he is testing the waters. He is trying to see if you will give in to his charm. These guys come across as nice and sweet and charming...but, believe me, they have alterior motives. He is seeing if he can get what he wants out of you. This type of men are called "cheaters", "players", and what not. Don't be fooled by their devilish ways. If he wants to go out with you, then he will ask you. But, I would make darn sure that the relationship between him and his gf is over before going anywhere or doing anthing with this guy. Keep your eyes and ears wide open. If you have any questions regaurding his behavior don't hesitate to ask. I was married to the master or manipulation for nearly eight years...so I can spot them a mile away. Good luck.
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I've had sex so many times with my boyfriend. So it's not one of the first time things. It didn't hurt when I first had sex either.. so I'm wondering why it hurts a bit now.
I like it rough, I'm always relaxed.. but after 40 mins or an hour, it starts to hurt? Like a stabbing sensation. It's not like we stay in the same position.
Is there something wrong with me? It's been like 7 months since we first had sex.. Does it have to do anything with his size er what? (link)
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There could be many different reasons why intercourse is becoming uncomfortable. I would make sure, first and foremost that you do not have any kind of STD. This can cause a great deal of pain during intercourse with your partner. If you do not have anything, then it sounds like you may be getting dry. If it starts hurting after about 40 min to 1 hour, then this is probably what is going on. You could try lubrication...if you become dry in your vaginal area, then it will start to hurt. Try lubrication, such as K-Y Jelly. If it still hurts after using the lubrication, then I would suggest going and seeing your doctor. Good luck.
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Does anyone know any styles that would look good with vans and converse..and also some skater type shoes... for a GIRL.
I'm 15/f and medium size (not skinny, not fat) and I wear converse and vans all the time (I'm not into pumps and so on) but I want a style that would still make me good and kinda girly. (but no pink/purple overload)
Pictures would be appreciated!
Thanks! (link)
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I don't have any pics to post, but there are many styles that look good with converse and vans. You should find something that works for you. What do you like? It sounds as if you already are certain about what kind of shoe you prefer. That's a start. Be who you are, and find a style that you like. Fergie has a cute look - but, if I were you, I would pick things out - try them together, and if you like the way it looks, then rock it. If not, then try something different. I could give you many ideas about what I think looks good...however, it is not about what I think, or what anyone else thinks. What is important is what YOU think. Good luck.
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