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My mom doesn't approve.
There was this girl who I was friends with for five years, & we were in a really big fight last year over stupid things & we didn't talk for four (maybe five?) months. The thing is, this afternoon, we talked for the first time in a long time & she apologized. She really has changed. The thing is, two of my ex-best friends told me that she tried to get them to drink, & their mom told my mom. SO, my mom already doesn't like the girl, PLUS now she thinks she drinks. I know it's not true, cause the girls who told me that turned out to be liars. My mom still doesn't like her & doesn't want me hanging out with her. Everytime I try to talk to my mom about the conversation I had with her & how she apologized, she just changes the subject. How can I convince her that she's changed, so I can actually hang out with her?
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write her a note explaining the whole situation....put it on her night stand or something while she is not there. she can't change the subject of a note. if she gets mad about the note just tell her you had to do it because she won't listen.
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You can go out with her (your friend) and prove to your mum that nothing bad happens and that she hasn't done anything which she used to do.
This is only way that i can see that could convince your mother that she's changed.
Or you can invite her around to your house for the day so that your mother sees that she's changed.
You know the truth even if your mother doesn't want to accept it and only you can change what your mother thinks about your friend. Remember: you know that she's changed and you want to prove to your mum that she has.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I know that this is probably what you don't want to hear, but believe me when I tell you that your mother is concerned for a reason. Your mother is only looking out for your best interest. If the girls who spred the rumor of your friend trying to get them to drink said that they were making it up, then you have proof. However, since your mother got a phone call from another parent, then she is only going to protect you. As far as convincing your mother that your friend has changed, well...I would suggest taking it slow. Maybe you could come to a compromise and ask your mom to get to know her. Then, if your mother still does not approve, then I would say respect your mother's wishes. Sometimes us parents are not always correct. We tend to protect our kids, and sometimes we don't give our kids enough credit. Make a pact with your mom...she takes time to get to know her, and then make a fair decision. This kind of negotiating should show your mom that you are trying to make responsible decisions yourself, and that you respect the fact that she has the final say. Believe me when I tell you that what your mother is doing, is only what any responsible parent would do in her situation. Be thankful that you have a parent that actually cares, because there are so many out there that don't. Let me know how it goes, and don't hesitate to ask if you need further help on this...good luck sweetie.
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You 1st need to go back to the source. Those who started up that lie, are the ones that must fix it. Now, they made an innocent person look 100% guilty.
Confront them, let them know that it was wrong what they did, and let them imagine someone did the same to them. Let them know, that it can be done, from anyone who feels the need to start trouble.
Have them give your mom information on how that lie started, and they're reasons to why they did it.
Let your mom know that it was a lie, and tell her that you want to discuss this further. Most parents, leave to their last words, but everyone is privileged to their own voice. Find a way to get her to understand you and what you're intentions are.
Your feelings are on the line as well, because you can easily lose her as a friend, maybe even for good.
Push harder, make it a serious issue, if you want a chance to continue being her friend.
Hope everything goes well. Good Luck!
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